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Ok, my boyfriend and I dont live close to each other, and we dont go to the same school, so we can only hang out, for the most part, on weekends. He is 15, and I am 14, and of course our parents wont let us go anywhere out just the two of us. And he doenst want to go to teh mall and the movies, because that is all we have done so far. And we usually go out with two other people, but we need ideas on things we can do, if the 'group' part, cant make it. SO I guess my question is: what are things we can do? His mom approved me coming over his house, but thats in te afternoon, and we are not sure what we should do. And I really want to spend time with him. HeLP!!! I need lots of Ideas....please respond (link)
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I think you ought to log onto your city or town's official Web site and look under Parks and Recreation. They are almost always offering some kind of cooking, dancing, drama, tennis, gym etc. course for teens. Usually the fee per person is pretty low. See if they have something starting soon you can enroll in that will keep you busy for 6 or so weeks in the evenings.
Also, towns and cities offer free public swimming a few times a week maybe heading out to the local indoor pool might be an option. Also check out the library too as they may have special events and programs for teens.
At your age you both should be allowed to go where you want to go and do wht you want to do within reason such as any movie of your choice or the mall or wherever as long as parents know where you are going, with whom, and the time you will return by. You both need to be independant and right now you are not and your parent's stance is wrong.
Kids your age should be able to go to parties and hang out with friends as it's not natural otherwise. As long as you follow the rules and know how to avoid bad situations I see no problem with you and your boyfriend having freedom.
I think what you need to do is find an adult who agrees your being cooped up at home and not out and about is bad for you both socially, mentally and argue your case for more freedom. You should talk to a guidance counselor or teacher who can bring it up or aunt, uncle, grandparents etc.
I hope this helps you out some. Let me know what happens as you really ought to fight (the both of you) for more freedom as you are being denied the chance to grow up, make decisions, have a relationship and progress to becoming an adult.
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Has anyone been there? I'm gonna go there for my friend's birthday and I really don't know what to expect.
And I'm really REALLY indecisive. I take 15min to pick between jeans that are basically the same. Haha anywhos, so any pointers on what to get? I'm going to the one in West Broad Street in VA if that helps any...
And also do I pay for the meal or does the birthday dude's parent pay? lol thanks =] (link)
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There's likely hundreds of places called the Sakura Restaurant out there as I looked up the name and it's very popular on Google for the name of a Japanese style restaurant. There's several web sites for that name too. If you are in Chicago let me know as that restraunt is renowned.
Here's what you are more than likely going to experience. The food will be assorted sushi, Tempura (fried vegitables/shrimp with batter), miso soup, sushi pizza. If it's an all you can eat buffet you can sample everything they have but must eat all of it or they charge you the price of the item it would cost when it's not opn an all you can eat ticket. Beware of that.
Dinners at japanese restraunts can be anything from chicken and beef terriyaki. As you can tell, I frequent a lot of these style places.
If someone has invited you to a birthday celebration that includes dinner it means they are paying for it and you should relax. But just incase take your wallet with you. All you can eat usually runs $20 for dinner in most places and if it's not that $40 should do it. When the bill comes offer to pay yours and they'll probably tell you to put your money away.
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Is it possible tha you some poeple can't wear tampons i never tried them but i am a litle scared to when i tried to douche i couldn't even get that into my vagina what is the best way to insert it? (link)
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Hi,
This is a normal feeling to have and lots of girls have it about tampons and using them for the first time. There are instructions in each box of tampons but some people find them difficult to work with.
I think you might find this link of help to you. It helps you look at different kinds of menstrual products, insertion etc and how to select the right kind and make this all a little easier especially if you are petrified of using them for the first time.
http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum11/HTML/000460.html
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13/f
ok so theres this guy that ive been friends with for about 5-6months+! we can tell each other ANYTHING. but anyway...hes the sweetest guy but lately hes been acting a little different. everytime i talk to him it's "ooohh please dont fuck me like u did last night" but hes only kidding bcuz i never had sex. im a virgin. but then he started immitating all the moans and noises i would make if we did have sex...does it sound like he wants to have sex with me? but then the confusing part is he'll turn around and act normal again...off and on. should i be worried about him wanting sex from me? i mean...he just hit puberty so...can't really blame the guy for being curious right?
and i wanna have sex with him...dont get me wrong im not a slut!
...but should i do it?
thanks in advance (link)
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I think you ought to talk to him about the remarks he has been making. Ask him why he said it and what did he mean by saying it? Ask him what did he want you to react with? Just confront him on it and demand an answer.
If he's making sexual comments to you and you're not happy with it (or maybe you're okay with it) don't you have a right to ask him why and or to stop it if it's making you feel weird. He probably does have feelings for you or sexual curiosity etc.
Now, you're 13-years-old and I'm not going to preach to you but it's a little young to be having sex. He's just entered puberty and I assume you have too.
At this age making an adult decision that could affect you emotionally and physically for life such as having sex when you aren't really ready is not good. I think you should enjoy the friendship you have and not muck things up with any of this stuff that you aren't ready for and would regret doing now.
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15/f. how can i improve my handwriting? i hate mine because i tend to connect a lot of my letter, but not in a cursive sort of way. so what are some things i can do to improve my handwriting.
also what can i do to increase my writing speed? i right sooooo slow. lol and it is really annoying when i have to take notes in class. i guess in order to write fast i don't have to worry about neatness, but it has to be readable =]
thanks! (link)
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Hi,
What you need to learn is the art of shorthand note taking. You need to learn how to take notes and write a short form or a code for certain words and use that to copy down the jist of what the teacher is saying rather than complete sentences.
As long as you can read the code, abreviations of words etc and understand your notes you are great shape. I would tell your teacher that you want to learn shorthand note taking techniques so you can write accurate notes and not miss anything. Maybe they will think it's a good idea to show you and your classmates how to do.
As far as handwriting goes even presidents, actors, directors, astronauts, famous people etc have bad handwriting or illegible handwriting for that matter if you have seen their signatures. It's common. What can you do? Try going to your local library and or book store and ask for a book on good penmanship or handwriting.
Then get some tracing paper and start by tracing the letters over and over. Then try to write your own name or sentences in that style until it becomes mashed seamlessly with your own. Good luck, I know you can do this. Let me know how it goes by hitting my mailbox.
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okay.
i'm doing a paper on teenage stress.
more focused "how teenage stress relates to teen drug and alocohol abuse"
meaning, do we drink when stressed.
& id like to do a simple, anonymous survey @ school. just type a paper, with all yes/no or 'fill in the bubble' questions.
k, here's where you come in
one] do you think this is a good idea
& two] what sort of questons should i put
i was thinking something like
when feeling stressed, do you have have an urge to drink alcohol; yes/no
& then they can circle one, you know?
any help would be great ! thanks :]
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Hi,
I would abandon the A, B, C or D answer format for your survey. Other than that the idea is sound and should yeild a lot of colorful answers but not one solid consensus.
I think what you ought to do is limit your survey to 5 questions and leave room to put a paragraph answer in. The thing you are trying to prove or disprove is "Does stress have any relationship to teen drug and alchohol abuse? Ask them to expand in a few lines why it does or doesn't and then write your report to go with the results you got.
That would earn you great marks and also help the kids in your class alereting them in an anonymous way to things they need to address to help their adolescent pupils.
Start with that one question as it's what you are trying to prove overall. Then if I were you I would ask as a follow up question Do you think you would be able to recognize if someone had a drug or drinking problem without them saying anything?
And then, I would ask them if it were me doing this "What constitutes a drug or drinking problem to you?
Anyways, I hope this helps. Now it's up to you to come up with some creative ideas of your own too and deliver your report. I think you will do fine. Ultimately, you may find out that your question on how does teenage stress relate to teen drug alcohol abuse cannot truly be answered.
Everyone will contradict each other in my opinion which is the interesting part that will make for a good report.
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ok this guy likes one of my friends and he won't ask her out can someone please give me some tips to give to him? (link)
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Maybe he thinks she will reject him for sure and cannot deal with that prospect. Whatever you do make sure you do not tell her or her friends about how your friend feels. Why? Your friend might not be your friend afterward. whether he asks her out or not is up to him.
All you can do now is encourage him and tell him every guy who ever roamed the Earth had to ask some girl out. All of them where dreading it but had to do it. If she says no than big deal. Maybe she's not for him or is the one who will lose out.
Tell him he has to get it over with or you'll stop listening to him go onb and on about it. He needs to know that if he wants to date her that badly to either ask her or stop thinking about it.
Let him know the only way to know if she will date him is to go ahead and ask to a movie, concert, dinner whatever and see where it leads. That's all you can do here. It's up to him whether or not he's going to act to get what he wants in this case.
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I love a guy in my class named Raul. But he is moving 3 hours away. What should i say to him becuase tomorrow is the last day for him. He knows i like him and i think he likes me. What should i say? what is i start crying again? (link)
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I would be honest with him. Tell him you like him but were too shy to do anything about it and now regret you did not because he is moving. Give him your cell number, screenames, e-mail etc. and let him make contact once he has moved.
The other thing too is that 3 hours is not that long a drive and I'm sure there must be buses going to and from his new town making starting/maintaining a relationship still possible. See what happens after you admit you "blew" things by waiting too long. Moving three hours away ought not be a problem. You might see him less often than you wanted but still have the ability to.
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I have a lot of time on my hands and am looking for some good books to read. I am not sure what to read though. I like books about teenagers going through tough times, kind of books that a teenage girl can relate to. I liked Crank and Speak. So anything kind of like either of those two books would be great. Thank you. (link)
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You might enjoy reading To Kill a Mocking Bird by Harper Lee, The cather in the Rye J.D. Sallenger, Shoeless Joe by W.p. Kinsella (it's the book Field of Dreams is based upon), Huckleberry Finn and Tom Sawyer both by Mark Twain.
While not designed for teens you might also like An Innocent Man by John Grisham. It's a story about a man wrongfully convicted of murder and how he wound up on death row. Don't worry what just said is only the tip of the iceburg with the non-fiction story.
If you are looking for books specifically for teens try Nancy McArthur and her series of novels in The Plant That Ate Dirty Socks series. There's several books in it that are about two brothers and two plants that eat well, you know...socks several times a day causing problems for the boys to hide them.
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Hi im a 14 male and sometimes when i masturbaute all the sperm dosnt come out.It stays inside,like in the tube that leads up the the head and i have to pee to get it out,or else it starts to hurt bad like the blood circulation is cut off.Is that bad? Is there something wrong?
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This happens a lot to guys. The feeling you are having occurs just before you are about to ejaculate and is actually the the start of an orgasm you are about to have but don't because you stopped.
When you feel this happening you need to continue mastrbating or you will not ejaculte. As your testicles which produce sperm will tighten up otherwise and result in something called " blue balls" where it hurts for a while because the semen built up without release.
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i'm really sensitive and whenever someone says something that hurts my feelings i get really really upset and sometimes ill even start crying. i really hate it because i feel so stupid and i feel like a freaking baby. does anyone know any ways to get me to stop being this sensitive? thankss~ (link)
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To be brutally honest the only reason people are trying to bother you is that they have a sick fascination with seeing you get embarassed or turn on the water works. They know they have your number and that tears, anger or frustration is always the end result they'll see out of you.
What can you do? First of all get out a sheet of paper right now and right down the following on one side list all the good things about yourself and on the other all the things they say about you which are not true to get a reaction.
Start knowing and claiming the good things as yours and any time someone tries something on you remind yourself that none of that junk is true about me and 'm not reacting to it. You see, you have to build a wall around yourself and confidence then none of this will be a problem.
No matter what anyone says to you just remember that they are lying and counter punch in your head with the defence about the truth and then you will in the long run learn not to react or be overly sensitive. You have to work at getting tough in this area and all it is is mental and what you are allowing yourself to believe or get hit with even though you know what the truth about yourself is.
Another thing to remember is to consider the source of where this is stemming from and tell yourself that so-and-so has no authority, is jealous, doesn't truly know me and has more problems than I do. Then you can brush it off and pity them for saying it. That's how you get tough skinned.
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okay whenever i takl to this one kid i always think about doing stuff with him. like having sex any everything. what does that mean (link)
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It means you're a normal teenage girl ;) Thought I would start with that so you can relax. What this all ammounts to is an attraction to him and in general sexual curiosity about boys your age.
It's normal to think these thoughts, have sexual type dreams etc about someone you are attracted to at your age. Odds are this means you are attracted to him or just lusting after him because he's cute. It's up to you to determine whether ot not to pursue a relationship with him or if it's just a crush that is not meant to go any further.
At any rate youre normal, not in the least way perverted, sick, weird etc. If you weren't experiencing this as a teenager at all then there'd be reason to worry ;) It's all 100% natural.
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How long do you have to wait to wash your hair after you get a perm? (link)
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This is a question you need/ought to have asked your stylist before and or during getting the perm. If you are unsure of the answer you can always call them and explain what date you were in and what kind of style (the perm in this case) they gave you and find out how to wash it/when and what shampoos or haircair products to use or not use to keep it the way you want it to look. That's your best bet there--talk to your stylist.
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university websites doesn't help so much I mean I go in there and all I read is like this college was built in... it is highly advance ...trains people but they 're instructions on how to get admitted is confusing. I mean I can't find info on how much they really cost or if they have monthly bills to students. (link)
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Hi,
You should call the college or university's main number. Ask to speal to the admissions department and tell the person who picks up at that extension that you are interested in X program and need more information including the cost breakdown per semester per year. They will be glad to mail something out to you that answers those questions.
At the same time tell them how confusing you found their Web sites to be. They could use that feedback to be sure. In the event their Web site is so confusing that finding that phone number is even a hassle do a 411.com or 411.ca under the name of the school and the state and or province. It has to come up that way.
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13/F.
When I get my period, the blood has lots of clots and clumps. So these just slide past the tampon and cause a leak. The menstrual cups aren't working for me right now. What tampons actually absorb the clumps and clots?
What else would you suggest? Like what are the best tampons? (link)
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Hi,
If there is ever pain taking menstrual products out you ought to tell another adult female and stop using the product all together. My advice is to visit your pharmacy and find a female pharmacist to talk to about your problem and wanting to avoid embarassing leaks.
They will understand (even if you think it's embarassing) how you feel and can recommend a solution. I would also ask your classmates/friends what tampons they use. I don't know if you can schedule an appointment to see/talk with a gynaecologist about this but it may help as they know what cups, tampons, pads their patients think work the best.
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okay; so I like this guy. I was planning to ask him out.
But my previous boyfriend cheated on me and broke up with me more than once. I'm complete over him & all the heartbreak. I had a blast with him last summer though. But I also remember that having a boyfriend wasn't easy and required alot of time & work? I mean you always had to call him and tell him how you are, what you were doing, when your going to hang out, ect. I can't imagine actually hanging out with this guy that I like. |[ maybe it's because I haven't actually went out with him yet, but I don't really knoww .. ]|
If he does say yes, how do I start the relationship off? How many days a week should we hang out? Where should we hang out? I sorta "forget" how to have a boyfriend.. =/
help? please? (link)
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Hi,
I think you need to relax before doing anything. You are trying to be "the perfect" girlfriend before he has even said yes to you. Nobody can ever be perfect in a relationship. You don't have to call your boyfriend every day, find out what they are doing etc, and always hang out with eachother or schedule what days you are to hang out or not. That's not natural boyfriend/girlfriend behaviour.
You need to give guys space and do things alone too. If in a relationship and you feel you're doing all the calling or calling too much lay off of doing it for a while. Let the guy take the lead here and let him call you as that's exactly what is expected of him and not the girl. If a girl called me too much or wanted to spend far too much time with me I would feel smothered not to sound mean.
If you really like this guy I would go ahead and ask him but find a way to do it in private so it's just you and him. This can be hard but if you really want someone or something and it's worth it you have to muster up ypur courage and go for it.
Your biggest problem here seems to be that you want to force things to happen rather than let them unfold naturally. You just have to ask him out and let things take their course. You'll figure out what you like to do together amd where to hang out and all that as you go. No need to schedule a thing--it's a lot more fun if you don't.
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well i wont to tell my parents im bi and have had a gf for abotu 5 months and i love her to death and i wont to marry her some day but how do i tell thim (link)
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The problem is there's no one way to tell parents, siblings, friends about this. Each person can and will react differently. It can get very heated and emotional with parents and it's not your fault. They may blame themselves but in the end you'll always have their love.
I think honesty is the key here. Schedule a sit down or quiet dinner and tell them both the truth or tell them seperately in the same manner and then point them towards books, resources, support groups etc. They may be angry as all get out at first but parents seldom turn their backs on children ever. You just have to tell them but in a controlled setting and privately.
There's no one way to do this that will work for everyone. Once you do tell them I'm sure you as well as they will feel releived for the truth being passed on and no more secrets. Good luck to you.
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okay right now me an my friend are doing DDR
when we get done we plan to drink hot cocoa
but then what?
we want to stay up all night
any ideas
anything will help
its only 2 people
me and her
so any fun exciting gam,es that last long
an dont get boring after like an hour
all suggestions are acceptable!!!
yours truely
mistywasgreat (link)
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What do you wish to acheive by staying up all night? Just curious about your reasons. If you do go ahead with this you might be absolutely wrecked in the morning or in some cases feeling ill and unable to do anything else. It can put your body out of whack especially if either of you takes any medications. Otherwise, have fun with this.
What do I recommend? Depending upon what time it is in your time zone if the local video store is open hit them up for video games and an assortment of films that are 3 hours long or ones you have never seen before that are classics. The new version of King Kong is out in a 3 plus hour (almost 4) edition, Reds and Born on The Fourth of July is also out and many others worth seeing that are either 2 hrs 30 minuts to 3 hrs. This will eat up a lot of time.
Rather than playing strictly games or these films maybe you should spend the time trying to learn new skils such as cooking etc or learn about things you need to know, wanted to know or never thought about.
Pick a topic and spend the night learning about it as you look things up. Just ideas.
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i'm a 14 year old girl. in october, i went out with this boy for 2 weeks & then he broke up with me. we didn't talk for a while, but then we became sort of friends again. well; lately he has been calling me & we've been talking A LOT.
he keeps asking me if i'll have sex with him (not right now, but in the future), i just keep telling me "maybe". well now it seems that all he wants to talk about is sexual things. like, eating me out or me giving him a blow job.
i don't know what to do! i haven't really done anything with him..just made out & he's felt me up. that's all!
p.s. he's always telling me that he loves me, and that i'm beautiful. sometimes, he's so sincere & sweet, but sometimes i think he's bullshitting me.
help! (link)
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Hi,
I will be blunt as you need to hear the truth. The guy is a grade A sleazeball. Nobody who respects a girl/woman and is your friend or someone in love with you or wanting to date you now or in the future will talk about what they want top do to you sexually. It's just not right--there's something wrong with him!
Unless you were talking dirty and both of you consented to that he's pretty much a creep who is playing you (he's not into you at all. He's all about sex)
What do you need to do? As tough as it is to talk to your mom or dad let them know he has been making sexually suggestive/charged comments about what he wants to do with you and will not stop even though you are not comfortable.
Your parents can contact his or go through your school's guidance office for him to be severely disciplined. Any way you slice it it's sexual harassment and you can do a lot about it by speaking out to teachers, prinicipals, your parents, or a trusted adult.
And to echo your own words "He's bullshitting you." run, don't walk away from this jerk as he's bad news and likely you saw that already from having been on a date or two with him in the past. Do every girl you know a favor and tell them exactly what he's been saying to you. Nobody will touch him after that and maybe if he doesn't have mental issues will get the message how to treat girls he knows or wants to be with. It's called respect ;)
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I've started at least 3 novels and I always lose inspiration after a little bit. I have some great ideas and I'd like to complete them, for once. What can I do? (link)
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Writing a book can take months or years. At this stage of your life it's important to learn how to write better than your peers and your teac her expects out of you. You are doing a very good thing by practising your writing trying to write a novel.
Whether or not you complete a book or not at this stage does not matter all that much. What really matters are the lessons in writing it will teach you. You need to develop editing skills, learn to re-write, spell properly, vary the length of your sentences, learn how to write a topic/lead sentence and expand on things.
It's okay to lose interest after a bit in something you are writing. Thois is normal and a good thing. All writers take a break from what they are writing and even sleep on it or shelve the project until they come up with new ideas.
There is nothing wrong with that. Like I said, the best thing to do is continue writing and learning more about how a professional writes. You may also want to use an outline that shows you roughly where you want to go with your story and use that to guide you.
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