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Okay, this is gonna be long..but- 2 years ago a met this guy and we became friends turns out..he's MADLY inlove with me! That's all fine and dandy, I don't mind reject people I don't like, but it also turns out this guy is suicidle! Now, please don't say get him help! He's gotta better about cutting himself, and he sees a therapist. But every time a guy asks me out, even the ones I like, I make up a stupid excuse and walk away for fear the 'suicidle guy' will kill himself! He's told me before I'm his reason for living! What do I do? I rate high! (link)
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wow this is a crazy one, yeaah well i had that happen and what i did was i just tryed to not talk to him on the computer, let him bring up all the subjects and thank god the kid didnt call me or idk what i would do but you shouldnt be afraid to go out with other guys, i mean he will prolly talk to his therapist, but be careful. I dont think you should be living your life like that ..scared. You can tell him that you guys are too good of friends to ever go out but you guys could be you know really good friends. i know thats the cheesiest way to do it but i think its the best in not hurting there feelings..hope that helps! rate me if u wanna
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i went out with this guy like 5 months ago, but we broke up after 1 day because this girl from my school started a rumor that i was using him even though i wasn't, but then 2 months ago, he asked me out again and i said yes, and now we're still going out, but i don't really like him anymore because i got to know him a lot better and now i know how he really is. i was going to brake up with him yesterday, but before i did, he gave me all these presents and said that he was so glad that we were going out again, and that he hopes it lasts really long. and he still sort of doesn't know if i used him or not, and if i just brake up with him right after he gives me all this stuff, then he's gona think i just used him again, so what should i do? should i wait for like a month or something so that it's not right after he gave me all the presents and he doesn't think that i used him, or should i just go ahead and just brake up with him? i don't want to wait because i don't like him, but if i don't wait he'll think i just used him, and it'll also hurt his feelings because he's liked me for 2 years now and he's been trying to get me to go out with him ever since.
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this one is soo hard because you dont want to hurt the kid and you dont wanna hurt yourself, so i think you should break up with him because if it was me i would care about myself more then i would care about someone else. Myself comes first, but on the other hand if you want to put yourself through another month, then you should because like you said you dont want him to think you used him. so if you cant deal with him dump him, if you can hold on for another month. hope that helpss, even though i wasnt too helpful, rate me if u wanna
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i have this thing called hyperhydrosis, which is when you have really really really sweaty hands and sweaty feet ALL THE TIME, and even if you wipe them off on something, they don't get dry, they just stay wet. my boyfriend keeps asking me if we want to hold hands, and i keep making up excuses and stuff because it's really embarassing that i have sweaty hands, but i don't want to keep having to make up excuses every time, because he asks a lot, and he's already starting to get really suspicious and everything. please help me think of a good excuse that i can use everytime, or tell me if you think i should just tell him about it. if you think i should just tell him about it, then tell me how i should say it.
i know this might seem like a stupid question, but please help, and i'll rate high for good answers!!! (link)
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tell him, its not your fault you got stuck with these sweaty hands, just be likee well idk if i wanna because i kindaa have this thing where my hands get really sweaty and i cant get them to stop and i dnt want you to not like me or anything, but it seems like if i dont let you hold my hand your not gonna like me. .. its better that he finds out now rather then farther in the relationship! hope that helps, rate me!
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Ok... so i have a total guy problem! sorry if this is to long! i am 17 years old and there is this guy that works with me, but at a different location if you get what i mean. (hes 21) well we were in a parade for work and he was all over me! we were hanging out like the whole enitre time! so then he asked for my number and we hung out that night. (he had people over at his house) and we all got totally wasted... and i ended up staying over there. (just me) and i ended up doing everything but sex with him. so the next morning i left and he said that he would call me after he got done with work and he never did! then i went on vacation for a week and i came back and he didnt call me either! i dont know what happened! his friend told me i was to young for him, and i asked him and he said no. or was it because i hooked up with him? or wHy?! i totally need help... because i really like him! thanks so mUch! (link)
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guys are gross sometimes. he might have been using you just for everything, but im not sure. i mean i know you might like him but i think you need do sumthing different, because if he doesnt call you then theres sumthing wrong
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I'm 15 and one of my inner labias is about three times the size of the other. However, this wasn't always so. It started about 2 years ago when I started masturbating with the showerhead. (Could this be the cause of it?) Anyway, I figured it was just swollen, and the swelling would go down. However, as time went on, it only got worse. It's now a more purple-ish, darker color, and bigger. Anyways, point being, instead of it getting better like I assumed it would, it only got worse. And it's now two years later, and I haven't told anyone about it. I would really like to, but I am too embarrassed. Also, I'm afraid if my parents take me to a gynocologist or anything of that sort, they will find out I'm not a virgin anymore, WHICH CAN NOT HAPPEN. I've been a huge emotional wreck ever since, and I really need to find out more about this. Any advice, information, help, or ideas would be SO greatly appreciated. I rate 5's for any attempt. Thank you.
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mm i think you should tell someone still..because it will get worse and you might not be able to have kids or anything anymore, when you go to the doctors im pretty sure you have a choice weither they tell your parents your a virgin or not. You need to tell someone because if you dont your emotions are going to get screwed up like you might become depressed or sumthing..hope that helps/rate me!
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Hey. This is gonna be the stupidest question, but I really need help. My brother and his friends (they're all about 23, I'm 16) are doing this movie. It's supposed to be really stupid and pointless, and I'm some kind of princess. But I'm supposed to look really stupid, like with my costume and hair. They've already made the 1st one and they said I can be in the 2nd. Well, I'm supposed to go over his house today and practice, but I think I'm supposed to be in costume. But I have NO IDEA what to wear. If it helps, I have a princess costume from a recent dance recital. It's mostly white, with some yellow. But how do I make it look stupid? Or is there something else I can wear? And what do I do with my hair?! Please help, I don't want to look like I have no idea what I'm doing. I want to look stupid, but I want them to think I know what I'm doing! Please help!!! They think I'm cool, I wish to keep that reputation! (link)
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umm..do you really have to dress up for a practice? if you do then you could cut like a few holess in the dance recital dress and then like use really good hair spray and make ur hair all crazy and then do your makeup like really dark ugly colors that dont match with the dress!
hope that helps!
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well the other day when my friend slept over it was time to put our pj's on and i usually go into the bathroom to get changed and my friend just started to take it all of in front of me and i got nervous so i went to the bathroom.....does that mean anything?? like did she want to see me naked or somthing?? because she is usually a private person about that stuff
signed confused?
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noo, maybe shes just used to doing that, i have a few friends that like to go into the bathroom and a few friends that just start doing what she did, if you dont feel confortable then just be like i gotta go to the bathroom and just change in there while your in there, i do it because i dont feel comfortable either.
hope that helps.
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i was wondering does anyone have the new wet/dry straightener because i was just wondering if it really did work because i didn't know if it was the best idea to straighten your hair when its wet
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umm i dont personally have the straightener but i do know people that have it, and i think it only works on certain hair styles. Like one of my friends says it works perfectly and the other says that it sucks! So i dont know really.
hope that helps
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How do you change the weekdays to something else? Like .."Stupid Sundays" or whatever? Haha..Stupid Sundays..That was the lamest thing.. :\ (link)
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i dont get it..likee just the words, like how to ryme them or how to change them on xanga?
sorry :\
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I like this girl, I mean like I REALLY love her. But, she only likes me as a friend. I recently sent her an email asking her out, but I think she's at sleepaway camp or something. I want her to love me so bad, how can I do that? Don't tell me that there are other fish in the sea, because I can feel that she's the one. How can I make her love me? Wiseasses get reported. Thanks! (link)
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yea i know what you mean, i really love this guy and hes only my friend too the only advice i can give you from personal experience is never give up if you think shes the one because if you do its just gonna be a waste of time for you and your gonna just kick yourself in the ass, i know this girl that liked this guy for 2 years and they went out because the guy finally realized they were ment for eachother, i would push it with this girl if its ment to be like you said then it will happen. But give it time. Dont be all clingy to her and asking her out every 5 seconds because girls dont like that, they get annoyed easily. So just be yourself and never give up..
hope that helps..
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Hey. Well, i just bought my hair straightener yesterday at JCPenny's it was $130. And i haven't used it yet but someone told me that u have to buy like some gresse or some oil to put on after or before doing it. Is that true.or can u just do it like that without putting anything. And if true can yall tell me what to buy, and were to get it from. Thanksss.
Brenda (link)
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okay, yea never heard of any oil or whatever, mine works perfect on my curly hair and it was only 50$ yours should work perfect!
hope that helps!
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Does anybody know any good sites to get like surveys and quotes for your profile, or live journal? I rate 5's!! THANKS! (link)
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yes you can go too..
http://www.kwiz.biz/simplesurveys/do-survey.php
for surveys..and...for qoutes..
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=pimp_my_Xanguhh_x3
hope that helpss!!
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i'm going with this boy who is the hottest boy in school. he could get any girl he wanted with the snap of his fingers. but he chose me, which is hardly believable. he gave up fooling around with every girl he wants to with no strings attached, to have a relationship with me. how can i make him see he made the right choice, and that girls aren't just objects, and they need to be respected? (link)
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Show him how to have a good time with one girl, show him that its nice to have a relationship and not just a zillion of them. If u really like him then make him feel good about himself and how the relationship is, its prolly gonna be hard. But i know you'll figure it out :-)
hope that helps!!
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okay well me and this guy have been "together" all summer... but were not really goin out... its wierd tho, he seems like he likes me one day and the next he wont talk to me... everytime i confront him he makes up some excuse like i had to go to the doctor, or i had to go shower... but ive kinda gotten fed up with it! hes really sweet and i really like him... but should i just stop talkin to him, or try and keep are relationship togteher and til we can move it further?? please help! (link)
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dump him! if hes doing that to you then theres something wrong, see what he does when you stop talking to him, maybe he will call you or sumthing. But i know that theres a better person out there for you that will call you and wont make up excuses! promise!
hope it helps!
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this morning i woke up by the voices in my head screaming at me-it scared the crap out of me!!!! this is an honest question is somthing wrong with me!?!?! (link)
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hmm idk what you mean by screaming..but no theres nothing wrong with you..but it is strange..if anything else that is strange happens then maybe?
hope it helps!
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I've been with my boyfriend almost a year... and we've been having unprotected sex and usually doesnt pull out. but I'm also on birthcontrol.. I know that thats not always effective.I'm 18 also... But for my question.. Recently I got sick with a cold and was put on Amoxicillan... I was told that when your on one of those it messes up your birthcontrol and it doesnt work right. We have sex a couple times a week.... My period is due like... Tuesday Or Wednesday.. Is there any chance that I can be pregnant... I spotted a little yesterday... Sorry Soo Long :/
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yes, sorry but there is a chance...but even if with the birth control working there still is a chance. But dont get all down about everything untill you know that your period isnt coming! :/
hope that helpss!
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Okay every year i get clothes from the mall picking things from like JC pennys and Macys and some from Aero but my mall doesnt have alotta fine clothes. This year i wanna be on top with the new teen fashions. So heres my (2) questions Is finding clothes over the net better for me? And if so does anyone know any good clothes sites? ** with good deals? (or am i asking to much.. ** lost & confused~ thanx (link)
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Yes. Buying clothes over the computer is good. But sometimes you get the wrong sizes and its not what you wanted or liked and then sometimes your stuck with it, and alot of confusion takes part. Lets say you go on Aero and look at there clothes they mostly have the deals at there stores not online. Some good stores that have good clothes are Abercrombie, 579, American Eagle or Kauphmans. All stores kinda have the same fineness. This is a really tough one. Im kinda drawing blanks as what to do but i hope it helped!
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well, my mom doesnt know i am having the discharge thing, how can i tell her? i alwys email her but i dont wanna tell her though that way.... or talk to her in person eather.. or a note and that shizzz. i dont wanna tell my sister bc shel be like "okay idc" so how can i tell my mom? (link)
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I think you should just tell her i mean shes gonna find out one way or another! Another thing you can do which sounds kinda gross would be just leave ur underwear with the discharge in it somewhere where she will see it. haha, but then that might make her mad that you didnt tell her, BUT you can always say you didnt know what all that discharge was? I dont know, this ones a hard one because the thing is you dont really wanna tell her, If you tell her in person she is going to be kindda shocked probabley because you mostly e-mail her. So idk im sorry.
Hope it helps!
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4 of the past 5 nights, I have been waking up in excruciating pain. This pain is in my knee cap. It's not something I experience when I first wake up in the morning, it's something that attacks during the night, causing me to awaken. You've got to understand and believe me when I say this - this is the most dreadful, awful, intense pain I have EVER experienced in my ENTIRE life, hands down, without a SINGLE doubt. To be perfectly truthful here, I generally cry when I'm physically hurting, as it helps me cope with any ailments I might currently be dealing with. However, crying over my sudden and harsh knee pain doesn't make much sense to me. No amount of tears, and no tantrum I could possibly throw would do this pain justice. I find that it only upsets myself more. In the past I have always be able to rely on my tears to calm myself, and now that I DO NOT have that, I'm unaware of where to turn.
I know that I'll NEVER have a proper diagnosis until I see a doctor. Problem is, I'm not covered by Insurance, as we just moved to a new state, and my father's job does not offer benefits. But who's kidding who; the REAL problem is that I am AFRAID to inform my family. I'm scared they might TRY TO take me to the doctor. I know this is what's best for me, but the doctor/hospital is my biggest fear EVER. I realize if my pain is THIS insane, avoiding the doctor/hopistal is plainly prolonging the inevitable.
I'm not really sure about what it is I am asking here. I suppose I would just like some opinions, suggestions, guesses, ideas, knowledge... ANYTHING you might have to contribute!!! =/
- I'm female; a few days away from 17.
- I'm not exessively large, but I guess I could stand to lose a few pounds?
- Again, this has ONLY occurred 4 of the past 5 nights, and ONLY during the NIGHT.
- I know that the weather can do some funny things to your bones, but the weather in Connecticut has been in the 90's for the past couple of weeks. Always humid and consistent. The weather has never had an affect on me BEFORE - at least not that I've ever NOTICED, so I'm skeptical that the weather is causing my pain. At this point in time, I'm not going to cross ANYTHING off as a possible cause.
- This is ONLY in my LEFT knee. ONLY in the knee cap ITSELF - not the entire leg, and the pain does NOT "jump" around.
- My sleeping position? Generally [and ALWAYS the case when I have experienced this pain] I have been sleeping on my RIGHT side. MEANING, my LEFT leg didn't have much weight to speak of resting upon it, understand?
- I guess it's important to add that I have a "condition" where my legs and feet randomly swell up like Stay Puffed Marshmallow Man in Ghostbusters..... This used to be insanely bad [not to mention highly disgusting] but ever since I've gotten the proper leg braces, that problem seems to be no more. Now, what CAUSES that random swelling? Salt. Basically it's where salt gets stuck within my body, causing it to expand. You might be thinking that it's the LEG BRACES that is causing this, BUUTTT.. I haven't been wearing them for the past three weeks. So the problem IS NOT the WEARING OF them. This has lead me to believe it COULD MAYBE [just as it "COULD MAYBE" be anything else]... but it COULD MAYBE be my NOT wearing them that is having this affect on me. But if this is so, why haven't I ever experienced this in the past??? Yet, problems have to start SOMEWHERE, right? But really, my legs have only been a problem TWICE [as far as swelling goes] in the past 3 weeks since I've neglected to wear my braces. Honestly, I don't believe the cause has anything to do with this. Also, when this swelling is present, it starts at my toes, and works it's way UP my body. It never has a chance to even REACH my knees, because I catch it while still in my foot.
- This brings me to my diet: My diet hasn't changed much within the past 4-5 weeks. I've obviously been cutting back on my salt intake. Other than that, I really haven't been over eating or under eating any. I eat until I'm full, and I then call it quits. I NEVER drink milk or soda; ONLY ONLY ONLY water, and A WHOLE LOT of it. The past week my Mom [who is the one who generally provides all of our meals] has been away on vacation. During this time, I've been properly fed. But to be honest, I've sort of replaced lunch with a package of Austin Peanut Butter Crackers, which are very high in sodium. If this IS NOT having an affect on my SWELLING, I severely doubt it's having an affect on my KNEE CAP. As I previously said, I am not willing to discount ANYTHING as of yet.
- I'm not involved in sports, and since I am new to the area, my friend count is a complete zero, so needless to say I don't really go anywhere. So no... I haven't hurt it during some crazy practice drill or anything. I know that I can hurt it anywhere, but don't you think I would have noticed the pain [at least a TINY bit] if I had pulled or torn something?? And if you think I might have done this, why does it only attack at night? Not even during the day in my long naps in the SAME sleeping position.. but ONLY at NIGHT. Is that just coincidence???
- This pain strikes suddenly, and ONLY leaves when I begin to work my joint like a mad man. I generally lay there in pain for about 5 minutes, before I gather up enough courage and willpower to begin extending my knee. Once it's fully extended and moved around for about 10-15 seconds.. the pain DISAPPEARS ENTIRELY!! I would NEVER know it even happened.
Can someone tell me.. is this a "common" thing? Does it ever happen to YOU? Know any possible remedies or temproray solutions? What do you *ADVISE?
I understand you are not a medical professional, but I would be ever so appreciative of some guesses here. Please, anything you've got. This pain is so intense, my body begins to shake violently, and I get the urge to vomit. :D It's just not a pretty picture. Last night I slept with a huge garbage bag at my side, as I expected the pain. Can I predict the future or what -- I'll be damned if it didn't happen AGAIN. =[
Thank you, all, very very much for ANY information you provide.
Mackenzie
My apologies on the length of this question. I was trying to the best of my ability to NOT leave any details out, clearly.
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Im no professional, but i think it would be best that you took some pain medicine that you find in your home right before you go to bed just to see if that helps, if it doesnt then i would try to wear my brace to bed and see if that helps. Another possible thing that could be causing this would be your body responnding to you being non active, and like you said you have to move your knee alot, so maybe if you could run around your block for a little bit or walk before you go to bed that might help, but it might also make it worse, so id try the medice and the brace first. I dont know really what else to say and i dont know if its a common thing because no one i know has it, But i would also try drinking milk? i dont know if that will help seeing that your almost to the point where you stop growing, but if you that desperate, try it!
hope that all helps!!
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My ex boyfriend and I still have feelings for each other. The only reason we broke up was because of an Instant Messanger Misunderstanding since someone always goes on his screenname. Well, he has a girlfriend who he only likes as a friend (which I think he got to make me jealous.) He and I want to get together but I'm afraid I'm going to get hurt? So should we keep ourselves a secret, should we tell his girlfriend about us, or should I just tell him its not a good idea? We really like each other. So any advice would be great. I'll rate 5's for Helpful advice. (link)
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okay, deffintaly go for this one!! i wouldnt be afraid of getting hurt because you never know this could lead to sumthing good and its just going to hurt you more to see him around and stuff and know hes not yours. I dont think you should keep yourselfs a secerate because those relationships dont work out well, believe me! they always get out anyways. I would also deffinatly tell him girl friend about you two, because its not right to her and its gonna hurt her either way because shes gonna find out one way or another..haha
hope it helpss!!!
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