So i asked this guy out cuz i really like him, and he likes me. He says yes and the next day, hes a ootal jerk. I was just wondering what im supposed to do, beacause i really like him. (P.s. please dont trash talk him, because hes my boyfriend)
See. This behaviour is totally normal with guys. I am also in love with a girl and we fight everyday. The best part of our fights is that after the fight we try to console the other person. We try to make each other feel well. If you love him and he loves you back, it should be known to you. Otherwise it's completely normal. You just keep hanging out with him. It's his young energetic mind that is making you worry. Don't worry.
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There is this boy in my class who always insults me for to me unknown reason.I never did anything to him,I didn't even notice he was there until he started insulting me.Of course I didn't keep quiet,I insulted him back and stuff.Then I tried to ignore him.Then I tried to reason with him.Nothing worked.We're very different by the way...I'm the smart and pretty one(not being egoistical here) and he's a troublemaker,he drinks and smokes a lot,also has bad grades...but from 23 other girls in class he's picking only on me.I don't think he likes me cause if a guy likes a girl he'd never treat her that way.But I don't understand why he acts the way he does.He claims that I'm ridiculous and he never looks at himself first.
If you are very disappointed by his remarks or even if you are not, there's one great way out.
Listen to this very carefully. Whenever he says something bad about you, then you should say that yes, you're like that. For instance, if he ever says that you aren't beautiful (which i don't think is true! Ain't i right?! ), then you should say that yes, i know that i am very ugly. I am uglier than the ugliest. And that i shouldn't live with this face. I am very much ashamed with this kind of ugly face. Be sure to repeat that word ugly (or whatever word HE mentioned to bully you or make you feel bad) and this will surely make him feel that he did very wrong in saying that stuff to you. Then he will apologise. He may not apologise for the first time. But i am sure he will. Because at the first time he will be surprised and would still be in confusion that whether you are really disappointed or you are just joking). But it will surely help.
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for the past 2 1/2 weeks, i've been a total mess. especially at school, any little thing will set me off. i'll get really pissed off, yell at people, and today i hit my friend in the face and he cut his lip. i'm walking around just hating everything and everyone, wishing everything would just go away. i'd been eating a lot more than usual, but then today i wasn't hungry at all. not only am i mad, i'm sad. someone will say or do something that'll make me sad. i've been crying uncontrollably a lot. today during one class, i had to sniff back tears at least 5 times. i have no idea whats going on with me. nothing is wrong at my house. my grades are starting to suffer because of it. its like i'm either depressed or angry all the time. i'm mean to everyone and driving away all my friends and my boyfriend. but at the time when i'm pissing off someone, i'm trying to. i want them to leave. but then later i'll feel bad and hate myself.
i've been depressed before, but this is different. its a lot worse. i'm also thinking about suicide or running away. but, again, i have no idea where these moods or thoughts came from. nothing is wrong, but everything is wrong. can someone help?
Well, this is exactly what had sometimes happened to me. I wanted to suicide at times. This is quite normal at teenage. Do the following-
1. Don't panic. Stay calm. It will make room for solutions to creep in.
2. Talk to the people whom you, in some way or the other, hurt. I know that you are the one most hurt, but talking to them will help you more than you can imagine.
3. You can always share these things with your parents. They will offer you help. But, if you don't want them to interfere, don't tell them.
4. Act before the situation gets worst. Meet your friend whom you hit on the face, say sorry, and tell her/him why you had been acting so strange, and that you really need her help.
5. DON'T THINK OF SUICIDING! According to me suicide is the worst thing one can do for Him/HERSELF. Your parents will regret. And on the top of all, your life is very very very important. Not only for you, for your parents, relatives, friends and all those who are connected to you, significantly or insignificantly.
6. Do yourself. Do that one thing which will make you happiest than ever! It will make you get out of that depression state very effectively.
Note - Work out these things seriously, see the magic and tell me about your experiences. I am sure you will get out of this trauma very soon.
Your sincere friend,
akshay
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