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Q: Lately i have been feeling very depressed because my boy friend has been at camp for a while and i really miss him n i alwayz think of negative things that that could be goin on or that he could be doin at camp see'in that its in maine n we live in berkley, mass so im alwayz talkin bout how much i miss em n cryin but im tryin not to think bout the negative things im tryna think positive things like he misses me as much as i miss him n he is alwayz thinkin bout me n like he is stayin away from otha girls n stuff but im tryna figure out ways to get the negatives off my mind n kno that my boy friend is not foolin round i mean i have been wid him for like a lil more then 9months n he has neva like screwed up in that way but im juss worried cuz he iz far from home n stuff so help me plz!!!!!

.*.>> a cry for help

Trust is a very big deal in relationships. You need to learn to trust your boyfriend. Let him have his space. You wouldn't want him thinking that you are doing something while he is away would you? Of course not. Just calm down and know that he is being faithful. If he has never given you reason to worry than there is no reason to worry. Everything will be fine, just take it day by day.

Q: ok me and my bf have been going out for like 2 months and it seems like were like best friends instead of boyfriend and girlfriend... is that a good thing?

It is a good thing because it means you have become comfortable with eachother.

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--i have a friend who i seriously think is in love with her best friend! hez really sweet and treats her like gold! the only reason nothing hasnt went down between them yet is the fact that he is *20* and she is *15* i know that is a big age difference! but i was just thinkin if maybe they should try something in the future of course!?

The age thing may be big now but in a few years it won't be. Them getting together in the future is a great idea. He seems like a great guy and good guys are hard to find these days.

Q: hi, i am 15 and a female. I am very close to my friends, but lately two of them are fighing and one of them is lying to me. One of my friends told me that the other said something about me that was VERY hurtful. I confronted the friend that said this and he said that he DID NOT say it, but the other guy tells me that he really did say it about me. I don't have a clue who is lying to me and who is telling me the truth. It hurts to think that one of them is lying to me, but i really want to know who's lying to me. Please help :( How can i found out who is lying to me?

This is a tough situation. You need to figure out which one you trust more. Decide who is more likely to say something about that. You could also try asking other people if they have heard this person talking about you. If really necessery and this keeps happening you should just drop them both and move on.

Q: ok i guess im totally obsessing over this guy... i dont want to say his name or n e thing...but lets just call him BOB. his real names not that common but i see it in every word and its not like i look for it it just happens! like in the past 2 days ive seen the full name (not being n nething just that name) on VH1! and then on bill boards or just it words somehow it pops up and i dont want this to happen n e more! how can it stop!!

Dont worry Im sure it is just a phase. You really like this guy and he is all you can think about. It only natural.

Q: does anybody kno how much hair grows in a week?like how many millimeters?or how much in a month?and i mean hair on your head.

I do beliece that hair grows about 1/2 inch a month

Q: okay first of all i dont think im fat at all and i like the way my body looks. however im very health conscious and eat healthy food most of the time. i count calories too. if i didnt eat the daily number calories i think is efficient ill go eat until its exactly the number i want it to be, because i don't want to become too thin. i think about food a lot. i never thought i was fat and i know im not and i love my body. im a cheerleader (a flyer) so i try to remain small. oh yeah and i love cooking and food overall, mostly healthy food. i mean ill choose a grilled chicken sandwich over a big mac you know? could this possibly be anorexia?

Its great that you care about your body.....just dont go overboard with obsessing about your weight. You seem to be eating well so I dont see what the problem is.

Q: Perhaps I'm just the stupidest person in the world, but I have this difficulty in making cookies.Normally it's that I add too much of one ingridient, or too little of another, or that I set the oven to the wrong time. My whole family is mad, because we were having a party, and Mom told me to make cookies, except they were quite horrible, and one guest threw-up. Is there anything I can do to fix this problematic situation!

Its all about simplicity....use already made dough. I suggest Toll house cookies. Just brake and bake....plus they are always delicious.

Q: Well i puke whenever i eat sumthin or drink something..Sometimes i totally just do it on purpose..My mom thinks im bulimic..I think im fat and i want to become anerix or belimic or both..What should i do to loose weight and if i should do that..?

Being anorexic or belimic is not the answer. Losing weight takes time. You are on the path to self-destruction. Think about what you are doing, it isnt worth risking your life. Just make healthy choices. Its tough, I know, but its worth it.

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-- well this guy i like is really sweet! he makes me laugh and its as if i fell in love w/ him in less than a month! but he is going off 2 college and he found out that he might be having a baby!? he broke up w/ me bc of it and im really mad! i guess im just bein selfish! bc tha babi should come first!..let me know wat i should do? and it i should try and help him out or just give him space?

First, find out if this guy is really having a baby. If he is then he is probably going through a lot right now so he probably needs time to sort things out.

Q: my 17 yr old sister is 8 weeks pregnant adn i kno shes not ready to be a mother and i dont kno how to help her get prepared! wut should i do?

There is nothing you can really do. It's all up to your sister. If she was responsible enough to have sex she needs to deal with the consequences - mostly on her own. It's nice of you to want to help but this is something she needs to do. Plus I think it will hit her more when the baby is actually born. In the mean time maybe you can recommend some parenting classes to her. Or buy her some books about becoming a teenage parent.

Q: Well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a month..The he broke up with me cuz he sisters told him too..His family dosen't liek me that much..Then a day later we went back out..Then the next day he thought i was pregnate so he dumped me..I really love him..I've been tryin to call him to talk about it..But he is always busy with sports..I really love him and would never do anything to hurt him..Please help..

If this guy really liked you he wouldnt care what his sisters or family thought. And he dumped you because he thought you were pregnant? That is crazy....I think this guy may jusbe using you. There are plenty of great guys out there so dont waste your time with this one.