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Q: i have the product red motorola razr from sprint. i want to lock my phone. when i go to settings, and then security, it says "enter lock code". i don't know my lock code- is their anyway i could find this code through internet or do i have to call? i just need to find out what i have to do.

Your unlock code is the same number to your voicemail. At least mine is and I never set it up to be. So if it doesnt work call sprint and ask them whats up.

Q: so i have a past with this one kid lets call him " dan " okay so me and dan have had a past we hooked up alot and we did more then that alot too and everytime we would hang out wed hook up and do stuff.. well recently my best friend has been talking to him just like friends and now he likes her and i dont know .. im confused what to do like i have a history with him and now he wants my best friend

Is it possible that he always wanted your best friend but was all up on you because you were giving up the cat??

Well you may hate to hear this, but your friend is not a true friend because if she was she wouldnt mess with anyone you messed with. Its too many fish in the sea for ya'll to hook the same one.

Dont get mad, Dont get jealous, Just move on. He is going to miss you when your gone.
And your friend, she will be just another trophy on his shelf for him to brag about.

Q: anything new only i like different remix's too thankss

bartender - TPain
Same Girl - Usher and R.Kelly
Like This - Kelly Rowland
64 - Mike jones
Shawty - Piles ft. TPain
We Taking Over - DJ Khalib ft akon, lil wayne...
Get Me Bodied - Beyonce
Party Like A Rockstar - Shop Boys
Watch My Shoes -Trill Ent.
Say Round - Trill Ent.
Get Em Hating - Piles
Smile - Jibbs
damn...Lost my train of thought...lol

Q: ok so ill make this as short as i can. some background info: i went to a private school for 9 years where i had a small extremely close-knit group of friends. their parents were always very strict on them and they werent always allowed to do things most kids/teens can do, which basically irritated me because my mom let me have my freedom as long as i wasnt a little hoodlum you know but they became very close-minded basically because of their parents i guess, although they were good friends. soo after 8th grade i switched schools and sadly lost touch with most of them except my best friend of the group. two years ago in 9th grade i got my cartilage pierced [i already had 2 holes in each lobe.. and she had just gotten her first hole done like the yr before i think because she wasnt allowed before]. she hated it. she said if i get any more piercings she wouldnt talk to me. honestly what kind of friend says that? i was basically like wtf? but let it blow over. and nevertheless i pierced the cartilage on my other ear that summer. she never said anything about it, so it was ok. well our communication became less and less since we both had busy schedules, and we basically didnt talk at all for a long time.. occasionally on myspace or text but didnt see each other. now a month ago i got my industrial pierced but havent seen her since then. well im hanging out with her tomorrow, were going to an amusement park and my hair will have to be up and i know she'll see it.. and cant WAIT to see what shes gonna say about it. same with her mom. what should i do? im obviously not gonna take it out or anything just because she doesnt like it but i know im gonna end up pissed off when she says something about it. i dont care what people think about me with the exception of my close friends and family, so if it was anyone else i wouldnt really care.. but yeahh.. any ways on how to deal so i wont be stuck with her for hours tomorrow being pissed?

Ask her, What does my piercings have to do with me and you being friends?

And you should also tell her that you getting something pierced doesnt change you as a person.
Regardless how this situation goes down, One of you might end up being pissed. But since both of you have aged a little bit, Im sure she has probably gotten over the "I wont be your friend because...." stage.

Q: my best friends birthday is coming up and i want to get her something special...and i cant get her a neclace bc thats what i got her last year..and it cant jus be money or anything

i need ideass

thanks in advance.

Get her a gift card to her favorite store. That way she can get what she wants. Even if its not a lot, she will feel good cuz you thought about her.

Q: all i do is get heartbroken lately.
by the same boy, and idk if you saw my other post./

but, he has a girlfriend, and like idk. :(
i want to get over him, but all ive known to love is him lately.

and its so hard, nobody wants me to even like him.
my parents dont even trust him. :(

how, do i get over him. ;(

please, help. please!

Go out with some friends. Rent a funny movie. Laughter is the best medicine. You dont have anything else to occupy your mind so he stays in it. Find a new guy that you seem a little interested in and make friens with him. Even if you dont plan on be with this guy, he will take your mind off things.

Q: Okay, at my job everyone teases me, most of the teasers are the guys and they do it in a nice waysometimes to make me smile b/c I hardly ever do that. But, there is one guy, call him Joe, and he doesn't just tease, he has to point out everyone one of my charater defects, EVERYONE of them all of the time. Well, for a week he went on vacation and when he came back like 2 days ago I told him I wasn't speaking to him but didn't tell him why. The reason why I won't speak to him is because 1) he pierced my ear for me and I am totally grateful but now it doesn't look healthy anymore, 2) he always embarrasses me at work and is picking on me, and says I have an attitude problem, I can't take a compliment, and so many other mean things. So maybe he doesn't know that he is bothering me with his comments but his best friend told me that he does know and that other people's pain makes him happy (weird, I know, but it could be a lie b/c his friend is NOT the best source of information). Also, my manager heard me tell Joe I wasn't speaking to him and said I am immature. I don't know what to do, ANY advice and greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for reading this.

Have you ever heard anyone say kill them with kindness?
Well thats what you should do. Evenif it irratates you the smallest bit, smile, give a fake laugh, or say "really?" like your interested. Eventually he will think he isnt getting under your skin anymore and he will move on.

Q: okay so i want to get a tattoo of a small butterfly on my shoulder (color: dark blue, dark purple, or black), but i'm asking for honest opinions whether people will think that it looks trashy with a wedding dress when i get married because you will be able to see it.

honest opinions please!

thanks in advance

certain people have different opinions. Its just a butterfly. I dont think its trashy, But older people may think its trashy. But as long as you and your mand dont have a problem then go ahead.
Then you said its going to be small, so I dont see an issue.

Q: so me and my boyfriend have been together for over 8 months now, and well have done many things sexually. i have yet to give him a blow job though...and i feel like its time. i'm totally ready and really want to. but i just am not sure at all how it goes.
could anyone give me tips on how/what to do?
thanks!

OK so my first answer was indeed a little harsh, so im going to go with the more sensative answer. OMG WELLL I dont how to tell you to do!! SORRY!!

Q: do UV rays come through windows?

The sure do. Thats why people put tint on thier houses and windows these days. Because it helps cut back on them.

Q: you know those sayings "bro's before hoes" ? like friends before boyfriends? what are some phrases like that?(for girls)sry if this was confusing. thanks

Boys come and go, but friends are forever.
Wow thats like the only one I can remember right now!

Q: My boyfriend wants to tell finger and feel me up, which im fine with, but he'll probably suck at it haha, so are we supposed to be making out while he does either, so that I don't have to like pretend that im enjoying itt...??

You can make out if you'd like, and sure pretend like your enjoying it. LOL for his benefit anyways. It will give him a little more confidence!!
O and a tip, if you dont like it be his guide so you will like it.

Q: I've never had a job before, and tomorrow I have a job interview at Walmart. Does anyone know what questions they might ask me? Or some tips on what I should or shouldn't say?

Thanks.

You shouldnt any questions until they ask you, Do you have any questions.
Wear something nice and neat. Nothing like some jeans with hole because thats the style. Im not saying dress up but look nice. Normally facial peircings are a no-no because walmart is a family place. So if you got some, take them out for the interview. Try not to slouch or lean, and have a straight yes and no answer. If you think your going to have some questions write them down tonight and rule them out when they answer them so you wont have to go back over the same thing. And be 10 minutes early!!

Q: okay i have two questions... ok, im not girly, and when im out shopping, i dont buy girly cloths, i buy cute hollister things, but not girly girly. but my sister is really girly and when she brings home something, i love it and want it. but like i would never of picked it out, understand?.. whats wrong with me?..
and i have long toes, what are some cute things to do to make them look cute and not so long?

There is nothing wrong with you. You just have a different style. Get your sister to go shopping with you. Let her help you pick out something, then maybe it will rub off on you. There is really nothing you can do about your toes. Noone ever really pays attetion to feet anyways. Just keep them nice, neat, clean, and painted. If you dont like polish, Use a clear coat so they can look healthy at least.

Q: I like this guy I met online. I don't know if he likes me or anything but we seem to get along really well. I dont know if I should tell him or what because I really like him. Wht are your views on long distance relationships? Do yuo think they work or not? We're both 15 if tht helps.

Thnks :)

I dont think they work. If you cant see the person enough then eventually someone else will start giving them the attention that you cant give them. when something comes up, They arent going to tell you the full truth because they know that you arent going to see them, or have any proof.

Q: I'm asking this question to those who have used or are on the patch. What were some side effects (if any) that you had and would you recommend this to anyone? I'm thinking about getting on the patch because I'm not really good with remembering to take medication and I know the shot causes bone density loss... And the other methods are just not appealing to me.

Thanks :)

I would not recommand this to noone.
I was on the patch and it made we nausus. ANd eventually i started throwing up. It was just too much birth control absorbing at once.
I got headaches, and was dizzy when I got up too fast. Just all kinds of crazy stuff.

Q: Ok the guy I am dating I met threw my friends boyfriend (she is married)and has a boyfriend. The 2 guys are cousins. She is always bragging how he spends money on her and how he always comes to see her that my man aint that good, is she jealous or why is she sayin these things?

Because she is trying to make you feel jealous. She wants you to think that her man is better than yours.
And she is also trying to compare the two boys.
So the best thing to do is just ignore it, because as long as he is good to you and you like him there is nothing to worry about.

Q: Hi, im 16 year old girl and ive been with my bf for a year and a half, we love eachother very much and we wanna take our relationship to the next level. But the problem is, i cant ever get horny. He does all the time, and i used to be able to, but now i cant. However, i DO get horny when im NOT hanging out with him. But once i do, i cant get horny. Why do you think this happens? And how are ways i can get horny?

Does he attempt to hel you get hormy? I.E. forplay?
Try that.
You know, Masturbation, Kissing on the body, massage the breast...Stuff of that nature.

Q: like two nights ago me and this guy were hooking up. i know him very well. we're good friends. anyways,

i know that im like really tight down there. and i know he tried to finger me but like..i'm kind of embarassed because idk if he did or not. like if he COULD you know?

it was like kind of sore afterwards for a little while..but i still dont know, it didn't feel like he did it just kind of hurt a little.

help!
should i be embarassed if i'm like really tight?
and what do you think? does it sound like he did.

No definately dont be embarassed. Tightness is a good thing. I think he played around down there but he didnt exactly finger you. You would have felt his fingers in you. I dont think he knew what he as doing either. Next time he attempts do "finger" you try helping him out and either guide him or spread your legs a little.

Q: im a girl i masturbate and i feel no pleaseure in it. how do i make it feel real good?!

You know, This is a great question, Because Back in the day when I used to do it the same thing happened, So now I let my boyfriend do it. Its just better to have someone else doing it.

Anyways, Get a sex toy. If you arent old enought, Get someone to buy one for you.

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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF REAL FAST, REAL QUICK!
iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.