Hey there I' Nicole Lynn Pietruszewski!!! I'm in 8th grade and go to Oltman Jr. High!! I play softball for Cottage Grove, Minnesota, and I'm having a blast just living my life one day at a time!! I hope you are too!! Well if you must know more about me, e-mail me or IM me!! Hope you have a great day!!! And I want you to know that i love yo help people out, I tend to know what people are going through, especaily girls, and I liek knwoing I amde someoens else's day...So ask away..ask anything..go ahead!! Here To Help...Nicole!
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Hey! I am very paranoid with my weight. I think about it ALL the time. And it bothers me. But those kinds of things make me very jealous or w/e. Like if someones skinnier than me I get jealous and go on a diet or w/e to be that skinny to. Well, there's this really popular girl that is just a little bit skinnier than me but she is REALLY skinny. So I guess you could say I'm kind of anerexic BUT I DO NOT STARVE MYSELF OR MAKE MYSELF PUKE. I really want to be super skinny but I just don't know how. Food is like my life. Anything you can do to help I'd be HAPPY with. Thank you sooo much. (link)
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Well i see how this can abe a problem, and being skinny isnt the greatest thigns in the world, but if it means something to you i will do my best, first of all its a very very good thing that you dont starve yourself or make yourself puke, your smart, but second even if she is just a little skinner is that such a bad thing, i mean it soudns like you are already really skinny, but like you food i my life too, i love all sorts of food, and i just cant live without it, but im not really sure what i can say other then if you eat healthy and do lots of excersizes and stuff then you shoulnd thave to worry, try only eating like protein shakes and fruitss for a week, see if that helps, but dont let it grow into a habbit and become a dissorder, we gotta be safe about this! well i really hope i helped!! Let me know if theres anything else i can do for you!
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lol, ok, i kno this is dorky and all but, how do u french kiss??? i mean i've always wonder, u kno, like what do u do....lol, i kno, i kno, this is a stupid question (link)
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OK, first of all, it comes naturaly, theres not much anyone can really do that will help you remeember becuz while your mkaing our or french kissing someone, everything in mind os gone, you dont remember anything, and relaly all you have do is open your mouth and everything else goes form tehre, i mean everyone deos it diffrently, and you'll get the ahng of it after yoyr frist time, or at least defitnely by your second time. I hope i helped!
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A boy deep kissed(first kiss) me and i am very paranoid about catch HIV through kissing, but should i be worried? (link)
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NO, no, no, no, you dont have to be worried AT ALL!! You can not and will not get any sexually trasnmitted diesae from kissing!! Hence the word sexual...i mean for goodness sake you got kissed by your mom and dad when you were little and you werent worried then, adn yes that is a diffretn kind of kiss, but unless you engage in sexual intercourse your pretty much safe, and you can around kissing every single guy you want to, jsut dont turn into a hoe!! Well i really hoped i calmed your fears, hope i helded.
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I have a (suposivly common) Problem with my ovaries in which pin head size cysts on them cause irregular periods. I havent gotten my period in nearly 6 months. I had several MRI's done, and i saw a OB/GYN. Next week, I am going to a specialist at the hospital to consult about the problem, but I'm scared that they will give me an exam, and if they do, they will find out that I am no longer a virgin like my mom thinks! I'm incredibly scared, especially because my mom would killll mee if she found out. I regularly engage in sexual intercourse, and I'm afriad that if she knows, my trust will be ruined, and all hell wil break loose. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Well if I'm right, which I'm almost positive, unless you are dangeroulsy or harmfully (meaning having an STD, or pregnant, or somehting like that) haing sex, they dont havwe to tell your mom, unless they feel it is harming you, my guess is you should talkt o your Doctor or whom ever and tell them that you have been engaged in sexual intercourse, and let them know your safe (lets pray to God you are) and that theres no need to let your mother know, we dont want to let hell lose!!! Lol, i really really hope i helped and hope everything wokrs out fine!! Get better adn good luck!!! also, let me knwo how things worked out!
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ok this one is for teh guys! =D alright well me and my boyfriend never made out and everyone is saying that I should make the first move..ok but like if you were my boyfriend how would you want me to do it? lol I never made the first move before and like I dunno how it would be like for a guy if the girl made the first move? any suggestions?! pleaseeeee help! (link)
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OK this is the kind of thing that just comes naturally, and i know it seems like teh scarriest things in thw workd, but belive me thers lsot scarriere thigns outt there, adn even for me, a girl who is always making teh first move, which i love cuz its puts you in control, was scared for teh the first tiime i made out with someone, OMG it was horrifyingh...b4 it happend..but after time and stuf it will be alot better, becuz ti takes like once oe twice doing it, and all i can say is that it come naturally, tehres not much someone can do to teach you, but about when you should make the first move, just kind hint at it, then when you guys kiss, make him know you arent leaving until it happens, lol just kinda kiss him, then look him in the eye, and for your benifit, let it just be you two around when you do it, because you dont want the pressure of all of your friends and all of his freinds there to make you more nervous! Hopefully i helped!!!
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I watch alot of movies..well..alot of love movies. The movies where ppl fall in love. And the more i watch those movies the more i want that in reality. I want to be in love..does neone else feel that way?
Or am i just stupid for even thinking that :/
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YOU ARE NOT STUPID! The summer going into seventh grade for me was the year i said i wanted to fall in love, and i had no clue waht that meant but form watching movies and reading stories, i wanted tot feel what al those ppl felt, at first i thought it wasnt going to happen and that i was prolly too young to fall in love, but boy was i WRONG. i ended up falling ahrd and fast for this guy i had known for a couple of years now, and we were both in love with each other and its the greatest feeling in the world, he was the first person i ever loved in my whole life, and i loved him soo much, and he loved me back, i had never felt so happy and i never trult thoutght that i would actualy fall in love that year but i did, and for you to think that is not stupid, its normal, and who knows you might ending up gettting your wish sooner then you expected it, but just to let you know, along with your first real love, comes your first real heartbreak...sooner or alter!! but i hope i helped you!! let me know how things worked out!
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i give advice to ppl too i just dont know what to do about this one. ok well ive known this guy since i was 3 and ive liked him since i can remember. well now im a sophmore in high school and i still like him. he goes to my school and now a lot of girls like him bc they think hes so hot and every time i see he him gives me a hug. and we talk about stuff and most of his friends are my friends and vice versa. well in 7th grade i told him i liked him and well he didnt like me back but then last yr my friend asked him if hed ever date me and he said im not sure shes kind of like my sister. well ive always been really scared to actually tell him how i feel bc hes like the perfect guy adn the perfect bf. hes hot and sweet and has never cheated on anyone and hes sooo easy to talk to. so please help me and tell me what i should do! it kills me when those other girls get to have him and i dont! thanks and sorry this is so long! (link)
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OK first of all KAAAYUUTE!! lol the fact the you guys have been such good friends since forever, and that eh called you his siste,r and thats a great staty, lots of people out there are to afraid to have a relationshiop with there BEST FREIEND (me bing one of them) but sometimes thats just a risk you have to take, but to start things off easily, maybe instead of telling him you cudl show him, like find the perfect moment kiss him, and he is that clueless the let him know why you didm it, adn sometimes youy might even realize that eh sint right for you by just s simple kiss, and sometimes thats how he figures it ou, cause if he really wants to be with you then he will feel it in a kiss!! So b4 talking try that, i know it soudns scary but if it doesnt work out, jsut say you dont know what got over you, lol, and laugh!! He'll understand if he knows you as well as you make it seem!! But anyways hope i helped, adn hope things wokr out, and have fun, adn pleeease let me know how things worked out!!!
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I saw this guy that I dated 4 years ago when I was in 8th grade, now I'm a senior in highschol.....we've been talking since and after all that time we saw each other again the other day, he didn't want 2 start the relationship again because of the distance between us....when I saw him yesterday we hung out than kissed but he pulled back and said it would be 2hard 2 handle a long distance relationship....well about 15 min before I went upstairs 2 my apartment he grabbed me and we kissed on and off a lot....and he said he'd promise 2 see me again very soon....I'm so confused and I just wish I knew what he wanted......What do I do?? (link)
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Well it soudns liek your both confussed, im sure he's righht long disntace can be ahrd, especailly after so many years of not seeing eachother, but if you really think you could ahndle it and you both think you can put work into it GO FOR IT! But first b4 any of that talkt o him, like on teh fone, so theres no physicla attraction talking, ask him what he is feeling and tell him to be totally honest, then figure it out from there! Hope i helped! Let me know how thigns are working!!
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hey guys im ryah
well ok there is this boy Jake that i have dated before but I like him again, only because he calls me every day and is so sweet but it was so randomly that he started calling me, i mean we have been seeing eachother outside of school because we have the same friends and all but like we weren't really close since we broke up, we still kept in touch and talked online and all.i mean i have never really STOPPED liking him but i kinda moved on for a while but the feelings were still there. well anyways when we do see eachother OUT OF SCHOOL (keyword lol b/c we just act like friends in school which is odd) we are all over eachother and makeout and stuff, thats the farthest its gone since but he has mentioned to do other things. well anyways us doing all this stuff makes me attracted to him even more. i just don't know where to go from there like i would want to date him again officially you know, but i just don't know what exactly to say to him about i can't straight out say 'i like you, so let's go out' but i don't know what to say!!
Sorry it was long :(
Thanks if you help me :) I need it lol (link)
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well sounds liek youir feelings for jake are still strong, but b4 you get yourself hurt, find out what his feelsings are for you, if he just likes to fool around with you, and you dont think you can handle that considering teh fatc that you still like him then dont get into it to muc, but if you think you cna ahndle it HAVE FUN!! but if he does still like you then give it another chancem who knows it may work the second time around!! just kinda strike it up in a conversaton on the fone or soemthing!! I relaly hope i hoped!! Let me know how thigns turned out!
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Well this is a record 2 problems from me in one night...
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months. I'm 16, he's 18. We are having sex. Mom knows, but hates the fact and thinks he wouldn't stay with me if I told him I didn't want to have sex anymore, and I'm DYING to prove her wrong.
But the thing is, I don't really want to stop the sex because quite honestly, I like it. lol. Obviously he does, too, but I know he'd stay with me even if I did say I wanted to stop. Our relationship is based on pure love, not lust. (not to mention the fact that we're engaged. Mom doesn't know that, though. She won't know for about 3 or 4 years.) Mom doesn't believe he'd stay with me. I'm dying to prove her wrong, but that involves sacrifice on my part.
If I actually wanted to test him, I'd have to lie to him, and I don't want to lie to him...
What should I do? Should I test him and prove mom wrong, or just leave it alone? (link)
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Well i read between the lines and found an easier way to fix this then not actually having to stop having sex...completley, first of all exactly how often do you have sex? Well anyways keep that answer in yuor head, and moving on.......Talk to your boyfreind and let him know about what your mother thinks, obvsouly he does love you, if you are enngaged, so he will understand what this is all about, anyways tell him that you want to try to go (how ever oftne you do it) without having sex, and if he agrees then GOODIE!! then you cna prove to mom your rigt and shes wrong (sucha great feeling) and anyways, if for some reaosn you slip in this little break from fun period, thats not your fault, at least you knwo he tried and you just coudltn help yourself, so i guess waht im trying to say is to just talkt o him adn figure out a plan!!! Hope i helped, let me know what happens!!
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my boyfriend and i have been going out almost a year. we lived in the same state then within the 7th month of us going out he moves then a few months i moved but we still live in different states. we are still going out but now he works and there are girls that like him there. i know i am supose to trust him but it is really hard he tells me he doesnt look at other girls but then he tells me (we are honest with eachother) that he has watched bad stuff on tv i hate to think that he checks out other girls but thats what i think. i am a very negative person. should i just blow off what i think and just trust him or just think that if he finds someone else thats fine i can find someone else too... (link)
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Well this seem more along the lines of a trussting-you-heart-issue...because if you feel to the point where its killing you that you dont knonw wahts going on with him then maybe breaking up is the ebst, but if you dont think you'll be able to move in without him and you really really think that you can learn to truyst him then work on that, Trust is one of the most popular things learned in relationships, and by shwoing him that you can trust him, it will make him feel better about himself and you guys being together, and then he will trust you, cause you ever stopped to think he may feel the same, casue chances are he has, but he is a guy so he most liekly wont say much about it, but just let him know that he can trust you, if you both love each other, then i am sure this will all work out, I really hope i helped!!! let me know if you need anything else!
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when me and my bf both lived in tx we would go to eachothers houses well his parents were really protective of him like we couldnt be under the covers even if we were just hanging out with friends or just out talking to his parents and when he would come to my house my parents could really care less we could be laying on the couch with the covers over us that just didnt care but now that we have both moved when i go visit him his parents and they dont care what we do but my parents are always coming in and telling us to leave the door open so they can walk by and check up on us what the deal? should i tell my parents to back off or just listen to them and do as they say. (link)
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Well first of all, thats weird, like the way all their minds changed, but take this to its advatage, at your house when you see each other do other fun things, like ahng out outside go on walks go to a movie or something, and if you absolutely need privacy, then go for a wlak to somewhere private, and when your at his house then you can do whatever it that yoo please (but be smart) but just make sure his parents dont change there mind about you and stuff, cause then you woudl have tow sets of parents that wont let you do anything, so make sure you dont take that part to its advantage, but when it comes your parents, dont get mad at them,. abd by doing what they say, there trust in you will build up, and eventually then they will trust that they can let you do that, and if they let you, then you have two houses that you can cuddle or whatever you do, at!! So make sure you wokr around all this carefully, cuz if you go spazing at your mom your not going to get your way!! Hope I helped!!!!! Let me know if i did, or if you need aymore help!!
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okay so there is this guy that i like and i don't know himt hat well yet but i would like to get to know him how should i approach him or introduce myself to him? without feeling stupid? (link)
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Well hunnay lets see...first of all are you and this guy at least friends, like does he know who you are? If so then just write down your number and say 'you should call me sometime'....or you could always write him a note too, and ask hnim some questions, ya know, like about whatever it is that your little heart desires, but try not to get to personal, but build a trust, once a trust and bodn is built between you to, then maybe you can move on from there, you gotta take it one step at a time, and if you need any more help, let me know!!! Hope i helped!!
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I know I'm not skinny, but I'm not huge either. I really want to lose some weight, but I know its completely WRONG to starve yourself. So I refuse to do that.. and I don't like all of those confusing diets. Is there any way to diet normally without getting complicated?? Help!! (link)
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Your very smart for knowing that some girls dont evne know they have a dissorder when they do, and like you i hate diets to so jsut start eating healtheri ya know, liek cut back on the chips and thst stuff, and do a little more working our, eat mroe apples and those sorts of things, that taset good and arent like gorss!! No one lieks gross food!! I mean theres not a whole lot you can do, right now all of our bodies are maturing so sometimes a little body fat wont kill ya, liek most mothers sayb "you'll grow into it" haha, how annoying!! anyways i hope i hepld ya out!
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Well I go to a new H.S now cuz im a freshy and im away from all my friends and it sucks but anyways in gym ive been hanging around my old elementary best friend a little more and she has her 2 friends but im kinda quiet that’s why they probably don’t talk to me as much but I don’t wanna be quiet I just don’t know what to say at all…what should I say and how can I get all of us to be really good friends? Help! Thanks. *ShY gUrl* (link)
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First of all, everyone has that outgoing side of them somewhere deep sown inside, you just gotta search for it, some more then other but its all good! And keep in mind you dont want to try to change your self dramaitlcally but when it comes to just being a litte more open it will never kill anyone! you just gotta jump and in and be HEEEY GUYS! But dont be like all cocky ya know, jsut kinda show that you have a active side of yourself, and let her know that you think its cool that you know each other again, to be all clicky, like dont act desperate, if you know waht i mean, and just kinda be yourself, you dont have to go above and beyond to get noticed! I hope i heled!
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