Hi, I call myself Ignatz after Dan Herriman's character in the old "Krazy Kat" comic strip. I'm 44, father of 3, husband to one, crazy about music and books and food and movies and history and martial arts. I've had some wild and crazy times in my life, and I figure I might as well put in some of my perspective.
I promise not to talk down to anyone or make fun,and I promise not to BS anyone. If you're old enough to ask a frank question, you're old enough to get a frank answer. Oh, and if you ask me a question directly, please be patient. I'll get back to you as soon as I can. My life's a bit hectic. :-)
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Location: St. Louis, MO
Occupation: Professional dad
Age: 44
Member Since: October 29, 2007
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Is limewire illegal if you download stuff and then put it on your ipod? Because my mom said its illegal and if she catches me using it again shes going to change the password on my computer and lock it. So is it illegal? (link)
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You can be sued for illegally copying and sharing computer files. You may not do prison time, but you'll have a nice court fight on your hands and plenty of legal bills. Some artists are releasing music under a "Creative Commons" license which allows for legal downloading; other artists decide not to prosecute fans. Check out the Electronic Frontier Foundation (eff.org) for more information about Creative Commons licensing. Also, you can Google "legal torrents" and find stuff you can download without fear of the RIAA sending you a nastygram. Or you can just copy CDs from the library.
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I am getting bored of my songs on my ipod. Can you all please give me a list of songs to get. I'm interested in mostly hip-hop/rap (some that i already have- 2 step : unk, The way I are: timbaland, sexyback: justin timberlake etc. etc. etc.) Other than that genre, I like dance/techno (cascada, basshunter) pop (christina aguilera, rihanna) and like slow dance songs (stickwitu : pussycatdolls, so sick: neyo, apologize : timbaland)
so if you know any good songs that fall into those categories... please type them in here! THANKS (link)
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Check out a mashup album called "Glassbreaks" by DJBC. It's readily available on P2P networks. Lots of old-school hip-hop against Phillip Glass's minimalist music. Heavy stuff. He's also done two Beatles/Beastie Boys mashup albums: "The Beastles" and "Meet the Beastles".
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is ti bad to microwave food? i dont know why i hear its bad... changes chem composition of food or w/ee?? (link)
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The short answer is no, it's not bad for you per se. It's best for reheating or defrosting things though; food doesn't brown in the microwave (unless it burns), and the browning is what gives food its flavor. Nothing wrong with it though; I've been eating microwave foods all my life and have had no problems whatsoever (unless you count that sixth toe on my left foot).
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DearAdvicenters,
Christmas means a lot to me and I have always tried to make it a happy day for my family. I decorate the house, put up a tree, my husband cooks for a big family get-together, and of course the exchanging of presents. This tradition has become problematic.
There is definitely a sense of entitlement on the part of the boys. (One is 16 and the other 20). They are “entitled” to a big and expensive Christmas. They want to know how much things cost; they complain that they didn’t get as much as the year before; they complain one got more than the other or the presents they did get don’t really qualify to be “special” Christmas gifts. They complain that my husband and I spend more on each other than on them. And to top it off, although I say it doesn’t have to be expensive and can even be handmade, they don’t always even contribute gifts to each other or to my husband and I themselves.
It is extremely difficult however to “tone down” Christmas. When December approaches, I get sentimental and I strive to have that Norman Rockwell Christmas where every face around the tree is happy and glowing. I can’t stand the feeling of guilt that I will have if I haven’t at least tried to give them a wonderful Christmas. Perhaps this stems from the fact that my mother was depressed when I was growing up, but she always seemed to rally around the holidays and, as a result, I got the attention that I sometimes lacked during the year.
II would be really sad to give up the family gift-opening on Christmas morning. The older son has received the benefit of these plentiful Christmases until he is 21 so I feel that the younger one deserves the same until he is 21. At the same time, I know in my heart that this just isn’t working and has to be changed. Please help! I've got a Christmas Conundrum.
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What YSGirl said. Make a donation to a charity in their names. Bring football gear so you can survive their ensuing temper tantrums. :-)
Then, after they've finished, drag them down to a local soup kitchen and sign them up as volunteers. Do it a couple of days AFTER Christmas: these places have lots of help around holidays and struggle the rest of the time. Believe me, nothing teaches gratitude like seeing a starving person eat.
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Ok, according to my midwife, I am in labor. But my cervix wont open, and my water wont break. I am in so much pain that I have been in tears for 4 days. I want to find a way to self induce. Some people have said have sex, but since she has dropped I am scared that will hurt her. Someone else said castor oil but I dont know where to get that....has anyone got any ideas on how to make her break my water? And please dont say "She will come when she is ready" (link)
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Okay, if you're using a midwife you're probably shooting for a natural birth, am I right?
My wife had a similar problem giving birth to our daughter. Her water wouldn't break, and the labor was unproductive (wouldn't dilate). We'd hoped for a natural birth using the Bradley method, but after 48 hours of labor, we gave in and started with Pitocin and an epidural. It turned out my wife's pelvic opening was too small to allow a baby's head through, and we had to do a Caesarean.
It's okay to change your plans. Your baby will not be any less beautiful if you use drugs to make things easier. Extended labor can put stress on the baby and cause complications later on in the birth. Ultimately, it's your body, you're the one giving birth, and your midwife has to do what's best for you. Part of what's best for you is making sure you're not in unnecessary pain.
As a direct answer to your question, orgasms will help induce labor, as will nipple stimulation. Use a breast pump to simulate a baby nursing, or just use your hands (or someone else's). :-)
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Hello my name is Rebecca Anne. I have a 7 month old daughter named Rylee. I'm 18 years old. So for the past few nights Rylee hasnt been sleeping well. Its like when I put her down she screams and if I pick her up she stops. But I cant hold her forever because adventually my arms get tired. Can someone give me some advice on what to do please? I'm desprate lol. (link)
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Okay, here's a slightly different perspective.
It may take quite a while for Rylee to sleep through the night, especially if she's feeling clingy. My wife and I used a philosophy called "attachment parenting" with our kids: we carried them a lot, slept with them in our bed, my wife breast-fed them both; basically we made them feel as safe as possible. My daughter is 5 and my son is 2, and they're both very courageous and independent now. They still like a cuddle now and then, and they get it.
You might want to look into baby slings or soft carriers that will allow you to carry Rylee close to you and still leave your arms free. We used something called a slingaroo: I could go all over the house, do whatever I needed to do, and my daughter would be asleep right up against me in the sling. I don't personally advocate letting them "cry it out" until they're much older, but that's just me. Your mileage may vary, all offers void where prohibited. :-)
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I've just broke up with my boyfriend and it's official it's over. I don't want him to get with another girl but obviously it's inevitable he will. I just can't stop thinking about his hands over a girl and him "doing things". I know I'm torturing myself and I feel so sick about it. I've tried keeping busy and even when I'm at work I imagine it. All I wanted was for him to care and love me and he went for no reason. I know he isn't worth it but that doesn't make love go. I know time will only do that but how do I control the girl thing? n e suggestions? (link)
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Think about it this way: if he left you for no reason, he's going to leave the next girl for no reason. Remember there's nothing wrong with you per se: he just decided to walk, in which case he doesn't deserve your loyalty and affections. It happens.
And hey, rocking the tragic thing can be fun! Listen to lots of good music, according to your tastes (Rasputina, Leonard Cohen, Billie Holliday, Macy Gray for starters), read poetry, write nasty letters to him, work on it and with it until it's out of your system. Express it, otherwise it'll sit inside you and rot. Feel what you feel, and use it.
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okay so last year i was at a water fountain when this guy came up to me and aid " hi want to be my friend?" And so i said sure and we both walked off. I thought it was a joke really cause it was soo odd. Then we met again in theatre and i was suddenly crazy for him. We hung out and flirted and he was 17 and i was 15. So we'd hang out at after school and talk on the phone about so much stuff and sometimes he'd just call to say hi. I was just soo in love with him. and so i told him how i felt and we talked even more and he was like..." well I like....like like you." and so then we talked about kissing and we said we'd see who lasted longer. so one day i kissed him and then the next day he texted me and was like " i don't understand why you would rush me into that." and i sobbed and he came to my next class and just watched me cry really and said " its fine." Then suddenly torwards the end of the play he ignored me and started letting this other girl just fall all over him. But he'd still call me to come up to his house and friends houses to hang out.then i noticed that during the play and stuff he'd watch me and he was soo nice at all the cast parties we went to. And over the summer he still called and we hung out and then it was like he dropped off the face of the earth but his cell phone would " accidently" call me. Then he appeared in my college prep class and he's always watching me and using me as examples for stuff. But i found out from his older brother that he ot back with his old gf who he cheats on all the time and who he wants to break up with but can't cause she threatens to kill herself, which is why he cheats on her to get her to break up with him till she's a bit sain again.
My question is: Did it sound like he had feelings for me or that it a possibilt we could date? Im not worried about the cheating part because his friends, old girlfriends, and brothers tell me that he had like four girlfriends before who he never cheated on and that its just that this girl is soo disturbed and insaine that he has to get away somehow. Sorry its sooo long:) (link)
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What's he doing?
Playing with your head, it seems. It's a pretty common thing: we all do it at some time or another. We figure out that we can play games with people, and we see how far we can take it. His ex is playing with his head by threatening suicide. (I had an ex like her. Bad news.)
Anyway, if you like the drama, and you want to star in your own little soap opera, then date him. If you want a fun time with as little drama as possible, then go find someobdy else.
Hope this helps,
Ignatz
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