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I have this big issue with my dear family,they're a mess,they are really untidy and messy,they definitely don't like to clean the house up nor do they like to put things away or cook dinner,I have to do everything,my parents are separated and my mum spends half-day working so we are supposed to help her with the household chores,but I'm the only one who actually does something,I have a 22year old sister,she just doesn't care about it,and makes fun of me bc I like the house to be cleaned or dinner to be served so my mum can eat when she's home,I also have this other brother,18,what can I say about him?I'm wordless,please,any help?thanks:)(I love them,but they drive me crazy) (link)
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Your sister shouldn't be making fun of you like that... It's good on you that you like to keep things clean and you're so kindhearted to consider your mum's well being after a hard day at work (she is providing for you three after all, I assume).
You could have a little family meeting/gathering? If your mum is stressed out by work then I'd suggest leaving her out of it.
I don't know how old you are so I don't know if you have school to worry about or if your 22 year old sister/18 year old brother are older.
Maybe you could explain to them (preferably during aforementioned meeting) why it is important to keep things clean at the very least (messiness I suggest you let them be messy but tidy up your own area and the most frequented common areas if they won't help) and to help out with chores that have to be done such as dishwashing and laundry and periodic house cleanup.
You could try talking to them about helping out with the cooking. Perhaps come up with a roster of which days who cooks what?
I hope this was helpful. My parents are divorced and my mum works a lot to provide for my brother, my grandmother and me. But we have a maid (it's common where I live). I can imagine what it must be like for you, my brother hardly tidies up anything.
All the best! (:
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hi guys, so about a year and a half ago i was messing around with two guys at the same time. None of us had sex with eachother or anything but they were both fingering me and well..eating me out, together and separately. well it was very painful during them fingering me, and i had them stop. when i woke up in the morning my vagina was very swollen and hurt an extreme amount. (by vagina i mean, not the flaps where the pubic hair grows, inside that, girls have two other flaps, im talking about those.) and the left one was very swollen. to this day it never went back to normal, the swelling went down alot but its still big. and i have touched myself there before to see if it would swell again. well today i decided to try again, with a dildo, (and i have used this one before to see if i would swell) and it hurts now. and there was a little bit of blood. i lost my virginity about 2 years ago, and literally i lost my virginity and didnt have sex again with anyone. i've had sex 1 time, and my cherry was popped than, i know for a fact. so i have two questions, 1)what could be wrong with my vagina and the permanent swell. and 2) why did my vagina bleed? could the walls of my vagina thickened again? thank you guys! any answer helps! (link)
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First things first, PLEASE do go back to your gynae. If there is pain and blood, straight the the docs!
Did you and/or the guys make sure everything was clean? Washed hands and at least rinsed mouths? Did you wash up after the fingering?
I'm not too sure about this one but: perhaps they were too rough with you.
One lip forever staying bigger than the other I'd say is not to worry about. What there is to worry about is that it still hurts when triggered and it bleeds too.
I don't think walls of your vagina thin out after losing your virginity or anything like that because the vaginal walls/vagina expands/stretches during intercourse or arousal, the walls do not thin or thicken.
Best bet is to go to your gynae again and remember what s/he says. It doesn't sound too serious but I'm not a professional in this area. Hopefully it's not bad news.(:
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I'm 16/f and I have a younger sister who is 14 but she is really mature and is a spitting image of my mum.. I know this will sound horrid but sometimes I can't help feeling jelous of them both:( my sister gets so much attention off boys and my mum was a model- it just makes me feel really ugly. My mum and sister are tall and blonde and I'm just average height and have brown hair that always goes frizzy, I never tan and my skin looks horrible next to my sisters. My mum is so so so so skinny and makes me look fat.. really, I need advice to stop comparing myself with them? (link)
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You still have a few more years to grow! Get cracking! (: Jumping and stretching helps with that, plus a healthy diet and staying fit (regular exercise).
If now you feel inadequate at average height, be thankful you're not short.
There is nothing wrong with brown hair. You can always get those anti-frizz leave-in conditioners and avoid curlers/straighteners. Why does your skin look horrible?
Beauty isn't skin deep. You don't have to be a model to be attractive and every type of girl has a type of guy to be admired by. It is natural to compare yourself with these people you're with everyday whom you feel are better looking than you but do remember that you just have to accept things you can't change (skin since you can't tan) and own them! Own that fair skin, treat your hair and let it flow (if you have long hair which sounds like you do) like in the ads.
If you won't grow, wear heels. I'm pretty short (a little over 5ft) but eventually I got used to it. Heels!
So what if your mum is skinny? Surely, you're not fat. If her slimness makes you LOOK fat then I guess you know you're not fat. So focus on that. The only way you can stop comparing yourself with them is to build your self-confidence and belief you're just as hot. A lot of that depends on you and your mindset. Work on that and you'll be fine. (:
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19/f
About six months ago I got out of a 3 year long relationship. He was my first for everything and he goes to the same university that I do. For the past 3 or so months, I have had a form of friends with benefits with a guy who is also one of my best friends.
The problem naturally is I do somewhat like the guy but with school ending in less than a month there would be no real point trying to start a long distance relationship. I am at the point now that I have sort of given up on needing a relationship and just want to have fun with someone I trust. He is the type of person who I can have fun with, without worrying about things being awkward afterwards. Only thing is that our makeout sessions tend to be very spaced out and always whenever he makes the move. I feel if I were to he may react badly and I am scared to. Should I talk to him about this?
The way I see it, there is only a month left of school and I'd like to spend more time with him, even if it just means in a physical way. Should I just make a move myself or should I just talk to him and see if he agrees?
Any advice will do
Thanks (link)
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I don't know your friend with benefits, but I don't think a lot of people enjoy always making the first move (I could be wrong). Try it some day. Maybe not full-fledged but initiate a kiss or something and gauge his reaction. If you two are very comfortable, this shouldn't be much of a problem. And talking about it shouldn't hurt either.
If you do not want to start anything serious, that's up to you but this thing you have with your friend could be a rebound relationship. Sex to get over the ex. It is only possible, I'm not saying this is the case. (:
Be freeeeee! (: But don't lose track of your studies haha. Hopefully the end to this FWB & school isn't ugly.
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So one of my coworkers is really witty and funny. I thought he was showing interest in me lately, due to body language, eye contact etc as well as making many lighthearted innuendos towards me. I brushed this off thinking it was just kinda of funny.
But yesterday I found out that he says these things to a lot of other girls at work. my question is, what is the point of it exactly? just keep making sexual jokes and hopefully a girl will actually reciprocate with sex? Or is it a poor flirting tool? (link)
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Sorry to hear that it wasn't just for you. It seems you are affected by that.
I wouldn't say it's a "poor" flirting tool cos it works on some people. Haha. And clearly it has gotten your attention since it's unusual, as it probably has with the other girls.
Does your coworker express the same body language and eye contact with the other girls at work?
Perhaps it is just the way he is, maybe sexual innuendos and jokes are 'his thing'. In my experience, a man usually only does that with female FRIENDS not just girls in general but not everyone is the same. (: I think he's more into making girls laugh than hoping one would reciprocate with sex.
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I'm 13/f in 8th grade. i am running the 1600 for track and field. i am really nervous. i have won many cross country meets but track meets make me so much more nervous! everyone is watching! how can i calm myself down and focus during the race? also what are some tips for running it? i can't control myself right now. i am a nervous nelly. (link)
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Confidence, babe. I know what it's like being nervous for competitions.
You've won many cross country meets! So you can do it for track, focus on the positive.
Breathe deeply before the race and only say good things to yourself. You can do it, this meet is yours.
Motivation. Do you have anything you really want (besides winning of course, or I guess you could use that)? Imagine it at the end of the race and just put in your all for it.
As so commonly said, 'imagine the audience in their underwear'. Try it, it'll be less intimidating. (:
Generally, don't think about the audience. Be motivated. Find something you want to work for and work super hard for it (that would be the race).
You're awesome, for sure. You can and you will. You will not TRY to win, you WILL win. Think this way. Kill 'em out there (not literally)! (:
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Everyday I go to the mall.
I see couples walk by, holding hands or kissing.
I don't like to see people happy like that
I want to be happy like that...:(
I love this guy... Like, LOVE love. I don't want to tell him that, though. Or I don't want to ask him out. That's the guy's job! Any advice on what to do? I've loved him for FIVE STRAIGHT YEARS. (link)
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1) You DO NOT need a man (or any other person) to be happy.
2) Be patient, your time will come. Don't rush.
3) In this day and age, asking the other person out is hardly "the guy's job". It's the life lesson of "if you want it, go and get it". Don't be in despair because you've loved him for 5 years and he hasn't asked you out when you haven't done anything about it. Be proactive, get close to him and ask him out. The worst that can happen is "no" and from there, there's nowhere else to go but onward (i.e. move on).
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my boyfriends best friend tries to come close to me..he said he likes me, but he behaves very innocent in front of my boyfriend....... my boyfriend trusts him a lot. If I tell my boyfriend I think it would start drama between them & maybe me. Should I tell him? (link)
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I think the best way to work around this is to confront your boyfriend's best bud (who by the way has proven to be a horrible friend, what with going after you and all). He is being two-faced. Tell the best friend that what he is doing is wrong, he will never have you and to stop doing what he's doing.
Alternatively, you could subtly direct conversations with your boyfriend toward finding out how much he really trusts his friend in comparison to how much he trusts you, and if he would believe you if you were to tell him something as 'absurd' as this. Best of luck!
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