I love helping other people with their problems, which is why I decided to start an advice column of my own! So if you ever need advice on almost anything, you can ask me! ^_^
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Location: Florida
Age: 15
Member Since: December 25, 2003
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Last Update: December 21, 2004
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Hi see my sister and mother usally take the computer during the day, but when their not on I can. When ever myturn comes up they say 30 min.
How can I get them to let me on during the day , and some at night?
again thanks -Jenni-
ps I have msn Instant messanger, don't know about Aol??will that work? do u have msn? (link)
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You can ask them to let you on more. That's the only way to get them to let you on more.
AOL messangers can instant message AOL Instant Messanger (AIM) users, and vice versa. And Nope I don't have MSN Messanger.
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Hi again Thanks for the the advice,see I'm homeschooled and I don't hardly get out much well besides going to my grandparents . If I am homeschooled and hardly go any where, how can I make friends that good as u? I think I aready feel better . U are a sweet person.
-JayJay- (link)
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Oooh, I think I'm understand where you're coming from now! Okay, although some of the things I mentioned may not be possible now, there's still other ways to make friends.
OPTION 1
Do you live in a neightborhood with lots of other kids? Or at least in a community with lots of kids? Maybe you could go outside when they're outside and introduce yourselves to them?
OPTION 2
Try going to the mall or other place with a friend you already have! Then meet people there. I've met half my friends by going to the mall, just go into a store you like and more than likely you'll run into someone who likes that store too and that will give you something to strike a conversation!
OPTION 3
Even though real friends won't match up to this, why not try internet friends until you meet other ones that you can be with? Try making some friends online in a chatroom with the topic of your interest, or a message board of the topic of interest, or other things? I know this isn't a very good option because nothing can compare to real life friends, but it's an alternative until you can make some new friends. Hey why not befriend ME?! If you have AOL Instant Messanger then instant message me at oXDark x LightXo !!
Again, I'm really sorry if this wasn't of much help. Just write again if you need more help.
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Hi my name is Jenipher, Jenni for short, I met this guy when I was 14, he lives in Flordia. And we got very close, no we didn't have it ,but I feel like my life fell apart when he left. I live in Kentucky and well his name is Ryan. Now I'm 15 and I still miss him ALOT! and I always hope that he'll come back to Teen Camp, But he never dose , Help me get over him Please!!!!!!
Bye -JayJay- (link)
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Dear Jenni,
There's really nothing I can do to help you get over him, this is all within your mind and heart. It may be hard to get over someone that leaves you. Do you have his phone number, address, messanger screen name? You can still talk to him through there. But to be completely honest, the only way to get over him is if you let yourself get over him. There's still a part of you holding onto him, and the only way to get completely over him is to let go of these feelings. It's very hard, I know very few, if no one that can ease their pain over someone lost so easily. It may be hard, the most you might get is just to surpress them, but this is all just in your mind and heart. You just have to try to stop thinking of him. I'm sorry there's nothing much I can do.
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Hi I'm JayJay and really could use ur advice on how to get some friends, I'm 15 too and live in Kentuckey , sorry if I spelled it wrong, I'm a female, My friends at my school don't respect me enough , so they leave me behind, and don't wait for me and never belive me. What shouls I do??
thanks Bye (link)
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Dear JayJay,
There are several ways to obtain new friends.
OPTION 1
You can join some extracurricular activites that you like after school, like for example my school has Mu Alpha Theta (Math Club), Quill and Scroll (Poetry Club), Spanish Club, etc. I'm sure your school has lots of activites you can do. If you join one, you'll be with lots of people who join the share interest as you (assuming you join a club you're interested in) and you can make friends there.
OPTION 2
Try to introduce yourselves to others. Whenever you see someone you think you could be friends with, just hop on over to him/her and introduce yourself to him/her. Talk about things that interest you and see if you have anything in common. Don't be shy, that's how I made several new friends this school year.
OPTION 3
Sometimes I like to bring something to school that will attract attention of other people (like a stuffed animal!! =) ) Why not bring something that express yourself, and will also get others attention? That will sure strike up a conversation with some people!
I've mentioned only 3 of the infinite number of things you can do, I'm sure you can think of some too. If your friendsa always leave you, and don't show you respect, then they're not worth your time and trouble. Just make new friends by either one of the ways I said above or your own way!
[If this wasn't helpful then just write again.]
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WOW you give some really good advice! I'm advice~gurl and I really like the Quote you wrote on one of your answers. Its so cool! "You'll regret what you may do now, but you'll regret what you don't do so much more"
do you know who said that? Because that is one of the best quotes i've heard. I know this may sound weird but i'm trying to write down all my favorite quotes and poems in a note book. Okay you may laugh now. *turns red*
anyways just wondering if you knew who said that quote.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat (link)
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Thank you! =).. and about that quote, I'm not sure who said that. I just read that off some website a couple years back. I'm sorry.
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Hi, I've had this crush on this guy for almost 3/4's of this school year now. It started out in the beginning of the year that he hated me, but now it seems as if he might like me. Sometimes he sends me signals, while sometimes he still acts like he hates me. I am very confused, and not ready to make the jump of asking him cause if I am mistaken, It would ruin any friendship existence and just cause utter chaos *not worth it*. So PLEASE help *begs* (link)
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Half the time a person acts is due to them supressing contradicting emotions. For example, a girl might treat a boy horribly because she doesn't want to admit she likes him, same with the other way. He might actually like you, but is covering it up with hatred. My advice would be to try and go for it. Here's a quote that I love..
"You'll regret what you may do now, but you'll regret what you don't do so much more"
If you don't feel comfortable asking him yourself, why not try having one of your friends, or one of his friends ask him for you? It'll save you from being embarrased if that's what you're worried about. There's nothing to be ashamed of though, it's all part of the risk of love.
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I've been married for almost 7 years and have one child who is almost 5. I'm 35, female, and I hate my body. I had a round belly when I got married, but now, in addition to that, I have this roll around my middle, and no waist. I have a hard time following strict diets that involve a lot of restrictions and strenuous exercise. I also have cellulite on my thighs, but I mostly want to get rid of the excess flab around my waist and tummy. Also, I think I might be pregnant because I've been feeling dizzy and nauseous for weeks. I've taken two tests, but they came back negative because I think I took them too early. I forgot how many weeks it's been since I stopped my birth control. I'm going to take another test in another week. Is there a diet that is safe to do during pregnancy? I know this is a lot of info, but if anybody can help me, I would really appreciate it. If I am pregnant, I'm afraid of gaining even more weight during my pregnancy. Help! (link)
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First of all, dieting is not the answer. All dieting does is get you fatter. Your metabolism slows down because you're not eating as much, and your body doesn't want to eat your insides. So then once you eat a little more then you've restricted, your metabolism doesn't work fast enough to digest the food and it stores the excess food as fat.
Second of all, do you think it's really possible to get pregnant without gaining weight?
Third, why stop birth control pills? All that will do is get you pregnant.
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See, I am in the seventh grade and I have alot of enemies . Like some people say and talk behind my back . See, I'm not popular and I don't want to be because, there are a bunch of girls and boys talking behind each others backs . See those people joke on me . I know I shouldn't respond, but I do . What are they intimidated by me or is it something wrong with me ? They say that I'm smart but I always want more for myself and I expect others to want whats best for them . I really don't care what the others want , I care about what I want . I am nice to those I don't even like . Why are they this way towards me ? What have I done to the girls and guys at my school? I speak my mind and they try to persecute you for this . Don't you just hate it ? Peace .
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Some people are just snobby. And unfortunately, you go to a middle school filled with those type of people. You shouldn't let them bother you though, all that matters is what YOU think. If they talk about you behind your back, make fun of you, call you names, whatever, then just disregard it. You're better then them since you're not that way back to them. So try to just ignore them because you shouldn't let them bother you at all.
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See, I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me . I don't want to ask him because, he's really proud and he can sometimes be a jerk . He's never been a jerk to me though, but one of my friends asked him if he liked me , and he supposedly called me ugly which lead to no . I have tried to get over him and at times I think I'm over him . So when I pay him no attention it's like he's paying me attention, and I totally get pulled back into liking maybe loving him because this has been going on for a year . Do you think maybe I have a chance with this guy . Do you think that I or maybe he is playing a game ? What should I do? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE IF I THINK ABOUT THIS ANY LONGER , I AM GOING TO DO SOMETHING REALLY, REALLY STUPID . (link)
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If he is a jerk then do you really think he's worth it? If he called you ugly then do you think he's good at heart? If you answered yes to both of these questions then go for it. But if I were you then I'd definitely not take that risk of getting hurt.
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At first, this problem seems simple. In my Journalism class, we have a Journalism website. A girl in the class had 5 weeks to write her column. At the very last minute, she asks someone to write it for her. Simple solution for me, right? Just rat her out! Wrong. The girl who wrote the column for the slacker happens to be one of my friends--I sit next to her every day at lunch. What do I do? Do I rat her out, or just keep my peace? (link)
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Since this does not involve you, you should not mention anything to the teacher. Talk to YOUR FRIEND about this and have your friend decided whether or not s/he would want to go with it and do the work or if s/he would prefer to tell the teacher about this.
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My friend is looking for a way to strengthen his legs, arms, and his abdominals. why he asked me, i don't know. because i don't know ANYTHING about these kind of things! So what types of excersizes and such should he do to tune up his somewhat... frail body? (link)
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-Jogging, running, and walking all increase your leg muscles.
-Weight lifting, canoeing, and push ups increase arm muscles
-Crunches, sit ups, and curls increase your abdominals.
These are JUST a FEW ways to tune up though, there are MANY other ways.
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i am not too fat but i want to slim down alittle bit.please how can i do dat (link)
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The only thing to do is exercise. Instead of hitting the snooze button take a jog in the morning. Instead of sitting down to watch TV run a lap. There are several things you can do to lose a little weight. Here's the deal, to lose 1 pound you have to burn 3,500 calories MORE then what you already are burning. So just regulate what you eat, make sure there's not too many calories, and exercise more. That's all!
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My boss is young, quite cool and gay. All of these things are fine by me. However then I found out about his boot fetish. I'm finding it really hard not to mention it or burst out laughing or something equally insensitive.
Any suggestions? (link)
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Then wear boots one day..
NO!! Im just kidding lol!!..
It may be funny, but everyone has something that's funny about themselves or that might get other people to laugh at. You could mention it to him and how it humors you, but don't say it in a way that offends him or makes him feel bad. If you don't want to do that, then you could just not mention it at all. Laugh about it once you get him, get it out of your system before seeing him. After time the humor of it will fade away and it wont be a probem for you anymore.
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All of my friends are really worried about me because I cut myself. My parents don't know I still cut, but they know that I used to. I'm addicted to hurting myself and I don't want to stop. Everyone wants to change me but I refuse to. How do I get everyone to stop trying to get me to change? (link)
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Wow.. just wow.. that's EXACTLY how I was 1 year ago! But i've changed now. Ok here's the deal. Everyone is trying to get you to change because they care about you. They wouldn't try so hard if they don't care, and I know that if one of MY friends was cutting him/herself.. I'd never give up on trying to get them to stop until they do stop. You probably will not be able to get them to stop, unless you stop yourself first.
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Ok, so I am a girl, and I used to hang out with this guy I know. He was really nice, and we are interested in exactly the same things- computers and fantasy. He's a lot older than I am, and not many people his age like those things- they're mostly into makeup, boys, etc. Since he's so much older than I am, it never occured to me that we could be an item- but then one day, he made the love sign to me behind his back! I tried to ask him about it, but it was a total disaster and I probably embarassed him a lot. He denied it, but I think he does like me. What should I do? (link)
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If you're sure he likes you, and if you like him back, then give him a talk. Tell him that you like him a lot, and you know he likes you back. He's probably embarrased because he thinks you don't like him back. If you do like him then maybe it would make him a little more comfortablet open up if you make the first move in telling him you like him.
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I'm 15 and weigh 110 pounds. I think that's OK for me, because I'm about 5'3". But, some of my family thinks that I'm anorexic, just because I don't eat a lot of meat & stuff at family gatherings. Like, my grandma will be like "Oh I'm so glad you're actually eating!" When I'm like the biggest pig! I hate people thinking that I have an eating disorder, what should I do? (link)
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There's nothing you can do to convince them you're not anorexic, except simply tell them you aren't. If you can display to them that you eat sufficiently, there's no reason for them to think that. You just have a high metabolic rate which is why you can eat so much and stay so skinny, and it's why your family is accusing you of being anorexic. Just explain that to them.
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Ok, Im an outcast from just about everyone and its been ok, and I haved lived with that ever since I can remember. Well, for about a year now, Ive been 'depressed' and I have thoughts of suicide and things at least three times a day. Well, for about a week things got to a point where I was happy..then it went right back to the thoughts. Before all this, I would have never conisdered the possibility of suicide or drinking, drugs, etc.. But now It is this way and I dont know what to do to make it better. I dont like to talk to people about anything, nevermind this, but I dunno, I either just want it to end or for it to get better. So is there any way that I can help myself without having to go to anyone else??
Suicidal Imbisile (link)
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There are SEVERAL way's to help yourself without consulting others. Whenever you feel sad or depressed, try doing some of the things you enjoy doing..
~listening to music
~drawing
~writing poetry
~dance
~sing
~etc.
are just a few examples of things you can do. Find something you're good at and makes you happy when you do it, then do it! But really, the *best* way, in my opinion, to help depression, is to actually talk to a friend or a parent. But if you don't want to you can just try doing some of the things that make you happy.
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This boy at school likes me and I know that soon he will tell me his emotions. But like.. I really (will kinda secretly) hate him and am like ewww at him... what do I do?
confused in love (link)
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Well, once he tells you he likes you, just tell him that you're not interested in him. It's better to end this before it even starts.
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i like this boy in my class and thar is this outhe girl that likes hem to but i like hem more he sead that he did not like her but she still wont leave hem a lone he sead he wood reather go out with me then her but not this year what dew i dew when i now he likes me but he wont tack to me i haft to tack to hem and we have a lot in komen but he still wont lisean even thoe he likes me what do i do.
Sinded love is heard (link)
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Is this typed in like some foreign language or something?..
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Okay, lately in school I've been kinda failing. But within the past week I've brought some of my grades from an "F" to a "C" or "D". But, my mom says that if I have any "F"s on my next grade report I can't go on to high school next year. Even though I still have 1 more trimester left. I have 1 "F" and there is no possible way to bring it up because my next grade report comes out next week and the teachers had to turn their grades in yesterday. I really want to go on to high school but I won't be able to with this "F". What should I do?
Grades (link)
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A trimester is enough time to bring your grade up. High school is a bit strict with entry requirements, so yes you might get held back if you get any more F's because it all becomes averaged into a final grade at the end of the school year and you wouldn't want an F for your average. There are a few options you can do..
1) study harder
2) have a friend help you with the work
3) summer school
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