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Hi, i've been dating this guy for 2 months, and the first time we made out i was really nervous and i almost didnt want to. However, ever since then, i just want to kiss him a lot. I told him that i wanted to wait until my birthday to do anything too sexual. But, now my birthday is over and i feel ready but i'm wicked nervous. i think that once i do something i'll get used to it like i did with making out. i dont want to get his hopes up then smash them.. but i dont want to fool myself.. help? (link)
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I know you must be excited about this guy. It sounds like you are really attracted to him. Is he someone you'd like to live with forever, or is he someone you wouldn't mind having to deal with if you have a child? You know, you have to think of all the consequences. Would it really hurt to wait and see what he is really like? You are stalling for some reason, because you planned to wait after your birthday, and you didn't. Remember, you don't owe this guy anything, you owe yourself everything. Don't worry about getting his hopes up, this is your life. The decisions you make right now, will make a difference in your future. You have only known him for 2 mo., I hope you think about this some more. You have to make this decision on your own. I don't know how old you are, but, obviously old enough to be on a date. Good luck and take care.
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at dance i landed a jump straight legged and my knee popped. the rest of the dance it was numb and i couldnt put too much pressure on it. i have to limp. it was like jello. it still is.
it feels like it needs to pop.
its my left knee and i CANT straighten it and i'm in pain when i bend it all the way.
its no swollen and its not exactly my knee cap its to the left and kind of behind my knee.
it feels like a bone is going in and out when i do certain stuff.
i couldnt dance my last dance.
i have dance practice monday and wed. and i have a tennis tournament tuesday. and i HAVE to dance saturday.
will i be able to do that? (link)
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It sounds like you need to see a Doctor. If your pain is great, it sounds like it is, this is your bodies way of saying, hey, there is something wrong. You don't want to further damage it, if there is already something that needs attention. The only way to know is through an x-ray. Good luck. I hope you get better. You sound like a very busy person.
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what is your opinion on girls sending guys dirty pics. not completely nude, but just provacative. 15f (link)
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You better think twice about sending any pix to anyone. You need to look at the laws before doing so. Do a search on google or something and type in sending nude or provocative pictures on cell phones, and computers, you will be shocked at how much trouble you can get in with the law. Please be careful. This guy will only show everyone he knows, and you are better than that. You don't need to do that to get someone to like you. Take care.
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14/f
Ok so I've been called a flirt by one of my friends. haha I'm not mad or anything, I'm just wondering if I am. The rest of my friends don't think I am. Ok yeah like most girls I love attention from guys and they give it to me. But they are like friends to me and I just enjoy talking to them. I do laugh at alot of the stuff they say but its usually something really stupid. Like I'll go up to my guy friends at sit with them and talk to them or the other way around. I don't sit around and touch them or whatever. I don't say flirty things, at least I don't think I do. Is talking to guys alot flirting? Maybe because I always laughed? Sorry this was kind of a dumb question but yeah. Thanks! (link)
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Girl, one thing other girls don't like is that you pay a lot of attention to other guys all the time. Yes, talking to them all the time is flirting. you need attention from them, you like it when they give you attention. It makes you feel good. This is fine, except, when your friends are starting to say things, there usually some truth to it. It's okay sometimes, but all the time it is not. When your with your friends, spend time with them, they will start wondering if they should even ask you to go somewhere with them, because you will try to get the attention of their boyfriend, or whoever they have their eye on. Just decide, you don't need all this attention from guys, you are fine the way you are. Look deep inside yourself, do you really do this for attention, you really know the answer, you know what the truth is. You are a nice person, and I'm sure your pretty also, but sometimes when you hear things over and over from people, it's time to ask yourself, is it a possibility. Good luck, and at least you are trying to find out if it is something you need to look into.
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I'm naturally very fair skinned and don't really tan. If I'm out in the sun long, enough my shoulders and back will burn (like a lot of people). So I figure it's probably pretty pointless for me to try using a tanning bed, because I know they say "if you don't tan in the sun, you won't tan in here." But I've never really tried to get tan. Like, it doesn't happen easily, so I've never really tried that hard, or laid out for very long. So maybe if i was in the beds where it is so concentrated and stuff, I'd actually be able to get a little color? Is it easier in the concentrated beds than it is normally? I'm from Michigan, so that's part of why I don't get to try than much. (link)
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You know, tanning used to be the thing to do back in the old days, but I'm here to tell you, none of it is worth it. If you tan now, you will only make deep craters and rivers and valleys in your damaged skin. You are more susceptable to skin cancer from uv rays. The tanning beds are worse than the real sun. Get more information before you decide to worry about a tan. Sure, it might look good while you have it, but, it is what I call an unnecessary evil. You don't need it, it is bad, no matter where you get it. We only need sun for 10 to 15 min. a day for vitamin D to be absorbed for healthy bones.
You don't mention why you want a tan, or how long. Someday, your skin type will be the most popular one. I didn't mean to step on your toes, I used to be a sunbum, even wore a tshirt that said it on it. I just know first hand about skin damage. It won't hurt you as long as you don't burn, and you don't do it all the time. But, it is really just damaged skin when you darken it. I just wanted you to learn about tanning beds, and the sun. The reason I told you to educate yourself, is so you can make an informed decision. Be your best friend.
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I started cutting about a week ago. I have recently been diagnosed with depressession because of my step mom leaving and taking my 3 yr old baby sister with her. I take a pill called Celexa for depression, it's helped by making me happy,but I still want to cut. I cut because it helps and I do it because I can't stop, but then again I don't want to stop because it helps me feel alot better. I don't scratch because I feel the need to cut myself untill I bleed, if I don't bleed, I am unsatisfied and feel like it didn't help.My boyfriend wants me to stop, and I love him, but even for him I won't do it. I don't want to be told to stop, I want a way of stopping so that I still get that feeling of satisfaction, but without having to cut. (link)
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Ok. You have deep pain inside, there is no denying it. Cutting makes you feel better, it helps get rid of pain. The pain comes back though. Right? It never really goes away. So,the things you need to tell yourself are, I love myself enough to stop. Tell yourself, you aren't the reason for what has happened. You are loveable and people do love you. Do you ever see your sister? Someday, you will, you need to keep safe and healthy for her. She will know you and love you someday. You need to be there for her, when it is time. It's hard when adults behave like this, but they too can have mental problems. This isn't an excuse, but maybe shed some light on her abnormal behavior. Replace your cutting with something more positive, like when you feel like cuting, choose to replace it with, running, jumping, calling someone, drawing your pain, screaming for 10 min. , whatever it would take to replace the cutting, that is healthy. You deserve to be happy, and right now, you can't control what other people have done, but you certainly can control yourself by helping yourself and being there for your sister, and the others that love you deeply. It is all in how you think and what it is you tell yourself. Replace the thoughts of cutting with another word, and refuse to let it control you. You can be your best friend. you can make the choice to change, you are it. Make your life better, you have time. Decide to take action over this pain, and not let it win. Do this much for yourself, you are worth it. Decide now. take care.
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So....I've known this guy for 2 years now.The first day I saw him I immediately felt a connection between us.But lately I havents seen him at all.And everytime me and him are with a group af friends he always bothers me and makes fun of me.And Ive been nothing but nice to him since the first day we met.And sometimes (like 30% of the time) he can be sweet to me but we are usually alone.So I wanna know what does this mean?
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I think he likes you. Guys sometimes don't know how to act in front of friends when they like a girl. How old is this person? You need to just ask him about it. When he is being nice to you, you need to just open the gate and see what it is he is feeling. This way you can get over the wondering, no matter what happens. When he tells you, you need to tell him that it bothers you when he does this thing in front of people. Either way, you will get it out on the table, he either likes you a lot, or not, whatever, it will be over. good luck.
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18/f
I have a bit of a weird situation.. I have a best friend who is turning 18 who I haven't seen since I was 7 so I don't really know much about her.
For my 18th she bought me a silver necklace.
I was thinking of doing a scrapbook or photo album but I don't have any photos of us from when we were little and we don't have many memories together.
What can I get her? (link)
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Well, since you are renewing an old friendship, taking her out for diner would be good and then hand her a small gift like a friendship ring or necklace, that would be nice. This way you could talk over things, learn more about each other over a nice meal, and she will still get a heart warming gift. Do you have any old pictures of each other? bring that as a conversation piece. Your thoughtful heart is what kept your friendship together. Good Luck
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