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Q: 13/m

ok so i am supposed to go to a sleepover next weekend, only there will be some guys there that my parents really don't like, and so they won't let me go. thing is, there is really nothing bad about them but they won't listen, and still refuse to let me go. what should i do? because i really want to go, and i'm afraid they won't be friends with me anymore if i tell them.

I would just beg my parents to let me go. I usually try to pretend to cry, or forfeit a month of my allowance. if none of that works, I give them the cold shoulder and give them a bad attitude until they give in. and if that doesnt work, then I would just sneak out

Q: okay i have a guy friend...hes nice and sweet but not liked very much at school...tonight he threatened to kill himself. im really scared b/c im not around him much at school and never after school...i care about him alot but sometimes dont show it very well. Should i bring our IM conversation to the councelor tomorow or something else...talking to him doesnt help...he doesnt listen.
please help...i rate hight
-x0x-

if i was in the same situation, I would try gathering up everyone that loves him and just prove to him that he is loved and that his death will affect so many people's lives. If he wont listen, then try showing him.

Q: ok.... well i have gone out with this guy 4 times and every time we brake up it is because of other girls!!! now he wants to go back out with me. he is always sweet and always says i love you to me. he always holds my hand and is always there for me.but the real question is ... should i go back oout with him or not? plz answer!!!

forget him. he probably doesnt really love you. he's just using you, and if you go out with him again, he'll do the same thing over and over again. you just need to stand up for yourself and say, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. no matter how much you think he cares about you, and no matter how sweet he is, just keep in mind that he doesnt really mean it and he'll soon go back to his old ways. just forget him, somewhre out there your perfect guy is waiting for you, but you're wasting your time on this liar. just forget him and move on

Q: i really love my boyfriend, but he hasnt even kissed me yet and i dont wanna wait anymore. He is like to shy. I also like this other guy any way who would probably kiss me. The other boy is a bad boy so yeah.
What do i do?
I wanna break up but yet i dont want anyone to get hurt
???????

if you really loved him, then you wouldnt try to break up with him. if you confront him and tell him that you been wanting to kiss him for soo long, maybe he'll give in and kiss you. but if you do want to break up with him but you dont want anyone to get hurt, you can try making him break up with you first by being mean and disrespectful so he wont feel as bad.

Q: what should i do to get abs? i mean, im very skinny, but i just want to tone my stomach. what is the quickest and most effective way for me to accomplish this? please be specific. thanks

there's this guy in my class, he's like short and really skinny, but unbelievably, he has a six pack. he plays A LOT of sports. you should try being more athletic and use fitness equipments like the ablounge, or ab roller

Q: ok well i know this question is probably asked a million times but like how do you lose weight..like what foods can you eat other than salad? I'm soo sick of salad but thats like the only healthy thing i can think of? like and whats a fast way to lose weight like by staying inside cause theres snow everywhere where i am? thanks

excersize, and eat fruits, vegetables, and meat. chicken, pork, beef, etc.. are not that fattening, they're only fattening if there's a lot of oil. but witout all the oil, it has a lot of protein, which is good for your body. also 3 servings of milk, cheese, and yogurt everyday helps you burn more carbs.

Q: Is it stupid to ask a guidance conselor for time to talk to your friends if you are too embarassed to call them or you have no time? Just wondering...I dont want to look like an idiot tomorrow....

guidance conselors are supposed to help you out in your time of need. dont be embarrassed, i'm sure they'll be happy to talk with you and if they're not, they're not doing their job right

Q: Valentines Day, is coming up! & I really want to get my boyfriend something special. On Valentines Day, we would've been dating for almost 3 months. He's really into baseball and LOVES New York Yankees, and likes Derek Jeter. His favorite band is Simple Plan. But I really want to get him something special, that is a really good price, not to expensive.. I was thinking about getting him a necklace of some sort, or maybe a ring, but do you think that seems "gay?" Or Maybe a big bear that says I LOVE YOU, or Your mine or something? Do guys even like bears?! I'm really confused. Any help would be greatly appreciated. THANKS.!!

you should give him a baseball, or baseball card, or baseball bat signed by derek jeter if that's possible. he would totally love you. dont get him any jewelry or stuffed animals. cheap jewelry is a turn off, and what's he going to do with a big bear? hug it at night while he's sleeping? if he loves derek jeter and the ny yankers so much, then get him somethin that has something to do with it

Q: is 12 too young to wear thongs?

no, i dont think so. i'm 13, and i'm wearing a thong right now

Q: how is a good, healthy, and quick way to lose weight?...like 20 pounds or so? (not atkins)(or Jenny Craig)

liposuction, thats the only choice you have if you dont want to go on a diet and if you dont want to excersize

Q: okay i am tring to find color pulse mouse made by loreal paris and i cant find it anywhere! do any of you know where to get it?

thanks (i rate high)

haleigh

I went to the l'oreal paris usa site, and they didnt have a product called color pulse mousse. so so it probably doesnt exist.

if there's really something called that, then try going to a pharmacy, drugstore, or hair salon

Q: I'm 13/f from Florida. I have really curly hair and the humidity doesn't help. I hate my hair and it seems like I have NO self confidence because I can never do cute hairstyles like girls with straight hair. This really bugs me and makes it hard. Does anyone know of any cute hairstyles for curly hair that are easy to do and won't leave my hair frizzy and poofy?

I will rate high for those who answer this because I desperately need help!

xOx

I used to have curly and frizzy hair also, until I went to the salon to straighten it. But anyway, you should try to braid it, small braids. not big braids because they'll make you look like a viking. you can also try to put your hair in a ponytail, or pigtails and use gel

Q: My best friend Olivia invited me and this girl Whitney, her 2 best friends, to go get a manicure with her for her birthday. The only problem is that we're going on the 23rd, and it's the 14th, so i want to stop biting my nails but i don't know how-------any suggestions???????
PLZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!$$$babiid$$$$$$

I used to bite my nails a lot. but then when I went to china for vacation, I bought a lot of nail polish, and I would always use it. everytime I tried to bite my nails, it would taste awfully bad and it made my nails look digusting. so then I just stopped biting my nails. you should try it. no one wants bits of dried nail polish in their mouths

Q: this is not good at all. one of my best friends (lets call her Sarah but thats not her real name) i think is a compulsive liar. she lies about everything...or so we suspect. her cousin told me that a disease like that runs in her family. but she lies about everything. here are some of the things:
-she told me she got raped and went to court for it. one time she told me she went to court at 8:00p.m but court isnt open that late
-she told me she has a boyfriend but nobodys ever talked to him except on AIM (and she has 2 computers so it might just be her) and yeah, she gave us a picture of him but its weird because i found the exact smae picture on BuddyPic and the names didnt match up
-when i talk to her on AIM she always says i feel so sick im gonna go make myself throw up im anorexic
-she told me she had a signature of somebody famous that i really like and she said i could have it. then next day she came in with it and it looked NOTHING like the real signature and it looked like her handwriting

there are more things but im just too stressed out. i DO NOT want to talk to her about it because one of my other friends confronted her about the lying and she almost commited suicide. she's really scaring me. she lied about getting RAPED...or so we THINK cause its not 100% sure. i tried to talk to my best friend about all this cause he knows whats going on with Sarah, but he told me that he belives her about all this because nobody else will. its freaking me out...a lot. i love her so much and i dont want to lose her. but i cant believe anything she says! and im afraid that if one day something bad really does happen, im not gonna beleive her. what should i do? PLEASE HELP! i have more info if you need it...just ask for my email.

I would seriously hate her if I were you. maybe she's just doing it for the attention. I used to have a friend like that, but after I confronted her and used the B word, I felt really awful.
maybe your friend also lied about commiting suicide. you can never trust her. she probably wasnt even going to kill herself in the first place. it all goes back to being the center of attention...

Q: i write poetry and i want it published in a book like a book with other peoples poems too.... but i dont want to send it online.. so where could i go?

chicken soup for the soul always publish other people's poem in their books. you can send your poem(s) to them by mail,
Chicken Soup for the (Specify Which Edition) Soul
P.O. Box 30880 Santa Barbara, CA 93130
fax:805-563-2945

Q: I have it! I've been useing special shampoo for 3 weeks but it's not helping! Please help!

wow... scary, I dont know what you can do because i've never had it, but you should probably go to the doctor right away. I've heard that you should also launder all your beddings.. but if i were you I would burn it

Q: Ok i have been with my boyfriend five months this past saturday.And lately he has been making comments about his ex girlfriend from monticello.It seems he has been talking to her more lately and to tell you the truth i think something is going on cuz he ain't acting like his self.Frankly he hasn't been treatin me rite to begin with so what i need to no is if you people think he should stay or get goin!! Cuz i don't feel like playing games!!!!

i think you should just ask him about everything. ask him why he's been talking about her so much, ask him why he's been treating you differently, ask him if there was anything going on between him. if he says that nothing is going on, but he's still acting the way he is, he's probably lying to you and you should definately dump him. if he tells you that there's something between them, then it's your choice what you want to do

Q: my sisters are so pretty i just feel like im not and i hate that...then i always feel fat to because there are girls in my class who are like size zeros and im like not a size zero im tall and i weigh a bit but what is the average weight of a 14 yr old who is like 5'3 and how could i spruce up my look ill rate if this really helps me thnx
depressed
p.s. is this low self-esteem and how could i have good self esteem

my friend is like 5'3 and she's 13. she weighs about 123 pounds, and she kind of looks.. chubbyish. my other friend is like 5'8 and she's 13, and she's like 116 lbs, and she looks skinny and attractive
so maybe the average weight for someone who's 5'3 should be maybe 105 or 110

if you want to look my attractive, dont wear blush because they clog your pores even when they say they dont. just put up your hair in a nice way, add some eyeshadow, eyeliner, lipstick, enhance the color of your cheeks, wear tight clothes(if you're not chubby or fat), and guys will notice you(in a good way)

Q: ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

well, I've been anorexic and yes, it really does make you lose weight. I lost like 10 pounds in less than a month for being anorexic and bulimic. when you're anorexic, every though you're losing weight, your breasts also become smaller

Q: hey i am going to formal soon and i got a dress and its really long down to the floor and stuff but soo pretty. and so then i find out everyone is wearing like shorter drsses like to their shins but mien is past the floor so wat do i do? i dont wanna be over dressed but i love this dress... wat wud u do

you shouldnt care about what other people are wearing. try to stand out instead of blending in. you'll be different, therefore, more unique

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