I am a 55 year old female; very interested in the healthcare field, studied for 8 years, am certified massage therapist, have experience in studying energy medicine. Now my 80 year old mother is living home but is missing some of her capacities. My dad died about 3 years ago, my brother lives with her and has a full time job so he's home only at night.
Because of my experience, I felt like the right person to provide her with some help. She has piles of magazines & catalogues all over the house but doesn't want them moved so it's difficult to clean. When I gave her a massage she ended up telling me what to do and when I try to help her make healthy choices in her food, she complained about all my cooking and I found stashes of cookies and candy anyway. I am frustrated, to say the least.
The bottom line is: should I stay or should I go?
Well, first off, don't leave her because she is your mom. I think you know that your mom won't be around forever, and therefore, while she needs your support and care you should help her the best you can if possible.
She seems to be very stubborn just like the typical elderly person. I know from experience with watching my mom in handling her parents, that the older a person gets the more apt they are for stubbornness.
While she stubbornly refuses you to help her clean up her place and is slightly bossy, this is normal. The elderly don't want you to disrupt their lives and take things from them. The instance with her stashing the cookies and candy I think is where you're going to have to give her some leeway. She's lived the majority of her life, and if that's what makes her happy, then let her eat some candy.
My Poppy is a diabetic, and has also had various heart and lung problems. He gets sick a lot these days and he always ends up in the hospital for a few days. Due to his sickness, when he tries to eat something he shouldn't, my mom tells her mother "Mom, just let him eat it if it makes him happy. We don't know how much longer he'll be here." It sounds awful, but seeing that your mom has lived a long life in which I'm sure you and your family have filled her with an adundance of love and care, it's time for her to hang up her armor of responsibility.
Be strong, and help her out the most you can. You'll be blessed and you'll be glad you were there with her. Spending this time with her will also give you time with her you wouldn't have had otherwise.
Stick in there and Good luck..!! :)
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Okay, I have curly, thick, wavy hair that comes down to the middle of my back. I need a change, I've had this hair style forever and I want something different.
Here is what I want
http://i70.photobucket.com/albums/i107/xjsbellamias13/1385690382_l.jpg
Question is:
1. How do I get that hair style?
2. Where would I go to get my hair cut like that?
3. Is it possible to get my hair like this?
Depending on the texture of your hair, it could or could not work.
You can go to any decent salon to get it cut like this. The choppy style in all lengths seems to be really popular right now.
What I do when I find something drastically different is take a picture of the hair to my hairstylist, and she cuts it that way.
I'd say that this will work for you. It would be better if you'd posted a picture of your hair, so that I could see just how thick and how curly your hair is, but they can also thin it out when they layer it like this.
I think it is highly possible this hairstyle will work for you if you invest in a straightener and are faithful in using it daily.
The only thing is, this hair is long, and if your hair is that long and really curly it could take quite a while to straighten. Also you could probably by some straighten enhancing mousse or gel to put into it wet before you dry and straighten it.
I hope this helps!!
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Male 26
Lately, it feels like my girlfriend is constantly saying hurtful and/or disrespectful things to/about me. And I can't tell if she's oblivious or not about how it affects me.
How do I make it clear that I still love her, but that what she says affects me a lot.
I'm not really sure what kind of change in heart has resulted in her treating you like this. I can say though that if she never said these things before, and it just sort of cropped up, then there is a definite change in heart.
You need to talk to her and find out what it is that is going through her head.
Obviously, something is wrong if she's doing this continuously.
You need to ask her if you've done something to offend her or if her feelings have changed towards you because it does seem that if someone says mean things to you there is no way that they don't know what they're doing. Mean things are mean things no matter what or who says them.
Good luck talking to her. I hope everything works out for you!!
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16/f
So, this guy wrote me a note today and told me he liked me and he wanted to get to know me, etc. He said he was nervous at first to talk to me but he asked for my number and i gave it to him and he keeps calling but i am scared to answer it because i only met him today...and i'm not sure if i ike him like that. He is really nice and sweet already and we talked a lot at school but i get really nervous whenever i talk to guys on the phone for the first time. I only met him today, so is it mean not to answer the phone and wait until i know him a little better. I would be more comfortable then but i don't want to tell him that so what do i do? thanks!
Well, it does sound like you are well on your way to finding a sweet boyfriend, or a clingy one. I have to say that while his intentions do seem sweet and honorable this could be an indication of the many, many phone calls you'll get later when you're actually dating.
It all just depends on what you look for most in a guy. I say that you tell this guy the next time you see him that you'd like to talk to him and get to know him better, but you also want to take it slow. Maybe if he knows you don't want to rush until you find out how you feel about him, then he'll back off a little bit so you can think.
Good luck!! :)
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16/f
all of my friends, or pretty much all of them, have hooked up with a guy/guys. I haven't. and they are all so pretty :[ AND DON'T TELL ME THAT I AM PRETTY BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW ME. i think im not appealing to guys. i don't have boobs. and actually, some of my friends don't either, but that's not the point ... i guess. I've had like ... 3 boyfriends. 2 were just flukes. one i really liked alot, but we only kissed, never hooked up. i guess i was scared? *because he has hooked up before* and then we broke up. but anyways, just the other day one of my "friends" was like ... well everyone has hooked up by now...duh. and i was like, no they havent, i know people who havent. and she was like, have you? and i lied. i said i did. because i didn't want to feel like a loser. because maybe i should have ALREADY hooked up with a guy. but again, no guys like me. and im only attracted to the ones who are out of my league, not available, or ex's. I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG OR WHAT I AM DOING WRONG OR ANYTHING. any advice is appreciated. i guess. ugh. will it ever be my turn ?! ugh. and you don't have to tell me what i want to hear, im on this site for the truth. okay? thanks in advance.
I know what it feels like to be the odd man out. Your friends are talking about their sex stories and what happened to them. I have always had pretty high standards and I didn't get a serious relationship until I was even 17.
Despite what your friends are doing, I don't think you should feel the need to jump right into some fling just so you can honestly say you've hooked up with someone.
This stuff takes time, and it needs to be that when you DO hook up with someone it's not some big joke. It's not as glamorous as it seems, and you aren't missing too much.
You aren't a loser, the right guy just hasn't come around yet. We all have flaws, and I think you're currently struggling with your confidence and blaming your physical features more or less on your not hooking up.
Believe me when I say that you should seriously do stuff with someone you care about, not just some random guy. Give it time and when you find that guy he'll love you regardless of your cup size.
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Hi I am 16.f. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He is my first true love, and everyone says 'youll never forget your first love' and everything, like our relationship will never last. But what if I TRULY think he is the only one I could ever be with. I know I am young, and of course I wouldn't get married now, and I have time to think about it but on one hand I can't imagine a future with anyone else, but on the other hand EVERYONE seems to think that just because I have never loved anyone else means I wont last long with him?? Is it possible that I just happened to find the perfect guy right off the bat? Has anyone had an experience like mine??
Well, there is always a slim chance that when you're with someone that they could be the one for you. I don't doubt that you love him unconditionally because we all love someone like that and more often than not more than one someone.
You do have to understand though, that every time you're in a serious relationship you have an opportunity to love that person.
You do love him now, but factor in that you are still young, like you said. You are only 16, and you have a lot of growing up left to do in the next several years. Chances are that you'll be in the midst of discovering what you want to do with you life for sure, what kind of person you are, and what interests you the most. As we grow, our perspectives change on things.
And while it is possible that he could be the one for you right now, he may not be the right one for you in the future.
You just have to love him and be happy with what you have right now, and take day by day. The chips will fall where they're meant to fall because the future is certainly indecisive. :)
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I want some cute cheap shoes!
I have lots of flats that I wear with skinny jeans...
I don't know what to wear with flares though besides flip flops and its winter
Links please =]
PS I already have K-Swiss
well, you can try
www.zappos.com
they have like every brand and they usually give pretty good deals on them. :)
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Well I was talking to this girl for a school semester on and off. She's 14 and I'm 16. Everything was going great and we were closer then ever. But one day after being back together for about a week. She told me for I dunno the 5th time that she's scared to hurt me. So I told her how I felt about her " I know what I want and I I've found it in you" " that's how I know I won't hurt you". Then she said that she's trying really hard to find that something in me. After that i told her I haven't been completly myself around her I meant that I'm kinda more outgoing when I'm with my friends. And that I really like her and that I want to be with her and I asked her if she wanted to be with me. She told
Me that she doesn't want the same relationship that i want. So we ended it and i stopped talking to her. The next day at school she told me that she was sorry and what she really meant was that she doesn't want to lose me if she messes up. We talked later that night about figuring out what she wants she told me all the things she wants her bf to have out of about 10 things I had all but maybe 2. So what my question is is what do you think? Am I not good enough to meat her standards or does she really not want to lose me? She said she wants to be best friends but right now were more like aquantences (my choice). 1 more question tthis one is for girls what do you look for in a guy?
Okay, so it sounds like this girl doesn't really know what she wants right now. I hate to say it, but the girl is 14, so she's still really too young to get serious. I think she is still having issues as to what defines her interests and what she really wants in a guy. I'd say you leave her alone, and find someone else who can make you feel good about yourself. It's only hurting you in the long run if you keep holding on to her in the midst of her problems. Find someone who is ready for something more, and more mature. Because it seems to me that if you only relate to like two of her 10 things that more than likely you two aren't gonna be happy campers.
And as for what us girls look for in guys:
someone who is mature, will love us even for our flaws, tells us we're beautiful and believes it, trustworthy, not pressurous, protective, but not overly jealous, b/c that's just annoying. funny and can get along with our friends and family
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hey
im pretty sure i have depression and i have a lot of issues and problems and i used to cut to cope but i gave up 8 weeks ago. but im struggling to cope now. my mum has a vague idea of my depression but other than that know else knows.
i tried counselling but it didnt help. i do want to get better. im going to university in september and i dont want to turn up with all my problems.
im thinking of going to the doictors to see if i can get some anti-depressents but i dont want my mum to find out so im not sure if that it'll work cos im still 17.
also i was thinking about therapy where the thearapist can help me out and give me advice (the counseller didnt do any of that) i think i can only talk freely to a stranger cos id find it hard to talk to friends or family.
im just really stuck on what to do cos im fairly sure i cant beat all of it on my own.
any advice is greatly appreciated. thanks x
Well, first off, if you have this problem you should tell your mom about it. She is your mother, and would probably do anything to help you cope with what you're going through. I'm sure she'd be happy to take you to a doctor to see what's needed to treat your condition if you talk to her about it.
I know you don't want to tell her, but she needs to know. If she has an idea of your depression like you say, then she's probably really worried about you and wants you to let her in.
And since you are 17, and still a minor, no you can't get anti-depressants on your own.
Try talking through it with her. It will make the both of you feel much better, and then you can go get the help you need. :)
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This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.
Well, i was having sex with this guy and its not the first time ive been with him, but we didnt have a condom. He said he didnt mind and he would just go in me, and i am not on any birth control or anything and he knows that. He said it was up to me, and he said he really wants to. Other times when we've had sex, he would always hint it, or say something like, "I just want to go in you so bad" or something along those lines.
What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?
Thanks everyone :]
Don't let that happen without a condom!!
That's what will get you pregnant, and I'm sure you really don't want that to happen right now.
You shouldn't have unprotected sex regardless, but really don't let him cum in you without any means of protection.
A new little person would probably show up nine months later.
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Weirdest question that will probably ever be asked on here.... but does Tom from Myspace have a Facebook? haha. And wouldn't that be like... I don't know. Lol. Thanks.
Who knows.
He probably does have a facebook under a different name and no picture.
Seriously, if not him, somebody is his spy and keeps him up to date on facebook capabilities.
haven't you noticed how "people you may know" and the "relationship/friend updates" have cropped up in myspace in the past few months??
both of which have long since been features on facebook.
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okay i really like this guy and he flirts with me alot and asks me what i would do to him but he nevers says anything about dating..so how would i ask him if we would be having a relationship or if he would just use me for action?
thanks
loveboys
Love boys,
I've dealt with a few of these myself.
And let me tell you: this boy is obviously not looking for a relationship.
If a guy starts talking to you and jumps right into asking you "what you would do to him" firs thing, then he's not looking for anything more than a hook up.
And don't ever stoop that low with any guy just because he seems charming(its the charm of a player) because in the long run, you'd rather guys want to actually date you because you're a great girl. Good guys don't want girls who have been with every other guy. Always have respect for yourself over what guys want.
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alright so i got my hair cut short before and i HATED IT! and i havent gotten my hair cut since but i was wondering if i should get my hair cut like these picturess im worried i will look uglyy
http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e347/calichica622/hairrr2.jpg
http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e347/calichica622/hairr3.jpg
i look like thisss.
http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e347/calichica622/semii013.jpg
Well, first off, there are many different types of haircuts for different hair types and different facial structures.
You should consider what shape of face you have and apply that to finding your perfect trim.
And as for the hair types thing, if you have curly thick hair, you aren't going to get a cut that looks good with straight hair, so find something that accentuates your hair's texture by whether or not it has a wave or it straight or is super thick.
I've looked at these, and I think the one of Lauren Conrad could work for you, but make sure these above things line up with you first.
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