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theres this guy that i really like. i didn't realize i did until about a month ago. he goes to my school. its a private school so its really small. hes in almost all my classes and in some i sit by him [assigned seats]. anyways. he's so shy. well.. not really in front of other people, but around me. i dont really have a problem talking to him.. its just kind of awkward sometimes. and i know he's not like afraid of girls because he's had girlfriends before. does anyone know any good icebreakers or anything like that that would make us not so shy to eachother?? thanks. anything else i need to know would be great! I RATE ALL FIVES (link)
say something like heyy did you get that math homework last night? and then make a joke about the math teachers hair or something...find out what bands or singer he likes and start singing or humming one of there songs and see if that starts something up


I'm in this advanced choir. There's this new girl who just joined. She's 13, like me, only she's a grade ahead of me (I'm a 7th grader). I have to admit, she's pretty good. Everyone knows that she's got this beautiful high voice, a little like Sarah Brightman's. She's a bitch! She's always flaunting her voice. During camp, we all had to watch this documentary on opera, and she goes "I bet I could sing opera..." Jesus! She's only 13, right?!!!! She had to share a bunk with me. She's was a disgusting bunk mate. She was always spilling her milk all over my papers, bringing food into the dorm, not eating it, and soon there would be moldy peaches everywhere. She can NEVER stop talking about herself. It's always me, me, me, me, me, my voice, my hair, and my boyfriend. Once she was talking about herself and says "my friend and I were watching the Phantom of the Opera and I could sing that really high note at the end of the song 'The Phantom of the Opera.' " She sings the note and asks "Can you sing it?" So I tried, and of course I couldn't, because I'm not even a soprano, and she goes "ha-ha! i can sing the high E and you're all strained up. That's hilarious..." and goes off into another monologue about herself. Now I have to sit on the risers right next to her, and she's getting worse. She's also a brownnoser. She's always sucking up to our choir teacher, and so on...what can I do to put up with her? I don't want anyone to say "talk to her about it." It's not like she's my friend or anything. (link)
honsetly i would flip shit on her yell at her, she need someone to tell her shes a bitch and dont "talk to her about it" fucking yell at her dont do it during school or anything like that, she needs her ass kicked! lol maybe dont go that extrem but yell at her! if you do yell at her tell me how it goes!


Hey guys..well i have a question..obviously. Im obsessed with the band Good Charlotte, and have been for about 4 or 5 years..but people always tell me stuff. Im tired of them thinking my music sucks more then theirs because its not "poser" music. I feel like i got more balls then THEY DO cause its harder to admit you like music that will get people to tell you crap the it is to be the crap talker. What should i do? (link)
i like good charlotte too and i have the same problem with simple plan i love them and people say the same shit to me...just be like i like there music and y do you give a fuck..or you could say something like if they like green day or blink 182, well atleast i dont like the same shit as everyone else like you do..it seems to help people still say some shit to me but not that much, also people who say that shit probally like good charlotte and that kind of music too there just to embarrased(sp?) to admit it!...if you try this tell me how it went!


Heyy, I am 15 years old and i have made out before but it was when I was drunk off my ass. So, now I am afraid to do it for real. I am scared I will do something wrong or even gross the guy out. How do you do it right, and good at the same time? (link)
i was terrified when i first made out with someone and everyone told me just do it, it will come natural and i remeber thinking yea right! but really they were right...i tried going on websites but that didnt help at all..go with the flow of your guy, oo and make sure u dont open your mouth to much and get slobber all over his face(ive made out with guys like that and its pretty gross) oo make sure u have a breath mint before you make out with someone theyll appericate it ;)
hope i helped!


ok... im f/14 and weigh 109.. i was anerexice in the summer and in the begining of the school year... and weighed 102... I have been eating and as u can tell i have gained weight.. But yet i still have the thought that im fat in the back of my head... but as im eating i am getting told i look to skinny more often then i have befor.... i got told i look disgostingly skinny...? but i wiegh 109? idk im kinda confused..... (link)
omg i would LOVE to be ur weight! theres no way your fat if anything your under weight, how tall are you that would help determind whats a good weight for you to be


I have a lot of screen names. But I want new one and I cannot think of ANYTHING. HELP!
My name is Kendall, so you can make something out of that. I cheer, umm I LOVE FOOD hahah but im not fat. (link)
cheer x kendall

cheerhottiekendall

FoodsMyLifeX

lol i dont know hope i helped


does any one know where i can get colored contacts or cat eye contacts online for not alot of money.. thanks i rate 5's (link)
bad idea i just read somewhere that colored contacts mess up your eyes...its not a good idea to get those but its your dessions...just a heads up


if i could ask my boyfriend ANYTHING what should i ask him? (link)
if he has any feelings for anyone at all besides you


I want to lose 10 pounds in about a week. I know that's very difficult to do but I'm willing to put a lot of effort into it. Any idea's on how I could do this while still eating and not going anorexic and staying healthy and/or ways to exercise? Meal/snack ideas? =( I really want to lose the weight. Please help. (link)
well i know this is hard to do but try getting sick..yea i know weird but when i got sick for a week i lost like 8,9 pounds and when i came back to school every one was like omg u look sooo skinny! soo yea it works


how long should a tampon be in ur body? like if i am at school from 7:00 to 3:10 which would be 9 hrs!!! du i need to change my tampon in skool...probably but i am not sure! pleese help i rate high!

oxo * oxo (link)
ive left mine in for 12 hours and did not go into shock so it all depends how concerned(sp?) u are about tss and if ur period is heavy and you dont want to change it during school make sure you wear a panty liner or something...hope i helped!


okay, so tomorrow I am getting my tongue pierced... before I do, DOES IT HURT? and what does it feel like and what can i do and stuff... you know (link)
well everyone ive talked to said its the most painfull piecing theyve ever gotten...and it has a very high risk of infection soo be careful and take care of it!


My birthday is coming up soon and I was just wondering if anybody had any ideas on what we could do for fun...I'm turning 14 if that helps at all!! =) I rate for good ideas!! =)







signed,
Birthday Girl (link)
depends on what your spending limit is...one year ~i rented out a limo that was really fun
~another year i went up to the poconos with a bunch of friends for a weekend
~yet another year me and my friends had makeover
~and another year i went on a lunch cruise with a bunch of friends
~and this year i rented out an ice rink and invit like my whole grade(well the cool kids)
hope i helped!


Hey. I been dancing since I was 4ish-7ish but then I quit. I started going street/Hip-hop lessons now since April. I have a few dance videos but I still cant keep up with them or my dance school! Everyone else is prancing around memorizing all the moves when there is me forgetting the moves and really slow!! I'm not sure how to remember the moves and speed up! Any tips? And yes i do concentrate as hard as I can but i forgot them all even after 2 minutes! Thanks if you can help x (link)
well ive been taking dance for 9 years now...and what really helps is if you go over each move step by step with someone about 2-3 times...then put on the music and do the dance at a regular pace...and think about what moves are coming up next so you dont go bank..but be careful with doing that, cause sometimes you'll think like 50 seconds ahead of yourself and then mess up really bad


Ok, so i have a boyfriend, pico and i like him and he likes me but it just seems like hes gettin kinda like too obsessive and i want to break up with him but i don't want to break up with him and i don't know what do do....please help me!


Notes:
- he's "flirted" wit my friend but it was just a joke (as he says)
- tons of other girls have asked him out but hes said no becuz he loves me sooo much
- he says that i'm the best thing a guy can have (link)
awww he sounds sweet...i would keep him...and if he is too obsessive tell him like one night...heyy i just want to go out with me and (a girl friend) tonight...i hope you dont mind we can go out some other time...then that way you have your space and you did hurt his feelings

hope i helped


Would you be someone's friend still even though that person always went back on her word on things she say? Becuase I'm having that problem with my friend named J-lo, and I don't really want to be friends with J-lo anymore. because when I stop talking to her beacuse she goes back on her word with things, she always tries to talk to me agian and be my friend again then, tell every one who's her friend that i'm not her friend then everybody ends up asking me all these damn questions why I'm not J-lo's. And I'm sick of it, cause this kinda be happenin every 3 or 2 times a week. And I need advice what to do.

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go up to her and be like...this has to stop were not 6 years old...and if you dont stop doing this then i seriously cant be your friend any more...and tell her whats bothering you about her...and if she says something like...oo your just overreacting...say im not overreacting this happens like 2-3 times a week and i cant take it any more

hoped i help!


There's this guy that I've became friends with this year. Surprisingly, we've grown really close. We talk all the time on the phone and on the computer. There have been certain signs that have made me think he likes me:

1) He makes direct eye contact when talking
2) He's sweet to me and mean to the rest of my friends
3) He never wants me to get offline or off the phone when I'm talking
4) Though this isn't a reliable sign, he has had a "boner" twice when talking to me
5) He smiles at me all the time
6) Tries to show off in front of me
7) Makes the kissy faces online and says that it was an accident
8) Suggested we hang out sometime after school
9) Told me I look better with my hair down (not really a sign but wanted to throw it in there)
10) People always come up to me and tell me that they think he likes me

I'm not sure if that sounds like a match but, lately things have been weird. He's telling me how much he likes this other girl and she knows. Today she turned him down (even though he didn't ask her directly) and now I'm thinking he really doesn't like me. What should I do? I want to make a move because it seems like the signs point to yes but then, he likes her!

14//*jANe (link)
yea it does sound like he likes you but thats what i thought about this one guy...like the same thing as you he would send me like love lyrics and say i love that song, he would always touch me and stuff and people would say you guys look cute together, and he would tell me about this girl too...but i found out he didnt really like me and just liked teasing me...so be careful he may like you or he may just be a dick


ive been dating my boyfriend for 9 months and we are very serious. does anyone have any romantic ideas/surprise ideas/ gift ideas for any day.... including our one year anniversary or our 10 and 11 month anniversary? thanks.... (link)
some nice collone(cant spell) or white roses


me and my freind have been talking about perminatelly dying our hair. she wants streaks of bright green, on her black hair. i want the look where you dipped your hair in paint. i want the 2 bottom inches of my hair purple. my hair is a weird combination of chesnut and dark brown. what kin of a haircut should i get under it, or should i get a trim? both of us have a little longer than shoulderlenth hair. will it look creepy if we die our hair these wayz? please give me your opinion on the brand of paint, the style, and the haircut!
-thanks in advance.
-olga (link)
well make sure its straight first of all and get it layered...that would look soo cute...and it think its great that your doing this...no one in my school is this unique to do anything like that


ok this is a long one.
i dont know where to start so i might scatter, when i turned 8 my mom moved away from my dad a said we could not see him for awhile (another long story so dont ask why just accept it) my sis and i were crushed my dad was like bill cosby we spent our summers with him he did everything with us theres no telling where we would have been if the events would have been diffrent. so our whole lives we told each other that when we turn 18 we would find him. my dad had remarried and had a wonderful new wife (she was so good i called her mom) and she had a great son. the last summer we spent together was when i was 8 my brother was 3 that summer he choked on some ice, i had just took cpr lessons at camp so i gave him the hymlec and he survied.in 1996 i was 16/17 and my mom said we could talk to my dad so she called my dads family only to hear them say they are so sorry to hear what happened and asked why we werent at the funeral my mom didnt get it. she ask what what happen. so my cousin break the news she say pappa(thats what they called my dad) killed my stepmom and my little brother i was in total shock i could not breath 2months earlier my boyfriend died in front of me.and to get this news it was the worse. he stab my stepmom 66times and broke my brothers head against the kitchen floor. after he did that he cut his throat drank drano cut his wrist and and stabbed his self in the stomach and drug the knife up to his ribs. He claimed he was insane and even the prosicuters thearpise said he was insane. my question is what am i to do? can i forgive or what i love him he is my dad we have the same eyes when i look into the mirror i see him should i no is it possible for me to forgive him? my sis has been in contact with him for awhile and we came down for one of his trials 2day i saw him. i thought that if i looked into his eye then i could see the truth i had was anger inside i wanted to let him have it. but i chickened out should i scream and yell would it help me or what should i do?pls i need help (link)
you should talk to him first...and if you dont like what you hear then let him have it...wow im soo sry...i really hope you feel better...i could never immagion being in you position


Ok, I'm a really bad procrastinator if I'm really not interested in doing something.

Tips to help? I know it's bad...how did you overcome it?

Thanks! (link)
you might have add, me and my brother both have add and we proctastinate ALL the time..and its also a great excuses for extra time on stuff for school cuz we have "learning problems"




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