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17/f, I really really like this boy who is in one of my classes at school.
We're both in our last year of high school.
And anyway the thing is that I've only just noticed him and I've never spoken to him before.
I am heaps scared of talking to him mainly because I wouldn't know what to say.
I don't want any stupid things like "nice shirt" or whatever, we wear uniforms at our school. And nothing about an assignment we're doing or something coz I could just ask one of the girls I sit with about it. I need a real reason to go and ask him or talk tohim about something rather than anyone else I could ask or talk to in the class.
And also none of my friends know him or his friends.
Thanks so much to anyone who can help.
xoxo (link)
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If you're going to open him, don't ask some normal bland question, instead, ask an opinion.
An opinion opener should be a short story (longer once you get to know him).
An easy one would be along the lines of "My friends and I earlier were discussing something, and I need an opinion. Do you floss before or after you brush?"
Silly as it may seem, it will invoke a response from him, and there you go, you're into conversation.
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can a fat girl wear skinny jeans? (link)
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In short: Certainly not.
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Theres this guy I have a crush on, its mutual for sure though. Im running out of things to say when I text him. How can I make him ask about me (link)
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Once you stop texting him because you can't say anything more to him, he's going to have to pull you in.
Either he is uninterested in you, and in that case, you'll need to build attraction in order to get texts from him, or once you run out he'll start texting you wondering why you haven't said anything to him for a while.
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how do i get my girl to have a threesome, we are real confortable with each other and everything but i am ready to go farther and i think she is too but idk how to get her to have it and i want it to be with one of her friends but idk how to do that either i am 16 in 10th and she is 16 in 9th i would like some help thanks and no one really has to answer this (link)
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Here's how you do this, bro.
Get her and the other girl you have in mind together. Now it needs to be you, her, and her on the bed.
Start going into this story about how you heard on this website (you heard it from me, so it's true) that if two people massage your back at once, after a while it starts to feel like a thousand hands all doing it at once. The reason this happens is because the two people will be moving their hands in synch with each other and your mind disconnects all the movements and suddenly that's how it will feel.
If you describe this with enough enthusiasm, the two will be ready to give it a shot. Now give them no time to say no. Immediately point to one of them and say "get on your back." Now start the massage with the other girl. Next is your turn... take off your shirt. Then it's the last girl's turn, hopefully by this point, you've got her shirt off too (Just shirt, dont' worry about bra if you dont' feel comfy enough to do that yet), and also there will be some sexual tension built up in the room by now.
Once you're on the third person you're going to need to escalate from here. At a certain point you need to start kissing whoever is it is that is helping you give the person the massage -- and dont' let the person beneath you get up! This is important.
Now, start kissing and pretty much you two end up trapping the third girl on the bottom, underneath both of you.
Once you've payed attention to the girl on top, switch and start kissing the girl you had "trapped."
By now, the sexual tension in the room will be immense, and from there things will escalate to where you want to be.
Just make sure that you start out nice with the massage, then make it more sensual, and make sure the partner you've got also giving the massage with you is working with you. Also, you two need to be positioned on both sides of the girl. So for instance, you on left side, her on right.
If done right you've engaged two women in a threesome. Hell, these two girls don't really even have to like each other, the social dynamics behind this are a little ambiguous, but for some damn reason this works everytime.
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okay so there is this girl who ive had problems with for a long time and i used to have this great way opf dealing with her, everything she said i would laugh at i blew her off like she was a joke and it worked. it pissed her off like crazy and she never messed with me. but somehow this year i lost myself and i let he step on me again. now she treats me like im a joke and makes fun of me constantly and i don't know how to handle it.
i tried everything. i tried working it out, ignoring her, fighting, talking to the school, fight, going back to laughing at her, and just confronting her but she is impossible to get through to she makes it this huge drama with everyone involved. but i don't really know how to anymore. i did this over a 2 year span so i really did my best at all of those options
she's causing alot of stuff for me i don't know how to handle it! she will never stop i want to make it so she doesnt get to me anymore but i don;t know how. what do i do?
i know this sounds really immature and stupid, but im 17 and pretty mature for my age, im really passive and don't like to fight but this just gets to me alot. (link)
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You may be passive and not like to fight but that's your problem. You aren't an Alpha, like this bully is trying to display and assert upon you, you're a beta, who takes it all in and while you don't like it, you aren't striving enough to do anything to fix it.
It's best to view it as if this were caveman days, or how a pack of dogs works.
In a group there will always be the assumed alpha position, and someone will take that spot - always.
Now, what is happening to you here, where before you laughed off this person trying to be big and bad, now you're taking it as if you're beta again, since they recognize this, they are asserting theirselves on you again - make this stop.
How? It's time to go caveman, to put it quite frankly. If nothing else works, fuck telling your parents, you're 17 going on 18, you're almost an adult yourself.
Why tell an adult when you're about to be one?
EVERY time this person decides to start shit with you begin to pummel their asses, who gives a fuck what happens?
If you get in trouble, so do they.
If you do this repeatedly the person who is tormenting you is going to realize
"If I talk shit to this person then it will lead to a confrontation that will also lead to me getting hit. EVERY TIME."
It doesn't matter who the person is, if they understand every time they confront you there will be a fight, they'll cut that shit out and soon.
Pay no attention to consequences, if they can't realize a conclusion when you've been mature about the situation for two years now, then it's time to go caveman.
If you are actually scared to get in a fight with this person, fear not.
A tip to fighting a person, and getting an upperhand without even hitting them is this
--The person who acts or seems the craziest, the most intense, and the most in control, all ready has the upperhand.--
If you are going to start a fight, take the nearest shit around you and fucking knock it down. You need to go fucking ape-shit on this person. If you start charging them, and you knocking anything and everything in front of you out of the way, that's one mental mind fuck for the receiving end. Hell, be loud, scream a little, be INTENSE.
From now on you're alpha, and this little bitch is taking the backseat and becoming beta. If they want to test your authority, your dominance, try to dethrone you, show them with force that they're in no position to try and make any kind of move towards that direction.
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my boyriend cheat on me , is it possible for a cheater (who wont admit that he did) to not do it again or do you think h will keep cheating (link)
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Generally if they cheat, they'll tend to do it again.
Also, if the guy isn't even able to fess up and be honest with you, then the relationship is completely unhealthy and should be ended.
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I am 13, I am in 6th grade, so here is the question: If a girl bumps into me, and stays touching me, does that mean she likes you? We were walking into class, and she bumped into me and kept touching me until we got into the class room. Our shoulders/upper arms were touching each other until we got into the class room. Also, if a girl bumps into me often, does that mean she likes me? (link)
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This is something called kino... when a woman does it to you, and does it often, she is interested.
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Is it weird for girls to ask guys out?
Which do guys prefer?
Any opinion is appreciated. (link)
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It shows a significant amount of confidence generally not exemplified by females. If you do that you'll look incredibly well rounded in the man's eyes.
It's a good thing.
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Andrew/14/Male:I want to make my girlfriend feel special but were not yet old enough for sex. Also i don't make alot of money. What should i do?
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You're on the right track. Not everyone needs sex to convey their feelings, in fact, those who do at a young age generally have troubles expressing their selves other wise.
You don't need money, fine jewelry, etc to show a girl how much you care about them and how much you want them to feel special. You need only show your affection for this person.
Tell them how you feel and how special they are to you. Words can go a long way.
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How do i get girls to love me?!? (link)
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Pay no attention to what the people on here are about to tell,(the fashion tips girl was dead on, you need to change your image) but pay very close attention to what I'm about to say.
There are things you can say to a girl, and ways you can be that will up your chances incredibly high with EVERY girl you ever meet(and you'll still be yourself, not some fake guy). Look at it this way: it's a game, and if you know the rules, practice a lot (I'm not saying USE women), you'll become very good at this once you're experienced.
You'll be able to walk into a room and instantly have conversations with any woman in that room, building attraction, or if you want just a healthy friendship.
Of course, I can't exactly lay it all down here, it's pretty in-depth how all of this works.
if you're interested visit my page for my contact info, or attack my inbox.
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Is it a turn-off to guys if a girl has low self-confidence or in other words is shy? (link)
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If you aren't outward about yourself it will be hard for the guy to get to know you. It's also hard for a guy to initiate anything with someone who is shy.
it isn't necessarily a turn off, but it's certainly hard to work with.
I know if I were messing with someone who was shy, I'd probably drop them soon as I'd get bored they weren't willing to work easily with me.
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15m.
Ok, so. I like this girl, shes a year or so older than me, and we're insanely good friends. Like, we tell each other everything and we'll always be there for each other.
If she notices that I dont look "ok" (like if i look upset or mad, etc.) she'll call me after i get home and ask me whats wrong, and likewise with me. So one day I asked her if I was "Dateable" and she said "for me?" and i was like "no you're way to far outta my league" and she was like "ok, yeah in general you are, but not for me.." which basically crushed me... So i was like great..Now i know she wont ever like me.
And NOW, she has a boyfriend which i cant stand. I mean i really like her, but now im just thinking about giving up because she wont ever like me now..
what should i do..? (link)
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I know this sounds bad to you, and you probably don't want to hear it, but as soon as you've reached the "Let's just be friends" territory in a relationship, it's incredibly hard to recover from.
It sounds like you two have known each other for a while, and judging from that, if you two haven't made any passes then chances are slim to nil it will happen any time soon.
It's tough, but you'll have to move on and find another soul mate. There's just a small gap in every blossoming relationship with a girl where you need to convey you have more intentions than "just friends" and it's right at the beginning when you're getting to know each other. You missed this, and that's how you ended up here.
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16/M
sophmore
Okay, I work at Foodland and they hired this girl(17/F Senior) about 2 months ago,and well I really like her, Im told as one of the sweet caring guys and shes the shy Smart (but get to know her talkative) type of girl. So i figure what the hell and told her how i felt, We started talking and I got to know her some but most times we dont talk I mean we both have school/work but she hates texting and I text all the time. Well every mornign I say goodmorning and everynight i say goodnight no matter what. And the other night we went to the movies and I did not make one move like put my arm around her or anything, and she was like figitting a lil but thats about itLater that night we texted for a lil and i asked her what she would have done if i were to have kissed her and she said well its a little early but i wouldnt rule it out in the future.Now last night I texted her goodnight and we didnt talk all that day and I actually suprisingly got a reply: Aw goodnight :)
Idk what to do, when do I make the move and how?
Thank you for reading this (link)
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Ease into this. You can't kiss her unless you've initiated some kinesthetics, which I'll simply refer to as kino, or otherwise, touching.
Ease into it, start with the friendly hand on shoulder thing. For instance, if you're getting up out of your chair and she is sitting next to you, put your hand on her shoulder for a short few seconds and say "I'll be right back." Or something to that extent.
If you two are in conversation and you say something with a deep meaning to it, you can put your hand on her shoulder at this moment and stare her deep in her eyes and hold it until you've said what you wanted to.
If she isn't rejecting this, you can of course progress with kino from there, getting more sexual (I'm not talking about feeling up right after you've done this.) from there.
Just slowly move down, see if you can get any cuddle action, etc.
If she is responding to these things, chances are it's a safe time for you to go in for a kiss. There's no telling when it's the right time to kiss, but if you feel it's right, then go for it.
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"This is a serious question and i would like serious answers"
For almost a week my boyfriend has been asking me if he could put it in my butt. I kept telling him no, it will hurt ect. but he keeps asking. Finally i told him i would let him "try" on Valentines day, and i let him down and he got mad. Last night me and him had sex and i told him i was going to let him do it this time, so he waiting till after i came, and tried to put it in there but i stopped him because the lub felt nasty. Now this morning he's calling me a bitch and saying i should die. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do about him. any advice? (link)
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He's using you for sex. A man who treats you like that only wants sex from you.
he has no respect for you common wants and needs, and you should drop him quickly and timely.
You don't need someone like that in your life.
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My girlfriend and I broke up today. We are both 15 and have been going out for over 11 months. To me that is a long time to have a relationship with someone then just break up. The break-up itself happened with her dumping me, but later on she wanted to try to make things work, and make things better again. The problem is i kindof rejected it. I love her still, and i would be happy with going back out with her. But i look into the future and say to myself,"once the begining of this break up is over and the hard times are done, i know i wont have to deal with any girl problems, i can do whatever i want, etc. NO problems period". Right now i am deciding to take my own advice and keep broken up. Its hard. So, advicenator viewers, PLEASE HELP ME ON HOW TO GET OVER HER, PLEASE GIVE ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO GET THROUGH THE HARD TIMES. AND ALSO REMIND ME OF THE BENIFITS OF FINALLY BEING OVER HER. Please just tell me the things i want to hear, but that are true at the same time. Also, she is hurt that i rejected her trying to get back together, which also makes it hard on me. I dont like the fact that i basically broke her heart......Thanks to all that help me out:-) (link)
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Generally, if you were in a good relation ship and it sounds like you were, it takes about half the time you two were going out for you to get over her. That's the average.
The best way to get her off your mind? Occupy yourself by doing the things you like.
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i want to give my boyfriend a sexy strip dance but I don't wanna look stupid you know? anybody have any pointers? thanks (link)
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As long as you just remove all particles of your clothing for him, you can't fuck up.
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I am having problems with a few things, but they all relate to paranoid tendencies.
At night, I have the feelings of someone trying to break in, or am scared that I am not going to wake up if we get broke into, or a fire breaks out.
Another problem, I am paranoid that my husband is cheating on me. Also, that he is trying to poison me to get me out of the way. I know that sounds nuts, but this is how I feel. It also feels like a conspiracy theory at times. I am always sick, and seem to be getting worse so. (I have been to doctors and had blood work, no problems with that).
Here's my question, does anyone know of any ways to help conquer, overcome, or cope with paranoid tendencies? Any help is appreciated, experienced or at least some knowledge is preferred.
Thanks. (link)
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You need to firstly figure out where these problems arose from.
You can't begin to fix them if you don't know where they started. Get back to me on that
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do guys prefer "down there" shaved or not shaved while fingering? i know ure going to say some guys like this and others like that, but which is more prefered?
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Shaved. With hair... go for the trimmed runway look.
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started talking to rob two months ago. he moved an hour away but we manage to stay together, and hang on weekends. its ben rocky lately because hes extremely jealous and its so bad that its to the point where he is mean sometimes.i want to show him im only interested him him, i was thinking about getting him a few nice sweatshirts or whatever. is it too soon, would he be weirded out?
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That'd be fine. Two months is just fine.
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Where can i find some factual information on vampires? I know they are fictional characters, but any information from people that THINK they have come across a vampire? (online preferably) (link)
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I'm a vampire.
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