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guyfriends - loosen up?
hey
14 - F
well a lot of my stupid femalefriends are getting mad at me for the most ridiculous reasons. so i'm down to even less femalefriends. i'm cool with that cause girls suck cause they cause so much drama.
well. i realized that it's a LOT easier for me to make guyfriends. it's just that, i have like, five guyfriends [only two female friends, haa] & like, they just feel sorta uncomfortable when i talk about other guys. & no, they all like another girl, not me. like, i say, "he's sooo hottt," & my friend is like, "ok..." & i don't WANT to make him uncomfortable but i can't really talk to my femalefriends about my crush & all.
so, i'm asking,
HOW DO I GET MY GUYFRIENDS TO LOOSEN UP AROUND ME? make them less uncomfortable? let them know they can talk about ANYTHING with me?
i'm not the type of girl who says, "ew" to everything cause i don't find many things gross, either.
thanks so much in advance :]
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Well, I can see how some guys would be uncomfortable when you say that another guy is hot. For one thing, they probably don't know how to respond. What are they supposed to say... "Oh yeah, he IS hot!"??? (Hahaha) Girls usually don't have a problem saying another girl is pretty, but you won't find many guys who like to talk about another guys' looks. So if you want to talk about your crush with your guy friends, maybe just talk about how much you like the guy, or ask them for advice about him and stuff, but leave out the "hotness" factor.
Also, when you say another guy is hot, you might be making your guy friends a little jealous. Even if they truly just like you as a friend, they still might be wondering, "Doesn't she think I'M hot?" All guys have an ego and want to think they're attractive to girls, no matter what their relationship is with the girl.
It's true, guys can be a lot easier to be friends with than girls. But you have to remember, they're GUYS. No matter how close you get as friends, there will always be some differences between guys and girls!
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I know how you feel, (4 guy friends 1 female friend, plus im a boxer, all guy team). Anyhoo, Guys are just like that when we talk about guys around them, i think it's an "inscure as a man" thing. if you want to get them to loosen up around you, try getting them to talk about other girls around you. I warn you though, it works, and it may get a bit annoying, cuz, lets face it, even though their our friends, men are dogs.
Good luck.
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They have to trust you first.
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