I am a level headed 21 year old with lots of wisdom due to watching everyone else in their situations and experiencing a lot of my own. Feel free to ask any questions, If I don't know the answer, I will find a suitable one for you. Best of luck to all.
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where is the best place to smoke weed in your house so it wont smell or linger on?? i need a place where i dont need to spray perfume. (link)
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ha, I am not condoning this. But, stick ur head out the damn window lol. If your parents are home its best to do it on the second floor. Mine never knew, keep your door shut, put a towel in the crack of the door at the bottom, then open all the windows you have. haha good luck
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I think I'm depressed. Almost a year ago I tried to kill myself and now the anniversary is coming up on October 29th. I'm scared, I'm taking risks like hitchhiking, going to raves,doing drugs and drinking, and having random hookups that make me feel disgusting the next day. I'm so young (I'm 14! People call me mature though)to be this fucked over. This morning my mom recommended that I drop out of school becasue I'm just not trying anymore. I used to be smart, and I barely had to put in any effort. Now I don't put in any. At all. I have a C in English, that used to be my best class. My relationships are falling apart, I'm confused about my sexuality... I am not talking to my Dad though I think he wants to help. I hate self hate but I'm finding it hard to stay positive. Any advice you have for me is loved and appreciated. (link)
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I went through the same thing when I was 14. I was so far depressed that nothing anyone could say made me feel better. Although I wasn't lashing out exactly as you were, ( i took most of it out on my mom) I was very deeply depressed. You have to start thinking about what there is to love about life, instead of what there is to not love. You also have to sit down and think about exactly what you're angry about. Anger is depression turned inside out, (is what I hear). There must have been something that has happened to make you feel the way you do about your life. Find out what it is, talk about it to someone..no matter what it is..get it out. Then learn to forgive yourself or whoever was involved, and start looking forward to your future instead of your past.
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i'm female, 38 years old. I cannot come to a decsision about leaving my 9 year relationship. we are not married and have no children. he is a heavy drinker and smoker. he will not consider stopping drinking or smoking. he works but i know that i will not have a secure financial future with him. i have a good job and pay a majority of the bills. i love him but cannot decide if financial security is a good enough reason to leave. (link)
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Financial security isn't a good enough reason to stay either. What is he providing for you? Because if he really loved you, he would want to stop drinking and smoking or whatever, to be a better person FOR YOU. When you're in a relationship, you do things not for yourself, but for your significant other. Either take a list, divide it by pros and cons..and see which list is longer with the more valuable qualities. You don't sound like you're happy to me, and after 9 years, you should have been married, dont you think? You may love him but he obviously doesn't love you if he's not even willing to meet you half way. I think you would be better on your own.
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I'm really addicted to a form of drug. I won't go into details because I don't think it's allowed and I REALLY don't want other people doing this sort of thing so hang with me on this.
I have been "using" for three years now. I have seen my mind go downhill. My health isn't what it was. I'm simply not as bright as I use to be and it's hard to focus on one subject sometimes now. I am ashamed of myself because I feel so consumed by this drug. I know I'm very addicted mentally, at the very least. I want to stop.
I've tried to stop using before but I always go back to it. It's like my safety. My comfort. It's my entire personality now. I don't know what I would do without it sometimes. I feel stupid because I am NOT the person I am when I am using. I'm always using though so nobody knows the real me. It's like I'm fake and not ME.
How do I stop? I can't go very long once I've decided to call it quits because then I get anxious and I just can't hold myself back from it. This is so embarrassing. I can't believe I'm telling you all about this.
What do I do though? I want to stop being a drug addict. I thought it was cool and fun before. Now I feel so empty and lifeless. Please help me figure this out. I don't want this kind of life. (link)
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I have done it. Its HARD to think about why you don't want to, especially when its in your face. But if it is that important to you, you will quit. You choose how much will power you have. Id also say for the time being, don't go around people who have it or use it. You have to do it by yourself, while you may have the support of others, you're going through it alone.
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I have had a stuffy nose for almost three days now and I hate it. I cannot stand this any more and I want my nasal passages to be clear again! What are some quick fixes to relieving a clogged up stuffy nose? Any home remedies that I can try? Maybe some sort of over the counter medication (something that works FAST though)? THANKS (link)
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spicy foods and chlorine. Death soup will fix it. It is the hot and spicy Ramen noodle cups by Maruchican.
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My mom had this great idea for my little sister's birthday party. The party is going to be centered around Horton Hears a Who! Don't you think that's cute? Anyway, she wants to make a rhyme up for the invitations to get people into the spirit long before they arrive to the actual birthday party. We can't really think of a lot though. The party is going to be at a place called Toddle Town. The party is going to be on November 8, 2009 and at 2:30pm. Can someone help us think of a cute Horton Hears a Who rhyme for the party invitations? (link)
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Toddle Town is the place to be
for there will be "your sis's names" Birthday Party.
Horton and all of his friends will be there
On November 8, 2009..so don't be square.
Fun and excitement there will be,
at a Horton hears a who themed party!
Time-2:30 pm./
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what is the easiest way to commit suicide
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Suicide is a completely and udderly selfish maneauver. Incredibly rediculous. We all go through tough times. "Life's a bitch, cause if it were a slut..it'd be easy" Do not take the easy way out because when you get out of your hole, you will find that life can be a wonderful thing. I never thought that I would get out of the depression I was in, but when I finally pulled myself out and started realizing what I loved about life instead of what I hated about it, I started having better days, and better weeks, better months..and so on. Your family and your friends do not deserve the selfishness of you committing suicide. Get some professional help. If that doesn't work, my mother always told me if there was something in your life that you're not happy about, change it. Start with one thing, if you're still not happy, change another.And so forth until you see the pretty rays of sunlight. Best of luck to you
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So I'm 16 and a junior in high school.
There's two guys that im "talking" too.
One goes to my school,is a junior and really nice and friendly and funny and whatnot,but he's really nerdy and not that good looking but I like him for his personality ,but i barely find him attractive at all.We get along really well,but he's a virgin and has never really done anything like that,which I have and I'm popular and have a lot of friends and whatnot,so it'd be out of the ordinary for me to go out with him,but I do like him.Then theres this 19 year old,who lives near me and is pretty cute.He as well has a good personality and is really nice ,he's got a good job and ofcourse he's not a virgin so he's more experienced and such,but he doesn't know any of my friends and he's so random but we are still talking and I still like him as well too.
I don't know what to do! I don't like either one of them THAT much,just a little bit ..if even that.
Should I just hangout with them separately a few times and kinda pick from there? Or what?It's nothing serious with either guy. (link)
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My advice would be to NEVER, not see someone just because your friends will think he's a nerd. Some of the coolest people Ive met were nerds believe it or not. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. If you don't find him attractive though, maybe he isn't for you. There does have to be some base of attraction. On the other hand, dating an older guy is more work. They expect more maturity when it comes to situations, some that you may not be able to handle as a 16 year old. They have stresses and worries from jobs and everything else that you wont understand unless you actually have a job. I wouldn't date a guy based on his experience either. Experience in the sexual area is nice, but so is inexperience. That way you can teach him the way YOU like it, and you can be the one teaching him things. Take your time and just see where things go. Good luck
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I need help with this question, I can't find it anywhere.
Hurry please!
Back-and-forth adaptive change between predator and prey is called __________. (link)
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evolution?
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My Boyfriend and I have been together for 4yrs, An have lived together for the past year and a half. We got into an argument about money problems the other night because we have recently moved out of the apartment we had into his parents to stay there until we got enough money to fix up his house he will be getting from his Grandpas death. We have had an argument that escalated into a pushing screaming match and the next day he told me he needed space, so i packed my things and left. Well ive went there later that night to try an work things out he screamed at me again said give him space and I left, then on sunday yesterday I went over there to bring him some of his things and he said he just needed time to think an space an he would call me when he is ready to talk. So? How do I cope with this, an his friends constantly text me to, what is space? An if he should be missing me an wanting me, how should I treat his friends when they talk to me an ask me questions about our relationship an what im doing, because I believe and know they go back an tell him things thinking I just don't know what they are doing? I need advice so anyone willing to give some id greatly appreciate it! (link)
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When guys get pushed to the edge, they really do just need to be left alone. Its never a good idea to get up in their face when they're angry, and if you push him too far, you will push yourself right at the door. Give him his space, I know it sucks to sit there and not know whats going on, believe me. But, give him his space..when he calls you to talk-actually TALK to each other. Both of you listen to each other's point of view. To diffuse a particularly touchy situation, don't use the word "you" a lot. Don't be all on the blaming factor. Say things like "I feel" or "I think"..that way he doesn't retaliate with the blaming. Best of luck to you and your man.
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Hoookay....so I've met this guy online (this was almost a year ago) and we've decided we are going to meet eachother in person for the first time...(We're meeting in a VERY public place, and I'll have someone with me and such) However, I think it's possible that I might really, really like this guy! I know I won't know for sure until I actually meet him, I'm still scared...though he's seen my picture and told me that I'm pretty, I'm still not entirely confident about my looks (Particularly my teeth...) and I'm worried about saying or doing the wrong things, yadda' yadda'...so I guess what I'm asking is for advice from anyone who has met someone online and then in person...thoughts? Suggestions? (link)
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Meeting people whether they're online or not when you're insecure about yourself is nerve racking. If you are yourself, and the guy likes you, great. If you don't act like yourself, he will find out your true colors eventually and he will not appreciate not knowing the real you. Just be you, im sure it will be fine.
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So this summer I moved from Newport, California to Washington DC because of my stupid dad's promotion. I HATE IT. This year was suppose to be MY AMAZING SENIOR YEAR instead it's turning out to be a shitty one. I miss all my amazing friends, the beach, the boys, all the parties I'm going to miss, homecoming, prom, winter formal, and tons of other stuff that I'm not going to be able to experience with my friends. I feel like just a few months ago my life was so perfect and I had everything and now I'm in a shit hole without anyone. My new school sucks ass and the people with it. They don't even have student parking for my range rover or student off campus lunch! So anyways I'm so so so freaking depressed it's not even funny! All the girls hate me because they're all jealous or some shit talking about me 24/7 ex. "Did you take a look at the new girl? She's so barbie fake from California slut." and ALL the boys stare at me like I'm a fucking piece of meat it's disgusting. I get a lot of smirks, nasty comments, etc you get the picture. I HAVE 0 friends at this shit school and I'm about to go crazy seriously... California and DC are so freaking different and I HATE IT. I want my old perfect life where everyone loved me, I was on top of everything, etc. So please YOU GUYS give me some freaking tips or advice on my situation SERIOUSLY. I'm fucking MISERABLE.
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I know how you feel. My parents did the same thing to me. But you have to think about it from your parents stand point too. You wouldn't have your pretty range rover if it wasn't for your dads job, right? We all have to make sacrifices and it sucks. After the whole "pretty new girl" thing dies down, you will start to get to know people. Everyone in that school can't be a total asshole. And it wouldn't hurt you to surround yourself with different people. Just because not everyone is from the A class of financial and social top of the ladder, doesn't mean there aren't cool people out there. Best of luck
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hey! I am 17 years old and a female. So I'm issues on being fucked over by guys. It starts out the same. A guy n I are friends, kinda like each other. the guy tells me, and then we kinda have a thing. but after awhile of being in this thing, we start doing stuff.and I know we both want it. But then after awhile he just completely stops talking to me! ): and I know what it is, so I just completely stop talking to him as well! I'm sick of it! I would rather have a relationship and not a thing or "friends with benefits." but also, I'm not jumping into it. i actual start liking the guy, and I think he does too but I'm gettin heartbroken by being fucked over! also, now I'm afraid to even start liking a new guy cuz i dont know if he is gonna do the exact same things the other guys have! ): please any advice? help? (link)
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Stop giving them what they want so easily. Honestly, if you're worth it to them, then you're worth waiting for. Sure you have your sexual needs, but when you really want a true relationship, you'll see who really wants one with you if you make them wait.
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what is so bad about pot? (link)
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I smoked pot for about 4 years. Honestly, every once in awhile its not a terrible thing. But, habitually smoking severely damages your lungs and your short term memory. Not only that, you will have a lack of motivation to get up and do ANYTHING.You wont want to go get a decent job, because any decent job requires a urine test. You have 100% better quality of life staying pot free.
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Hey! 16/f
My boyfriend doesnt last very long when we have sex, but i dont think he really knows that. We never really foreplay the sex, we just go right into it. could that be the problem? I've had sex with 2 other guys and they lasted pretty long and whenever my boyfriend finishes .. its only been a course of like 3 or 4 minutes (to my knowledge i dont sit there with a watch haha). The first time we had sex he lasted soooo long! it was incredible.
I want him to last a little bit longer so i can get more pleasure out of it :). but i dont want to make him feel bad, like i dont want to say, okay lets switch positions before you finish! haah. you know wht i mean? whats something i can do that will make him last longer. does foreplay help that?
lemme know your tips and ideas!
thank you in advance!! (link)
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Well, first of all, lets hope you're having protected sex. Secondly, younger men tend to ejaculate more quickly than older ones.I don't think you jumping right into it is the problem.
Try not saying "lets switch positions". Foreplay doesn't help its to arouse more.Go slow, have him tell u before he is about to finish if he can tell, and stop moving for a minute.There's really not much you can do about it until he learns with age and experience how to control when to cum.
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