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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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I'm a thirteen year old girl. This question is for people ages 21 and up, but I suppose 18 is ok too.
These days, schools are really drilling the message into us that we shouldn't drink beer or take drugs and everything else like that (I don't know if they did that when you were little). So what I'm concerned about is that right now I am SOOOO against alcohal. I won't TOUCH a can of beer or a bottle of wine. All of the adults on both sides of my family drink but I am totally against it. I'm afraid even though I despise alcohal now, that I'll just start drinking or be pressured into drinkimg when I'm older.
Were you this way when you were younger? If so did you start drinking, even just a little? Do you think I'll start when I'm legally old enough? Please help I'm soooo scared.
To be honest, when you reach the age to be able to drink, you won't feel the need to. Most kids do it because they know they aren't allowed too. I have family members who do a lot of drinking, more than they should but I never had the urge. I wanted to be successful and ambitious. I didn't drink and I am happy with that choice. It doesn't make you are more cool, it just makes you more unhealthy. I want to live a long and healthy life. You can choose to do it or not, it is ultimately your choice. Don't let others influence into a path you don't want. It's your life, live it how you choose. I am 26, well over the drinking age so trust me, it's not as grand as everyone makes it out to be. The people you drink with aren't always going to be there so focus on what you want to do, not what others tell you to do.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. He is my everything, my rock, my supporter, and my best friend. We click perfectly. I can never cease being myself around him, even when I haven't showered and smell...haha. He does a lot for me, even paying for my college funds I don't have the money or time for. He provides me with so much support and gives me confidence and understanding. We're like best friends, and it feels like I could never get tired of him, even when he aggravates me. We fight, but only little arguments. I am definitely a handful, but he hasn't quit on me yet. He has a steady job (but no car...), and we share a lot of common interests in videogames, tv shows, music, and life itself. We plan to marry after college.
I started college Monday, August 19th. Classes were fun, but I lack friends and seem to only be able to talk casually and comfortably with guys, never girls. I don't know what it is, but I have a very hard time conversing with girls. I feel judged or nervous. I made a friend at the college bookstore today. His name is Anthony. We chatted for hours, and he sparked a lot of my interests and we shared a lot of common hobbies and likes. Anthony really caused quite a stir in my stomach. I developed a lot of butterflies and nervousness when I was around him. I wanted to know everything about him, and I developed a huge crush on him after a few hours of chatting face to face. He got my number and we started texting in a friendly manner.
This situation has happened before, where I fall for another while I am still with my boyfriend. We got through it and continue to get through it, since I can't ever seem to stop flirting. It's not sexual, I just get bored and lonely sometimes when my boyfriend is busy. I feel like a bad person, a really bad one. My boyfriend and I are absolutely perfect for each other, and every time I think about being without him, I cry. I can't fix this. I have talked to other guys before and flirted like this before several times. I love my boyfriend, but not as much as I thought if I keep doing this. I am 18, and he is 19...and Anthony is 28, which my parents would never approve. I can't shake Anthony out of my head, and when my boyfriend texts me, I get sad it's not Anthony. My boyfriend and I have drifted apart in my eyes, I just don't feel any interest now. I am such a bad girlfriend...someone please help me. I don't want to have another problem when this relationship is so perfect...
It would seem you see the qualities in Anthony you wished your current boyfriend had. It not uncommon to feel a stranded from someone you love. You feel like you aren't on the same page anymore. Life after hs is very hard and it seems you have grown up and he hasn't. You aren't a bad girlfriend, you just want different things. I think that finding a man at college would be your best bet. You want someone succeeding with you, not lagging behind and making you feel guilty. You will always have your love, but its best to find someone on the same path or someone with goals for the future.
I am a female and I am almost 15. Please do not tell me how stupid I am for letting this happen because I know I am. I really need help. A few days ago (last weekend) me and my boyfriend I guess you could say we had sex? It was in and we were doing things, but he pulled out before he came.. I am late for my period now it normally comes on the 7th and it's now the 9th. I am really nervous and I want to know if I'm just overreacting or if I should go get a pregnancy test? How long would I have to wait from when we did it to take one? Someone please help :'(
First of all, do not panic. If this is your first time having sex, do not panic. Periods are late for a variety of reasons: stress, anxiety, sex for the first time, and pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant in three weeks. I would wait until you are at least a week and a half late. However, your anxiety about being late can further delay your period. You just need to take a deep breath and relax. If you are pregnant you will have other symptoms come into play. When I first found out I was pregnant, my first indicator was sore nipples. Then I was constipated, and 24 hour nausea kicked in. Although it is minimally possible that you are pregnant, it is highly unlikely that the egg and sperm would have been made that quickly.
I an 13 and I want a baby but, I don't know what to do what should I do
The first thing is to plan. You want to make sure you have a stable job and a person who can watch the baby while you are at school. You want to make sure that the baby is taken care all the time. Having a baby can be expensive even if you slowly get things the further you get along. The next thing is to prepare yourself for the rough road. The first couple of months they get their nights and days mixed so you will be up all night. They usually wake up every hour to two hours. When you feel ready to take on this ambitious task, you find a guy and make a baby.
Mormons believe there are 3 levels of Heaven, but the Bible only mentions Heaven and Hell?
The Bible doesn't say anything about the Celestial Kingdom, Terrestrial Kingdom, and Telestial Kingdom. It just says Heaven & Hell.
Are there 3 degrees of heaven?
It is hard to say whether something is true for real or not. Each religion has their own beliefs that seem kind of out of this world while other things seem plausible. The Mormons also believe that no one truly stays in hell forever, that they redeem themselves and move up. If heaven is a place where all is forgiven and everyone has a chance then I suspect what they are saying to be true. I was a Mormon for awhile. When it comes to religion, all you can really go on is your gut. Do you feel it is something worth believing or do you feel it is something to question. I believe that there is no true church on earth, but all religions are bits and pieces of what the true church once was.
Alright, this is not my first child, but my first pregnancy went strangely, and I don't really remember much of anything about it. My first child was born at 23 weeks, and I was knocked out for an emergency cesarean, so I don't remember anything about it. This is my second pregnancy, *nearly 9 years later* and I've gone full term so far. *only a few more weeks to go* and I'm honestly terrified. I'm not sure what to expect or whatever... Everything is going well for my pregnancy, me and the baby are perfectly healthy as the doctors are always telling me. I don't know why though, but as the time gets closer and closer, I seem to feel more and more scared. Is this a normal response? Like I said, my first pregnancy was not a normal one.. This is my third as I lost the second one... Is being scared normal?
I was very scared when I gave birth to my son, Ezra. It is completely normal. Your biggest fear is not being ready especially the closer you get to the due date. I felt like I hadn't accomplished anything and wasn't ready. Also it could be a response to you losing your second and having an abnormal first one. You are afraid that when you get to the finish something is going to go wrong and you went through all that just to lose everything. I assure you, if you have made it this far, you will make it all the way. but the fears are completely hormonal and normal.
My girlfriend and i had protected sex recently. However i did not enter inside her completly, and did not reach the hilt. But before i put a condom completly i realised i was putting it in the wrong way, so i turned it over and put it again...and also wiped the surface with my hand twice....Now i'm worried if some cum was left on top and could have entered inside while having sex..So what are the chances of her getting pregnant?
The chances of her getting pregnant from that is slim to none.
hi. so im on my second period ever because i started late and i really wanted to go swimming so i tried putting a tampon in and was really nervous.. i was told it didnt hurt but it hurt extremly and caused me great pain. I ended up not being able to get it in and not going. 3-4 hours after attempting i was still in pain even thought it wasnt even in? Is it suppost to hurt this bad?
Usually when you attempt it for the first time, it does hurt a little. Especially if your body isn't used to stretching like that. Some people can never wear tampons for that reason. I am one of those who couldn't ever. IT also helps if you try a different position, maybe while sitting down on the toilet or such.
I've never really known what the difference between loving someone and actually being in love was. So basically I just want someone to tell me what the real differnce is between the two.
P.S. The reason I'm asking is because I really like this guy and ive been liking him for like 6 months already and I wanna know if I'm in love with him or not. Thanks for all your help!
When you love someone, it is not permanent. If you were to get in fight, its no big deal. Loving someone means you rely on them as more of as a friend than anything else. This is usually how relationships always start out in the beginning.
To be in love with someone completely means no matter what, you cannot live without them. You think about them from the moment you get up to the moment you go to bed. And some cases you dream about them. This person is all you see and can't imagine being with anyone else. They are, in turn, your life.
Sorry, I think I'm asking you too many questions, just nvm. But thanks a lot for your advice, it really really helped me :)
Your not asking me a lot of questions. I can't respond unless you send me an inbox every time. For some reason its not like facebook where you can respond back and forth. Each question you have simply send me a message and I promise to respond. It's never too much.
Hey, I don't know if you remember me 'cause its been a loong time but I'm the one who asked this question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=596298&sid=dd97b119605b55b0568b86c668e80556
Um so, I don't feel like killing myself now.. I admit that was a little bit dramatic but I just feel like its hopeless :/ I kinda get invited to places at times but I can sense that not many girls want me around.. and like I said before, I'm not much of a flirt and the popular girls bitch about me to the guys so I can't be friends with them either.. So now I have like NO friends. And I used to be a straight-A student but now I keep thinking about how I look, how I have no friends and how all the people at school treat me and my grades are dropping =( Its not like I'm failing but I just don't get top marks anymore. And the most popular girl, well, she is topping now.. thought its kinda 'cause she copies. But still.. my life is like in ruins right now.. so help? -.-"
Of course I remember you :) Sounds like you need to find a new identity. Something you can do where the opinions of others doesn't matter. Why not find a hobby you find yourself putting your whole soul into. Some people like to write, some like to paint, play an instrument such as guitar or piano, writing lyrics helps, or even simple things such as cooking or scrap booking. You need to find one thing you are completely comfortable with, and defines you for who you are. For example, my classical guitar defines myself. When I start playing, it doesn't matter what the world thinks of me because I know I am good and I am doing something I completely love. Once you find that something you can't live without, you will eventually see the guys being attracted to you, the girls being jealous of you, and see that the world can flip the other way.
For me to answer your additional questions you will have to send me another inbox message.
Hi im attending college soon and they recommend a intel 7 processor, windows 7 professional and micro. office 10 professional..im going for business administration. say if i were to get a laptop with regular windows 7 would that make a difference then the professional whats the difference along with regular and professional office 10. also is there much difference between a intel 3 5 and 7 or a amd processor? what will the difference be?
A site to give you the major differences between regular windows 7 (home premium) and professional. http://windows.microsoft.com/en-us/windows7/products/compare?T1=tab20
Essentially the professional offices or windows has more to offer than any other kind. The regular are those who do not want all the perks and just want the program. Or want the cheapest one possible. If you looking for the absolute best then I would go with professional.
As for intel and processor, there really isn't much difference. They are just two companies selling the same product. I would said that intel would be faster in terms of speed. Although processor is cheaper, the chips tend to get hotter than intels. You may have more problems than solutions if you go with a processor.
I'm looking for seasons of Law& order so i can download them. I can't buy the DVD's cause i live ina small place that don't have stores to buy DVD's and such, and i can't go anywhere to find the DVD's and buy them.
So are there any sites besides the pirate bay i can use?
I wouldn't advise downloading because they just passed a law where they monitoring all the computers. If they catch you illegally downloading, it is a 1000 dollar fine and jail time. But have you thought about ordering them on amazon.com or ebay.com to have them sent to via mail? But if you really want another site besides pirate bay, you can go to btjunkie.org.
I'm 18/F
I've never been kissed, never been on a date, and have never been in a relationship.
Is that normal? I feel like i'm not good enough for anyone to love me, or even like me...
I mean... I've never really put myself out there, or flirted or anything, but no one's ever made an effort for me either.
I'm just kinda freaking out over this.
Actually I was the exact same way. I put my ambitions and goals before any guys. I want a future before thinking about dating and such. When you hit around 23 or 24, it may or may not change. I view it as your smart and don't want anything to compromise your future. It just doesn't appeal to you right now. I wouldn't freak at all about it because it is perfectly normal.
17/f. I used to either be drunk or high at least 6 out of 7 days of the week. (none of my family knew.) As soon a I would get home I would spend time with my family, cook for the whole family, clean, go out for walks. I was a very happy, social person. About 2 weeks ago I realized what I was doing was wrong. I have my whole life ahead of me, there's no need for me to throw it all away so soon. So I completely quit. Ever since I've been sober I don't want to do anything, I get irritated being with my family, I pretty much spend all day in my room doing nothing, I stopped talking to almost all of my friends, I used to be texting all the time, now I turn my phone off so I don't have to talk to anyone. Nothing seems to interest/motivate me. I'm not sure how to go back to my old personality without picking up my bad habits again. Any advice on what I should do?
Merging an old life and a new one is never easy. I was the exact same way when my grandmother died from brain cancer. I hated everything I used to do or who I used to be and tried to find a new person. Then after awhile I was able to mix who I was and who I became into one. And essentially became a better person than I had ever been. All you have to do is find one thing to make you happy and the rest will fall into place in time. Have you thought about picking up an instrument such as guitar, piano, or something? Or even just writing lyrics, poetry, or stories? If you are creative you could start drawing, painting, scrapbooking,or photography etc. The thing that helped merge both personalities was writing. I wrote a series of books to get through my grief and it made me feel a whole lot better. I, in turn, was able to endure music by picking up the instruments I used to play before she died. Then I opened up to my family and finally started getting along with them again. You just need one thing whether it is something you already had done or something new to help you reconnect you to your old life. This type of therapy helps you accept what has happened and move on. If you have any further questions you can send me an inbox.
Hey i was trying out for volleyball yesterday and i really pushed my self till i started seeing black spots . Like , it really wasn't black spots on things that i saw , i guess because i was really tired and i almost couldn't catch my breathe , that's how hard i pushed my self . So my question is why did i start seeing black spots ? And by the way they stopped after i start catching my breathe and stuff . :/ Help ,Please . (: (:
When you sugar hits a certain low number, those spots will appear. It is caused by lack of fluids or food in the body, and burning the calories so much, your sugar drops dramatically. I would suggest drinking Gatorade, or always carrying something with chocolate in it. When you see those spots, it is usually followed by passing out, so you are very lucky you didn't. If you have any further questions just send me an inbox.
Does it cost to have your boyfriend donate his sperm and does it cost for the sperm to be implanted in me?
Unfortunately yes it does. Prices vary in different states and counties. If you have any kind of medical insurance, you may be covered. Or you will have to pay a deductible of some sort. The process of your husband donating sperm and being implanted in you is put into one fee.
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Thank You for letting me fills out my guts! Frist I explained little about myself. I am 26 years old I am Hard of Hearing and I Live with my parents. I don’t drive and have a Job. looking for one. Anyway I am Dating Guy for 2 half years. I love him very much he is a nice and sweet and funny. Thing is we have differences. Like Religion. It not a big issue to me but it sure is for him and his family. Thing is there beliefs they read the bible from words to words. They don’t celebrated holidays and that we don’t need crosses and pictures I know in the bible say don’t make or worship idols. I know that. And me and my family are very compassion and we try to do God work by care and doing for others. I mean it not really big deal to me if they don’t want to do holidays and know we don’t need have crosses and such. I can get that but thing is real issue is him dragging me down sometimes and thing is I should of mention I know it not really excuse to say… I am hard of hearing and well growing up little behind. I am using words thing to correct my spelling and grammar. Thing is that he has a sister that is married to a family have their own little church that they go to and read the bible for their self. Thing is that couple people that talks don’t know very well and they don’t know me and of course I don’t think want to. Thing is that I am not very comfortable around people that try to teach me or I was like that when I was in school. Plus I am not comfortable around people I don’t know very well. The church I went with my mom we grow up same church and I know people our church because I know them. And I know that we go to church and worship God and I do from my heart and I am very compassion. Thing is I know it hard find real problem here. I think that I do take things wrong way and I know that but sometimes I don’t think my boyfriend don’t seem get it. I think I am losing the love I have for him. He wants to cuddle and kiss all the time and I am not in to it. I don’t know what it is. Is there something wrong with me? Other thing is when I am getting close to PMS is when I get feel out of whack. Thing is I have to be on pills have PMS . I was born little behind and well sometimes I am more of child mind.. Because I am in a fourth grade level and still watch kids’ shows. I do watch some adult shows and movie. It just that I guess I have a young spirit. Well thing is I am going thou depression because I live at home and don’t drive I have I can’t. I kind lost interests of things I want to-do crafts and other things I kind of play on my iPhone and face book. And my boyfriend lives with him parents to and he almost 30 and going lineman school and try save money. I mean we play games together and laugh. And just when he starts talking about religion I feel like he expects me to say something or want me to learn. I do know way I know. I didn’t grow up someone telling me who or what to do I have my own option and am I am good person. I might not read the bible because it hard for me to understand it and I want to. And I don’t like how he want just teach me and I don’t like it I guess. So I think so far pretty much it what I have to say and thanks so much.
It sounds like he is pressuring you into learning about religion more. If you don't want to learn about it, you have to tell him point blank. And its alright if you are not comfortable around meeting new people or being in large groups, because that is normal. Him trying to teach you about the bible only makes you even more uncomfortable. You have to set guide lines and boundaries for your relationship. You have to specifically tell him, hey I don't like when you do this or I feel the most uncomfortable when you do this. Explain to him that you love God, you love the bible, and you appreciate his effort but you don't want him to do it. Guys tend to do things without realizing how much it makes the other person feel whether good or bad. Guys tend to be oblivious or don't really notice things. I know how you feel when it comes to losing feelings for someone, and the only way out of it is by talking to the person. And make sure they are listening and paying attention. Guys tend to go in their own little world. If you have any more questions feel free to send me another inbox.
so now my nearest and dearest r dead for every event i wrote a poem how can i get it on net
There is a place called poetry.com that will post your poetry online for other writers to read and even people who are just browsing. If you change you mind about a publisher, I know a site that gives you complete control over your work. It is a self-publishing site that you can set to where only you view the items or buy. No one will be able to see your product nor buy it. I figure since your family is very dear to you, you might want to put all the poetry in a book, and maybe send the finished product some family members who might appreciate the memory or have some tribute to them. The self-publishing site is called lulu.com.