There's got to be something about her that bugged you... focus on that. We're not all perfect, you know? If you can't think of anything just make something up. You can make yourself not like someone, you can, don't believe anyone who tells you otherwise.

Don't be shy? There's not much I can tell you, you're just going to have to suck it up and strike up a conversation. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you're going to be tough today, because you deserve to be heard, dammit!

It tends to hurt girls who are younger, more stressed out about the situation, who've never used tampons, who have an intact hymen. You hymen starts to deteriorate around the time of your first menstrual period, so for many women, it's gone by the age of 18. Contrary to popular belief it does not grow back.

My advice is to make sure you're darn good and emotionally ready before having sex. If you've never had oral sex or been touched, you're far from being ready. The emotional trauma of having sex for the first time too early hurts a lot more than actual penetration.

Check engine can mean all sorts of things... some random sensor went out, there's some engine parameter off. You can't tell with a manual, you have to have an engine diagnostic performed to read your car's computer. Call around to some auto parts stores like autozone or o'rileys or whatever and ask if they'll do a diagnostic and for how much. Sometimes one of those places will have a special and do it for $20 or even free, but call 4-5 places to check it out. Either way, you can drive your car with the check engine light on but I wouldn't do it for very long.

itchy I'd worry about. like, really itchy? don't have sex until the itching goes away... you might need to have that checked out. if you're just sore, you probably need to use more lubrication. don't worry, it's normal to need it. get thyself some KY next time, m'kay?

buy a canvas and cover it with a light fabric and hang it on the wall. it creates a nice atmosphere, i've found.

honey, if he's offended, he's not the man for you! pleasing a woman isn't something that comes all that natural for the majority of men, hey, we're complicated. Sooner or later they all have to learn to accept some constructive criticism. He'll probably take it better than you think he will. Just smile a lot and offer one helpful hint at a time so he's not overwhelmed and you'll be fine.

ewe no! doesn't it stick to you funny? let it breathe!

I wouldn't let the chin thing bug you too much. We all change, we all have things we don't like about ourselves.

As for exercising... I'd recommend looking into yoga mats, some can be pricey but they're really good. It depends on what exercise you're doing, really. Many workouts can be done just fine on a big towel.

Recently I substituted hard candy and herbal vitamin drops into my diet instead of junk food. I think it's helped a lot, I don't crave it as much.

Trust me, it's not just teenagers. It's something that infects us from the moment we're born. Some people outgrow it I suppose, but most of us spend our lives watching commercials and reading magazine ads that tell us how to look and act for other people instead of ourselves. It wears on us.

eh... I'm tempted to say no. But here's why. I went to a small school. I qualified for quite a few scholarships so it was mostly paid for, and it was cheap to start with anyway. So when I got out I had no student loans. This may not sound like a big deal to you now, but trust me... I had friends who owed $25,000 or more after college and that's a TON of money when you only make $25,000 a year, which is pretty normal for a new grad in some fields.

My advice: try a cheap, close to home college for the first couple years... by close to home I mean you can visit your folks without having to buy a plane ticket, not "yay mom is dropping by for dinner AGAIN". If you're miserable, apply to the california school.

Also, keep in mind that depending on what you want to do, where you get your graduate degree makes a much bigger difference than where you get your undergrad. No point in blowing whatever budget you don't have now.

180 lbs isn't fat. Seriously, if I were you I wouldn't be so concerned about it.

If you're trying to just be healthy the best advice I can give you is to exercize and try not to eat too many processed foods, eat fresh fruits and veggies and meats and whole grain breads and organic wheat pastas. And don't snack. I get these vitamin C lozenges sometimes, and when I feel like snacking between meals I have one of those and it helps me avoid it some.

But don't let the world tell you you're fat.

He's a jealous loser, why would you even consider staying with a guy like that?

You chose a challenging topic. There's no way you'll get close to conquering it in 24 hours. There are thousands of resources on feminism, feminist literature, and feminist authors... they're all easy to find, but papers like this can't just be spit out with an advice column answer, sorry to say it! get to work and don't procrastinate next time.

To create GIF animations you'll need a program that does GIF animation, like the GIMP or animagic.

You take things too personally. I just don't answer anyone's e-mails anymore... it's not that I don't like people, it's that, well, sometimes I'm just not sure what to say.

I also have B.O., so yay us!

Say you want the job for experience and education, that's better than saying you're just poor. You might also mention any good things you've heard about the company. Ask the interviewer lots of questions about the job and what you'll be doing and who you'll be working with and how much repetition there is (studies show that when we listen to people talk about themselves, they like us better). Speak loudly and clearly and be confident.

They're not really that hard... I just unziped a pre-existing skin and made bitmap buttons right on top of the old ones using the GIMP and ka-blam, a skin! They take a long time but they're very fun to make.

God's Word tells us to love one another and be very careful not to be pios and judgemental. There are a couple references in there about sexuality too, but I think if we make these our priorities we're really out of whack. The homosexuality issue really strikes a chord with me because so many Christians think homosexuals should be treated like second-class citizens because they're "sinners" or whatever. Since when does being a sinner make you unworthy of love and freedom?

I think we have to live our lives and focus on what's really important. There are a thousand little things the Bible talks about that we don't consider... do you eat shellfish? have you ever yanked out your eye because you found yourself looking at something sinful? We can't comb the Bible for little references to judge people with all the time.

Why do you think God tells us not to commit adultry? Because He's bored? No, it's because He knows that self-respecting people don't sleep around with everyone... taking care of your body means having the confidence to know that it's really worth something, and you are too good for that guy who just wants you for sex. I'm saying the same things you are, I'm just more direct about it.

I don't like designers. I think they make too much money. Paul Frank is milking the monkey idea that's not even all the way his... I refuse to pay more to wear someone else's name.

I've been in the advice column over five years now so I think I've pretty much heard it all... the love, the hate, the random insanity. I don't take it too seriously, so I'm not always giving the best advice, but my column is fun to read!

I am a 23 year old electrical engineer, a feminist, a Christian. I don't know everything but I can sure pretend to.

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