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Ok, I've been chosen by this teacher to help tutor this girl who's having trouble with spanish. I'm in highschool by the way, so anyways does anyone have any tips on what should I do? I never tutored before so I'm kind of nervous that I might not be of any good help. (link)
Well .
tutoring can be a little hard.
but you'll get used to it.
Ask her to show you what she's having difaculty with, what sections or parts she needs help on. Then you guide her through all the steps of the work/lesson. Never do it for her because she'll take advantage of you. You can make charts for her ahead of time like, all the conjergations and stems.


if you need any other ideas, just ask =D


I am having a party and we want a really scary movie for it. Any ideas? When we say scary we mean ones that will make us jump alot and have to cling onto another person, or ones that are so freaky that your looking around corners and everything when the movie is done. I dont really like alien or monster movies. Please dont say The Ring, The Ring 2, The Grudge, or any of the Saw movies because we've seen them all and Saw is jsut gore anyways. Thanks alot (link)
Well there's a few good one's i know.

Vacancy.
The exercisom.
Pet sematary.
The mist.
Awake.


if you want anymore, i'll think of some.

hope i hhelpedd.

=D


when you give a hickey like how do you do it. i mean like do you suck on the person or like just kiss it over and over again. like howw...? (link)
Well usually hickey's look like a small bite mark.

its usually kissing,nibbling and suking.

some people like it, some people just arent interested. Hickeys are most comman on the neck, its not kissing over and over again, there's kissing involved, just be gental .

if you need anything else, just ask =D


Does the pink weight loss patch work? (link)
Depends on your age, but if your younger then 18, things like that can make you sick. Most doctors always disaprove of things like that.

Need anything else? just ask =D


is it ok if you come on your period whle you are pregnant and what should i do (link)
Well if you know your pregnent 100% then its VERY rare to get your period, if you have it for more than three days, i would talk to your doctor.

need anything else? just ask =D


pros/cons of smoking pot
health risks that are proven, if any
thank you (link)
i would say the only pro's of smoking... is it might relaz you?

but the health risks overr right that.
you lose millions of brain cells, you start to get lazy, you CAN get addicted. Your lungs eventually turn into crisp.

if there's anything else you wanna know, just ask =D


I shaved my pubes 10 days ago and I kind of regret it. I still have itchy red bumps down there. How can I get rid of them? (link)
There isn't many ways to get rid of that unless you just wait a while till it grows in.
The next time you do shave, make sure your in the shower so you wont get much of that, don't be to rough and take your time.

if you need amything else =D Just ask.


16/f
I'm currently on a family verizon plan. My dad's phone is the primary line. I have unlimited texts to all carriers. I average about 6,000 texts a month. But some things, I just don't want my dad to see.

My question: Is there any way for my dad to see the texts I've been sending/recieving? (Besides taking my phone and looking through it.) Does it show up on the bill? (link)
Nope.
usually there isn't a way for him to read it through the bill..
i've never herd of such a thing, don't worry =D


what is pms? (link)
PMS is pre menstral syndome.

its before you get your period each time.
you can start to crave chocolate or certian foods, feel bloated, act moody, and its usually a sign before you get your period. you soomeitmes can get cramps to.

hope i helped =D


ok. im 16 years old living with overprotected parents. im the type of teenager that does real good in school & never gets into any type of trouble. im the nicest girl you will ever meet. but when it comes to going out with friends & things like that im not allowed to. [im not interested in any guys at this point either.] i get everything i want, but that. i tried & tried talking to my parents about it but they never listen to me. all they do is ignore me or do whatever they can to do to not talk about it. i mean im not the type to go out & drink & do drugs. i have too much ahead of me to ruin that. but theres times where i think of running away & doing whatever i want. i just want to b happy like the rest of my friends. they take pictures & i see how much fun im missing out on. i mean its my life & i dont like having my parents telling my how to live it. sometimes i think of giving up but thats not me at all. not only that, it affects me in every way! the last place i would ever want to be is at home. i rather be at school where i dont have to fight or argue with the ones i love. basically i love my friends more than my parents. my question is what should i do with this situation of being overprotected? [help plz.] (link)
Well.
i know what type of situation your in, and it sounds to me like your just tired of being kept in line by your parents so much. You sound like an amaazing girl and you have a lot ahead of you =D its great. But i know how seeing your friends going out having a fun time, taking pictures, and sometimes just being wild might get to you. You can be like that to, without getting into trouble and going out and drinking! You can go out on weekends with your friends and be in those pictures and just laugh with them. Now getting through to your parents may take time, there just being over protective because your there little girl still. You can always try to take the time with them and tell them you need to live a somewhat normal social life. That your not going to hide things from them and you'll still keep them filled in on life. Ask them for a little freedom, prove to them you can still do good in school while having a social life! I know you think you love your friends more than your parents, but the thing is, your parents are always gonna be the one's to back you up in the end.

if you need anything, keep in touch!

=D hope i helped.


Ok this guy we went out and he broke up with me like 2 days after that..
And everytime i see him now he has like 15 girls surrounding around him!!!

And i still love him!!!

And i tell him i dont and he always stares at me and he talks about me to his friends and i dont know if he likes me but if he did why did he brake up with me???

I mean this is going through my head alot and it happened 2 weeks ago..

And i need good advice to tell him something!!

PLEASE!!

im only 11
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Well.
you said you went out and he broke up with you just two days after. your only 11 and your inlove? Im not really sure but it sounds to me like its just a big crush that your having and he is young still so he's probobly not used to staying or being in a relationship. Guys that age are much more immature than girls your age. You should just give him time, let him be him, stay friends and if he wants to be anymore than that, then go for it, but if he doesn't, don't let it crush you. Your still really young, you'll find plenty of other cute guys that you'll want to be with. TRUST ME! you have absolutly nothing to worry about sweetie =D

let me know if i can help you with anything else..



Is it illegal, if you are living in a college dorm with a roommate, to set up a voice recorder on your own desk to record what is going on in the room while you are not there?

I really need to know!

I'm talking about a digital voice recorder. I found out my roommate did something illegal and I'm trying to get her for it. I need to know if I can use the recording as legitimate evidence for what she did. (link)
normally that is illegal.
the only way it wouldn't be is if you told the people you were gonna get her for it to prove them was to let them know ahead of time. Unless its for your own personal reason's and your just keeping it to yourself then jsut don't let her find it.

but if she finds it, you could be in a lot of trouble.

hope i helped!


Hi ... this is probably stupid but I need to ask.
Can anyone just go into a drug store and buy the "over the counter" brands like cold/headache medicine? Or do you have to be a certain age.

Because if anyone can buy stuff just like that, wouldn't it be extremely easy for people to purchase stuff but then use it to get high?
Thanks if anyone answers. :) (link)
Most drug stores now a day's you have to be the age of 18 to even buy anything over the counter.

hope i helped!


What does it mean when a guy is talking about a girl "down there" and says she is loose?? Is that a good or bad thing? (link)
That's normally bad news.
Loose is like someone might of had a lot of sex.
when a guy phrases something about a girl "down there" as in being *tight* thats a good thing, it means that the sex will be better. Its just a sexual term. Its disrespectful and could be used as an insult. Loose is like a really "open" vagina. .

hope i helpedd .


Andrew/14/Male:I want to make my girlfriend feel special but were not yet old enough for sex. Also i don't make alot of money. What should i do?
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aw well this one's simple :)
you can make a girl feel extra special just by your words.
let her now how speical she is to you.
how you really feel.
Be there for her through thick and thin.
Give her the greatest hugs and kisses.
If you wanna buy her something, even a cute little teddy bear make's a girl feel so happy and special =D There's so much you can do to make a girl happy without sex + money. Tell her things, write her little note's during school. Make sure you let her know you miss her too =]

if there's anything else.
Let me knoww.
hope i helped.


okay well one day i jus turned on my computer & now everthing is jumbo sized. like on my desktop everythings bigger then usual. i tried restarting my computer, changing moniters. what do i do to fix this? PLEASE HELP! & dont say "get it looked at by someone" (link)
right click on your main screen of the computer.
then click properties or personalize w/e type of computer you have.
now i can't really explain much, but around there it will say stuff like changing fonts and texture's. Or colors. there's a bunch of diffrent choices, but if you look good enough IT WILL be there to fix the size.
normally there's a defualt button you can press to make everything just go back to how it orginally was.


f/14 5'3-4, 107-120ish

my scales broken so i dont know my exact weight
anyways i go to the gym around 3-4 times a week usually for an hour, sometimes an hour 15 minutes.
i also walk/jog/run with my dog ranging from 15 minutes to an hour each day (depends how much time i have)
on top of that im also a competitive figure skater so i do that 2-3 times a week

with all the candy and stuff from valentines day i put on a few pounds so im currently working to take that off

im trying a diet consisting of
strawberries, curves cereal with milk, special K protein bars

and depending on whats for dinner (fish, chicken)

i drink a ton of water instead of any drinks

does this sound like it will work?

especially because i usually only have 2 decently sized meals a day instead of the 6 mini ones your supposed to (link)
It seems like your on a serious strict diet.
your only 14,5'4, and 107-120 is a more perfect weight sounding to me. I really don't think you should worry about your weight like you are. Everyone should always be aware of how there eating and how healthy they are, drinking a lot of water is good like your doing,eat all the basic meals your suposed to,going to the gym that much is going to lower your engery if your not eating enough. and running with your dog is great exersise! and figure skating that much a week, hunny you should be eating whatever you want. With all this exercise your doing. Please don't cut down your meals to much..

:) hope i helped..


Well me and my friend invited two guys over when they werent supposed to. and we got really drunk....

my parents came home early and found out.
got pissed off.
and i guess im grounded for eternity.

any ideas on how i can get degrounded? lol
i dont like bein all locked up in the house.
it SUCKS. (link)
I know this sounds like hard labor, but being cought for that, its pretty harsh to get undgrounded.

maybe start to clean the house up more.
cook dinners.
don't make it to ovbious.
but offer to watch your brother or sister, if you have any.
Make sure your keeping your grades up, thats a huge plus.

Just be the little angel you are :) lol.


16/f
5'5 160lbs
I've been dancing for 14 years. I have really good kicks. But lately, I've been trying to lose weight. My thighs are HUGE because there is so much muscle in them. Is there any way I can get them smaller? I don't really know how to lose muscle.
Thanks! (link)
you should be proud of your thighs!
i dance and my friends dance.
Honestly, guys love thighs.
there isn't much of an answer to lose muscle.
There is absolutly nothing wrong with having a lot of muscle.
Most people find it very attractive, you should be showing off that instead of worrying!


I am seeing a therapist soon, so I know I can ask there... but I was just wondering...

If someone feels depressed for a few weeks, then all the sudden back to happy (seemingly out of nowhere?) is that a symptom of depression? (link)
Its good your seeing a therapist for the correct answer.
but in my experience it sounds like manic depression. Of and on, you can feel happy or sad. Sometimes you will feel like your worthless and the next day, everything will be okay.
Don't let this compltely let you down. I know feeling depressed and not knowing how to controll it feels so unfair, BUT you can think over the positive side. People love you im sure,and you shouldn't let your self down :)




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