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Hello out there! My name's Kim AKA PurplePudgyPenguin or PPP. I'm happily 16! I'm young but I'm smart (at least my friends claim, I dont think so though, lol, I'm such a nerd) Well, if you want some advice, despite how young I am, I'll be more than happy to give it to you. So just send me an email, or write on my advice column. Thank you all! Stay positive and live life to its fullest. Byez!!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Wow, this might take a lot of typing.
Ok, so there's this guy I like, I'll say his name is Joe. Well Joe is like the greatest guy ever, except he doesn't exactly live in my town. He lives in a whole different state. I understand that you all will say I'm too young to know what love is, but yes we do say we love eachother, however we're not going out. Now, there's a guy here who likes me and I like him a little bit, and he keeps asking me out. I just don't know what to say to him because I don't want Joe to get mad. But no matter what I do, one of them is going to get mad at me. I don't know who to pick...or how to even get out of this situation without hurting anyone. I like Joe a lot more, but it's just so inconvenient that he lives so far away. And the other guy told me not to worry about it, but I know he doesn't really mean it. So, my question is...what do I say to them?

-sips coffee- ... -receives blank stares- Oh! sorry! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin. I'm here to help you out. Okies, first thing's first. If you truly love Joe and not this other guy, go for Joe. It doesn't matter where he lives, love makes no difference in distance, nor age, nor gender for that matter (yep, gender cannot stop someone from falling in love with that special someone. Heehee, got it from a bumper sticker :P) This other guy, doesn't sound like a person you can truly trust. I'd tell him that you're just not ready for a relationship and turn to Joe. He seems like such a sweet guy and I can totally relate to what you're going through. One day, you and Joe will totally be together and the distance will be just another obstacle you both will have to leap. Love's full of them, and I dont think your too young to understand love. I'm gonna tell you something very important -clears throat dramatically- Love is something an infant can understand. They love their mothers and fathers and sisters and brothers and even the grandmas who come and squeeze your cheeks so hard your face goes numb. Love can die, or love can live. It depends on the person's heart that will hold it inside. If you truly love Joe, but you only have feelings for this other guy, go for Joe, because more than likely, Joe's going to be the one who's going to catch you when you fall. Distance plays no role in love, it is merely that leap over the river that everyone must take. Dont worry about a thing. Just follow your heart and you'll be just fine.
I hope I helped. Honestly, I do. If I didn't, there are hundreds of other advice-givers that would be more than happy to help you out. Hope you have a good day and that everything works out just fine. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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There is this guy at school that is really smart and really nice and really... cute!!I don't think he even knows I exist though. I was wondering besides being myself, how to get his attention without the whole school finding out I like him. I want to talk to him but I don't know how or what to talk about since I don't even know him.

'ello there! PurplePudgyPenguin here! I'm going to be your advice-giver for the morning (Or evening, whenever you read this..). Well, that's a problem all of us girls have to face at some point in time. Yes, curse the male species for being so complex! -cough, cough- I'm ok. Ok. First of all, if you want to talk to him just bring up some question about homework or something simple. See his reaction for it. If he sounds annoyed, I would wait a few days, try again, and if you still get the same reaction, just drop your feelings. No guy acts that way towards you when you merely ask something is worth it. Now, if the reaction is in a positive, warm way. I'd definately go for it! Say things like, "Well, I've been having trouble on this math problem. Could you please help me?" Just get his attention for awhile. Then, little by little (and believe me, you'll need a lot of patience for this), build up a trust with him. Ask him if he'll be your partner for a science lab, or if he'll come with you to ask the teacher a question. This may sound obvious, and so what if people find out you like him? I know it'll be annoying to have rumors floating around and gossip in the air, but dont worry. As long as you still love him, your emotions are gonna be stronger than the words people exchange. Who knows? Maybe, just maybe, he has feelings for you too.
I hope I helped. If not, then there are plenty of other advice-givers that could kick my butt at this gig (or job. I like to refer to it as a gig cause it's too fun to be considered a job ^^). Take care, hun! If you have any other problems, I'm always here!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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So lately I've been hanging out with my boyfriend alot. We've been going out for about a year now and he's starting to get pretty confortible with me. I mean I love him to death. We're both 14 by the way. But-- sometimes he tells me things I don't need to know and I mean, it's nice that he can be himself around me, but he goes too far. And sometimes its just downright embarassing being with him, but I stick with him because I love him. All the guys think it's cool the things he does but most girls think it's just odd. I don't know what to do ... help!

-Hands her bubble wrap- ^^ Just pop that for the next 10 minutes that I'm going to gab away. I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, and I'm here to help ya out (Isn't that obvious? heehee. Thought so...) Well, it seems to me that this guy really likes you back in the same way you like him. Thus, his lack of verbal containment. But! If he makes you feel uncomfortable like that, you should tell him how you feel, or just change the subject. If he starts talking about something nasty (well... nasty or however you'd describe it. I dont know him so I cant classify it as anything and... moving on!) then just say, "Hey, what'd you think about the basketball game, last night?" or something of that sort. Just get off the subject for awhile and let him cool down a bit. If this persists and you just cant take it anymore, take a deep, calming breath, and tell him right out that you feel uncomfortable when he talks about those things. Tell him that you'd rather talk about something different. If he loves you with all his heart, he'll understand and let the subject he was talking about, just fall. He'll except your wishes and remain by your side, no matter what.
Well, I truly hope I helped you. As I always tell people, if I didn't give you the right answer, someone else here will. There are plenty of other advice-givers that could mop my advice up with a sponge. I hope you have a good day and that my advice really does help. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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I have a crush on this guy, actually it's more than a crush, I think I'm in love with him. We have been friends for 3 years, but I've always hoped we'd become more than friends. Well someone recently asked me what qualities about this man that I love attracted me to him. Then suddenly it dawned on me: He's exactly like my father!!! These are all the similarities:they both have dark hair and brown eyes, they both have really hairy chests, they are both very tight-wadded with there money, they are both workaholics, they both drink a lot of beer, they both are very flirtatious with woman, they are both humourous yet serious, they both have REALLY bad tempers, they both have been the boss of there own business, they both have been called an asshole behind there back, they both have been to court because of enemies made at work,they both are the oldest child, and they both have sex addictions (my dad cheated multiple times on my mom, and my crush admitted to me that he struggles with pornography.)
Well now that I've finally figured out why I'm so attracted to this man, it kind of grosses me out. Should I still have feelings for this man? Because in some perverted way it feels like I have feelings for my dad.
What should I do?

Hello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'm here to... give advice (no duh, right? lol. Figured) Anyways -sips coffee and looks all professional- It doesn't seem to me like you shouldn't be too worried. If you really like this guy, you should push aside who he reminds you of and just love him for him. And actually, you're at a great advantage. If this guy is just like your dad, then your dad and him are going to get along perfectly! Dont worry about anything, you just have to ask yourself, "Do I still love him?" Now to answer this question (Yes, I am going to blab some more. MWAHAHAHAHA!). Try just hanging out with him for awhile. If you find yourself still majorly in love with him, then forget about who he reminds you of. You should just love him for him. Actually there is a saying like: "We marry our fathers" but forget about that. You love him for just him. Oh, and dont worry about feeling like you like your dad too. It's just an odd emotion that'll pass away soon. Just keep hanging with this guy and, before you know it, the thoughts of him reminding you of your dad, will fade away. I can't promise you that they'll just disappear because all minds are different and work in different ways. It's up to you if they fade faster or go slower.
I seriously hope I helped you. If not, there are plenty of other advice-givers here that are 10 times better than me. If I couldn't help ya, they definately will. Take care, hun! Have a good day!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now when we first got together he said he does not want a relationship and that and his best mate even said not to do anything with him he will just get what he wants then leave but he did not and it did not bother me before but not i think that it may turn it to a realtionship and that but every time i see him i cant help but think that he is sleeping around with other lasses how can i tell if he realy likes me or not and if he is sleeping with other lasses one min he is close to me the next he acts distant please help i will rate

Hey there! I'm PPP and I'll be your advice giver for the evening (did that sound corny, I though so... sorry, hun. Just wanted to get you to giggle a bit). Well, down to buisness. Honestly, I know this may not be the answer your searching for, but if you can't trust him, he isn't the right one. I dont think cornering him is the right answer, it may just make him feel like you are being nosy and no girl wants their guy thinking that. He may distrust you after that too and that could drive him to actually cheat on you, if he wasn't before. I'd stick around him for a while, if you still can't trust him, then you have two options: 1) you can keep hanging with him and just see if the feeling will go away or 2) you get rid of him, not him, himself but just let your feelings fall. Seriously, a guy you can't trust is not the right guy for you. If you let him go, who knows, you might just find that perfect someone you could trust with all your heart and soul. You just gotta keep trying, that's the whole reason why we date, it's trial and error. I really hope I helped you out. If this isn't what you'd like to hear (I know it's not. I understand this, been through it) than you can always look deep down inside yourself, or ask your best friend. It'll work out in the end, you just gotta put your heart and feelings first.

Luvs,
~PPP~

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