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Q: what is tea bags like when guys say im gonna tea bag you what is it?

You know that weird sack thing, that guys have hanging behind their penies? That's the tea bag.

Tea baggin is them shoving their 'tea bag' in your face, usually inside the mouth. Gross stuff, huh?

Q: Hey!
this guy I like IMed me & was like " hey babe" & when i said i g2g he did the crying face.
Does this mean he likes Me?
ill rate you a 5 if you can help!

sounds like he's being a flirt. Guys who are crushin usually aren't so bold as to start calling a girl 'babe', unless he's conceited. If he likes you, he'll drop more hints.

Q: what are some harmful, long-term effects that alcohol can have on an adolecent who drinks regularly?

lung cancer? HA! that's smoking. I know that drinking may harm the liver and brain, and the younger crowd is more vulnerable than the legal folk

Q: okay so this has been really bothering me *hence, the subject*.. does anyone think it's weird that i'm going to be sixteen and i've never kissed a guy?

I haven't kissed a guy til I was 18 =/
I don't care and I don't know anyone who does. Anyone, who criticizes you for not kissing a boy yet, is just out to get you and has no life.

Q: I don't know what to do anymore. My little brother thinks im pyscho. Today, my mom asked him to take out the trash and walked away. After she left he refused to do it and stated that I should do it because I never do anything. But, I had helped my mom ALL day with getting ready for this garage sale. So, I told him that he should do it because he was told to. He started screaming and freaking out on me. So after like a half hour of that I punched
him. I just can't take it anymore!!! That's the first time i've ever hit him, and I don't even feel bad about it. He's hit me louds so i guess that's why. I don't want to apologize, but how should I handle my anger from now on???

Beatin siblings is always a blast, but they'll use it against you. I suggest mastering the art of ignoring him! I know it's tough, but trust me, nothing will torture him more than having an older sibling who doesn't give an aat's rass about what he's crying about.

He can't force you to do anything, if he throws a punch at you to make you do one of his duties, pin him down and spit on his face or something that he can't rat you out to your mom without sounding like a retard. If he's just mouthing off, just go to your room, read a book, get on the computer, listen to some music and fall asleep.

When your mom discovers that the trash was neglected, it will be his hide not yours.

Q: What is your opinion on PDA? Does it bother you when couples at school kiss? (I'm not talking about making out and getting all over eachother.) What do you consider acceptable to do in public and what should be saved for behind doors?

Simple hand holding and seldom smooches are fine. Excessive hugging tends to make people feel like you're too obsessed to each other.

From my experience, you should still expect criticism, my boyfriend of 3 years and I didn't even kiss til a lil after our 1 year anniversary and people still accused us of being "dirty". =\

Q: i sit with my friend every day on the bus and this kis like sits in the seat next to us and we like talk about stuff but he ALWAYS looks at us and it gets so annoying is there a reason why he dose that??

ROFL! I was just like that kid when I was school! I was just bored so if I found someone interesting, I just watched and listened to them. I know that it must be weird, but he might even notice he's doing it. It took me awhile to notice what I was doing and even then I couldn't stop, let's face it riding the bus is BORING and it's hard to steer away from the few interesting things you observe.

If you really can't withstand the starage, then say something or try sitting else where. Don't worry about embarassing him, as long as you don't make a huge deal over it then he'll shrug it off in no time.

Q: how do i kiss a guy? i knwo prob. a stupid question but i jsut wanna know how. i rate high

http://www.virtualkiss.com

It has a detailed tutorial about this under "Kissing School"

Q: (13f)Yesterday my dad asked me to pull weeds in the yard and I accidently pulled a whole bunch of plants that were like $100. I said i was sorry and promised to replant them but they wont let me. I cant pay them back because I dont have any money. Now they're not talking to me and they wont drive me anywhere I need to go! Does anyone have any ideas about what I can do?

Your parents aren't talking to you?! I must say that you can use this to your advantage but that's not what you want to know.

Your dad is probly angry because he feels like an idiot for not realizing that you're probly new at this. That is what he gets and he knows it. Personally I would just back off and let them cool off. Yes, you got places to go and such but that is clearly not going to happen. It's hard to hold a grudge against someone when they're not doing or asking for anything.

I've been through this before and all I did (after my parents threw a fit) was read a book and play on the computer. My rents got over it and things went back to normal. Hopefully this will work for you too.

Q: why is it bad for guys to drink mountain dew?

Lowers sperm count is a fact. But that's it, other than that drink all the Mountain Dew you want! I know a lot of men who live on that stuff and 2 of them still can't seem to quit knockin up their wives.

Q: Does anyone know of any good web sites for book over views? I have to do my essays on Monday and I read the books at the beginning of summer so I want to brush up on all the details. Please don’t say spark notes it doesn’t have either book. Thank you. And yes I do rate.

www.antistudy.com

you look up the book and it links you to all the sites that contian details about it, such as sparknotes >.

Q: For some reason my boobs are pointy, I have had boobs for a long time, but they have always been pointy. I am now 13, and is this normal, and is there anything I can do about this. Another thing I need to know is, is there other who have this problem to??? My mom told me she had the problem to and after she had me that her boobs got round. I think the reason why they are pointy is cuz I have know fat under the, its like its not round there. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME???

well, I have the same problem too ;_;

But there's nothing wrong with me, so I doubt you have anything to worry about.

Q: there is this guy who i've liked for like 2 years and we're like friends and all. and like a week ago i went over to his house and e were just talkig and then in the end i gave him a hug good bye and he kissed me2 time he is so sweet to me he supports me in everything i do. and he's deffinetly not a player well ever sense then we haven't talked alot but i mean we do like he called me the other day but i wasnt home...do u think it means he doesn't wanna be with me? do u think im looking too much into it ? what do you think i should do?

please help me out

I really don't think you have anything to worry about. You two are just STARTING to express affection for one another and it's pretty much expected for things to seem awkward. Every little thing seems so much bigger during this phase.

Don't worry it'll pass! My boyfriend hardly spoke for the first 2 months we've dated... we've been together for 3 years and I can't get him to shut up now.

Q: is there any way to get rid of double chins? i rate 5s for NON dumbass answers

Well there's no excercise directed for chins. How I lost mine was just excercising in general and only drank water. Cardio workouts are best for just losing flab in general, and, of course, cutting back on junk food helps a lot too.

Q: is it okay for a 14 year old girl to go out with a 17 year old guy?

I would question his intentions, guys are often made fun for being 'desperate' because they are going out with a younger girl. It's just common to see older guys to date young girls for just sex.

Other than that, there's nothing wrong with the age difference. The age difference won't sound so bad as you get older either.

Q: how do you make out

there's a tutorial under "kissing school" on www.virtualkiss.com

Q: Hey well im 14 im going to get a car when im 15 and my aunt is gonig to sell her 2.5 TL Acura to me..but tha only problem is its a '98! is this good? its leather and everything and it only has 75,000 miles on it..

From the details so far, it sounds fine. I don't know if Acura is foreign, if it is I wouldn't 'cuz getting the car fixed would cost ALOT more than than an American car.

You also want to check out how many gallons of gas the car holds and how many miles the car can go on one gallon. If it's a gas guzzler, I wouldn't get it.

If a car is anywhere near 200,000 miles, don't bother getting it, that's a disaster waiting to happen. 75,000 miles isn't bad at all so if car breaks down there will actually be a reason rather than it just being a high mileage car.

Hope I helped!

Q: ILL RATE 5'S NO MATTER WHAT!

I met this guy last week who was really interested in me but I wasn’t as interested in him(I was “talking” to one of his friends). Well we hooked up that weekend and told me he likes me. He called me everyday this week and I started to realize I liked him too and he asked me out on Thursday. Well we hung out this weekend and I started to REALLY like him but he didn’t treat me like a girlfriend at all. When we were with his friends he showed no affection whatsoever but when we were alone he would hug me and hold my hand and stuff. I talked to one of his best friends about it and he told me he would talk to him. On Saturday night my boyfriend called me and told me we should go back to just “talking” because he felt we were moving too fast and that going out with someone is a big step to him. I talked to his best friend and his best friend told me that he was the kind of guy who only showed affection when him and his gf are alone. He told me that my bf still really likes me but wants to slow things down. We were supposed to hang out on Sunday even though we aren’t goin out(he said we are still going to talk and hang out) but he called me and pretended like we never made plans of hanging out. I don’t know what I should do because I really like him (I’ve dated many guys this summer/school year but I’ve liked him the most and I think it’s because I feel like we actually connect).. should I go after him even though he could be leading me on? Or should I just forgot about him even though maybe we can make things work out?

how old are you two? I'm guessing maybe high schoolish. I'm asking this because there's always that age group or stage where dating is just new or very awkward.

If this is the case, then I would just take it slow just like the guy is asking. You two will warm up to each other, but if that doesn't happen atleast your relationship didn't really take off.

I really think you don't have much to lose, other than time. You like him, he likes you... he probly is just nervous and needs to ease into this. Of course, there's such a thing as waiting too long, but that's up for you to decide. I would probly wait 1-2 months max.

Q: so about that yoga with a friend thing, sounds like such an AWSOME idea!!!!!!! if i asked my best friend to do that with me at the Y shed either say "thats sounds sooooo cool" (probably) or laugh and think i was kidding and then ill just laugh too and say "jk" cause i dont want to sound stupid. :-/ so ill ask but thats not the prob. its that i dont know if we even can do it! im going into 7th grade and shes going into 8th. are we to young? and its not even like were fat, we just dont want to get fat! :-P also, should we just have like "sessions" at eachothers house and buy the movies so we can do it like that? ...

you can buy some cheap videos from walmart if you're worried about looking like a n00b at the Y, but you have nothing to worry about.

yoga is about moving at your own pace, so if you can only stretch so far, that is fine just as long as you push yourself. you're never too young to excercise, i think dieting is only a minor concern when it comes to how old you should be. But nothing is wrong about eating healthy and getting some excercise, no matter what age. So have fun with it!

Edit: n00b == someone who is new to something or unskilled

Q: Hey, can anyone suggest any fun, random, sometimes pointless things to do on a date with a boyfriend that are NOT related to sex? I really could use some ideas, I have a decent budget, but free stuff is best. And nerdy stuff is okay too, if any of you nerds out there have advice to give to a fellow nerd :) Thanks!

My boyfriend and I like to polka! I dunno if you got a place that does stuff like that but there's mainly elderly folk there but we all have fun.

We also often go out for fast food and walk around walmart and look at stuff and chat and just have fun.

We've also stalked some friends of ours that were on dates and would sit behind them in theatres just close enough to mock them and throw popcorn but far enough they couldn't really point us out.

I'll edit if I can think of anything else. Hope I sparked some ideas into your noggin!

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