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Q: 17/f

my boyfriend and i want to have sex but the only problem is, i think i'm too small down there. it took months before him fingering me with one finger felt okay. i told him to try two fingers the other day and he said he couldn't get them in and it hurt.
is sex going to be possible at all? i mean i know girls wayy younger than me have sex.

hello darling,
i think that sex at your age is way too young. but after all, it is your life. not mine. i am not going to control it for you. and if you want to know, just ask him if you think it will work.

Q: i have an ipod mini and it randomly will turn on and make this beeping noise in a pattern. then stop. its not loud or anything.

its really weird.
does anyone know why it does this?
and if theirs does the same thing

thanksss

hello darling,
3 of my grandchildren have iPods (that i got them for christmas on year) and this never happens to them. when you turn it off, make sure to put it on hold and it should work out for you and not randomly turn on. my grandchildren do that and this problem has never occured.
-violet shroom

Q: well, the title says it all. guys don't find me attractive. don't get me wrong, i'd know if i was hideous, but i'm not. all my girl friends say i'm gorgeous, but guys just don't. i have like big boobs and stuff and i'm pretty thin i have pretty clear skin, i'm kinda pale but i don't know what it is. can someone give me an explanation on why or how i can fix this?

ps. i'm really outgoing and flirty with guys... usually. but i recently moved so i kinda lost my flare.

hello darling,
i find that very hard to believe that none of the guys find you attractive. you probably are very gorgeous and you know that there is that one special person out there for you and you just have to wait until you find that one special guy that loves you for who you are. i'm sure that you have a great personality and not all guys are just looking at your looks, they look at personality too. the best advice i can give you is to just be yourself and you'll find the one guy that like i said earlier will love you for who you are. just go for it.
-violet shroom

Q: i hooked up with my friends bf. yes it was stupid and i really regret it so dont tell me how bad it was. I feel terrible but i made a mistake. now everyone knows. what do i do. (we have the same freinds)

hello darling,
maybe you should talk to your friend about "hooking up" with her boyfriend. and if she wants you to "break up" with him (or whatever slang you youngsters use these days) then you should take it into consideration. but if you are really in love with him, dont. but it depends if he was her ex or not.
-violet shroom

Q: Does anyone know where I can find something online that says something like sixteen and never been kissed or never been missed? ... i looked on photobucket and google but couldnt find anything... thanks so much

hello darling,
well even though i may be ancient, i still know some pretty cool websites. well one website you could try is iconator.com
its pretty cool and has some cool icons. also some more websites are:
tinypic.com
glitter-graphics.com
hope that these websites will work for you.
-violet shroom

Q: for christmas i want my belly button pierced, thats all i actually really want, except my step dad has been so against it. all i asked for was his permission, i even offered to pay for it and its still a no. my moms fine with it.

his reason is that he thinks its "hoeish"
which doesnt really apply to me at all
im 15/f, sophmore. i've never even been kissed.
i get good grades like straight a;s, i hang out with good people. and hes so stubborn about it.

he thinks im gonna go around wearing like nothing after, and im not, thats not even me. and i told him that

what could i do to change his mind.

hello darling,
you need to explain that you wont act like a "hoe" when you get this done. you need to also add you will keep your grades up and maybe add the reasons why you want a bellybutton ring. maybe get your mom to talk to him because she is the legal gaurdian of you. best wishes with your "christmas present."
-violet shroom

Q: ok so i have a little question i need to look up information on my uncle who rumor has it he has been arrested for selling drugs and doing other things but i can not look this up on the internet and iw ondered if anyone could help me find out more about this like what websites will tell me what he did without ahving to pay becaue i dont have a credit card and my parents dont want em to find out about it thanks

hello darling,
well hun, if it were me i would search his name on google. some things about him may pop up if he's in jail for something like that. or you can ask, ask.com. good luck with finding out information about him, darling.
-violet shroom

Q: Before thinking, I told the guy I like that he was in for a suprise when I see him tommorrow at school. I like him, he likes me, but feels he would be a bad boyfriend. We are pretty close. What are some cute or romantic or thoughtful suprises that I could do, I mean to show I was thinking about him?

hello darling,
you could make him a cute little note. or something special like that. back in my day, we went to the soda parlour. but, you should make him a cute little note or a paper flower. something that is sweet and sensative. or give him a box of candy.
-violet shroom

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Hello boys and girls,
My name is Violet Shroom and I am 75 years old. I live in California along with my 3 cats. I have 4 children and 7 grandchildren. I won't name them because that would take forever. I have a cell phone which is unbelievable for my age group, but it's the only way to get ahold of my children and grandchildren nowadays. I want to help the new generation of youngsters on this website so ask me a question and I will try to help my best. I have a boyfriend named, Franklin, and it's getting pretty serious. I don't want to be married at this age though because I won't be alive forever. I do have a will which is pretty amazing if I do say so myself. I guess I will go now. Tata.