My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
Member Since: November 10, 2003
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My friend is such a freaktart! Lol she is only 11 and doesnt know wut the average weight 4 a 4'11 11 yr odl girl is. . do not make this confusing, ,
What is the average weight for someone who is 4 feet 11 inches, and is only 11 yrs old?!
She is like 90-91 pounds (link)
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That's the perfect weight. I'm 13, and I'm 98-100 That's a perfect weight for an 11 year old girl of that height. And she is as tall as me. Remember though, she's still growing, and if she's that worried about it tell her to excercise.
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Okay, so I have this friend who is gay. And he really wants to tell his parents, they said they'd love him not matter what, but also, they don't approve of gays too much. I'm thinking of talking to them myself, but then he might get mad at me. So I really don't know what I should do, or what he should do actually. I told him to wait until he moves out to tell them, but he said he might feel guilty for doing that, letting them think that he was straight for 18 years or so.. then all of a sudden breaking the news. What should I do? Talk to his parents for him, or just leave it to him? And if I leave it up to him, can you give any advice for me to tell him? Thanks! (link)
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Being gay is not a big deal. I'm not gay, but I'm saying this and I know you know too, but if his friends parents will love him no matter what, then they have to know sometime. And I know it's hard. I know some people who are gay, and they are just like any normal person. Or if you're friend is worried about confronting his parents...let him do it but go with him. There's nothing wrong with this. NO, I know you're trying to help but do not go to ask his parents unless you asks you to do it. But go with him if he wants. Or if he has a boyfriend, suggest to him that he should bring his boyfriend and slowly announce who it is to his parents.
Make sure you tell your friend that it's not lying if he waits until he's 18 to tell his parents about this.It's not his fault that they assumed. I know it may feel like a type of lying but in reality, it's not. Eighteen is the best age because that's an adult and that way if everythign gets out of hand he could move away, even though its like running from his problems, but it's just because it may be awkward around his parents after he tells them.
This is a tough subject, but just stay behind your freind because he probably needs you the most.
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Ok this is going to be a semi-novel but I'll try to make sense. I'm 15 and at the beginning of September I met a guy(whom we'll call Bob).We were friends for a little over a month,and around the middle of October we kissed for the first time;he asked me out very soon afterword.our mutual friends had been bugging Bob to ask me out because it was obvious he liked me.He made the announcement to our them that he asked me out and it was understood that we were a couple.so from that day on, tho we never went anywhere(lack of money and transportation played a major role )but we still managed to kiss at every opportunity(including behind the school at lunch)and took every opportunity we could to be together. One day, we were talking and I mentioned that a friend of mine who(that I have known since childhood was jealous)that we're a couple; he says "well you know, i only see us as friends and plus there's this girl i'm interested in.she lives in maryland" and I go "but i'm here.she's there and I'm here" and he goes "well I've known her since july.plus i helped her through a serious breakup..." and I go "so why did you ask me out?why do you kiss me if we're only friends?" he goes "I don't know" so we weren't talking much for about a week and then suddenly we started up with our old routines. We have been doing this everyday since. My friends tell me that I need to get rid of him. Should I? Thanks… (link)
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Yes, I definitly think you should get rid of him. But don't be too blunt and quick with it. Just kind of avoid him. If he starts following you too much or is not giving you your space, then tell him how you feel. Tell him that you thought you guys were a couple after he annouced that too everyone. Realize this, if he told a CROWD that you two were dating, then obviously he just wants some attention. But if he will only tell you that he thinks of you two as just friends, then he's not a true boyfriend. I know it hurts but you have to get over him. He told you the truth about the girl in Maryland, so tell him the truth about how you feel. I know you're probably afraid of hurting his feelings also...but you have to understand that he hurt yours. And whatever you do, DONT KISS HIM ANYMORE. For all you know, him and this girl in Maryland can already be dating, and if you kiss him...that would be cheating (even if you're not aware of it. So don't kiss him because if that girl from Maryland for some reason ever comes down to visit and finds out...that could lead to more serious trouble. So just avoid him adn if that doesn't work, confront him about it and walk away forever.
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I like him and he ignores me now after i told him that i like him. Why does he ignore me now? (link)
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Well...that could be one of many things...because that's happened to me a million times before with the guys I liked who found out...even though some reacted differently.
1)He could like you back and is nervous about a relationship (especially about a crush who likes him back)
2)If you guys were friends before he may be scared that you two going out would only ruin your "friend relationship" if you end up breaking up with him
3)He could be afraid that your going to make a move on him and act weird around him yourself...and think of him differently then he thought you did.
4) He could like somebody else (or have a girlfriend)
5) He could've just ended a long/serious relationship
Like I said...there could be many things, but maybe you should just confront him and see how he acts...but if he acts weird around you then just let the situation cool down a little and then try again. He's probably just scared...all boys are (some just don't show it).
If you are too shy to confront him, ask one of your friends to, or have one of his friends do it...or write a note and give it to him or put it in his locker.
Hope I helped...
p.s. sometimes I act the same way if I find out that a guy likes me...so it's perfectly normal...but you only live once so go for it and ask him out if that's what you want to do. The worst he can say is no ( its not like he's going to humiliate you in front of everybody just for asking him).
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ok here we go ..... Im soo ugly ... my boyfreind now x boy friend dumped me after he had sex with me and now i think im pregnet.... he sed i was the uglyest person alive and and i belive him!! i havent seen my parents since i was 5 cuz im they ran away cuz im soooo ugly!! so my uncle tells me everyday of my life... :-( i have no friends... no 1 wants to be friends with me.... at times i think seriously about suicide cuz its the only way out that i can see... i dont want to have a baby or be UGLY n e more... so if n e of u no a good plastic surgun or a good abortionist let me now PLEASE!!.. and if n e one knows a good hiT MAN let me kno so i can give my xbf wat he deserves.... !!!!! (link)
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Um...first of all, I know it's going to be hard...but put your past behind you. First worry about your baby (if you are pregnant) Then get the treatment you need to tkae care of this baby...if you can't afford to keep this baby, DO NOT abandon it...gove it to the hospital who will put it with a good family...
You don't want your baby turning out with no parents...ok well...I dont knwo if this whol ething is a huge joke or something...but DONT commit suicide...if you think you're going to go through with that then go to therapy...just try it out. And as for your uncle...just ignore him or talk to somebody about it....if your 18, go out and live on your own because you can make your own choices when you're 18...and as for your ex-boyfriend...DONT give him what he deserves, if anything...give him a slap in the face. I'm serious...no matter how bad your life feels now don't take it away because it will get better if you just give it a chance...and hopefully if you keep the baby (if you are having one) maybe eventually you will find somebody special along the way to help you raise it. It doesnt matter how you look...no matter how much you think it does.
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ok heres my quesion .......i get good grades in school i look somewhat good......and i have a great voice....but i feel like i need to be somewht popularr.....and plez dont answer " who cares wht other people think" wht do i do? (link)
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Okay well, what type of popular do you want to be?
Like who do you want to hang out with, what do those people do?
Because you don't want to be in a group that smokes, drinks, does drugs, etc.
No matter how popular they are.
I don't know how it works in YOUR school...but in MY school I just mind my own business and the people come to me. I know that may seem strange but that's what happens. I don't have targets...and what I mean by that is I have my eye on some boys and girls that maybe if I hang out with more people will like me...because all of those people are busy with something else and they say hi to me and all that, but it's not like we're friends...and that's okay with me because if you think envying a group is going to make you popular, that's not...that's just going to make you desperate because think about it...those popular girls probably love that life...everyone envying them...the perfect life...and you're one of those people envying them which just makes you desperate. What I think you should do is maybe go up to them and talk to them a little I mean...they're just people, not gods. And if you're nervous than I guess it's okay to be but don't tear yourself up over this because they're just people. Most people get so worked up when a "popular" person talks to them but i dont. I have a popular friend but just because I have a popular friend doesn't mean I'm "popular" And this popular friend isn't the typical teenage girl...I mean she's kind of pretty, short, asian (not that Im racist but tell me...how many popular asian people do you know?) Popular people are usually blondes and brunettes right? But my friend got popular for being nice and however corny that may sound...tust me, it works.
You see, I DIDNT become popular because the "popular" people in my old school said something bad about my friends so i told them off and they dont like me but so what...because its not like they started spreading rumors..and everyone else treated me the same way as they normally did... what Im saying is everybody didn't turn on my all because i got in a fight with one slutty popular girl that all the guys love. But Im saying the "popular" all turned on my like a pack of angry dogs and my friends were with me the whole time and it was just like the smell of loads of erfume and bad breath...ew...they all harassed me verbally and stuff but its not like they tried killing me...
but think about it...all the popular people dont become known as a group of friends, they become known as the "popular"...its like they all became one and even if it doesn't seem like they're all one person...look at them... because if they all dress alike, talk alike, and act alike then that's one person to me...they are like zombies...none of them are different because they are all hung up on their looks...and in my opinion, the snotty "popular" girls aren't really popular at all...no matter how many guys like them or how many friends they have.
But...if you REALLY care so much about being popular be like EVERYONE ELSE then I guess do you're hair and get the latest clothes...go figure...that's just what EVERYONE loves....
but if you do become popular all because of your looks, then be careful your attitude towards life doesnt change, because from your letter I can tell your pretty confident, and you should keep up your grades and not focus your WHOLE time on your social life....because if you focus your whole time on your social life then thats just a waste....and if your a nice person, if you become popular dont change....and I mean that.
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why does god hate me?
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I've thought God hated me before...and the truth is, God doesn't hate anybody. You know in the Bible how it says love even your enemies...? Well, we aren't god's enemies unless we want to be and even if we were, I'm sure he would still love us. I believe he has unconditional love for everybody on this world. God created us and just because we have tough times doesn't mean that he hates us...but he can't make anybody's life perfect...because we have to learn the different areas of life...good or bad. Just because he takes somebody you love, makes something happen that you can't control...or any other thing, doesnt mean he hates you, trust me. God created everybody as a baby...and he loves us enough to give us the chance to choose the path of life we want, good or bad, as we grow...Im sure he will love us even if we choose the bad, but he lives by rules. And if he doesn't break those rules. And one of those rules is to not accept the criminals and harmful people into heaven...now, Im not saying he still wont love those people, but he just won't accept him into the better world. I chose the good path, and as long as I believe that I chose the good path, Im definitely sure god loves me. Say your prayers every night, and if you believe that you sinned, ask god for your forgiveness. He will help you if you show him your respect...hes not something to fear...hes there for us always and he doesn't hate you.
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Dear Spacefem, There is an odd purple lump growing on the bottom of my foot. I don't know what it could be! It itches like crazy and I cant walk on it, cause if I put all of my weight on it, I pass out for hours at a time. Could this be bad? Should I see a doctor?
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maybe its a button....like an "OFF" button on the remote control...you step on it and you turn off for a little while (but instead of turning off you just pass out for a little)...hehe....just kidding.
You should really get it checked out...because it can be something serious. That's all I can say because I'm no doctor.
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hey im the one wrote about a boy named michael anderson well he aske me out and i said no just thought you would like and update.
p.s. happy i didnt spell any words wrong
lol bye (link)
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Ummmm okay....but I thought you liked him...why did you say no?
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hey i am am the one who wrote about life being against me and i just got over a bad mood well last night i i/med him and i was like kyle... and he just came out and said Rachael i am sorry and i was wicked happy we talked things out and all and its all good i also told him i liked him liked him like a crush and he was fine with it every thing is great now i am just nervous to see him in school tomarrow because i am not the kind of person to just comeout and say i like you usually i never do so i dont no if he will act the same tomarrow becuase we sit with each other but i just thought i would up date you guys oh and to the 2 people whop responed to me thankx (link)
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Great! I'm so happy for you Rachael!....tell me more after....hehe
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So I was walking this evening and I accidently stepped into some kerosene. I just shrug it off and keep walking with my jazz hands lookin' all cool when this guy runs by and yells "That building is on fire!" So I start running towards it all like "yeah, who's your hero now?" with my jazz hands, looking cool. I get next to the firy part and my shoes are on fire randomly. Now I'm on a laptop someone gave me. What should I do?! (link)
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Someone gave youa laptop??? COOL!
*cough cough* Anyway, you should of jumped in a lake....that's all I got.
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I'm 20 years old and I still live with my parents while I'm in school. They are driving me crazy. I want to get out but I can't afford to so I'm stuck in this situation. Anyway, my birthday is coming up and they're throwing this huge party that I don't want. They already sent out the invitations, so I can't get out of it. Is it wrong to fake an illness so I can stay the entire night in my room? (link)
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Okay, don't fake an illness...I dont (well, hardly, hee hee) even do that and I'm younger than you. You have to sit down and talk to your parents and tell them that you're 20 and you could make your own decisions. Or if you really despise the thought of sitting down and confronting your parents then I'd just go along with it until next year. I know that's a long time but next year will be your 21 birthday and that will be a big one, so just tell them ahead of time that next year (or even tell them at your party this year) that next year you have your own plans (even if you dont because I'm sure you will eventually think of some). I think that they are just afraid of you growing up, and if they didn't invit any of your friends becasue it was justa family party, invite some of your friends and tell them that you want them there because it's your party. Maybe after that party you can go out somewhere with your friends to make the day a little more interesting.
Good Luck.
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I don't know what it is but as soon as i get in the car with my brother, I'm ready for him to crash. He has this thing where he takes his hands of the wheel to get something or he starts looking at his cd and the car will start to slowly head for the shoulder or whatever else is at the side of the road, including other cars... he also drives fast but even other fast drives I'm fine with (i don't eve mnd taking a turn fast, unless I'm with him), just him. something about him makes me brace myself no matter what, even if he's got both hands on the wheel looking out to an empty road going the speed limit, i feel like were going to crash, and only with him... could this be like postdramatic stress thing since last year at about this time we got into a pretty nasty accident due to ice on a bridge, Is there anything i can do to relax! anything!!! i really need it, i only try and grab the wheel from him all the time when he takes his hands off it... Its horrable! HELP! (link)
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Well really, there's nothing you can do about that. But if at times he DOESN'T keep his hands on the wheel then just ask him to stop, or maybe (if you feel comfortable) sit up front with him and change the radio station for him so he could focus on the road...is he still a young driver? Because if he is then maybe that's whats making you nervous. It's normal because I go through that with my sister and brother sometimes too. I know how you feel and I know that with that person you don't always feel secure. But trust me, it's normal...becasue just because not everyone goes through that, still means that several other people go through that also.
If it's really making you uncomfortable, than maybe you should sit down and talk to him about it, or talk to your parents about it....or, if it's possible, have somebody else drive you.
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OK there is a guy at school that everyone thinks i like, and the fact is I dont know
I enjoy spending time with him and he's nice, but I dont know if I like him that way >:( (link)
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Well, if you really don't want people bothering you about this now then just tell them to back off...because it's okay to have a friend of the opposite sex, and when you do it doesn't mean you like them unless you feel that way.
Do you get butterflies in your stomach when you're about to see him...and are those butterflies just because you are excited about going out and doing something fun, or is it becasue you like him? You have to think about that. Maybe you need to take some time off of him right now...if he wants to talk, just say sorry I can't right now and let him know that if you want to, you know how to stay away...and maybe that will give all of your friends who think you like him a better understanding that you are both just friends...but then again, from taking some time off, you can also find whether you truly like him too.
It's Thanksgiving so Happy Thanksgiving!
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My friends and I sometimes make ourselves throw up like if we eat a really big meal and don't want to get fat from it. It's not bad, we're not anorexic or anything, and I know a ton of people who do it. But this one girl at our school found out and is like freaking out about it... how do we let her know it's okay? (link)
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Wait what? haven't you ever heard of Bulimia? That's just as bad...you can die and I'm not trying to scare you but its a deadly disease where you eat and make yourself throw up....its an eating disorder, just like anorexia....and the girl was freaking out because she knows the same thing I do... that it can kill you.....so stop now before this disease digs you down deeper.....and trust me, it can.
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so i like this guy. teh only problm is that he is an atheist and i am a christian. but we talk all the time n he makes me laugh. i cant explain it we just click. will the whole religion thing be a bg deal? (link)
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No! Religion doesn't matter...but if things with you two get too complicated I'd try just being friends again and just simply back out of the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship if you too start to go out.
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I don't know why, but everywhere I go, Oompa Loompas follow me. They laugh and call me George. I've been thinking of flying away on my spaceship i.e. banana peel and going to live on the planet of cheese-in-a-can, but I'm not sure if they have cable there. Do you have any idea if the planet has cable, or if there is any way to avoid the Oompa Loompas? Please help, they already took my sanity! 'Twas all pink and sparkly! (link)
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Oompa loompas are scary...you better watch out "George".
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is fear in religion a good thing, to keep morality, or is it some man made thing to control people? (link)
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Fear in religion is normal, as odd as that may sound, because not everyone knows what to believe in and you just let what you believe in come to you when it does.
Maybe if you see what type of religions there are and see if you're interested in going in that direction. But that's really all the advice I can give you right now.
Good Luck
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All of my freinds have guys that like them and their all going out and everything. As far as I know nobody likes me. How can I find out if anyone does? Or how can I get somone to like me. Its verry annoying when all of my freinds are always going out and I'm always at home. (link)
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Maybe you should just go with the flow, as much as that takes time and it can get really annoying at times. If you're still in your teens, then I don't think there is anything to worry about because you still got your whole life ahead of you. If you don't want to wait the only way you're gonna meet somebody is if you go out to the movies anyway, besides saying at home all of the time, and maybe approach somebody and ask them out if you feel comfortable.
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I've been living on my own for a while but now I'm thinking about moving in with a girl I work with, because frankly I'm bored living on my own. Will I get sick of the roommate thing really fast or what? Before I always thought roommates where what you got if you couldn't afford to live alone... I can afford it, I'm just lonely. (link)
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In my opinion, I think if you're that bored, that shows that you may need a roomate. Obviously arguments are unavoidable but I think it would be a great idea. Maybe if you don't get along with your co-worker so much, then you should maybe consider someone else. If you know somebody who knows a friend, or somebody who needs an apartment, then maybe you would want to move in with that person becsause you won't know her so it would be easier to get to know more things about her....and you won't have to worry about the fact if she's somebody to be worried about because someone you know has approved that she's a good person. (if you understand any word of that) But if for now you really want to move into some place with somebody you know I say take achance at it because no home has to be permanant.
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