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asking him out, starting the relationship.
okay; so I like this guy. I was planning to ask him out.
But my previous boyfriend cheated on me and broke up with me more than once. I'm complete over him & all the heartbreak. I had a blast with him last summer though. But I also remember that having a boyfriend wasn't easy and required alot of time & work? I mean you always had to call him and tell him how you are, what you were doing, when your going to hang out, ect. I can't imagine actually hanging out with this guy that I like. |[ maybe it's because I haven't actually went out with him yet, but I don't really knoww .. ]|
If he does say yes, how do I start the relationship off? How many days a week should we hang out? Where should we hang out? I sorta "forget" how to have a boyfriend.. =/
help? please?
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Haha, I forgot how to do that too. I was single for like 8 months.
Anyways, yeah boyfriends are quite the bit of work. Calling them everyday is a must, but don't call them more than 3 times a day because calling a lot can get annoying.
If he says yes, just spend some time with him. Hang out with him about 3 times a week. The mall, movies or each other's houses is fine. =)
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Hi,
I think you need to relax before doing anything. You are trying to be "the perfect" girlfriend before he has even said yes to you. Nobody can ever be perfect in a relationship. You don't have to call your boyfriend every day, find out what they are doing etc, and always hang out with eachother or schedule what days you are to hang out or not. That's not natural boyfriend/girlfriend behaviour.
You need to give guys space and do things alone too. If in a relationship and you feel you're doing all the calling or calling too much lay off of doing it for a while. Let the guy take the lead here and let him call you as that's exactly what is expected of him and not the girl. If a girl called me too much or wanted to spend far too much time with me I would feel smothered not to sound mean.
If you really like this guy I would go ahead and ask him but find a way to do it in private so it's just you and him. This can be hard but if you really want someone or something and it's worth it you have to muster up ypur courage and go for it.
Your biggest problem here seems to be that you want to force things to happen rather than let them unfold naturally. You just have to ask him out and let things take their course. You'll figure out what you like to do together amd where to hang out and all that as you go. No need to schedule a thing--it's a lot more fun if you don't.
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