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Confused about what to do.
So I'm 16 and a junior in high school.
There's two guys that im "talking" too.
One goes to my school,is a junior and really nice and friendly and funny and whatnot,but he's really nerdy and not that good looking but I like him for his personality ,but i barely find him attractive at all.We get along really well,but he's a virgin and has never really done anything like that,which I have and I'm popular and have a lot of friends and whatnot,so it'd be out of the ordinary for me to go out with him,but I do like him.Then theres this 19 year old,who lives near me and is pretty cute.He as well has a good personality and is really nice ,he's got a good job and ofcourse he's not a virgin so he's more experienced and such,but he doesn't know any of my friends and he's so random but we are still talking and I still like him as well too.
I don't know what to do! I don't like either one of them THAT much,just a little bit ..if even that.
Should I just hangout with them separately a few times and kinda pick from there? Or what?It's nothing serious with either guy.
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Friends are forever...this "nerd" as you call him may not be that attractive to you...maybe he isnt but that doesnt mean hes not appealing. In other words you might not find him attractive but someone will. even with no sexual experience he's still special and he'll find someone special with or with out you. the other guy might have some sexual experience but so what experience isnt what makes you feel good its the feeling that its with the person you feel comfortable, safe, happy, loved, understood, heard, cared for and satisfied...oh and you can get this without sex yes believe it or not it can happen. thats what true friends are for. Id rather have a friend that maybe no one finds attractive and is a true friend than someone who is surreal the other might have a job but so what jerks have jobs too and so do silly, funny and excellent friends. Do'nt make the mistake in judging the book before you read it. You are looking for a friend right? for a possible future? or a positive effect in your life right? not to get your self in a sexual position right?? Not just that hes going thru physical changes his body and face has not finised developing...you never know he might turn out to be a hunk and a brilliant (nerd) when he becomes a man...and you might miss out on that experience..watch going on 13. Hope this helps
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My advice would be to NEVER, not see someone just because your friends will think he's a nerd. Some of the coolest people Ive met were nerds believe it or not. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. If you don't find him attractive though, maybe he isn't for you. There does have to be some base of attraction. On the other hand, dating an older guy is more work. They expect more maturity when it comes to situations, some that you may not be able to handle as a 16 year old. They have stresses and worries from jobs and everything else that you wont understand unless you actually have a job. I wouldn't date a guy based on his experience either. Experience in the sexual area is nice, but so is inexperience. That way you can teach him the way YOU like it, and you can be the one teaching him things. Take your time and just see where things go. Good luck
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