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handling bullying
okay so there is this girl who ive had problems with for a long time and i used to have this great way opf dealing with her, everything she said i would laugh at i blew her off like she was a joke and it worked. it pissed her off like crazy and she never messed with me. but somehow this year i lost myself and i let he step on me again. now she treats me like im a joke and makes fun of me constantly and i don't know how to handle it.
i tried everything. i tried working it out, ignoring her, fighting, talking to the school, fight, going back to laughing at her, and just confronting her but she is impossible to get through to she makes it this huge drama with everyone involved. but i don't really know how to anymore. i did this over a 2 year span so i really did my best at all of those options
she's causing alot of stuff for me i don't know how to handle it! she will never stop i want to make it so she doesnt get to me anymore but i don;t know how. what do i do?
i know this sounds really immature and stupid, but im 17 and pretty mature for my age, im really passive and don't like to fight but this just gets to me alot.
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You may be passive and not like to fight but that's your problem. You aren't an Alpha, like this bully is trying to display and assert upon you, you're a beta, who takes it all in and while you don't like it, you aren't striving enough to do anything to fix it.
It's best to view it as if this were caveman days, or how a pack of dogs works.
In a group there will always be the assumed alpha position, and someone will take that spot - always.
Now, what is happening to you here, where before you laughed off this person trying to be big and bad, now you're taking it as if you're beta again, since they recognize this, they are asserting theirselves on you again - make this stop.
How? It's time to go caveman, to put it quite frankly. If nothing else works, fuck telling your parents, you're 17 going on 18, you're almost an adult yourself.
Why tell an adult when you're about to be one?
EVERY time this person decides to start shit with you begin to pummel their asses, who gives a fuck what happens?
If you get in trouble, so do they.
If you do this repeatedly the person who is tormenting you is going to realize
"If I talk shit to this person then it will lead to a confrontation that will also lead to me getting hit. EVERY TIME."
It doesn't matter who the person is, if they understand every time they confront you there will be a fight, they'll cut that shit out and soon.
Pay no attention to consequences, if they can't realize a conclusion when you've been mature about the situation for two years now, then it's time to go caveman.
If you are actually scared to get in a fight with this person, fear not.
A tip to fighting a person, and getting an upperhand without even hitting them is this
--The person who acts or seems the craziest, the most intense, and the most in control, all ready has the upperhand.--
If you are going to start a fight, take the nearest shit around you and fucking knock it down. You need to go fucking ape-shit on this person. If you start charging them, and you knocking anything and everything in front of you out of the way, that's one mental mind fuck for the receiving end. Hell, be loud, scream a little, be INTENSE.
From now on you're alpha, and this little bitch is taking the backseat and becoming beta. If they want to test your authority, your dominance, try to dethrone you, show them with force that they're in no position to try and make any kind of move towards that direction.
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The exact same thing happened to me - except it was a lot worse and me and the main bully used to be best friends.
What you gotta do is talk to your parents about it. It might seem childish, but it's the only way to go right now.
Maybe you and your parents should have a meeting with her and her parents to work things out between the both of you.
Right now, that seems like the only possible solution...
That's what happened in my situation and now we're friends again. She hasn't bothered me since.
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Oh man! That sounds alot like the situation I was in in school! Well one of the main reasons people are bullies is because they're bullied too. That's all they know. Now with that in mind, try to show her that what she says or does doesn't effect you. If she puts her hands on you however, you need to get that taken care of by the school or the police. But when she acts like that around you just act like you didn't hear her or just pretend what she just said was so stupid and immature. That's how I solved the bully problem in school for me. Hope it works for you!
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