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My older b/f
My b/f is a few years older that i am, he's nineteen and i'm fifteen, and he wants to have sex. the thing is that im not ready to have sex, i want to wait till i get married. when he asked i told him no and i was firm and all, i gave him my reason too. he told me the he respected my desion, but he keeps asking me, and i keep telling him no. he says he loves me, and im pretty sure i love him, so i dont want to loose him, but i get really upset when he wont stop asking, i really dont want to do all the sexul things he wants to, but im a little bit afraid that ill hurt him or we'll fight if i dont, so what should i do?
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Oh man, you have got no idea how well I know what you're talking about. I have had this same problem. Ok, here is what I think you should do. Give him the ultimatum. You have got to sit down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him that you really do care about him, but you really dont want to have sex. I know he said he respected that, but you've got to tell him that if he respected your dision then he would stop asking.
(It's true) Dont ever let him talk you into doing something that you dont want to do, no matter how much you love him. If he cant respect your wishes (this is the ultimatum part) then dump him, because he isnt worth worring yourself over, a man who dosen't respect his woman is no man at all. I know that you dont want to fight, but depending on his personality, it may be unavoidable, so you will just have to be strong and have respect for yourself. Remember, No Means No.
P.s. I felt i really have to say this. You need to be careful of his age aswell, any person 18 or over is concidered an adult, and there are laws against an adult being with a minor, (someone under 18) Just warning you.
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