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What is up with these 13 yr olds and getting pregnant/asking for advice about fingering and sexual things like that. wtf is our world coming too.When I was 13 I was still playing coodies with the guys next door or riding my bike around the neighborhood. Gahsh by the time I turn 30, 5 yr olds will be worried about sex. WTH (link)
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The simplest answer is the disemination of information.
When I was younger, which wasnt too terribly long ago, we knew a little about sex. We knew people had it. But it was something that almost no one did until high school or later.
These days, kids know all about sex. And parents arent keeping up with that. Most parents wait until like 14 to have the sex talk, and they either dont know or are in denial about the fact that their kids are starting with oral sex at the age of 11 in some cases.
Also, the one thing parents do convey to their kids is that sex is something that is forbidden to them. Children are curious, and rebellious. Parents say you cant, kids want to try it. And these days kids have enough actual information to carry it out.
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ok im 13 and im a female and im horney and i feel like that ALOT! any time i see somthig thats...... yeah... i feel like that! is that normel and iv NEVER had sex soooo whats rong with me? (link)
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The basic explanation. When you are young, thing preteen, your body has not grown and developed enough to be able to have children.
Then, comes puberty. Your body readies itself to be able to become pregnant, and part of that is the beginnings of sex drive. Think about it, if people who had never had sex didnt want to, there would be alot fewer people in the world.
Now, some peole have higher sex drives than others. Thats just something that varies from person to person. The poster below that reccomended masturbation is correct. As much as I dislike posting links, the rest of that info is too lengthy to type out so here...
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm
That site has everything you need to know, and its provided by people with certified experience.
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Im going to try crack or coke with my friend in a couple days for the first time so my question is, if i only do it once, what can happen? Can i form an addiction right away? Whats worse crack or coke? I'm going to try the one thats less harmful on my body. People with experience plz help. so far ive drank alcohol, smoked pot and cigarettes, and taken speed. So i know what its like to be high and drunk or whatever. pls advice ppl. thanks (link)
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Read the answers below. Specifically the one who said they were an experienced drug user. They are completely correct. I wont restate what they said, the dangers are well represented there.
I will give you a resource not mentioned. Because while we can tell you that doing either of those drugs would be a huge mistake, we cant actually stop you.
www.erowid.com.
This website is a compilation from many, many drug users. It has information on virtually every substance Ive ever heard of. Including dosage and safe use reccomendations. Please take everything with a grain of salt, though. Because while the website has information on how many others have done drugs safely, every person's biochemistry is different. And the drugs you are asking about are ones where if there are bad effects, the bad effects are often extreme.
A safety warning for you. Most people I know who do coke like to drink. Having a single shot, or a beer, or glass of whatever generally lowers your tolerance for coke by about half. I know more than one person who has ended up in trouble because they did coke for a while, got used to how much coke they could do, and then got drunk one night, did the normal amount of coke, and ended up in the hospital (two died) because once drunk your ability to handle coke shrinks significantly. Crack is made from cocaine, so that loss in tolerance will happen with that drug as well.
A final warning.
I know a few people who have tried some form of coke once and not liked it, and never done it again. Everyone I know who has done coke more than once has become addicted to it. Severely addicted. The problem with drugs, is that many people enjoy them so much that they do drugs until the point that being on the drug, being intoxicated, is normal. These are the people whos lives are destroyed one way or another by whatever drugs they become addicted to. I have heard a friend (who is now and probably forever in rehab) describe coke as a friend who never abandoned her, who was always there to comfort her. She started going coke at about age 15. It took until she was 21 to become such a problem that her life fell apart around her. But it happened.
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My aount wont pay me for cleaning and watching her baby for 2 1/2 yeas now she owes me like$2500 so far. i talk to my parents and they talk to her but she says that she will or did. but she never has. what should i say to her wih out being rude. and when a friend calls me on my cell and invites me over and i tell her i am leaving in 20 minutes sh says you are not leaving until everything is done. like shes paying me. what should i say. (link)
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Stop doing work for her of any kind until she has payed you the full amount she owes you.
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Hi I am 17 years old and I work in a store. Another girl I work with asked me if I can work on columbus day, when she wa supposed to work. I accepted, since I didn't think I was doing anything. Then my parents blew up at me because my dad took the day off & they want to do something as a family. They told me it's allmy fault that I didn't ask if he was taking the day off. I told them he should have told me he was taking the day off, but they said NO I should ask (which they have NEVER told me to do before). But they do not see my side of it, that I accepted to work so I can't change my mind now & that they should have told me he was taking the day off (am i supposed to guess that out of thin air?) Who is right here, & what can I do about this, they are so mad at me.?? (link)
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You are in the right here.
Explain that you now have your own schedule, and that while you are sorry the plans may be interrupted, but if your dad decided to take a day off and make plans, then he should have told you when on the day he requested columbus day off, or discussed it with you before hand.
You are more than old enough that they cant make plans for you without consulting you. Family plans are important to you, but so are obligations to others, when you say you will do something for someone you keep that word. Just tell them that you would like them to tell you when they make plans involving you, so that you can know not to make commitments. Explain to them that the person making the plans involving others has the responsiblity to let those others know. Normally, yes you ask them for permission to do things. These things you would ask permission for are things that you want to make sure they are ok with you doing at all, like going to a party or staying out late, etc. Things that are perfectly within the rules are things you shouldnt have to ask permission for.
Offer a compromise. Tell them that if you alter your work schedule in the future that you will do your best to keep them appraised, and at the same time tell them that you would like to be notified of any plans they make that they intend to involve you in. As a courtesy, it would be something you would appreciate if you could know about your commitments when they are made rather than when you make plans because you didnt know they made a commitment for you.
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my mom is a freaking loser!!!!!! when i go shopping she makes me buy theres freakishly large sizes!!!! im only 110 pounds and 14 and a girl and im 5`3 so i thought i would fit into an extra small shirt since thats what the lady working at abercrombie and fitch said i should try! i tried it and it fit great and there was even a little extra room so if i gained a few more pounds I could still wear it and my mom started screaming at me in front of everyone in the store and made be buy a large and i looked like a goon wearing it because im nowhere near a large!!! and then i was looking at the skirts i tried on a 1 and i was like mom can i get this she said what size is it and i said 1 and i said and it fits me see and look its even a little big and she started screaming at me again and made me buy a 4 and do you know how big a 4 was on me!!!?? i wore it to school the next day and i got atleast 20 comments about how big the skirt was on me and i spent the whole day pulling it up and then the skirt fell off me when i stood up in social studies class and there i was standing there in my underwear and i cried!! and yesterday i bought a pair of sweatpants at hollister and they ran in xs,s,m,l, & xl and my mom was making me buy a large and she and the lady working at hollister got in a fight because the lady working at hollister said i wont be able to fit into that and my mom was screaming at her so i went in the dressing room and tried it on and it was so huge for me and i rolled it over 4 times and it was still loose but my mom said i will get tons of use out of it and i will never grow out of it!! but ill never grow into it either! i cant stand it all my friends come over they look through my closet and see all these larges and size 7 jeans when im super skinny. they think im trying to be fat and make fun of fat people... my moms a maniac and it gets me so mad that once i called her a whore because it just slipped out because shes so stubborn. and if i buy my own clothes without her there she says theres no way im keeping them because she says they are "too small" .. i cant stand her i just feel like punching her she gets me soooo angry. my moms a mad woman what the hell do i do??? and do you think shes being unfair and retarted? because i do! (link)
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Wow.
Ive heard of and experienced my fair share of irrational behavior, but that is by far the worst Ive seen in years. Im going to take on faith that you are not exaggerating, because I normally dont suggest going against your parents like Im about to.
To be honest, there is no way to reason with her. You cant explain why you are right to a person who thinks youre wrong and refuses to consider any other points of view but their own.
The only thing you can do is set your heels and refuse to give in. Do not try on anything in a size she tells you to. Do not even agree to go shopping with her unless she allows you to pick your own clothes. Do not wear anything that is too big for you. Basically, your only option is a complete refusal to cooperate, because if you do anything she says in this regard, its like babying a 3 year old. They learn that if they cry, they get what they want.
Another option, is look for resale shops. I dont know where you live, but we have places here where you can sell clothes you dont need/want. Sometimes for just 3-5 dollars, but if you have a closet full, you can turn it into enough money to buy a fair number of clothes in your size, assuming you are frugal and dont go buy designer clothes. You wont be able to afford whatevers trendy, but off brand stuff that fits looks better than what you have now.
Lastly, master your temper. You are in the right, and your mother is going to yell, she is going to be angry, and you have to weather the storm and be able to just look back at her. If you can let her yell until shes blue in the face, then calmly and quietly state that you are going to do what is in your best interest, and if she cant see that, then she doesnt get a say in what happens with you.
Oh yeah, and the whole "not keeping clothes" thing. First, if you get rid of all the clothes she buys you, she cant just get rid of what you keep, you wont have anything to wear at all. Second, keep a change of clothes or two in your locker at school. 2 bottoms, and 3-5 tops if you can fit it.
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One of my bestfriends Asked the guy that i liked out. Well i was really upset about it and she told me to stop acting like a child. She knows that i really like him and have for the past month.
He ended up telling her that he wont go out with her. But shes not the type of girl to give up when she likes someone. She will pester him till the end. And i dont want to hear her talking about him constantly. And i really dont want her liking him i know sounds rude but she gets a boyfriend and wont talk to him for like 2 weeks and then decided well i dont like him anymore.
I know its not actually a question i just need some advice on what i should do. 17 f
----- She knew that i liked him because i told her like 3 weeks ago. (link)
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RE: Your comment
Youre right. I wouldnt like it if someone went after a girl I liked. I wouldnt like it at all. But the fact is, that if I didnt do anything about it myself I wouldnt have any excuse to complain if they dated someone else. Besides, if she dates him and drops him, you can pick him up after.
To be honest, its not really your business, and youre both being kind of juvenile.
Ever heard the phrase "all is fair in love and war"?
You liked him for three weeks, and didnt go after him. Liking him doesnt mean you have claim on him. And unfortunately for you, your friend probably began to be attracted to the guy when you told her why you thought he was attractive.
If shes immature about relationships, thats her (and his) problem. You may not like it, but you also really dont get a say.
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I don't know if this is like a MO thing or what. But my teachers tell me that if I don't do well on my senior project I won't graduate high school. This being because I will fail Government without the project and Government is a requried class. I was just wondering if this is true and they won't let me graduate on time if I happen to not do so well on the project... (link)
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Typically in high school, especially senior year, they dont want to actually make you not graduate. They throw that out there to motivate you. Especially in a class like government, they usually wont just fail you because you didnt do great on the project.
Now, this varies if you are in public or private school a bit, public school is more likely to just say fuck it and let you walk at graduation. Private... well they can be a bit more stubborn about it.
Worst case, they might make you take government in summer school if you actually did fail it, and still let you walk at graduation.
Dont worry about it too much. Talk to your parents about it (they should definately take your side if you have to talk to the principal) and you can probably get it worked out.
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