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Q: 16/f and I'm really like one of my best guy friends. The only problem is that he's in love with another girl. I can't just let my feelings go. I'm happy for him that he found somebody that he loves but I get all confused around him. What do I do?

If he REALLY loves this girl and you know for a fact he is head over heels for her...Then move on because its not worth breaking up him and what could be the love of his life.

Or if you know he just likes her but doesnt really love her...then try to put yourself out there and be like hey you can have me, im better. lol

but ive fallen for a guy friend once and it turned out that we went out and broke up and never spoke again so think about this wisely

Q: so my best guy friend and i are really close
and we even hooked up for fun
then i started to like him
but i didnt tell him
so he started liking this other girl
i ended up telling him that i like him
but now him and the girl are going out
i still like him
and they've been together for a month
i've tried getting over him but its so hard
and i cant forget about him because he is my best friend
and we talk alot
i was thinking that i could wait for the relationship to end
but it hurts when he talks about her
i usually help him with his problems
so he tells me whats going on
what do i do? :/
*confused&&inlove*
[15/f]

I use to have a best guy friend.
I know how you feel. Because i started to like my best guy friend too and eventually me and him started going out but then we just broke up because well....thats a long story lol. But anyway i ended up losing the friendship i had with this guy just bc we went out and me and him dont talk anymore. So that would be the negative effect of all this. But if i were you and you really wanted to get with him i would wait till him and the girl broke up because if you dont and u try to break them up karma will come back and bite you in the ass. So just stay his friend and hang in there.

Q: 2 years ago i went out with this guy for 5months and after 5months i lost the "beginning relationship spark" but i thought i didn't like him anymore but i knew i still loved him. anyway i didn't know what i was feeling and i broke up with him. he was my first love and i was his. not too long after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and has been with her ever since but now two years later i miss him ALOT. last night i was crying hysterically. like screaming crying because i missed him so much and i want him back. i havent cried over a guy...ever! just when we broke up. we started going out on the day before valentines day (today) so im not sure if valentines day is bringing these emotions but last valentines day i was fine without him. we've been texting for about 2 months now but not talking about me liking him. just boring conversations but now his phone broke so we havent talked in a week and i can't call his house, that would be wayyyy too akward. i did request him on myspace though last night so im hoping to talk to him on there. BUT, these feelings for him aren't going away and i havent felt like this or missed him in 2 years but now all of the sudden i can't remember why we broke up. i really really really want to tell him that i'm still in love with him but he's been going out with this other girl for almost 2years. i need to get this off my chest but even though i would rather him be with me than her, i don't think im quite mean enough to tell my ex i like him right before he celebrates valentines day with his girlfriend.

what the heck do i do about this???

I think you should just wait it out and the feelings might go away after valentines day. i remember a year ago one of my ex's broke up with me 5 days after valentines day. Though he was cheating anyway so yea.. but i still remember that and you are just having all these feelings rushing back because its around valentines day again. I dont think it will do any good telling him if you do because if he has been with this girl for 2 years then it seems kind of serious. But if you do i would wait like a week and so you can see if its just valentines day bringing back all these emotions.

Q: If your swimming with a tampon in wont the string hang out or come out of your bathing suit?

unless you are wearing a loose bathing suit it shouldnt. trust me on this. i know lol Plus if you get the good kind then the string should barely hang out.

Q: Okkay, my boyfriend always says he's going to kiss his girlfriend, & not referring to me, (referring to my other friend) & he goes in to kiss her & I pull him back, I know he is just playing but I would really like him to stop, what should I tell him?

hes just seeing if you will get jealous. Its a guy thing. They just want to see if you will care. And obviously you will so just tell him to stop. thats the only thing you can do

Q: this question is probably very common
but for the last 2 1/2 years ,ive liked this boy.
He liked me on and off,but we never went out.
I've had sex with him but he claims he wasnt using me.
No matter how badly he treats me,i let him do it just because im scared to not talk to him anymore because i like him so much.
He used to treat me nice and all that but now its different ,it seems like hes only nice to me when he wants to have sex and i fall for it everytime.
Basically im gonna confront him and stop having sex with him ,but what else should i do to either not like him and forget him ..or for him to just respect me?

Girls like you make me so mad. You let guys use you and you know they are and when they are all nice to you and shit then you think they are going to stop and its like so stupid when you let a guy use you like that. And im not speaking out of term either because i let a guy use me once and i vowed never to let that happen again and you should to. dont let him use you like that. Its fucked up.

Q: is it safe to have sex everyday?

sex is like exercise. and exercise is good for your body. so there fore sex everyday burns those calories! lol but you might get a bit sore.

Q: hi, i was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how i can be less shy around guys. Because around some guys i am completely comfortable but when it's like a hot guy or something i get intimidated or whatever and get really shy! most ptobably because the guy is hot and you don't want to look like an idiot or whatever but does anyone have some tips to make me less shy aroudn them?
thanks!!!!

Guys are human to. And so are you. They get shy also. Its totally normal. But a girl with confidence, guys say, is the sexiest thing or so i have been told. but if you just keep your head on and play it cool and just mingle and make conversation, you should be okay.

Q: Can you help me out with flirting. Like i can flirt while texting and im'ing but not in person. Like i just go blank. I dont know what to say. I can smile back but how do i flirt? thanks :)

You seem a bit shy then. Just get the guts to say what you do through text. Its basically the same thing except the words are coming out of your mouth. going blank isnt always a bad thing, sometimes guy find it cute that you dont know what to say, its kind of like a compliment to them say "hey i must be hot if she doesnt know what to say to me". Flirting is most of the time initiated by the guy though. but if you want to take the first step them go ahead. The first step to everything is starting conversation. and dont forget to make eye contact. A girls most powerful weapon is her eyes. you can say a thousand things with just one look. Hope i helped.

Q: so, like, probably about a month ago i started cutting myself. now, i can't stop. it has turned into an addiction. i can't hide it anymore, i wera like tons of hair things on my wrist, but it still doesn't fully cover all of the cuts and if one accidentley moves, people are like omg what is that?! and i always tell them i axcidentley burnt myself. and i have been going to the doctor ALOT lately because i'm really sick and they don't no what is wrong with me and so they always check my body and stuff, and i have been getting I.V.'s and stuff and the nurse just pulls up my sleeve and see's it and looks at me then just acts like she didn't see it because she no's. so, i have been trying to stop, i really have, but it is so hard because i like to do it so much. it's not like im really doing anything bad to me, they are harmless little cuts that barley bleed, so what i really want is to no how to hide them! anyone who can help will be well appreciated! thanks.

Cutting yourself isnt cool girl! You need to stop. It doesnt help you in the long run, trust me i know because i watched that shit distory my bestfriend and i felt so helpless because she wouldnt listen to me and stop and she just kept cutting and now shes just not the same person anymore. So as a person who has seen a person go threw this i really would appreciate it if you just stopped. and dont say you cant because you can. you just have to believe you can. i hope you decide to stop. i really do.

Q: my bf and i are both staying virgins until marriage but we like to have dry sex with all of our clothes on. Is it wrong? because we are Christians and dont want to do something bad. thanks :)

lol nah. its fine. i dont think there is anything in the bible that says dry sex is a sin. if it is, ive sinned then! lol

Q: 14/F

I get really horny really fast. I've fingered myself, but thats not warking anymore. I dont want 2 go out and just have sex witha guy. Any advice?

buy a vibrator. or get a guy u like to finger you. it feel better when they do it. trust me.

Q: can u get pregnent from fingering yourself??????

thanks

no offence or anything but that is the dumbest question. In order to get pregnant u need sperm, and unless your finger can produce it then no you cant get pregnant from fingering youself.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months and ever since a few months ago i have been feeling so bad after he leaves when we hang out. I dont know why and I am very confused. Hanging out with him makes me feel like crap. I think it's because we do too much making out and stuff and not enough fun stuff. I wish i can change that but I am usually the one to start doing that. I can't help myself i guess but it's not worth it later because i am in the worst mood ever. Help?

Basically if you dont want to do that then dont do it. Go to six flags or some fun place like that where you KNOW you are going to have fun and you wont have time to make out.

Q: hey, i just want to know if there's anyone who's asked their good guy friend out,or if you've had feelings for them and just straight out told them. i dunno anyone who's done that and what the best/worst is that can happen,as in how often the friendship still remains after that is said. so if you can tell me what happened after you told your best guy friend please let me know! thank you!

it depends on how strong the friend relationship you have with him right now is. Ive been out with a guy friend before and when we broke up we never talked again. and we hate each other. But he was an asshole to start with so yea. But in your case if yall really know each other then that is good because if yall get together then you can just skip the getting to know each other part but the worst thing that could happen is that yall break up and not be friends anymore but im sure that wont happen. Plus if you dont tell him and there is a chance yall could of worked out then you will be kicking your self in the ass later for not telling him.

Q: my bf slobbers when we make out and i will tell him he does and its ok we talk about everything and he wants to be a better kisser but i dont know what to tell him to do so he doesnt. even when we arent frenching there is too much saliva! thanks!!

he probably isnt swallowing his spit. and is just letting it linger in there while yall kiss so tell him to swallow once in a while. Thats probably whats causing all the drool lol

Q: I always wake up once I have about 5 hours of sleep.
I've tried to sleep more because I heard you needed it for teens.

I was really tired so I went to bed at 10 and I woke up around 2-3. I couldn't go back to sleep. It's already 7 now.

So what's wrong with me?

Well maybe you should get this checked out. it may be serious.

Q: i told one of my bestfriends i liked him because i did, and he told me he kindof liked me too. and so today he asked me to go to the movies with him and a friend we'll call him harrison. and so i was talking to harrison and i told him that i didn't really like the other guy anymore because he is such a good friend and harrison was like well then you shouldn't go to the movies because he wants to kiss you.
i can't kiss a guy, not right now. i like another guy that i want to date and i can't ruin it.
what should i do?

Well if you dont want to ruin it then dont go!! Its simple as that, if you like another guy then dont go to the movies with him.

Q: Alright....2 months ago i broke up with my ex of 2 years and well he kinda scares me....my first question is what do i do when he threatens everyone i talk to....second question is....what do i do when i fall for his best friend...let me catch you up...this guy has bin there for me threw thick and thin....and well his dad just passed away and he came over to watch a movie with me and we ended like making out for 3 hours and i stoped him and told him i didnt want to do this because he was upset and ya...anyways he ended up telling me that he has liked me for a long time and that he wants to be with me....i really dont know what to do....we have so much in common and he makes me feel like a school girl any ideas?

Then dont go out with the guy then. Its your choice.

Q: I'm 17, my friend that I like is 19. So all of the signs point to this guy liking me (I'm not talking silly things like "OMGHELOOKEDATME" either) except for one: while texting, he never initiates the conversation. During the week our only form of communication is texting, because he's ridiculously busy working till the wee hours of the morning.(Like, from 11 in the morning till midnight) However, he never texts me first, he'll only start once I initiate the conversation. I went a day without texting him to see if he would, but he didn't. Otherwise, it seems certain that he likes me, but this really bothers me. Am I overreacting, or should I worry?

ask him why he doesnt text you first. Ive kinda had a situation like this but it was calling not texting. and i was worried and all. so its normal if you are but if yall arent together as a couple then he really doesnt HAVE to text you. if you get what im saying. or maybe he doesnt know what to say to you. i could be one of a million reasons, guys are so retarded these days

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.