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Q: 15\f

my friend told me that having sex isn't even that pleasurable! It was her first time though...
I was just wondering; is she right? the first time doesn't even feel good? and when does it start feeling good?

thanks
well for me, it hurt at first, but it got better. just take it slow.

Q: hi. i am 13, and i know this kid. hes lives in the next town, but him and his friends are really good friends with the boys in my group of friends. anyways, hes been telling me he wants to do stuff with me. i thought originally he ment like making out and stuff, but he recently told me he wants a handy. do you think i am too young? i need answers faast because we are hanging out tonight and i think it might happen. also, how do you give a handy?
well age is different for everyone. you will know when your ready. but dont do it, you dont really know this guy.

Q: do you think it's too fast to be past second base after 3rd week of going out?
i honestly think its a little whorish. i dont mean to be rude tho. and like if people find out about it your rep might be dead.

how old are you?

Q: Alright so I know most of the questions on this website are about my topic, but I really like this guy, he's in one of my classes and we don't really talk that much but he's really funny and he makes me laugh, and he smiles at me when I'm laughing at him. The thing is, homecoming is next week and I really want him to ask me, I don't want to ask him because I just don't like asking guys, it's just my personality. So the thing is, how can I get him to ask me? I'm really shy around guys, I'm fine with talking to them and stuff as 'friends' but it's really hard for me to just approach them and be like "hey i like you" any advice? thanks so much.

14 (almost 15)/ f
hey. okay so i think that you should go up to him in class and just talk to him normally. and then be like soo... homecommings coming up. you going with anyone?

hope i helped

Q: I like this girl. Well my friende and i both do but we had a deal. We would ask her out for each other. I went first and asked he out for him and she said yes. He's my best friend and I don't want this to get in the way of our frienship. I really like this girl a lot. I'm 13 and hes 13 and the girl i like is 13
one wuestion before i answer..im 13 too. why were you and your friend gunna bother ask her out.

Q: I want to get a thong but my mom disaproves. how can i get one and not have her find out?
thanks---
well you can go to the mall with your friends and buy them and put them in your purse. when they need to be washed, when shes out hand wash them or do your own landary.

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Q: 16/f. In one of my classes, I sit by a kid who has low self-esteem and possibly mental issues. Anyway, he started talking to me on the first day of class (we had not met before). Then he started telling me about how girls always reject him, and how he's "always wanted to ask me out." After he said that, I didn't say anything back- I just sat there and continued doing my work. Frankly, this kid gives me the creeps but I don't want to be rude at all to him. When the bell rang to leave class, he said, "So will you go out with me?" And I politely said no. I think it's really weird that he asked me out when we had just met, and when he doesn't know me AT ALL. So here's the question: Class is really awkward now. How do I handle this situation, and if he brings it up again, what do I say? I don't want a relationship right now (at least not with him), and I don't want to hurt his feelings because he has low self-esteem. Help? Thank you guys!
If it gets really unconfurable after awhile maybe ask your teacher to switch your seat and have her say its for a different reason.

Q: Im 16/f and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. We have sex, but hes at college, so we're not doing it as much. But I still wanna get on birthcontrol, but I have no idea how to tell my mom. She asked me before, but I said no. Now I dont want you guys thinking im a whore, bc Im not. We were dating 5 months before we even TOUCHED each other, no lie!. So can you please tell me about how you told your moms, and what they did/said? Please and thank you!!!


PLEASE only girls that have asked their parents for birth controll, I dont care how your sister/friend did. I want to know YOU. If you say "well my sister did.." Ill rate you LOW.
When i wanted it i go up to my mother and just sit her down and told her how we wanted to have sex and that we wanted to be safe. and she was upset up she was poud how i went to her. so maybe hell understand. expecally if she asked you about it already.

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Q: He said he is just as worried as i am and wants me to do everything i can to make sure that i am okay. I do not want to and can not get pregnant right now, so i made sure i told him that things like this cant happen and that we need to be extra careful. I am thinking about going on the pill.
yeah. that might be a good thingg.

Q: Hi! I was just wondering how to get over this? Okay so I went over this guys house. He used to hate me right but when he saw me last week he said hey. He also kept flirting with me and stuff. Then he let me sleep in his arms. Until this girl he liked got on myspace. He started talking to her so I went into the other room and cried my eyes out. I went past where he was laying in the floor and he looked up like he knew he had hurt me or something. He looked like he cared. But he didn't cuddle with me until his future g/f got off. Then he talked to me about his school and our realtionship and how we used to be good friends. I hate this so much. I'm never going to get over it. I mean does he like me again or is he too much in love with all the other girls he likes. I don't know. He makes me want to starve myself and die. I just want to end it all. My life gets worse everytime I'm around him. But I like him. What do I do without involing talking to him?
ignore this guy for awhile. then he will realize that he needs you in his life. if he doesnt, you reallly dont need them.

Q: Okay thanks for the help, one last thing, Do you think the possibilities of me being pregnant are high from this incident?
I'm not to sure. if you stopped when it first happened im sure your not pregnant. but i wouldnt drink or anything until you know for sure. And if you dont mind me asking, What does the guy this happened with say about everything?

Q: He does know, we've been talking about it a lot. So it's not too soon to take a pregnancy test?
I'd try it now. and then again.

Q: I have tried putting in a tampon a couple times but couldn't even get it to start going "in". I'm going to try again soon but is there a reason why i can't and/or are there any tips or whatever to inserting it besides putting that K-Y or whatever jelly on it? Thanks so much! And if I for some reason can't put one in what do I do when I have swimming at school? It's only for 2 weeks but I might have my period then?
Try putting the Tampon slanted going up no just straight up then push. it might hurt the firs few times but as you do it more, the more you learn better.

Q: Two days ago my boyfriend and i had sex. Him being the idiot he is sometimes :] put the condom on inside out and then fixed it. Everything seemed to be okay until later on i realized the condom fell off and was still inside me. Luckily i realized it right away and he backed away and got the condom out...(it was weird and really funny at the same time) ive been worrying so much that i may be pregnant though. Sometimes i worry so much that i start feeling like im going to throw up. Am i just over reacting? Is it possible to get pregnancy signs only two days after sex? i need answerrrss fasstt!!!
First you need to calm down alittle. Overstressed can make it worse. You should take a pregnacy test first. Does he know you think you might be pregnant? Write back to me. and i can help you more. Thank you

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Q: so my friend is really worried that shes fat and shes not. but she doesnt want to throw up everything she eats but she is trying to. but i know that if she knows what to do then she will not want to do it? how do you?
well i dont think throwing up is the right answer. try different weight loss things like eating less or sports. it will make her feel better about herself too cuz she worked hard for what she looks like. write back. thank you

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Q: Okay, I just started goin to a new school and this is my first year. Well anyway my bestfriends also went to the school with me and so does his girlfriend=[ Then im just realizing how much I like him,but I don't want to tell him I like him because it might ruin of friendship.I also want to tell him though but i think he might just think of us as friends though and nothin more but after all of this my friends says he likes me but I dont no what to do..Should I tell him or not? And how could I realy find out if he likes me?
i wouldnt tell him, becuase he has a girlfriend. but you should get really close with him friend wise cuz then he might start to develope feelings for you. write me to tell me how it goes or if you have any more questions


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Q: My boyfriend was hanging out with this girl named Natalie. Natalie told me that he got a boner while they were together. Does that mean he is turned on by her and not by me. I don't know what to think.

help.
well if he got a boner from her then that means she might of done something to turn that on. does he ever get boners when hes with you? watch this girl. dont let them get too close. email me or write me and tell me how it goes.

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Q:

i just got a new puppy. an american eskimo. and shes 9 months old.
we have her outside a lot. but she never uses the bathroom outside. instead she pees and poops inside. which is not good, obviously.
help? :/ i dont wanna get rid of her.
what you need to do is when she starts to go to the bathroom pick her up and bring her to where shes supposed to go. and then everytime do that and when she does do it right give her a treat. so she learns where the good place is and where the bad place is. i trained my uncles dog a long time ago. email me or write me to tell me how it goes.

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Q: 15/f

ok my best friend, is gonna be a highschool drop out, i just know it. i can see it already. its only the second week of school, and she stayed home, because she didnt feel like coming. and then her mom does her math homework, because she doesnt get it, and i told her that she should go down to a lower math class, but her mom wont let her, and her mom hardly ever wakes her up in the moring. i mean she is so irresponsible. and its getting annoying. and like she always will be like, well dont you think itd be fun to skip class? or do drugs? like just a little.

what should i say to her? i dont want her to drop out of school
tell her what you just told up. tell her how worried you are. tell her that if she doesnt get help for herself your gunna get help for her. from a teacher or something. you should really start to get her on track now. before its too late. Email me or write me to tell me how it goes

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AskLisa824
Hi, my name is Lisa. I am very exited and devoted in becoming a columnist. I love giving advice and i think i am rather good at it. i just say to you what i would do you what i think is best. You can ask me any question no matter what. ill always answer. Thanks =]

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