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Q: ok theres this kid at ma skool who always calls me fat n im not im like 105 lbsn front of his friends cuz he likes me he told my friend thats his way of showing he likes me but wats a realli good comeback to say to him n front of every1 to embarrass him cuz its gettin on my nerves...hes like 5*7 realli skinny n hes black...thanx! ill rate you a 5 for answering!

Tell him you may be fat, but that you hear he likes something to hold on to. You'll embarrass him so bad... Or just offer him half your lunch so he can catch up, slim. Don't be hateful or hurtful. That won't solve anything. You KNOW you aren't fat, so play with him a bit. If he likes you, it won't take much to make him blush.

Q: whats a good new change for me ... i wanna change my look .. my pics are on www.fallingtears.piczo.com ..

Well, you are already adorable! Whatever you do, don't get bangs. You don't have the right kind of face for it. I like the way you part it in the front now. If you want to change colours, I think darker is best. Going too blonde wouldn't suit you at all. Maybe a dark auburn or even BLACK. If you want to change your hair length, some layers might look nice, but I think you would look cute with a shorter, sleeker cut. Something a little other-worldly or even gothic. Don't perm it, I don't see curls suiting you. What kind of look are you wanting to go for? Anything drastic?

Q: hey u kno how some people talk about a grl like having numbers sumthin like 36/25/34 or suntin like that?? what do those numbers mean?????

The first number is her bust size in inches around the largest part of her bossom. The second number is the inches around her waist. The last is, you guessed it, the measurement around her hips.

OH and BTW 36-24-36 is only perfect if she's 5'3" :)

Q: Is it true that if u get your hair thinner at a salon then the next time it gets even thicker? or what happens..n how much does it cost. ty

The amount of hair growing out of your head is constant no matter what you cut. If you want your hair to appear thicker and healthier, just regularly trim the split ends every other month. This prevents the hair from breaking too far up the strand and destroying your "do." The only way to really get thicker hair is to take hair/skin/nail vitamins. Products like Rogaine don't even thicken your hair, they just prevent further loss of active follicles.

OK, you just replied to me, with a one rating:

okay that didnt even answer my fucking question. go back and read it again i was asking the total opposite. thanks for nothin.

I don't appreciate the foul language, first of all. Second of all, please phrase your question better, and it might not be misunderstood. Third of all, if you apply general logic to my answer, it DOES answer your question. You asked if it grows back thicker. I told you that your hair CAN'T get thicker unless you do the following BLAH BLAH BLAH. The idea that cutting hair makes it thicken is an old wives tale. Instead of worrying about your hair, work on your shitty attitude instead.

Q: Is it ok to flush a pad down the toilet?

Only if said toilet is in a public restroom owned by a company you wish ill things upon.

Q: i've just made my bestfriend hella mad any general advice to make everything better?

Figure out what you did to upset your friend, feel bad, and give a HEARTFELT apology. Don't do anything like this again. If s/he doesn't accept your apology, then just give him/her space until it blows over.

Q: hey,
does any one know a place where i can get those livestong things? i know they come in purple, yellow and pink, do u know any others???? ( i rate high)

Look at your local Big 5 or mall.

Q: I have started my period and, everytime one of my friends start we all tell each other....BUT, im sordive embarressed to tell them should I tell them or not?

SIGNED,
kRISSY

Your business is yours. If you don't feel comfortable sharing that info, then don't. Just because they have no modesty doesn't mean you need to announce your body's changes. Do what feels right.

Q: everyone tells me im a slut...even tho im not at all just because i wear slutty clothes...how can i make them stop

When it looks like an apple, people expect it to taste like an apple. If you want to portray a different image of yourself, change the way you dress. If you like how you dress, then learn to ignore the snatchpatties that are calling you names. Unfortunately, in this world, especially in school, people are quick to label others. Learn to work with it or ignore it, you cannot change it.

Q: This is gonna be sorta long!

Ok My bird named Babe is a Male Cocketiel and a friend of me and my moms told us that they had a female and that they were looking for a male to mate with her. Well we told them that we would give it a try between Babe and there female, And now she is at our house and has been for a week. Babe likes her and all but he doesent like her going in his cage, so we are planning on mating them in her cage....Well they havent mated yet because we dont have a nest but Babe doesent realy show signs if wanting to mate to her and all, Does anyone have some pointers for me?

Turn the lights low, put on some soft music, maybe pop open a bottle of champagne... j/k, you need to research the mating habits of these birds. I recommend going to Google.com and typing in "cocketiel breeding" and following your nose to the answers.

Q: okay well.. im straight edge... and i didnt want to have sex. and hes older. and i told him it was ok,. weve been together 7 months. i guess i thought i wouldnt mind? or maybe i thought he wouldnt do it. but he did. and now i just dont know if i can trust him. or if i should try and get revenge. and it sucks cause the girl was/is? my friend and i told him how much i hated when the would flirt. so i just dont know what to do? should i dump him? should i ignore it? pretend not to care? get revenge? any advice at all would be great.
--thanks

If you told him it was OK, then you CAN'T get revenge and you really have no right to be angry. You have the right to have your feelings, but if you act on that anger, it's very irresponsible. In the future, learn from your mistake and apply what you have learned to your relationships. You can't blame the man for doing what you gave permission for. The fact he asked you first and got permission tells me you CAN trust him, too.

Q: This is probably going to sound weird but...
I love my boyfriend so badly, we're not really in a deep passionate relationship or anything, I'm only 13. I know he doesn't love me, and I don't expect him to, it's just, I love him so much sometimes it makes me cry. He doesn't know I feel like this, I don't want to tell him cause I know it'll scare him off. We keep messing around and planning our future and things, names for our children and where we will live etc and even though I know it wont really happen, I so want it to, sometimes I lose myself in the game and forget it's just that. A game. I'm letting myself fall too deep and I'm getting lost.

Hon, I felt the same way at your age. Get ready for a little hurt, it's part of growing up. Try not to let him know, because you're right, it will terrify him. Just enjoy his company and have your fantasies and see where you end up when all is said and done. Live day to day, that's all you can do!

Q: Why do people answer questions, just to say they don't know, or to ask somebody else?

Why do people answer questions they obviously, from their answers, don't have a clue about?

They probably do it to raise their question count. It's really quite unethical.

Q: i have this dog who is two years old, and i love him sooo much. the problem is, he has gotten my other dog pregnant twice, and each tie we had a horrible time trying to give the puppies away. My parents are furious, and they want to castrate him. i just cant bear the though of him losing his gender! just in case any of you know, what happens when you castrate a dog? are there any side effects?

You need to get BOTH of your dogs fixed. The only negative side effect to this procedure is possible weight gain. Your dogs will be calmer, better behaved, and NO MORE PUPPIES. All pet owners should have their animals fixed unless they are breeders. Every year, in my city ALONE, there are over 6000 animals put to death because of overpopulation. Nobody wants them, they die. It is because of irresponsible pet owners allowing their pets to have offspring that can't get a proper home. Please, I beg you, fix your animals and help stop this horrible situation. Animals are dying and they count on US to make mature and responsible decisions.

Q: I am 13/f. Ever since I have been dating my boyfriend, I have been thinking things I really shouldn't be thinking. I keep getting all these...desires to do things to him. I shouldn't be thinking things like that, I'm only 13!!! How do I stop?

It is perfectly normal and healthy at this age for you to feel the urges and have the thoughts that you do. It is important that you educate yourself on how to respond to these thoughts and feelings responsibly. You need to decide how far you are willing to go and make boundaries for yourself. Practice self discipline and let your boyfriend know where your boundaries lie. If you do decide to become sexually active, please educate yourself on forms of birth control and STD protections and how to use them properly. I highly recommend using condoms, as they provide protection from both pregnancy and disease, spermicidal is best. Make sure you READ THE DIRECTIONS, don't count on homeboy to do it. Men can be remarkably stupid about things when aroused. It is important that the condom be used correctly to prevent breaking. Good luck, be safe!

Q: what happens during a gyno appt.?

Don't worry, your appointment will not hurt you or be too intrusive, but it will be a bit embarrassing. Your doctor will not mention whether or not you are a virgin or anything like that. He/She will probably give you a breast exam by pressing gently down on your breasts and feeling for lumps. S/he will then carefully insert either a speculum or a tube into your vagina. If the tube is used, it has a hole at the end so the doctor can swab your cervix for a pap smear. If the speculum is used, the doctor will open you up wider with it and take a pap smear that way. The tube is more comfortable but neither should hurt you. The pap smear really doesn't hurt at all, it just feels a little weird. They will make sure you don't have any diseases or infections. They test the pap smear to make sure you don't have STDs or cervical cancer. If your doctor is male, he will never be alone with you, they require a female nurse in the room at all times during your exam, so you can feel safe. Good luck.

Q: well my mom was tellin me we would have to go to the gyno really soon.whats an normal age to go to the gyno.sry i dont know much about this

You should begin seeing an OB/GYN as soon as you become sexually active, if you are using birth control pills or shots, or when you turn 18, whichever happens first. That is the general guideline recommended by the Surgeon General.

Q: please dont delete this question..id really like 2 kno. well im a freshman in high school and ive been having my period since the middle of my 7th grade year. my friend told me that she had discharge before her period but then it stopped. i still have discharge. is there something wrong?

This discharge is called cervical mucous. It serves several purposes. It is there to clean your vagina constantly by moving out bacteria. It also serves as lubricant during intercourse and as a medium sperm can swim through to impregnate you. Having this is perfectly normal. As a matter of fact, NOT having it for at least a week between periods is a sign of possible hormonal imbalances. Your friend should see a doctor, or she may be prone to infections.

Q: ok i got this bacterial infection in my throat adn i was prescribed pills but i dont care much for them. i took them how i was suposed to for a week and i have like a bunch left but i feel fine, should i continue taking them even tho i feel fine?

Finish taking them. Your body needs all the anitibiotics in order to keep the disease from coming back. If you do not finish them, they may not work the next time you get an infection.

Q: i've been eating a lot of candy for like the past 3 days, pretty much all ive ate was candy and chocolates and soda, n the only food was pizza and a hot dog. me and my parents are like 99% sure that i have diabetes and ive heard that one of the things that will happen to you when you have diabetes is mouth pain and i always have mouth pain, i have to tak 3 aspirins every morning so it wont hurt in school. so we thought it was a cavitty and we went to the dentist and there was nothing on the x ray so now were like positive its diabetes. anyways, today my mouth was hurting really bad so i took 4 aspirins and i couldnt take the pain and that hasnt helped so i took one more and it still was hurting so i went to go brush my teeth and wen i spit out blood came out and i checked my gums to see if they were just bleeding from the toothbrush and they werent so i just spit and blood came out in this thick mucus (sorry if thats gross) so i was kind of worried then it still hurt so i took 2 more aspirins cause the pain was unbearable. so basically i have taken 7 asprins and i only weigh 100 pounds, im really scared but no ones home and im scared to go to a neighbor or call 911..and i really dont want to puke, do you think ive over dosed or anything please help

It is unlikely that overdosing in such a small way on aspirin will do anything but cause you a bit of a stomach ache. Doing this often can lead to ulcers as it will damage your stomach lining. You may not have diabetes. It is more likely you have periodontitis, which is caused by not taking proper care of your teeth. You need to stop eating candy if you think you have diabetes and you need to get to a doctor and get a blood glucose test to determine if that's what's wrong with you.