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Q: theres this like 6th grader that me and some of my friends in my neighborhood see while walking home and they always like call out to him.. i swear its kinda embarassing. he's kind of a popular 6th grade boy and we're like.. middle-popular seventh grade girls. like today.. his name is Justin, one of my friends is like "hey Justice!" and then he went "Hey retards!" and then we tried thinking of good comebacks and cause his hair is really long so it looks like hes a girl and i say something like making fun of his hair.. but i accidentally didnt pronounce "girl" fully so it was like "gir".. haha so embarassing! i need good comebacks incase this ever happens. i swear lol i wish these friends would just shut up sometimes and we'll just mind our own business as hes doing, or think of good comebacks.. like im trying to do. so.. gimme your best shot! :D

I hope you don't come into high school with these " come backs " and think you're still the middle-popular girls because to be quite honest with you, the coolest thing to me is when someone is mature and you're WAY immature for your age. To be quite real with you, my little sister (age-10) doesn't even say things like that. Mind your own business, don't make fun of anyone because it's the least "cool" thing to do.

Q: What flavors do guys like when kissing a girl? Like what flavor lip balm or gloss would you like the gilr to be wearing?

I'm not sure a guy wants to taste lip gloss...
or touch lips with a girl that's wearing lip gloss
I don't know maybe if he wants lip gloss on his face
or on his lips I guess
But I say natural nothing on lips goes best

Q: My hair is really think and its starting to bug me. does anyone know if theres something i can do to make it less thick. also i have a poof issue, does anyone know a way to keep that down?thnx in advance

Go to who ever cuts your hair and just ask them to thin it out for you but not at the roots cause when it grows back it's going to look really wierd

I hope I helped.

Q: What is Paint Shop Pro?
How can I get it for my computer?
Does it cost money?
What can I do with it?

http://computershopper.com/reviews/corel_paint_shop_pro_photo_xi

That might help.

Q: Ok so today 5/20/07 is me and my boyfriends 6 month anniversary and on thursday I had a break down because he was spending to much time with his best friend (who is a girl) he stays over at her house and sleeps in her bed and it pisses me off. So I flipped out on myspace and they got pissed. me and my boyfriend fixed everything and he spends more time with me now. He asked his friend if she would let me be involved in activities that they do and she keeps saying "yea since she's so jelous " blah blah blah....
She keeps dragging it out and doing stuff to make me jelous.
my first question is
1.) How do I piss her off more?
2.) How do I tell her to quit dragging things out like my 5 year old brother and grow up? Without punching her in the face?

Just don't give her the satisfaction of knowing it pisses you off because I bet she does it just to piss you off.

& another thing, you have a lot of tolerence towards this kind of crap if you didn't already punch her in the face because my first reaction would be to beat her to the point where she doesn't know the difference between the earth and the moon.

Q: on my computer i have low memory.. lol.. i have 3 sims games saved on it, and every time i play in the middle of it, it will shut off saying low memory.. i downloaded like houses and people adn such for my game.. how can i get more memory?.. without deleting my houses and such.. thanks!!

Buy an external hard drive. It's like 100$ or so

Q: So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.

But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?

Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!

Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.

this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)

thanks

You sound like a brilliant, amazing guy.
I would love to have a boyfriend like you.
Girls these days always like the bad guys
I don't know why, but it's like "cool" to have a bad boyfriend.
Don't ever let yourself think it's you.
Because it deffinetly isn't.
If a girl doesn't appriciate you for how gentlemen like you are,
her loss.

Q: Hello ,
I'm just wondering what do you think true love really is ?
Thank you ,
Betty.

true love is when you like someone so much that they give you butterflies everytime you talk to them even if you've been with them for 20 years.
True love is when your significant other doesn't mind holding your hand in public and calling you silly names like boobi or something like that.
It's two individuals (regardless or sex) that just want to spend the rest of their lives with each other no matter what the future might bring to them.

Q: my boyfriend always looks at porn and whenever i go over he has pictures of naked girls on his computer and hes always watching it on t.v and it gorses me out. and hes only 14. hes like i wish you looked like that it makes me feel bad about myself. but i love him. what should i do?

He sounds a bit like a sex addict and that's not good at all. Just talk to him about how you feel and I'm sure if he's a good boyfriend he'll stop doing what he does and appriciat you more. I hope everything goes for the best for you.

Q: Ok so, im 14 years young and ive recently been diagnosed with depression. Isort of saw it coming, but for some reason it came as a huge blow. ive felt different ever since, but at the same time, im relieved to know that my personality has a justification. I have a lack of energy and happiness, and lately not only do i REALLY dont care about anything, but i've become extremely suicidal. Yesterday all i could think about was death, i just DON'T see any point in living anymore. I'm become more afraid of myself, because I actually might committ suicide [I've tried it twice before]. In my mind I ask myself why I haven't done it. I know I need help, but people reminding me each day is making me feel like I deserve it even less. There's a lot more to my story, but I know well that people are sick and tired of listening to other's problems when they have their own to deal with. I don't feel that anyone cares anymore, as hard as they try to pretend. So, should I just do it already?? Thanx for reading

I've felt like that since I was 11. My parents were absusive. My mom and dad fought all the time (still do I just don't care anymore) and I couldn't find happyness in anything. I started smoking at the age of 11 (don't do it if you haven't already and if you have quit). At that age, I lost my best friend. He was a soldier in Iraq. He got shot in the left rib cage and the bullet managed to lodge itself into his heart. He died of internal bleeding and suffocation. I found friends who really care about me and showed it to me everyday. I even stopped eating, now I'm 100 lbs and 16 years old, sad huh. But my point behind all of this is that people really do care. You might not see it now but just give it time, everything works with time. That's why patience is a virtue. You have many things to come, marriage and kids and love. I would love to talk to you about your life and everything that's going on but trust me if someone didn't care about you, they wouldn't be giving you advice now would they? I mean, I bet I'm just some complete stranger to you but when I see something like this I want to make a difference in that person's life and I will try my hardest to do it. I care about a lot of people and I've been betrayed many times so I might have a slight idea about how you feel, I'm not saying I know completely because to be honest I don't know how your life is, but if you want you can email me or talk to me on msn or aim or something and I will deffinetly try my hardest to help you. Remember at least 15 people in this world love you for who you are, and the only reason someone would hate you would be because they want to be like you.

My email is DenyThineName@hotmail.com
Same for MSN.
My aim name is Luke is Elf

Q: by not actually showing that you like her like somethign really good but not perverted....and i really dont know what to say like im usually fine but i really like this girl and all i say to ehr is how is your day going and thats it....she is a grade higher than me so i cant talk about school or anything...so can anyone help me

Ask her about her life.
What she likes to do
Where she likes to go
Anything about music
Tell her she's got pretty eyes
Her hair looks good a certain day
She just looks pretty

Q: hey,
does anyone know lyrics that are about falling for someone over and over again, and not being able to help it, because you're in love?

Good love songs::

Forever - Papa Roach
You're not alone - Saosin
Discovering the Waterfront - Silverstein

Q: Hey ima 13/f and i have a boyfriend and i love him he has the best intention's for me ( most of the time) and he is so sweet but i have one prob. ima white girl and i have a very very close guy friend and he is black and him and my boyfriend do NOT get along at all!! and my and guy frind are so close like we habg out all the time how cani get him and my boyfriend to get along?? and the reason they dont get along is because my boyfriend thinks black kids/adults are gunna hurt me so can you please help??
Love, dont know what to do

You can't make someone accept someone else
Your boyfriend sounds kind of racist.
I don't know if you want that
He might grow to be controlling later on.
Just tell him that the kid is your friend,
and if he doesn't like it,
then I guess it's his fault
cause he might as well lose you
if he doesn't let you hang out with your friends.

Q: Is there anyone out there who graduated from Lane Tech high school in Chicago IL. and has great connections with the school? I reall need you because i need to get a number but the website deosn't offer. SO if there is thank you seriuosly. Please contact me at kaptaurus108@aol.com

Telephone Number: 534-5683 Extensions: 6130/6131

That's the library number I think.
You might want to call and ask them for the office number.

(773) 534-5400, extension 6183 or 6184.
Attendance Office

Q: this guy REALLY likes me like he called me beautiful and stuff but i REALLY don't have feelings for him at all. and it seems like the more he talks to me and tells me he likes me, the more turned off i get, and the more i like this other guy.

now, the guy that likes me told me he liked me AFTER i told him i liked someone else... so i dont know why he told me. but he did. and he asked me for my cell number & he doesn't text... which is pretty much the only thing a cell phone is USED for... and he called me and he was like, hey i'd really like to talk to you and i mean i feel bad and everything but dude, he's becoming sort of obsessed with me. like the moment i get on my instant messenger, he IMs me.

i just REALLY need some space. i've been trying to avoid going on as much as possible, saying i'm busy etc. and only limiting to talking to him in school, but idk it's just really hard cause of all this guilt.

he KNOWS that i like someone else that's not him cause i told him, but he still tells me he would like to kiss me, thinks i'm beautiful and wants to go to the 8th grade dance with me but i really don't like him beyond friends.

the TRUTH is, i only asked him for his screen name cause i thought he was friends with my crush! it turned out horrible, and NOT what i wanted. cause now my crush's so called friend now DIGS me and my crush still doesn't like me!

please help me? i can't just tell him to lay off cause that would really hurt him.

xo

Just tell him he's not what you're looking for.
Tell him you like someone else,
and he should probably find a girl
that he could get along great with
and have a lot of fun with.
Inform him that you're not the only girl.
There's other fishies out there
that I'm sure would love to be his.
If you're not honest with him, you're stuck with him.
It's your call really.

Q: So, I've gone all over the Internet looking for a FREE download for a PC for the Oregon Trail game and can't find one. Does anyone know a website or something? (Keywords:free and PC version.) Thanks!

Dunno if this is what you're looking for.

http://www.oregontrailshrine.com/downloads.php?o=a
http://digg.com/playable_web_games/Play_the_original_Oregon_Trail