Hey, well im not really gonna use this to talk about me because this advice thing is only for advice and not to get to know me. The only thing you should know is my name is Lindsey. I want to be a phycologist when i get older and this is a great way for me to start practicing. I use Christianity in all the ways possible when i answer my questions. If you not a christian please become one because all your issues will be alot better because you have God on your side. But yeah.. I love helping people and giving advice and i have been through just about everything thats on here, how weird.. drama goes a long ways. And a bunch of yall i bet you think that nobody knows how you feel. Been there done that. But im here to help so if you feel the need to ask me a question then do so cause this is what im here for. I have a bible verse that i think yall should read and think about. MUCHO LOVE
--> "The godly give good advice to their friends, the wicked lead them astray."
Member Since: August 10, 2005
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Last Update: September 17, 2005
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ok there is this boy that me and my friend rachel have been good firends with for a bout a year. For a while we both liked him a LOT. But we kind of recked things and we just want to be friends. We talk a lot ( me and my friend)and we want him to be the kind of friend that me and her are to each other. I want someone that I can give advice to adng et advice from someone to hug me and tell me its alright i just want it to be like it was people change a lot over the summer and it justs hurts sometimes. I wish things could go back to the way they were. Please give me advice on how to win him back as a friend. A best friend and nothing more. (link)
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Well your question was kinda confusing.. but let me pray really fast and then ill tell you my advice --- Well a boy is not worth loosing a friendship and i think you learned that from what im getting outta this. But then you need to just let God help you with all this,.. because he loves you more then any guy or gurl can love you and he will give you advice soo much better then this website can or that guy can. But if you love the Lord your God with all your heart then he will love you too and whatever you pray for.. and you truely believe that God will make it happen.. then if he thinks its a good thing then he will.
-->Just worry about anything, instead Pray about everything
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i am going in gymnactics soon and i want to be able to do a slit, i want to suprize my teacher. so can anyone give me tips on how to do one?
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Well do you mean split? lol well why do you wanna suprise your gymnastics teacher? i mean she is your GYMNASTICS TEACHER! Let her help you, im mean she is professional.. id hope. But i cheer on my middleschool team and i know we just stretch alot and sit in the split position and hold it and eventually you will be able to go all the way down
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I liked this one guy, weston. i thought he was a total sweetie and he always made me feel good about myself. he said he liked me too, but then i was over with him and some friends and i hugged my friend goodbye and he called me a whore but according to his friends hes just mad and still totally likes me. the thing is, im not big on forgiving people after they've just called me a whore so, yea. i still like him a little. then, there's this other guy, chris and he is also totally sweet and cute and i absolutley heart him. he made me feel a little better about the whole weston situation and he says he's starting to like me. well, i liked him a lot a little while ago but i never thought he would ever like me. so i also like him a little bit. so basically, my question is should i forget about weston and become closer to chris and who knows what might follow, since he DID call me a whore. or should i just wait til weston gets over his issue with me hugging other guys? im the kinda girl that just hugs all of her friends, ya know? so should i change who i am for weston or stay how i am and go for chris? (link)
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Okay well i give all my advice in a Christian way but dont get me wrong im not like a nun ,lol. But for ONE do NOT change who you are because of some boy. You should find your true identity in Christ Jesus and only worry about pleasing him. And then if you put your faith in God he will show you what way to go.. and maybe neither one of them boys are best for you. But just trust God with it and he'll help you, if you need any extra help.. let me know. I'll pray for you.
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Okay, awhile back I liked this guy "Caleb" for almost a year. He had (and still has) a girlfriend, and "Caleb" turned me down when I told him how I felt. Now his girlfriend has moved to Canada, and he's been talking to me on AIM saying "yo" before I even say "hi" first. My mom knows what happened and how badly it hurt me when he hurt my feelings, but now him and I want to be friends. My mom told me NEVER to talk to him again on AIM because of what happened. By the way, he's three years older then me and so is his girlfriend. Now we just want to be FRIENDS, and I don't want to block him or anything, so I turn my away message on when he comes online. I'm so confused, because I don't know if his girlfriend is ever going to break up with him, and if she does, he'll be talking to me a lot about how sad he is. Any advice on how to deal with this? (link)
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Okay, read between the lines here. Obviously its not a God thing. And God is your creater and he wants whats best for you. And if your mom doesnt think its right, quiet honestly this may not make since now.. but later on it will. Your mom knows whats best because shes either been through it or knows somebody who has been through it. And if you dont listen to your mom listen to me. If any guy wants to put you second to some other chic, is it honestly worth it? NO!!! I hope thats what your answer was. But you need to set your standards HIGHH as crap because when you do that you will find the right guy for you, and maybe not the right guy for you to marry but the right guy for you to just simply date. and trust me i spent three years of my life trying to get this guy back.. i mean we would break up and always get back together but now i look at it and see, it was a waiste of my life.. because now im seeing all these great guys. And thats because I have my faith in God to show me the right direction and you may not agree with me there but trust me, its alot better. With God on your side , God will take care of them boys. So im gonna pray for you and i hope that you'll make the right choice!!
HEY i had to edit my answer cuz i wasnt sure how else to reply cuz i just started this junk or watever but im Baptist but as long as your a Christian is great. If you want nemore help give me your AIM/AOL screen name okay
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i sure hope you can help me. heres my story... ok me and this boy named zach used to go out like a yr. ago! and when we went out it didnt last long. now me and him are starting to talk again and we are getting along great. we are talking about getting to know each other more and then thinking about getting back together.
some how me and him started talking about sex! he wants to have sex with me cause he likes me alot! and i like him so i cant turn him down! im scared though.its not cause im still a virgin its because im afraid ill get pregnant! i know alot of teens loose there virginity and most of them dont get pregnant the first time. but im afraid beacuse if i get pregnant then my parents will kill me. i dont want to make another mistake because i ahppen to make alot of those! so can u please help me choose what to do? and what condom is the best? and if i do have sex with him with a condom what the percent chance i can get pregnant! thanx so much i hope u can help me! i rate high
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okay well ive been in this situation before and now ive grown up and realized that guys dont care about your feelings no matter how much they say they do. and my advice comes from God and im telling you that he doesnt want you to just give yourself up to anybody. I used to scared of sex to, but now i know why.. its because its not right. And just say you did get pregnent, you know that boy aint gonna be with you forever and you'll get stuck with a child. Or say you dont get pregnent but you have sex and he leaves you, wont you feel dumb? Because i feel dumb because i came so close to doin it so many times and i feel like waisted something good on a boy whos defeitnly not worth it. Well just think about it and im praying for you!
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this guy i have been hanging out with said that he wanted us to be friends nothing more, but maybe in time we could be bf and gf. I was fine with that. i heard later (from a girl that i trust) that he had a girlfriend. I asked him and he denied it. i dont care that he has a gf...its just we have made out and done stuff together...now i feel like a slut. What should i do with this guy? forget about him or still be his "friend." (link)
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Hey, well i give all my advice from my knowing on what God would say to me. So first of all, you really shouldnt do anything with somebody that your NOT even dating, and im not saying YOU have to wait until your married but its best. Because when you get married you know for a fact that that guy will love you for the rest of your life, and he wont just use you to get some. He will want your entire life to be perfect and see sex is something valuable in a marriage because most of us have kissed a guy or have held hands,.. and some have just slept with them but no sex. So whats left for marriage? Well sex should be whats left and unconditional love. And guys that are immature only want ONE thing from you. And if they dont want that they only want to use you for show. And dont get me wrong NOT all guys are like that but most "immature" guys are like this. And so what i have done is for now until they "grow up" is say im not gonna date for a while. And yes its hard but "all things are possible through Christ Jesus"
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my name is leah and i was looking at one of the questions you awnserd and i thought it was really good advice so here is my question. i used to go to this church when i was like...4 and i LOVED it and i had alot of friends. but then we left that church and we went to this other church and no one liked me and i didnt really like anyone myself. so i told my mom that i didnt like it AT ALL! so now im 13 and she said we could go to our old church and tonight is yougth group and i dont know anyone there. and...the truth is i dont know how to use a bible. so now im like...FREAKING OUT! do you have any tips? and wat do they do in yought group? (link)
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Hey, well thank you for your support - i figured i'd end up getting kicked off this thing because i was using God as my sorce for advice. Im also 13 and ive been through the same thing, sort of. Well my church that i go to we're all very different and i hang out with the college students pretty much because im very mature for my age and theyre the only ones that i can connect with. But when im at church and we're not joking around and playin and stuff we're learning or talking about God. And at the time we dont really pay attention to other people who is there because when your at church all your attention should be focused on God. But like i didnt really talk to any of the people in my youth group so i brought my best friend. But me and her arent friends anymore so i was kinda left out in the dark. But we went to church camp and we all bonded ALOT. And all i can tell you to do is talk to the youth leader and ask her or him for some kind of help on that issue. Now on reading the Bible, you DO NOT read it like a book. This is what i do. Your supposed to have at least 20 minutes of silence with God everyday, and so i read my bible. I just pray that God will let it open up to where he wants me to read for the day. And i just shut my eyes and open it up. And see i read the entire chapter - unless its long then i just find a particular part that i think God is telling me to read. So i read the entire part im reading and then i just kinda think and then i go back to the beginning and i look at the first paragraph and read it and if i have questions then i ask them, to myself or to my partner that i study with ( ill tell you about that in a bit ) but like i figure out how i can adapt this paragraph to my life. Because the bible isnt written to todays culture but back in the day's culture. But its still all the same, you just have to think about it! Because you do not read the bible like a story book, the bible is kinda like a text book for school, except this one is for life. Oh yeah about my study buddy. She's in College and shes pretty much my bestfriend. Because since ive became so involved with church and God alot of people pretty much have stopped being my friend. But me and her get together once a week, or try to - and we kinda just pick something out to read and we discuss it and we talk about life. You should find somebody like that. And if you want me and you can do it, just give me your AIM/AOL screen name and we can chat on there if you want but let me know, and i hope i could help you out!!!
Read Psalm 31-32.. do exactly this..
Read, Think, Adapt to YOUR LIFE, and then DO IT!!
-- LOVE, Your Sister in Christ!
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I am a former self-injurer, and I finally stopped cutting at the end of 8th grade (I'm going into 9th). I've been happy since the end of 8th grade and haven't had a reason to cut, or I'v refrained myself from cutting. But that's how I deal with stress. And I'm afraid I'll relapse this year from stress. I've been to therapy, and I write a lot. Is there any other way I could possibly deal with stress that isn't destructive?
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Hi Sweets! Well i just want to say that im praying for you right this instant.. let me take a second and do so... Okay im all done. Well ima very big christian and you may think that its a bad thing. But let me tell you that ive been to the point where i almost commited suicide. But my mothers friend took me to church. I had always gone but i kinda stopped because i didnt think it was neccasary. But now as i look back i see that - i dont try to kill myself when i get stressed. I pray and ask God for his help! And i put my faith in him and the situation and let the Lord deal with it. So thats the BEST advice anybody can give you. Going to a counselor helps a little bit, but your HEAVENLY FATHER CAN DO MUCH MORE FOR YOU THEN SOME PERSON! I went in my bible to find a verse for you and this is what i found
"He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will never be shaken. So many enemies against one man- all of them trying to kill me." -Psalm 62:2-3
That verse is saying Prayer can release our tensions in times of emotional stress. Trusting God to be our rock, salvation, and fortress will change our entire outlook on life. No longer will you need to hurt yourself because of the pain and suffering the world and or the devil is throwing to you. Just trust in the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, and soul. If you need anything write back to me and maybe we can get into a deeper conversation if you'd like. Ill be praying for you!
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