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Q: when i masturbate i hit an orgasm, and i keep going and whatever and i never wanna stop but then like after 3 minutes, i just like stop masturbating sit up and go online.. is that normal?

Um yea, when most people masturbate and then orgasm, they do feel a need to continue until it doesnt feel as great anymore. So the answer is yes.

Q: My boyfriend keeps sending me love songs. Old and recent. it's really sweet..

I want to send him some too but I really don't know any. The ones I look up are hip hop kinds and I don't really like the lyrics, you know? I want some cute songs like this

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Q1Rf40Vn0UI

Help? :]
Thanks

My favorite song is Love by keiysha cole. Its beautiful.

Q: I told my best friend that im in love with him.
He said he only wants to be friends. but then again.. hes always " i miss you. can i call you? i miss your voicee :[ " or when i get a boyfriend and he already has a girlfriend hes all " Im so jealous. I wish I was him. " or " Is he good enough for you? I dont want you to get hurt. I love you too much for that "

We fight like every week. Over the stupidest things. But, he always gives in first. He calls me beautiful and gorgeous and i rarely hear him say those things to his girlfriend. If someone hurts me, He goes after them. He always knows how to make me feel better. And He's told me that i always make him feel better too.

I think we would make the best couple. But, he said the only reason he doesnt ask me out is because if we do break up, it'd kill him and he couldnt take not being friends with me. But, I think we'll still be friends and all if we do break up.

I just dont know how to tell him how much i love him and he understand it.

He understands it, and what he is saying is right. You may think that you and him will be friends afterwards if you and him break up but there is a chance that that may not be the case. Then you will not only lose him as a friend but also as a boyfriend.

Q: I'm 19 and I don't feel like I know how to have any fun anymore. I used to party every weekend, have a small group of friends I'd always hang out with & be able to make new ones so easily. But over the past year, many of those friends moved, became distant and not the type of friends you want to have. So basically, the only friend I have left is my boyfriend. That's not the only problem. It's way too hard for me to make any friends anymore because I'm not in school anymore. I work full time and all the people I work with are much older than myself. I am not in any environment where I can meet someone somewhat close to my age. I've tried making friends with my boyfriend's huge group of friends and I think they are pretty cool people. But I feel like it's too hard to approach anyone. It's almost like I don't know how to socialize or make friends anymore. I don't know what the problem is. I just wish I had a group of friends to hang out with like most people. Any help on overcoming whatever my problem may be?

Just throw your self in there. Hi my name is...Whats yours? So where are you from? Oh really?

Just give them simple conversation. And when it seems like their an interesting person, then be like O well what do you like to do? O maybe we should go do that one day. Dont ever g up to a whole group of people either. Catch someone when they are alone, and they will eventually introduce you to others.

Q:
2002 BMW 325i
Price $14,995
Body Style Sedan
Mileage 73,975
Exterior Color Jet Black
Interior Color Sand
Engine 6 Cylinder Gasoline
Transmission Automatic
Drive Type 2 wheel drive - rear
Fuel Type Gasoline
Doors Four Door

16 Inch Wheels, Sunroof, Leather Seats, Wood Trim, Front Power Seats With Driver Memory, In Dash CD Player, Production Date 09-01

Google this

Kelly blue book

And it will give you a website that tells you how much a car is valued. It will ask you for all the stuff you just gave so keep it handy.

Q: so im having a sweet 16.
the theme is hollywood.
im planning on having it at a club.
the clubs im thinking of are in Pontiac Michigan.
they are tonic, tiki bobs, sevin, clutch cargo.
the rest of it i need help with.
i have no clue what to do for decorations or as a sweet entrance or what to have at my party that will be cool.
if anyone could help it would be totally amazing!
thanks!

ok if this was me,I would most definately Have a red carpet at the entrance with lots of light on it. Gold black and white would be my colors. I would have star shaped invitations. My entranc would be lets see. I would have an announcer be like and the lady of the night has arrived!! And I would have a spotlight search for me only to pop from somewhere and have them play my favorite song as I came in. Lol. Wow. then I would party like a rockstar.

Q: My sister and I were messing around with a light bulb and crayons and we put the crayon on the light bulb and it burnt of course and I wanted to know if the light bulb might have caught on fire or if the fumes from the crayon would have made us high or something. Basically what happens when you use a light bulb to burn a crayon?

A crayon is just colored wax.
But if it stays on the bulb and the bulb is used again it cold be a hazard.

I doubt you can get high from it.
And it can make the light from the light bulb be unevenly distributed throughout the bulb. The bulb has a potential to blow up. lol

Q: hi,

the thing about kris angel.. i did'nt ask but if it were real would'nt it have been all over the news? and can you show me other videos?

Not really because she wasint exactly injured. He didnt kill her or anything. And Its all over tv, so Im pretty sure everyone has seen it.

Go to this site, aetv.com click videos, and im pretty sure its under reality or something of that sort. Its like almost 30 videos on there just of him.

Your welcome.

Q: ok. I have this friend and we have been friends forever... and I got invited to my friends sweet 16. and she in the past has had drinking problems and has done drugs. but at this time she was clean. well my best friend didn't want me to go to the party, she was scared I wold drink or do drugs (which there weren't any XD) I even told her that there were parents at the party. But she called my mom and told her about the party and how she didn't want me to go because of her suspicion of drugs and alcohol. So no basically my mom doesnt want me to hang around the girl at all. because being the idiot she is my friend used names. and so now my mom things that my other friend ( who I really love) is a druggie and drinks alcohol.. and im really mad at my best friend. she should trust me more. I feel that its not her place to do things like that and "look out" for me. I understand that she was trying to help which is why I dont' want to be mean to her. but im really pissed that she would go behind my back and ruin things like that for me... so Im really pissed off and were now fighting.. any ideas on what I should say to her??

you should say to her exactly what you just said to us.
You think its messed up that she did what she did.
She is not your mom, she is your friend so tell her to treat you like that.
And tell her just because you hang around a person that does drugs doesnt mean your going to do it. If she doesnt trust you as a friend then she isnt really a good friend then.

Q: The guy I like told me he liked my friend, but after he told me that we just sat there talking for like an hour. Him and my other friend, c, went to the locker rooms with me, but waited outside, i told them not to leave, c left, but he stayed and waited. He has to walk home after Jr. guards every day, but he stayed an extra hour after with me while I was waiting for my swim practice to start, but I'm not sure if he was there for me or for my friend, but when he heard me say, bye to everyone else, he turned and asked me if I was going, I said yes, so he said ok, and said he was going to leave then. Before he left he said call me, and gave me his number. Do I have a chance or not?

You definately have a chance. But dont get too antsy about it because you might scare him away. Act normal when you call.

Q: http://s166.photobucket.com/albums/u90/snopesbinary/Magic/?action=view¤t=pullapart.flv

Watch that video

HOW ON EARTH DID HE DO THAT.
I know he is an illusionist but oh my god. holy crap.
How did she SURVIVE that?! Did he put her back together too? She just crawled away...!?
Please, can someone please tell me how he did that.

I dont even have to watch the video to know your talking about criss angel. lol

I dont think anyone knows how he did that but him. He is the best, what can I sayy? And im pretty sure he put he back together. I think it scared her at first.

Q: Somebody once told me that when you're pregnant, and if you go over due and you just want to have the baby but its just not comming, if you eat something thats sure to give you diarrhea, then it'll induce labor, but while delivering wouldnt that kinda be gross? for that matter, is it something regular for a woman to like fart or pee or something while giving birth? I know its kinda gross, im just curious.

Well if your overdue and your being induced, ou are told not to eat after 12am.
If you naturally go in labor there is a slight chnce of it happening but they have a typr of lining on the floor to catch most of the mess. You wont pee though, because the have a cathither in your bladder draing the fluid.
And the chances of you passing a bowel movent are slim too. With so much pressure pushing down on the anus from thebaby coming out, you actually are constipated for like the next two days. The doctors wont let you leave the hospital til you pass one. TRUST ME I KNOW!! lol

Q: if someone was raped what are some short term and long term things they may face ? like noth emotional and physical things you may notice??

Some people may have a fear of it happening again.
They may have issues having sex because it may bring back issues pertianing to the rape.
They may become shy and feel ashamed of their bodies.
They may get depressed and have a littlt paranioa.

Thats all i got.

Q: I want to get my belly button pierced, but if I get it pierced, can't I like not go swimming for like 6 weeks?

That is correct. The chlorine in the water will infect your piercing. Plus everything else that could be floating around in it.

Q: Okay I'm 15 F i weigh about 109 pounds im 5'3. I wear a 32 B but i feel like they are nearly an a do u think they are going to get any bigger soon? When? My moms a 32 C and my grandma is D on my dads side my grandma is a C also. What do you think my size will and what age do you think they are going to starting getting noticeably bigger? What about you what age did your really start getting noticeably bigger?

Your breast grow when they are ready to grow.
When your body is fully matured. your are going to have bigger breast though considering genetics. But dont rush the process.

Q: okay well i like this one guy(lets call him cody) and i also kind of like this other guy(lets call him matt) codys going to the movies with the one girl he likes( lets call her kate) but he told me he likes me too& ive also heard that from a couple of his friends& at the same time im going to the movies with matt(the guy i sort of like) and i was wonderingg if i should just act friends with matt because im not really sure if i want a relationship with him because cody knows i like him& hes "said" hes trying to "straighten" things out with kate because they went out and then they broke up but thats all he told me: so back to my question should i act just friends with matt or act flirty with him to get cody jealous: and i know that sounds like im using matt but i sort of like him too so in a way its not using him because im pretty sure he likes me too and stuff
ahhhh please help!!!

Cody s using you as a backup plane. If things dont straighten back out with kate then u will be right there waiting on him. And if you acted it like that towards matt then he is going to assume that you really like him, and he will feel like crap when/if you do start to mess with cody.

Q: okay. this may be a tricky one, or i just may be stupid to not have figured it out. my ex-boyfriend & i went out back in november for about 3 months & broke up. then we went out for another month in like april / may. we broke up when we had this huge fight but i wasn't too upset about it at the time, but ya know the whole you don't know what you got till it;s gone. obviously he felt the same way because this other guy asked me out, & when i said yes my ex was like all "i want you back". i still loved him but like i needed a change. when me & the other guy broke up about 2 weeks later my ex asked me out. again. although one of my friends liked him & we were all going to a party at her house & i didn't want it to be awkward between us, but he said he didn't like her, & we weren't that good friends. so i told him that of coruse i'd go out with him, but not until the party which was 2 days later. BIIIGG mistake. at the party, all these guys "forced" my ex into asking the girl out, a likely story. but anyway he told me he didn't really like her, but when they broke up he didn't want me anymore. that was like 3 weeks ago. since then , or since november!, i haven't been able to get him out of my mind. i want him back. i need him back. & don't just say to give up because i know that'd be the logical thing to do, but i'm willing to work for this. please give me some tips to get him back! =\

you dont need him back. He knows he can play with your head so he is doing it. He went with that girl because he wanted to. And she isnt a real friend, because friends dont date friends exes. But hey, when he sees you found someone else he will come running right back to you.

Q: Tonite I am going to a party with my boyfriend. We haven't had sex or any thing yet but he says he wants to do anal tonite. The only reason I'm nervouse is because I feel like it will hurt. What position should I be in so that it is not as painful? Also what other stuff can I do with him tonite to not stop after we do anal?

Yea it will hurt.
Whats wrong with vaginal sex?
Whats with all the ass sex today?
There is oral sex,regular sex, there is all types of things you can do with him.

Q: 15/f

i want to get my tounge pierced. i have parental consent.

what should i know about it? how much does it hurt? is caring for it easy? what else do i need to know about it?

like, people who have their tounge answer please

Your mouth will swell for the first three days.
Then it will go down. You have to keep it clean with listerine. And you need to twist it around also. If you have parental consent, when you go one of them must be present. After your tongue heals and you can change your ring, you should stick with plastic ones instead of metal one because metal ones can contain a toxin that can be harmful to your mouth. also, The tongue has this amazing power to heal itsself quickly, so if you take it out even after it heals for a day or so it can close up.

Q: I am in cross country, so i run about 5 days a week. I don't have my period at all for months during the time I am running every day. But when I stop running for a couple weeks then I do have it. So I know that it isn't regular because of the running. My question is though, is it unhealthy to not get your period? Even if it is because of doing some thing actually healthy.

It isnt actually unhealthy because you do get it. Even if its not as often as it should be.

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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF REAL FAST, REAL QUICK!
iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.