A few details about myself,I am 82 years young,retired at 77years and now enjoy being a columnist although I have not contributed much so far,and bye the way i am English.
I am married and my wife is a young bird 76 years and we are in our 57th year of marriage.
We started early as she was 11 years old and I was 15 because my sister married her brother and in the early days we used to wrestle over comics (we got off over doing this which we did not admit until many years later as it was not the done thing in our days),We spent a lot of time together in air raid shelters with the womenfolk as the bombing was very ferocious.
I was called into the Army at 18 years and served with The British Army and also with the Indian in Burma and also sometime with Vinegar Joe Stilwells American Forces where the fighting and conditions were horrendous but the comradeship of all nations were unbelievable.
I arrived back home in 1947 and the reason for being late after the war finished is that I joined one of the searcher teams looking for evidence as to the fate of 330,000 prisoners of War and Civilian Internees missing believed killed.
I married in 1947 and we have 4 children and now are looking for things to do and probably bring a little joy or comfort to our correspondents
Gender: Male
Location: England
Occupation: Retired
Age: 82
Member Since: February 23, 2004
Answers: 31
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Most people assume that a couple got in a fight if one of them goes to the couch. That is not the case with us. My husband snores sometimes, but hasn't been lately, but when he was, he would go to the couch so he wouldn't bother me. Now he claims he is used to the couch, and falls asleep faster there than on our bed, which is queen-sized. Also, he insists on putting the ceiling fan on when it's not even hot, and I don't like it, so he sleeps on the couch with an electric fan blowing on him. I was just wondering, is this healthy and normal? Am I the only one whose spouse does this? I worry about him wrecking his back sleeping on a narrow couch, and wrecking the couch as well. What do you think? I don't think I do anything to bother him when he is sleeping with me, so what can it be? (link)
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I Have slept on a couch purely out of sympathy for waking my wife when I go out at 5am in the morning fishing but any other time it has been doghouse.
Have you really sat down and got down to the nitty gritty as to why he prefers a couch to a queen sized bed,I would also be interested in his answer.
As for the electric fan blowing all night, i'll pass on that one
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i need alot of advise from a lot of peoples b/c there is a boy and if you remember me his name is cody i dont know if he likes me or not b/c he broke his arm over the weekend and when we got to school he didnt let anyone sign it until i did exept his mom now im only in middle so try to give the best advice and thanx for gitten my head straight bout the joke~ (link)
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If you are No:-2 on his plaster list what are you worrying about,you are home and dry,if you are too shy to tell him slip him a note detailing your feelings,I am positive you will get the reaction you want.
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Greetings, it's me, the advicenator_admin. Lately I've been receiving more requests to have people monitor the site for unsuitable content. Some people would rather give bad advice. I haven't cared much before, I mean, annoying questions are a problem because everyone reads those, but not everyone reads every advice column so who cares how bad it is? I look at advice columns like your own websites... unless it's really hateful, I see no need to try to ban people. Plus, so far when a columnist joins and decides it's funny to slam everyone and be mean, they've gotten sick of it after ten questions or so. No need to pick a fight when they're dropping out anyway.
What do you all think? Should we ban people with really awful columns? Not display columnists with really low ratings? Ignore everything, and just let the site run free? I want to know what everybody thinks. (link)
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I am rather old,80 years to be precise also from a different country and find all the correspondents very interesting and although some may sound petty all deserve an answer which does not ridicule the sender because one does not know what is behind the question which maybe a cry for some sympathetic and friendly help and advice.
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life is lonleyness
death is happieness
for me this is what i feel
thoughts of suicide
day and night
should i make teh cut
or use those tylenol pills
rope sounds good
but the gun maybe faster
there are many more ways
that i could say
but the one for me is not today
for i will be strong
for who knows how much longer
many times i cant go on
so a cut here
a cut there
to help me on
now my wounds
will have some time to heal
though the thoughts are still
waking me up at night
i am strong
but for how long (link)
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Go quietly along the roads
that run from day to day
don't run blindly ahead
or you will lose your way
missing all the warning signals
tearing past the place
where you ought to take a turn
I'ts life I'ts not a race.
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I have liked this guy for a really long time and i really want to go out with him. He really likes me too. The problem is neither one of us is brave enough to ask the other one out. So do you think i should make the first move or wait for him. I hear him talking about me all the time. What should i do? (link)
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Write down your feelings on paper and drop it through his letter box, at least it will be a start and maybe get conversation going or he may develope into your penpal.
Best of luck
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Should I tell him I snooped? And should I be suspicious? I have no reason to think he'd cheating, but still, I wonder... This #'s were in his contacts list. (link)
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Marriage is all about love and trust which does not appear to be working with your goodself.
If you can sit down and admit to yourself that he has not given you any reason to snoop on his mobile then you must have an unreasonable jealous streak which if not corrected could lead you to sorting out his pockets next.
Put it all behind you Gal and forget it you know it makes sense.
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What do you do if you know a family member is having an affair and the wife has no idea why he is ending a 30 year marriage. Do you tell her or do you keep your mouth shut and let him hang himself? (link)
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This is very sad because at least after thirty years they could of at least got over there 7 year itches 4 times over but whilst saying that it is very sensitive to advise or split to one or the other because I have known some terrible scenes when this has happened and mainly it has been started by the married couple in question jointly telling the informer to mind his own business and go or words to that effect.
Be wary my friend
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Okay this might sound kinda wierd but here it goes. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and I can't take it any more. I am in love just not with my husband. I still love my ex more than anything in this world and I don't know how to deal with it. We still see eachother all the time. Him and my husband work together. I see him every day. We even had an affair. Mynhusband knew the whole time and now he has found a girkfriend and wants us to stop seing each other. He has been with her for 2 months and I am so jelouse of her. What can I do?? (link)
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In this day and age it is a wonder to me how you manage to complicate your lives so much, is there a school which fundamentally teaches you to f--- up your lives or does it just come natually.
If you are going to grasp the nettle then you going to get stung so sit down take a deep breath and work out what you want in life.
Being on this earth far longer than you can hope for at your present pace look for your own way out
We all wish secretly that we be fast and loose and play the field but there is a life to live and other peoples feelings to consider so plan what you really want to do,stick to it and make yourself happy and everyone else the same
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lately i cant wait to grow up. like i cant wait to get my period, i cant wait to become a teenager, i cant wait to go to colledge, i cant wait to get married, i cant wait to have kids, i cant wait to drive, like all of that stuff! does this mean anything?
*lauve645* (link)
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It definately means that you are going to have a very wasted life because with this attitude you are going to rush through it and not notice all the beautiful things that surround you.
Take you time enjoy everything because you are
only here once.
As an 80 year old listen to you elders, learn how to live through their errors and if they are like me there has been plenty, don't rush and good luck
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I have 2 questions. First, I know my husband will never do anything to hurt me, but i've been through so much in my past relationships and I've put my husband through so much in the past four years. And I am so insecure, I know he won't hurt me, but how do i get over being insecure and let myself be happy and learn to trust him?
second, is it right for a married man to talk to other women via email? (link)
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Your insecurety is all about trust and so is your happiness which you seem to be wallowing in at the moment, and dwelling on past relationships is the topping on your mountain of misery.
Get a life woman and do something you younger generation has failed to learn the art of doing is sit down and talk to your husband about your fears etc, then work together on solving the problems which you will find is petty,
With regards to e mailing women I have been married 57 years and I am e mailing you
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HELLO! MY QUESTION IS I'AM STRUGGLING WITH MY WEIGHT.I WEIGHT IN AT 222POUNDS.DO YOU HAVE ANY INFORMATION YOU CAN GIVE ME ON THIS MATTER. (link)
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By just giving your weight alone makes it difficult to answer because if you are 6'-6" it could not be a problem but if you were 4'-6" then you should be worrying.
There are all types of remedies on the market but the cheapest one is EAT LESS and EXERCISE MORE.
You know it makes sense
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