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KELLY_ELIZABETH
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Ok. For starters, I am 14 (15 in a month), and female. I've been with my boyfriend for two months. So, my boyfriend is always kinda, I dunno, flirting maybe? with other girls. Like, they're our friends, but he'll go up behind them and grab their ass, or touch their boobs and stuff. He did this before we went out. But he does it when I'm right there. It really hurts. I'm not the kind to "confront" people. I just keep it to myself (bad, I know) and he wants to have sex. I'm not ready, but when I am, if I am, I'm afraid that he'll use me for it, or cheat on me or something, and I'll regret losing it to him. I'm terrified of that. He's moving in a few weeks, and we'll still be together. But, since he is how he is here, I'm worried about him doing it down there, and really cheating. What do I do?
Thank you so much.
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Sounds to me like he's not serious about the relationship. I know you said you aren't one to confront, but if it bothers you when he flirts or grabs your friends ass and boobs, then tell him it bothers you. If you don't say anything, he may think he can get away with it. I have a friend who is married, and he still goes around and hits other girls on the ass. Only a spank, to mess with them, but his wife is ok with it if that's all it is. But one day he did it to my gf, and neither of us liked it. I told him how I felt, he apologized, and hasn't done it since. Communication is important, and if you still can't trust him, perhaps you should end the relationship before you give him the chance to hurt you more.
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I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT PLEASE READ!!!
okay so my whole "problem" started in september when my friend gave this fine guy my number his name is edwin rodriguez he called me that night and we talked the whole weekend. then on sunday he asked me out i said yes. He did tell me that him and this other girl just broke up but he said they only went out for 2 weeks and he felt nothonig for her. well the a week and a half while we're going out he told me they kissed. he cheated on me. the first time that ever happened to me. but since he told me i didnt break up with him. but at the end of the week we broke up. because he still had feelings for her. but over the weekend we were still talking. and he asked me back out sunday. but then monday i broke up with him because i knew deep down he still had feelings for her. well we were still casually talking to each other he still walked me to my classes and stuff. well then i went to the homecoming dance. and i must say i looked pretty good. =] laugh out loud. but anyways he was there and yeah he did try to talk to me before he did cindy (that girl he still has feelings for) but i blew him off. just to show him. but thats when he went running to cindy. i was PISSED. so i was all over this other guy. but at the end of the night they were together. crap. well about 2 weeks past and they were stil together. and then they broke up and he I.M.ed me on myspace. saying yeah you were fine as hell at the dance and all this stuff. and he was like DONT TELL CINDY. i didnt. we talked on the phone that night too. I remembered why i fell for him to start with. But i was talking to my ex korrie. like we was gonna get back together. he is a really GREAT guy i should of stuck with him. But i didnt. that weekend i went to the "movies" and got picked up from there by edwin and his friend dra and ingrid was driving. we went to the top of the city. it was all perfect. we cuddled and kissed the whole time he told me he loved me he said all of the sweetest things to me. i believed it. so then were on the ground looking at the stars holding each other. =]. well we were SO close to having sex but i had a promise ring that i wouldnt have sex till marriage. a promise to God a promise to my mom a promise to everyone. and he said i'll wait for you. i wish i could have froze time then because after this all hell broke loose. well i got back to the movies right on time. but i snuck out later that night 3:00 in the morning. once again we were all snuggled up. but this time i gave it up. =[
it wasnt worth it. i wish i could take it back but i can't. we stuck it in about 5 times and then he stopped. he said he didnt feel right. he took off the condom and got up. he said oh my gosh babe i took your virginity. he was pretty much flipping out.it was his first time too. so at first at school we kept it on the dl and i had to btell korrie we couldnt see each other. i told my closest friends what happened but i told the wrong person and every1 in school knew. i guess it was a really big deal because it was me. no one would ever think me. but yeah. so we went out for a week and a half. and he told me he STILL had feeelings for her. i broke down. i gave him my virginity something i can't give anyone else i thought we were really gonna be together. my mom found out to i hurt her so much she wouldnt let me talk to him or anything! she was almost about to switch schools. but she didnt. well we broke up. thats when i relized that was the biggest mistake of my life. he is going out with her now. again. on her myspace is all this stuff with him and her kissing and she said they're in love. it hurts so bad. i dont know what to do. do i let him go. or keep holding on. please someone help me (link)
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It sounds to me like you and this other girl were convienences to him. When he would break up with one, he would immediately tell the other what they wanted to hear. I'm not trying to say girls are stupid when it comes to emotions, but they can be easily manipulated by guys who seem "too good to be true" Not only did you give your virginity to this guy who has cheated on you, and lied to you, but he also hurt your reputation, and may have ruined your chances of getting back with your ex, Korrie. But at least you can use this as a learning experience, and hopefully you are now wiser to the way some men operate.
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i have no idea what to do. there has always been this boy who i have a history with. i've never liked anyone as much as i like him and its been like this for about a year and a half? well after hooking up [just kissing in and out of school] i told him that i liked him a lot and he really never said anything. so i gave up and moved on.
at my 16th birthday i slow danced with this guy i've always thought was really cute, and i didn't know anything about him so a mutual friend kind of hooked us up. we talked in and out of school and then we became bf and gf. we've been together for like 8 days and i'm not happy. i mean hes so sweet, my mom ADORES him, hes smart, and hes religious and kind but i don't knmow if i like him anymore. i get mad when he walks me to and from practically EVERY class and i have to make conversation. i roll my eyes when i see him. thats how bad/mean i am getting.
i like the other guy. i know i do and always have and i just want to be free to do what i want. i don't know if i should break up with him, cause i would literally crush him. i'm his first kiss & gf and all my friends would be upset because hes a sweet guy and thats what i need.
people say i should stick it out, but theres vaca break soon and only mon. and tues. there's school. i could be with the other guy at his house for the remainder of that week because thats where i want to be.
idk should i break up with him? (link)
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Trust me you aren't a bitch. I've been in his shoes, and believe me, the sooner you let him know that you aren't into him, the better. I am still friends with alot of girls that tried to date me, but just wasn't into me after awhile. If he truely cares for you, he will appreciate your honesty, and realize that if you aren't happy, then it's for the best. It may take him some time to get over the initial shock and/or pain from the break up, but I have a feeling he'll be ok after a while
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I was dating this guy who is in college and im a senior in highschool. We dated through out the entire summer and then up until about half way through october. Since we broke up nothing has changed... neither of us really wanted to break up, but it was just hard for the both of us to trust each other. Also it was really hard for me to deal with the distance, i probably got to see him about once or twice a month. So we're broken up, but nothing has changed...but last night i made the mistake of kissing another guy while i was at a party. I told my ex right away, i didnt want to lie.
now he's giving up on us, even though we were talking about getting back together. he's coming home on tuesday...what can i do to show him that i still care? and that i realize that i made a HUGE mistake. (link)
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I have to give you props for telling him right away. I have known several girls who wouldn't say anything. Matter of fact, I've dated plenty of them. Anyway, it seems to me like he's getting mad for nothing. If you guys aren't together, you don't owe him your faithfulness. But if you making one mistake, even if you can prove to him it was, then it makes me think he never really had the faith in the two of you getting back together. I mean, if you guys had broken up, and he was off at college, does he expect you to believe he hasn't kissed another girl, or at least thought about it? You should sit down with him and talk. Get everything out in the open, and then the two of you can decide what's next. I hope this helps.
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