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I feel uncomfortable when I'm sober
17/f. I used to either be drunk or high at least 6 out of 7 days of the week. (none of my family knew.) As soon a I would get home I would spend time with my family, cook for the whole family, clean, go out for walks. I was a very happy, social person. About 2 weeks ago I realized what I was doing was wrong. I have my whole life ahead of me, there's no need for me to throw it all away so soon. So I completely quit. Ever since I've been sober I don't want to do anything, I get irritated being with my family, I pretty much spend all day in my room doing nothing, I stopped talking to almost all of my friends, I used to be texting all the time, now I turn my phone off so I don't have to talk to anyone. Nothing seems to interest/motivate me. I'm not sure how to go back to my old personality without picking up my bad habits again. Any advice on what I should do?
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I don't know how long you were high or drunk; though if it was any length of time your body is still detoxing. Going cold turkey as it seems you have can be somewhat dangerous, though you seem to behandeling most of it well.
It is not surprising to me that you are in the mood you are in. You need to do two things, from my point of view, to get right with the world.
The first is find support for your new sober life style. You can do this by finding an AA meeting in your area and start attending meetings. At the end you will find a link to the AA website. The second thing you may want to do is find out what caused you to turn to drugs and alcohol in the first place. This would be optional if you join AA.
The drugs and Alcohol were a substitute for something missing in your life. They, by your own admission, helped you feel better about yourself. Since drugs and alcohol are depressants this does not make a whole lot of sense. How can a depressant make you feel better? Should you want to to both, which is something I would not only suggest but support, then by all means do so.
My brother in-law is 25 years sober through AA. He lives the AA life and claims AA saved his life. He is very active in AA, STOP, MADD and other organizations like it. He claims AA has given him the purpose that was missing in his life.
Talk Therapy with a therapist trained in teenage substance abuse together with AA should help you find the why of your drinking and drug abuse. It will also put you on track to a better more productive life. My brother in-law is living proof of this.
AA costs you nothing. All they ask of you is an honest effort on your part. They will supply the support and whatever else you need to stay sober.
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Merging an old life and a new one is never easy. I was the exact same way when my grandmother died from brain cancer. I hated everything I used to do or who I used to be and tried to find a new person. Then after awhile I was able to mix who I was and who I became into one. And essentially became a better person than I had ever been. All you have to do is find one thing to make you happy and the rest will fall into place in time. Have you thought about picking up an instrument such as guitar, piano, or something? Or even just writing lyrics, poetry, or stories? If you are creative you could start drawing, painting, scrapbooking,or photography etc. The thing that helped merge both personalities was writing. I wrote a series of books to get through my grief and it made me feel a whole lot better. I, in turn, was able to endure music by picking up the instruments I used to play before she died. Then I opened up to my family and finally started getting along with them again. You just need one thing whether it is something you already had done or something new to help you reconnect you to your old life. This type of therapy helps you accept what has happened and move on. If you have any further questions you can send me an inbox.
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