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My name is Megan, I'm 22 years old, and I live in Brownwood, Texas! I am engaged to a wonderful man who just takes my breath away. ;) I'm an EKG Tech and I LOVE my job. I had a column here YEARS ago, but simply cannot remember the log in :)

I really enjoy inspiring others and provoking change. I find solace in providing others with a happier disposition. A single word of praise or a simple well-wish can seriously change how people see themselves. I love it!

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my boobs are really sore an my period is a few days late but its been a bit screwy for the last coupla months anyway, could i be pregnant or is it nothing? im 24

Nothing personal, but I hate these types of questions. We're not doctors, nor do we know your sexual history, or your medical history, or any of that stuff. If you're sexually active, of course you could be pregnant.

Your breasts being tender does not automatically mean you're pregnant. That's actually a really normal thing before your period. Happens to me every month.

It's also normal for a woman's period to fluctuate. If you're worried you could be pregnant, all I could suggest is for you to take a test.

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http://www.google.com/imgres?q=sakroots+white+bag+peace&um=1&hl=en&safe=off&client=firefox-a&sa=N&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&biw=1366&bih=597&tbm=isch&tbnid=i_461pNfY7dAwM:&imgrefurl=http://www.shopstyle.com/product/the-sak-zappos-bags-sakroots-artist-circle-crossbody/222118139&docid=bPS2AzBTKofBIM&w=164&h=178&ei=pfR7TtyAN5GcgQei-53zCA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=684&vpy=309&dur=1275&hovh=142&hovw=131&tx=103&ty=104&page=1&tbnh=128&tbnw=118&start=0&ndsp=24&ved=1t:429,r:11,s:0 this is the link to my sakroots bag. the white got dingy from everyday use. how do i clean it?

Take a microfiber cloth, and spray some Resolve on it. Then, gentle dab the dingy areas. It's okay to make a gentle, circular motion with the cloth. Should clean up nicely. :)

(I have a TheSak bag... I LOVE them!)

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Hai friends, iam a girl bron in a wrong family. I have a mom, dad, elder sister. My sister age is 27 nd 3 years yonger. Parents are seeing only jathagam nd the persons. From the begining they are treating me very badly. Thats i should do what they say,even it make me die also, i should not go out, i should not take to any one even to my friends also. Few years before i meat a guy nd fall. Ne cares for me lot still now. Looking me as a kid, making me all comforts. When i cry he always be with me. He made me happy, safe, sequire. Now we want to marry. His parents also loves me a lot. But my parents treating them as some thing else. They r not leave me alone any where, including bathroom. Bcoz they dont want my happines. With my marriage they r searching a slave to work for them, nd make them confort. I this case what shall i do pls tell me. I dont to miss him. He is a gem.

Marry him anyways and get the hell away from your family?


I'm sorry if I didn't quite understand this all... it was a bit of a hard read. O.o

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why do men fall in and out out of love so easily, while women fall in and out of love so hard? guys, i appreciate honest answers. do you ever find yourself completely in love with a girl and after a while it goes away....why

If you're talking about a span of less than a year, it wasn't love.


If you're talking about a span of 10+ years: Some people (both men AND women) can "fall out of love" simply because they're not being stimulated emotionally the way the used to, and they crave it. They get bored, tired of the "same ole" and like to move on.

It's natural.

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If I have a cramp in my lower abdomen close to my vagina does that mean I will start my period?

If you haven't had your period yet, this could definitely indicate an oncoming menstrual cycle.

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hi,
ok so i really want to loose weight, im 13 years old and female, i weigh 51.3Kg, im 166cm tall and fit a size 12A bra.
i dont want to get a six pack or get buffed with muscle, i just want to get thin and have a soft stomach.
if i lose weight i am scared i will loose my breasts as well and everyone will notice and say i never actually had breasts and i was just wearing a bra to be a try hard.
i am also afraid that if i lose weight my new weight will not match my body type because i have bigger bones, if i lose weight will my bones shape differently to match my weight?
i really want to loose weight and be able to fell comfortable in a bikini.
what are some excises that will make me be able to loose my belly fat and i can do in around four weeks?
PLZ try and answer all my questions, i REALY appreciate all your help.

So.. you're about 5 feet, four inches tall and you weight 113 pounds? You're at a really healthy weight now, I dunno why you'd wanna lose weight.

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So I'm a college student that has never had a credit card. I'm thinking I should start building up my credit, but I've been rejected twice already due to my LACK of credit.

Apparently my credit score is a 543, which is keeping me from being accepted. I have a job, but I JUST started it and only earn about 100/week.

I'm new to this so I have some questions:
- How long do I need to have and use a credit card for my credit score to go up? And how much does it go up?
- If I get a card, I plan on never buying something I won't be able to pay off at the end of the month (so as to not pay interest). Will this affect it? Also, is there a difference between buying something for $20 every month and paying it off and buying something for $100 and paying it off?

Now, each company that's rejected me offered to reconsider if I provide a guarantor's information. The only person that can do that for me is my mom, but she doesn't trust me too much (for no reason, really). What can I do to help change her mind? And is there any way that after a certain amount of time, I can remove her as my guarantor and only have the card in my name (so that if in the future I DO mess up, ti wont' affect her credit as well?)

The only question I can answer in regards to this is that it doesn't matter how much you spend and then pay off at the end of each much. It'll all get counted the same. The only thing they look at is if you paid late or not.

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Last year I met a guy at college. He was really cool and we got along great as friends. He had a very serious long term girlfriend, who also went to our school and who I had met through him a few times. I liked her and them and I thought we were just friends. Then when we went home for the summer we started talking more and he admitted that he had feelings for me and wanted to break up with his girlfriend because of it, and because he thought they'd been over for a long time. He ended it.
We started talking and after a month I went to visit him and all we did was kiss. It got really serious after that really quickly. We saw each other about three more times over the summer, talked nonstop, and 3 weeks before coming back to school we had sex. He always said if I was worried about something I should talk to him and so I always would and at that point we had spent almost 3 months just talking. At that point I gave myself to him completely because I really, really trusted him. We found out we had so much in common and I have never felt that close to someone that quickly.
When we came back to school I was so excited to be together. For two weeks, I thought it was great. He came over all the time and we had a class together and it was just really easy. The entire summer and at school we never fought or got mad at each other. I just felt like he was my best friend.
Then one day he says he needs to talk to me and basically tells me that he doesn't think he has feelings for me anymore. He said he can't imagine losing me as a friend or anything but he doesn't feel like he really likes me that way or something. I was devastated and so confused because everyone said we were awesome together. He would often tell people it was going great. I know that he was SO into me over the summer. It felt intense and amazing. I don't understand how all of a sudden he doesn't feel that way about me. I keep thinking how he'd say things like "I can't get close enough to you" and how much he missed me this summer, how great it was. I feel cheap and used.
We didn't talk much for a few days, but now it's been about 10 days and we're back to talking A LOT. We don't really see each other outside of class but he texts me all the time just talking about random stuff we used to talk about. I know we're going to remain friends, but I don't understand what he's doing. It seems like the only thing missing is the intimate part. I'm starting to feel like he was confused and decided to break up with me because he didn't want to be in a relationship again after his ex. But I feel like he'd want to be with me again if I decided to cut off all communication. It's almost like, he wants to have his cake and eat it too, so to speak. I'm really confused and I don't know how I feel or what I want. I know I'd take him back if he asked. Should I talk to him and see what he's feeling? Should I stop talking to him? I don't think I could lose my best friend, but I feel like it's hurting me to talk to him when I still have feelings. Do you think he has feelings for me still? Please help me.

I think you should absolutely talk to him, and tell him everything you've just told us. Explain your feelings, even the fact that you feel cheap and used. Tell him how he used to say those nice things and ask him how he could suddenly not like you anymore.


Ask him to be honest, and ask him if it's because he needs some time after his previous break up.


Good luck!

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I was wondering if it is possible to have multiple prescriptions for the same drug at different pharmacy's to be used to abuse a drug? If you suspect someone of doing this what is the correct steps to follow?

Of course it's possible. All you have to do is go to a different doctor and say you're hurting, then tell them where you want the prescription sent. If you suspect someone of doing this - call the cops.

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My friend pricilla is a cool friend but shes a total tomboy and bully shes always hurting me and if i tell her to stop bothering me i know she will kill me or at least give me a black eye i need seriose help.NOW!!

Stand up for yourself! Tell her you think she's a cool girl, and you'd love to still be friends, but you can't continue the friendship if she continues the abuse. If she won't stop, get the authorities involved. Assault is illegal for a reason. :)


Good luck!

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So I was on this website where you kinda find dates. Yes I am of the age. But they usually ask if I'm talking to anyone else. Which I always deny. I am currently "talking" to around 5 guys. Is it wrong to keep my options open or should I just choose one and ditch the others. The problem with that is that I'm not sure exactly who I want to stick with and if it'll be worth it. Because what if i change my mind and then it will be too late to take things back. :/ help..

No, it's NOT wrong for you to keep your options open! Next time someone asks you if you're talking to other guys, be honest! Say "Yeah, I'm just keeping my options open... see what's out there." If a potential boyfriend can't accept that, move on to the next one :)

Good luck :)

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So , here's my story . Im using made up places cause i dont want to say where i really live .

I lived in lolliepop land with my mum . I had a big fight with my friends . So , i moved to unicorn forest . Annd , its been about 7 or so months since i moved and me and my friends have made up . My dad said i could move back and live with my mum at the end of this year . And i was talking to my mum , and shes said i have to go to a school i really dont want to go to .
So , i either stay here with my dad (I hate his wife and her kidss)
Or go back to my mum ( And go to a school i hate )

Which one do you think is a good choice :$$$$ ?

Lollipop Land and Unicorn Forest?

As opposed to say... London and Kent? or Houston and Austin? Lol, cute.


If you hate both places, pick the one where you feel most comfortable. I'd go wherever your friends are.

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TuscanSun,
Hi again.
I will be going home tomorrow and will see my family and my wife and we will have a talk.
The hard part is that it is our 8th Anniversary on the 20th Sept. I believe that I still need to show that it menas something.. I am goig to buy a present and give it to her with 1 rose and a letter:
Dear Mily, Anniversary 20 September 2011.

In good times life is easy.
In hard times life is difficult.

A marriage that lasts over time
Is dependent on loving
It is not always about being ‘in love”
Successful relationships you will fall “in and out of love” many times.
With the same person

When you love someone it is about respect, care and compassion all the time
It is in the willingness to forgive and repair misdeeds.
To be open and honest and true to each other’s heart
If we can’t do so it will tear us apart

This is not end but could be a new beginning
May God bless our family so we can pull through.
This is a gift from me to you.
That shows my love for all of you

I have taken our marriage for granted that has been blessed upon me
I should have appreciated our marriage and not just let it be.

I have found a new passion inside of me
And wish to share this with our family
For eternity
If we work together our hearts will mend and this will bring us together again

Your loving Husband and Father
Ray

I will leave the present and hand written letter for her, I am sure I should not be around when she receives it. She will need to be alone on reading the letter
I need to be strong when I arrive home
I believe this is the correct path to go
I am so scared about going home
Ray

That is a beautiful letter. I think your wife will just love it! Don't be afraid about going home - be excited to repair your marriage! I hope it all works out for you, Ray!


-Megan

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ok so i have my ex best friends and ex boyfriend saying crap about me and spreading it around. im 15 and i feel like people are starting to talk about me behind my back? i dont think my current friends are but i definitely know that my ex best friends are because they keep giving me really bad looks. i dont care what people think about me i never did and never will because i always know the truth but still i dont want this getting out of control because it's starting to a bit. what can i do about it?

At your age, stuff like this is (sadly) a part of life. All you can do is confront them, and hope that they're mature enough to end their childish behavior.


I had a similar situation in High School, but it was with people who I was never friends with. They chose to be mean to me for no apparent reason. I had finally had enough, and asked one guy why he was being so immature. All he did was laugh in my face, but I felt so good about the situation because I stood up for myself. I'm sure you'll feel the same if you stand up for YOURself. Don't let people walk all over you. If you allow them to spread rumors about you and do nothing, they'll continue to do it.

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im 19/f and my boyfriend is 20/m

we have been dating for nearly 4 months now, but to us it feels much much longer then that. We knew each other for 4 or so months before we even started dating, and back then, i fell for him the moment we met.

Our relationship has been nothing short of some sort of beautiful dream, no fights, no problems, just love. He is my first boyfriend and serious relationship, however i am not his. I also lost my virginity to him and don't regret it one bit.

my boyfriend has a lot of friends that are girls, most of which i met or knew about before we were dating. The thing is, even before we started dating, i knew that he liked me.. but what hurt me was that whilst he liked me...he was sleeping with his girl bestfriend. It kinda hurt, she fell in love with him, he told her it was only a friends with benefits sorta thing, and that there were no feelings on his end. His best friend even knew back when they were sleeping together that he liked me. I guess my own insecurities are why i cant let it go. She's so so so skinny and tiny compared to me, infact all of my boyfriends ex's and friends with benefits have been. and then theres just me. It hurts when im with my boyfriend and his bestfriend texts him or something just cause i know they used to sleep together.

The other night i also found out at a party we were at together about another girl he slept with that i didnt know about, again before we were dating. finding this out killed me, especially when i already dont like her. but apperantly "every guy has to sleep with her because shes amazing in bed and knows all the moves". That part greatly upset me.

I have always been self concious about how i perform in bed, especially cause hes had so much experience and well, he's my first. I told him how i felt about everything, and he got upset at me and himself. Things still arent the same, hes not being intimate with me anymore, not even cuddling me in bed like he used to always do...

He even admitted to me that night that im not as good as his previous sexual partners, yet im the only person he wants to have sex with cause he loves me. but it hurts, it really does. its hard seeing the other girls, especially when i know that he used to be intimate with them too, and knowing that they're better in bed and skinnier then me. i just dont know how i can get over this.

I'm going to be honest here: You'll likely never get over it, especially considering your boyfriend is doing nothing to ease your worries. He still socializes personally with girls he had intimate relationships with, and even has the gall to say you're "not as good as them" in bed. No wonder you're self conscious.

It just seems like he's not respecting your feelings at all. He's not being intimate with you now because you were honest about feelings that I think are well-warranted. It just doesn't seem like he respects you.

Call me controlling, but there is no conceivable way I'd allow my husband to socialize with women he was intimate with.

If you want to make things work with him, I guess you can find solace in the fact that even though he has been intimate with these women, he still chose to date you over them.


Good luck!

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I turned 17 a month ago and it just hit me that I could get into rated R movies now.
If I go to a movie theatre, how do I prove I'm 17?

I don't have my permit yet, is getting it the only way?

Doesn't your high school give you a school ID?

If you're 17, you're likely a senior. School ID's show what grade you're in. I got into R rated movies with my school ID.

They won't accept birth certificates because birth certificates don't show your picture.


State ID is a good idea, (and super cheap, like 8 dollars) but they take MONTHS to come in the mail. However, depending on the state you live in, the "temporary ID" they give you MAY have your picture on it... so do that :)

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I am a 37 year old women who was married for 10 years. I have three children 12, 8, and 9. I divorced in 2009. The relationship was emothonally stressful. I am told that I was a victim of control and emotional abuse. It is funny because that kind of abuse is very difficult to see until you are out of the situation. Anyway, my ex husband has spoke to the kids about me in very bad ways. He is upset because I took him to child support court and he has to pay 32@ of is income.

He harrassed me for months before the child support went through. Now that it has been finalized he still uses the Kids to hurt me. He wants joint custody which my attorney says is a way to further control me. (There is alot that I'm skipping over) to get to my point..

I am extremely depressed. I feel like I want out of life period. My children are all that I have in this world and the control that he is using to tear my house apart is hurting me so bad. I feel trapped. If he gets joint custody he will use it to control me, he teaches my kids to disrespect me, he calls me bad names when we speak, he disrespects me.

I wanted to relocate out of the State to get away from him but he refuses to let me go with the children. I need his premission or the court will have to get involved. my attorney said that it will be difficult for the reason in which I want to leave.

I'm tired. I feel like I have NO wiggle room. I want to be left alone to raise my kids without his interferences. Today he picked my oldest child up and didn't bring her home. I just have to deal with it because he wants to spend time with her...I know killing myself isn't the answer but I dont know what is... I'm so frustrated and tired.

I guess the only thing you can do is fight for full custody. The things he is doing to your children to hurt you, will only end up hurting them in the long run. My husband was the victim of this as a child. His father told him horrible untrue things about his mother, and he still has problems coping with it.

Sit your children down and explain to them that the things their daddy is saying about you is because he is angry, not because they're true. Do not say anything negative about their father, because you'll only be doing the same thing.

Plead with the courts and show any proof you can of what he is doing. This situation is not healthy for children. If he doesn't have joint custody, you don't need permission to leave the state. If you are in court fighting custody, then you do.

Be willing to give a little - if you're open in court, they might choose to favor you. Courts tend to favor the mother over the father in these cases. Bring out any and all arsenal that you have at your disposal. Was he a neglectful father? Did he cheat? Was he emotionally abusive to the children as well? All of these things will only aid in your favor.


Best of luck to you.

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So there is this guy in my class at school who is really shy..not like...shy....but I mean REALLY SHY... he dosent really talk to anyone other then his closest friends and his brother. So for about two years we have just been looking at eachother... like mostly it is, he looks at me,I look at him, I look away really fast because if he is just looking at me cuz he thinks I'm weird...that would be embarassing.. so, we never talk, but today when he looked at me...it was lke 24/7. Every time I would look at him, he would be staring at me... and today, he cracked a little smile at me. I don't know if he was looking at something behind me or what...but I can't conjure up the courage to talk to him. I like him a lot, but i don't know if he knows it.... so, do you think he likes me?? And how can I show him I like him without talking to him??

I don't know. He might.

These questions are really hard to answer, honestly.

You can show him you're interested by smiling at him and turning away.

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There is this guy in a class I have and today I was staring at him cuz I usually stare at random things and today my eyes just locked on him for some reason. So soon he just held his arms out looking straight at me like he was about to say something like "what are you looking at"?? I quickly looked away...and that is pretty much it... so what do u think??

Yeah, you probably freaked him out.

Try and not accidentally stare at him. Act like he doesn't exist to you, basically, and things will get back to normal.

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I have a book report due tomorrow. Long story short I couldn't do it. I have seen the movie about like 9 months ago. But its about the book. So I need. Plot, Conflict, Resolution, theme/lesson learned

The Secret Garden is SUCH a wonderful book. You should seriously consider reading it!


This will answer ANYTHING you need to know about the book (and any other book for that matter)

http://www.sparknotes.com/lit/secretgarden/

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