hi peoplez! im alorra, if u need advice on anything, like boys, girls, school, work, or anything else, dont be afarid to ask me, ill give you a good answer to just about any question.
thoughts for the day: some people are only alive because its illegal to shoot them.
i dont suffer from insanity, i enjoy it.
earth is the insane asylum of the universe.
Most important: Dont cry over someone who wont cry over you.
oh and one more thing, i answer things honstly, so my number 1 rule, dont ask me something if you dont want a honst answer.
Gender: Female
Location: Fantasy Land
Member Since: July 16, 2006
Answers: 55
Last Update: August 3, 2010
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i have this drink but i havent used it yet. it's like a drink whitch burns fat ? would it work? if it does we'll i loose my love handles? is their anyway to loose them? i hate going on diets it's really hard. i almost have no time for excercising. i'm not going to take pills thats for sure. HELP?! (link)
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I would have to agree with the last post on the weight loss drinks, their not a healthy way to loose weight, and plus....good lord their nasty. Really the only (good) way to loose weight is through exercise.
The thing about organic food i'm not sure i agree with, (mostly beacuse i dont like it) but also because it's not always the best source of protien, but if it works for you, then go ahead.
Now my best suggestion would be to find a physical activity that you really enjoy and make time for it. Because honstly, if you dont like the exercise your doing, then you wont stick to it. I might suggest dancing or boxing or swimming depending on your personality.
Oh and if you would like some more advice on how to make the time, or what activity you should try, feel free to ask me.
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okay so
i've been seeing this guy Jacob for about 5 months now .
he lives with his best friend robert.robert and his ex Lucy broke up 2 weeks ago
well Robert is a very jealous person.
Jacob promised robert he wouldnt do anything with lucy. but robert made sure all of his friends didnt do anything with lucy. well jacob and i were kinda official but now we're just like not as serious.
well i know jacobs password for myspace but he thinks i forgot it...anyway, i see a message from lucy saying "i hate how we have to hide our friendship"
he replies
"yah i know it sucks but wait til i move out"
so last week jacob calls me and says, "if anyone calls just say im with you." and i said "okay but why"
he then said, "i'm going to hang out with a few friends and lucy is in the group and i told robert i wouldnt talk to her "
so i was like "okay whatever"
then he texts me the next day @ 6AM saying "goodnight baby.if anyone ask i was with you til 6AM"
so he hasnt called since tuesday so i call him blocked and just see if hes alive
so from tuesday -thursday i call blocked and later on thursday at about 11pm i was with my cousin and he calls and says "i know its you thats calling, give up."
so i denied it and my cousin took the blame.
so friday i was with this my friends cuz they were making fun of jacob and how he got in an accident so i sent jacob a text saying "i'm with my friends right now and the story they're telling me about your last accident is pretty funny"
so like 2 minutes later he calls and bitches at me saying
"how is it funny that i got in an accident"
i told him
"i'm not saying its funny, i'm saying the story i'm listening to is funny, cuz its so different from the one you told me"
well saturday i go on his myspace and read a message to lucy saying
"heyy cutie im at my parents and im just misssin you thinkin that you should be in my arms its like 446 i called you and a older guy answered sayin i had the wrong number i think it was your dad well anyways ill c you on sunday (link)
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Ok girl, my honst opinion, i think he's cheating on you. You need to confront him on this, you shouldnt leave this alone, cuz he'll keep doing it. I would say something like this. "Look jake, you know i care about you, but i have to ask you something. You've been spending alot of time with lucy lately, and i.....look... i saw her message on your myspace, whats going on?" Trust me, you dont wanna let a guy treat you like this.
Hope i helped
~Alorra
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Two of my best friends really don't get together well. Say their names are Kerry and Lucy. Kerry is spoiled. She gets everything she wants. I don't care about that though. She's still a great friend. Lucy does care about that though. They both got the same thing for Christmas. An Ipod Nano. From Kerry the story is that her parents told Lucy's parnets what they were getting Kerry for Christmas. Thats not what Lucy says though. Who should I believe? HELP!!!!! (link)
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OMG! Are they seriously fighting about that, forgive me, but thats so stupid. I think you need to sit your friends down and have a talk with them. That has got to be one of the dumbest things to fight about.
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hey
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well a lot of my stupid femalefriends are getting mad at me for the most ridiculous reasons. so i'm down to even less femalefriends. i'm cool with that cause girls suck cause they cause so much drama.
well. i realized that it's a LOT easier for me to make guyfriends. it's just that, i have like, five guyfriends [only two female friends, haa] & like, they just feel sorta uncomfortable when i talk about other guys. & no, they all like another girl, not me. like, i say, "he's sooo hottt," & my friend is like, "ok..." & i don't WANT to make him uncomfortable but i can't really talk to my femalefriends about my crush & all.
so, i'm asking,
HOW DO I GET MY GUYFRIENDS TO LOOSEN UP AROUND ME? make them less uncomfortable? let them know they can talk about ANYTHING with me?
i'm not the type of girl who says, "ew" to everything cause i don't find many things gross, either.
thanks so much in advance :] (link)
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I know how you feel, (4 guy friends 1 female friend, plus im a boxer, all guy team). Anyhoo, Guys are just like that when we talk about guys around them, i think it's an "inscure as a man" thing. if you want to get them to loosen up around you, try getting them to talk about other girls around you. I warn you though, it works, and it may get a bit annoying, cuz, lets face it, even though their our friends, men are dogs.
Good luck.
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I am really scared can you really get cervical canser from using a vibrator? Thats what my friend told me! (link)
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No, im afraid that your friend was wrong, you cannot get cervical cancer from using a vibrator. Cervical cancer is caused by certain types of HPV (Human papilloma virus). When a female becomes infected with certain types of HPV and the virus doesn’t go away on its own, abnormal cells can develop in the lining of the cervix. Hpv is sexually transmitted, so if you are not having sex, then you cannot get Cervical cancer. (Brilliant ain't I?) if you have any more questions, feel free to ask me.
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My b/f is a few years older that i am, he's nineteen and i'm fifteen, and he wants to have sex. the thing is that im not ready to have sex, i want to wait till i get married. when he asked i told him no and i was firm and all, i gave him my reason too. he told me the he respected my desion, but he keeps asking me, and i keep telling him no. he says he loves me, and im pretty sure i love him, so i dont want to loose him, but i get really upset when he wont stop asking, i really dont want to do all the sexul things he wants to, but im a little bit afraid that ill hurt him or we'll fight if i dont, so what should i do? (link)
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Oh man, you have got no idea how well I know what you're talking about. I have had this same problem. Ok, here is what I think you should do. Give him the ultimatum. You have got to sit down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him that you really do care about him, but you really dont want to have sex. I know he said he respected that, but you've got to tell him that if he respected your dision then he would stop asking.
(It's true) Dont ever let him talk you into doing something that you dont want to do, no matter how much you love him. If he cant respect your wishes (this is the ultimatum part) then dump him, because he isnt worth worring yourself over, a man who dosen't respect his woman is no man at all. I know that you dont want to fight, but depending on his personality, it may be unavoidable, so you will just have to be strong and have respect for yourself. Remember, No Means No.
P.s. I felt i really have to say this. You need to be careful of his age aswell, any person 18 or over is concidered an adult, and there are laws against an adult being with a minor, (someone under 18) Just warning you.
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So this might be the wrong category, but whatever.
I HATE having hair "down there", but I'm scared to shave it or anything cause I don't wanna mess up, or cause like rashes and that sorta stuff, and I am NOT having some stranger do it. So how do i shave it? and what should i know? (link)
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well you could always use "nair" or some other hair remover, it is easy and you dont need a razor. if you need to shave, it is just like shaving any other part, but you just have to be a little gentiler. there is always the risk of getting a razor burn on your bikini line, dependong on what type of skin you have, but you can avoid it by being gentle and using alovera gel if nessicary.
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I've always had quite a few friends and people generally are quite nice, and that was until I started going out on Friday nights.
There are a group of kids and thier main intention is to start trouble, its going too far to the extent a girl was punched by a 18yr old boy twice her size. The comments never used to affect me and I didn't care if they didn't like the way I dressed or the music I liked. But now its like I'm too scared to go out, everywhere I go I have groups of kids following me, insulting me, threatening me. It's just getting to be too much.
I don't know what to do. I've told people, even been in contact with the local police, but things just do not get better.
Suddenly now all the insults affect me, they call me fat so I diet, they don't like my hair so I cut it. I'm starting to do all sorts of things just to fit in, something I never thought I would do.
What should I do before I lose my identity completly? Or even worse end up beaten up?
I am really scared and I hate going anywhere, everywhere I go I have trouble and I just don't know where to turn. I came on here hoping to find someone who has been through the same. Any advice on sorting this situation.
Love
xoxo (link)
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ok, for the insults, just blow them off. stop listening to them, what do you care what they think, they sound like a bunch of lowlife losers anyway. think of it this way, they are toe sluge, they don't exist, their nothing to you. when they say something stupid just think to yourself, someday they'll be working at a gas station part time, and you'll be successful. you just have to be self confident enough not to let all their b/s bother you. as for being afriad to go out, thats a different story. when you go out always try to go with friends, there is strength in numbers. (this is true if your on a date w/ just u and ur guy too. guys are the best to go places with, even if their just friends. but girls are good to, as long as your with someone.) if you get desprate, enroll in some self defence classes. but know that you should never fight unless you are in serious trouble (i.e. backed into a corner, cant get away, and no one to help you) it also helpes to go to public places, your less likely to get hurt in a public place with lots of people around.
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well i just got back from a party and i saw this boy who i kinda no and we were flirting and my friend told him that i liked him which i do! then later on i saw one of my old friends and we kind of went out a while ago but he was asking people if they had seen me so i talked to him aND HE likes me!!!!! but theres one more at school thati lkke and we talk but he has a g/f !!!!!! which one should i pick?????? (link)
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ok well think about wich one is the nicest. think about wich boy has the qualities that you look for in a guy, and if you still like them all, try getting to know them and see who you like best.
ok, now if you want my opinion, i'd go for the first one, that is if he is a nice guy and all. The old friend/ex-b/f might or might not work well considering you've already gone out with him, and deffinatly stay away from the one that already has a g/f. He may be a nice guy and all, but you dont want to end up being the other woman, or making a mortal enemy of the present g/f.
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uh well i used to have so many friends and i could just be myself around everyone and people liked me, but i never really appreciated it. I went through something when some people thought i was annoying and my best friend was pretending to be my friend but really talked about me. now i have her back and people dont think im annoying anymore, but i try so hard to be outgoing or whatever and make a lot of people like me that its like getting harder and harder to be myself . its stupid because i just overthink being "outgoing" because i want a lot of people to like me, so sometimes i guess ican act a little weird. like i always have friends but i lost a couple during that time. (link)
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listen, first of all, people are stupid. just thought i'd point that out. ok so, the question you need to ask your self is, if you cant be yourself with your "friends", then are they realy your friends at all? if you have to change yourself just to be friends with those people, then you dont realy need them as friends, if they cant except you for the great person you are, then why bother tring to impress them. bottom line: you should respect yourself and be yourself, stop listening to what others think, and make friends with people who like you for who you are.
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how do i pirce my ear lobbs by my self whithout no pain (link)
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There is no way to pierce your ears without pain, and i strongly advise you, dont pierce your ears yourself. you could really hurt yourself or infect your ears. get them done by a pro, and dont worry, if you get them done by a pro it wont hurt that much, i should know, i just got mine done.
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what do i do i might loose this great friendshp
and all i want to do is crawl up into a ball in a
closet and never come out at shcool their son who is my best guy fried ho is like a brother to me especilly scince i'm an only child we used to be so close and about 2 months ago it went down hill they used to be the best it kinda sarted
when they moved into my gradparents 2 family house and they kind of neglected the house and became really messy and they started blameing us about the bees in the backyard and took advatedged of mygrandparents and they started not paying the ent for 2 months so now my grandparents want to sue and when they find out that my grandparents are sueing omg!!! i'll be known as the kid who gotmy friends kiked out of theirhome and at school i'm not the most popular
in my school and i just turned 12 and already scared of being called names so help!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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ok this problem sounds like it should be just between the adults, it dosnt have much to do with you and your friend. try talking to just your best guy friend. make sure he knows that your his friend and you care about him. And promise that you two will stay friends no matter what. as for your grandparents and his parents, let them work it out for themselfs.
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thanks for the advice. he actually only cheated on me once, i guess, but my friend whose his cousin talked to him, and he told her he didnt cheat? he called me that night, and said he was drugged up. ((not on illegal drugs)) and he still said he loved me. :/ I really want to forget him, though. (link)
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so, forget him. i know its hard, but he's still an ass, remember that. (oh and i.m.op. the druged up thing, probly alot of b.s.)
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like, we were best friends, and after he asked me out he was so perfect, then he got grounded and got his phone taken away, ((for a REALLY long time)) and then i found out that he made out with 2 other girls, and then he still told me he loved me, though. and idk if he did really make out with them or not. Then one day in March Jordan told me Greg was cheating again with some fat chick,
and Greg came over to assure me that he wasn't cheating.
and then we went to this youth group and had oral in the car afterward, then my parents pissed me off and i tried to kill myself and wound up in the hospital, and i guess he got a new gf when i was there, 5 days after we had oral, ((and did everything else except intercourse and anal)) And my parents found out about what we did in the car, so now they hate him, too.
and i didn't know how he had a new girlfriend, until my friend told me that he had a new gf, then i started going out with his neighbor,
but i just didnt feel the same way about jordan that i had felt about greg, and i kept having flashbacks and crying myself to sleep and i still do, and then my friend went to yell at greg,
and greg said that his parents made him break up with me but he didnt want to,
which i actually believe because i dont think his parents liked me too much, because when he was grounded, i sent pics to his phone of my wrists after i cut. and then i fell back in love again,
and we started talking as friends again, then one day him and jordan called me and said that greg had a gf, but he told my other friend that he didnt have a gf,
and then one day he told me i was annoying and to leave him alone for awhile, and then he told one of my friends that he didnt want to be my friend because i cut, even though he does too,
and i just think he hates me because i give bad head, and then he told her that he wanted to get back with an ex, but he doesnt know that she knows me, and then he described 3 of his exes,
including me, then he imed me out of nowhere being all niice, and me and my friends would invite him in chats, and then the one day he told me to look at his myspace, so i did, and right there was a pic of some chick,
and under it it said this is my date for homecomming this weekend.
*sigh* and then he told my friend that he likes me, but his parents won't let him go out with me. and then a few days later, he imed me, and i told him to call me sometime,
and he's like "yea like never, lol" and i told him i hate him, and i put up an away message that said crying, and then he called me, and then he called me again, and said he was going to cedar point tomarrow and im like 'i should go' and hes like 'ur not going. it doesnt work that way' and then he said he was over his texting,
and if I texted him hed beat my ass because he knows where I live, and then hes like 'you would like that, though' and im just like 'stupid computer' and hes like 'yea you change the subject' and it sounded like he said 'fuck you' but i dont know if he did or not, and he hung up. and my friend asked him why he hung up, and hes like 'i kinda had to'
And then my friend was talking to him because she was gonna lead him on and break him down,
and he didn't know that she knew me, so she invited him into a chat room, and then invited me,
and I'm like "Greg why did you invite me?" and he's like "I didn't" And then he told her that he likes me, too.
But he's still kinda mean to me sometimes, and he hasn't told me himself that he likes me. But I guess we're friends, unless he's playing me, but all he ever talks about is cars.
He went out with my friend Kimmy, too, and she said that he tried to rape her on a golf course.
I have to act like I hate him when I'm around her.
Then, my friend Ashley imed him, and said she was going to kidnap him and send him to me for Kissmas ((She did this without asking me first)) and he's like "no please no, me and her are cool now"
And she's like why not?
and he's like "I don't wanna get yelled at"
and she asked who would yell at him, and he said alot of people, mostly just one.
And she said no one would know though, since he's being kidnapped.
And then he's like "Fine, I guess you can if I have no choice"
Or something along those lines.
I keep having flashbacks. I'm trying to get over him. People tell me just get over him, he's an asshole, and I really DO want to get over him, I'm trying so hard, even though we're still friends, and I'm not sure if he's an asshole or not. I always get jealous when I go on his myspace and see people leaving him comments, especially girls. I go to their page, and sometimes he leaves them comments. I am jealous of people that get to see him. ((We don't go to the same school)) I keep remembering how perfect he was........ (link)
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what do you mean your not sure if he's an ass or not, in my opinion he's probly dangerous. He was telling you that he was going to beat you and he was cheating on you. you need to get some self comfidence and tell this guy to fuck off, and mean it. and everytime you get a flash back, just remember all the horrible things he's said to you. and how many times hes cheated on you. forget him.
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This women that had used to date, has continued to text me. Sometimes just saying hi, but lately it has been dirty picture texts. I dont know what she wants when she has a boyfriend.. what should I do (link)
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try asking her to stop texting, if that dosnt work, you can have her blocked so she cant send texts anymore.
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ok, i'm going to a winter formal dance next weekend, and i have a couple of questions...
1)ok, i've never really gone to one of these before, so HOW DO YOU SLOW DANCE?!?
2)she's told me she wants to make out, but i have never done so...ANY TIPS ON MAKING OUT?
3)do i get her flowers or something?
thanks, this is REALLY gonna help me alot!
Thanks in advance! (link)
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1) slow dancin is not to hard. when you get to the floor, first relax, place your hands on her waist [not to low] and her arms will probly be around your neck. then its just basicly swaying to the music if the floors kinda crowed, if not its mostly movingin a circle. dont worry, she'll help you.
2)ok, well makeing out is like, how do i say this, its like kissing but you have to move youe lips a little. sorry, its kinda hard to explain. anyhoo make sure your breath is freah and dont drool, keep your hands on your lap or on her shoulders, and dont forget to come up for air. most important dont be too nervous.
3)either get her a coursauge or a single red rose, works every time.
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you answered my other question but i have another one with som beter info
she knows i like her we have been going on and off for 4 years.. well she has i have liked her the whole time basicly and i cant get her off my mind i think about her all the time.. and i want a way to were when she lieks me.. i can keep it that way .. she said things about me geting atached to fast how can i stop that because its hard for me when i care about som one .. and i have bad selfconfedence .. coudl that be part of the problem... and im really nice but iv herd girls like assholes
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ok whatever you've heard about girls likeing assholes, dont listen. what you need to do when your going out with her is try to relax, dont act like your going to marry the girl. what she means by getting attached to fast is that you might sufficate her, give her alittle space and relax. As for selfconfidence, stop douting yourself so much. think positive, whatever works for you, you seem a bit too uptight, so like i said, just relax.
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theres a guy whos in my math class who sits near me. He sometimes talks to me. Hes the kinda of guy whos just there. I dont feel too enrvous around him either. he often looks over at me and smiles at me a lot. He sat by me at lunch a few times, and i thought he was sitting by me cause there were his friends there. But I know his those arent the friends he talks to. so im kinda confused. he continues to stare at me often. any advice? thanks :) (link)
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i think he probly dose like you, and if you like him try flirting with him alittle. he sounds like a sweet guy.
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how do i take my bestfriend back into my life again.. :( this is not the first time that this happend she forgived me alot of times but this time she got fed up now i have a really big problem because i did this.
i ending up telling someone... When i talked to her she just said that "i don't think you can earn it back" :( but shes open to be mutual friends and its up to me if i want to catch her the last words i heard from her is "catch me if you can" the hardest is I'AM FALLING FOR MY BESTFRIEND!!! pls... she means alot to me I'll do anything just to be with her i feel so empty without her i don't care if wer just friends or shes my girlfriend bottom line is im with her Plzzz.......give me advice to what to do.. :( (link)
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you need to talk to her, actualy sit down with her and have a conversation. it's up to you weather you want to tell her that you like her or not but you two need to talk. first you need to apoligise for whatever it is that you did to make her angry and you need to earn her trust back, if she dosnt trust you she wont want to be around you.
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i have smoked pot a couple of time....and cigerettes. my mom and dad know about the cigerettes...but not the pot. do i need to talk to someone about my problem....or should it phase? (link)
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you realy should talk to someone, pot can be very addictive, and it can ruin lives. you may think that sounds cheesy but its true. First its pot, then cockane, the your shootin up and next thing you know your an addict. im not saying you are an addict now but thats what could happen, i would suggest that you talk to someone you trust
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