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Q: we've been out of school for a long time and i didnt do one thing with a friend. if one person is doind something with someone already they wont let you do anything with them =( they wont get a big group of girls to hang with or anything. EVERYBODY has something to do and they wont let me come i mean i thought i had real friends but... and my so called "best friend" doesnt talk to me online and in her shout outs she is puttin' me at the bottom of her list i mean i cant stand it with these girls they dont talk to me or call me i call them n they always say i cant do anything n then i look at thier a/m and its hanging with my girls or something like that. HOW DO I GET "REAL" FRIENDS??? PLEASE HELP I WILL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERES.

They don't sound like real friends to me. You should look for someone that doesn't have any friends, and go up to them and ask them if you can talk. Get to know them and about there life. To me those sometimes seem to be the best friends. Here and there, there are people who aren't the kind of friend you would want, and that's okay. Just keep looking, and remember. As you get older you make a lot of friends, but at the same time you loose some. But that doesn't mean that you aren't a good friend. I hope I helped!

Q: im depressed. i have ALL the signs of teen depression [ i looked them up ]

i dont feel myself lately. i dont like me. i cant sleep. i cry for no reason. im really mean to people around me. this year my grades went from A's and B's...to all F's.

ugh...any ideas on how to tell my mom? i want to tell her i need to see a theripist but im scared of how to bring it up and stuff..

I used to have deppresion, and the longer you take to tell someone the worse it gets. Just set her down and tell her that you would like to see atherapist, and that she doesn't need to freak out. Tell her that you been a little depressed lately and that you would feel better if you saw one. I hope that that works. tell me how it works.

Q: This past year, my hair was wavy/curly (as it naturally is) and always up in a ponytail or bun with tons of frizz. 2 days ago, I got a ceramic straightener. Other than straigtening my hair, what can I do to segregate myself from myself in the past? Also, how can I look older without being a slut or looking like my mom? I'm entering high school and that means hot guys!!

Well, you said that you are streightening your hair right? so do some more to it also. Maybe give it some color. to look older you could get more mature clothes, I don't mean granny clothes, but more like dress pants instead of jeans. But if you really want a guy that you will like and that will like you back,you might want to be your self. Hope I helped!

Q: ive ever had a boyfriend. and im 16. whats wrong with me?? im not completly ugly, but im not like super pretty.. i think i may be prude. how do i get over that and have some fun??
THANKS SO MUCH!!!!

Well looks aren't always the culprate. Sometimes it is your personality. Do you talk to any boys? Sometimes boys are the ones to blame. Boys don't usualy have the guts to tell the girl that they like them. I say, just go on with life and ignore it. Out there somewhere is the boy for you. He will come when your ready for him! Don't worry.

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!