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Hey my names ali i'm 17 from new jersey. i'm usually really fast with advice so ask whatever you want and i'll answer as soon as possible!!
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i'm starting to get some things ready for back to school. i'm gonna go clothes shopping soon at the mall and I want some really great clothes to "wow" everyone at school. anyone know where to get cool clothes??

well first of all, if you are looking for a preppy look, i'd go to stores like:
wet seal
a&f
hollister
ae
forever 21 - GOOD BUY! cheap!

if you just want a classic, non trendy look:
h&m

if you are looking for edgy/punk:
pac sun
hot topic

also, for awesome accesories (either prep or punk) hit claires

and if you are into the preppy thing, try to get some high heels, try aldo. they have awesome shoes. get comfortable ones u can walk and practice before school starts. also, DEB has cheap shoes (but i dont know if that is just a new jersey store)
hope this helps!
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Wat duz it mean when a guy pops a girls cherry???


?Curious?

a girl loses her virginity. it is called poping the cherry because the girl bleeds sometimes the first time. not all girls bleed though!
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k me and my boyfriend had sex lat night...and we didnt use a condom but he pulled out right bofore he came. but i was kind of worried because he got a little "stuff" right below where he puts his....well you know...is it possible for something to happen? or does it actually have to be inside the girl?? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

there is something called 'pre-ejaculation fluid' this fluid contains sperm. you could have gotten pregant / contracted an STD. also, i think if the semen gets anywhere near your vagina, it is possible for the sperm to travel inside, but i am not sure. If i were you, id see a doctor about the morning after pill.
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I have a boyfriend who I love sooo very much!! I wouldnt do anything to hurt him! I have a few good guy friends who I ONLY talk to on the internet because my bf doesnt like me hanging out with them. Well, one of my friends asked me to go to a party with him tonight or we could go to the mall another night. I'm not sure I should because I think my boyfriend would be mad! What should I do? And if I shouldnt hang out with him, how do I say no without saying my boyfriend wouldnt want me to. He always says "F*** your stupid boyfriend" :-/ Thanks for the advice!!

It seems like your boyfriends a little controling, he shouldn't be able to tell you who you can hang out with! theres nothing wrong with having guy friends, so i mean you can hang out with them and your boyfriend shouldn't mind. just be careful
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Someone told me i was..well to put it nicely..really fat and..i havent eaten for 6 hours and my stomach is killing me and ive been pressuring myself to get tons of exercise and it hurts...but i donno what to do! and i really need help!

dont listen to what anyone says, if you're happy with your body it doesn't matter. but if your not, some ways that i use to loose weight is the tredmill, 1 minute of walking then 1 minute of running and continue that for a half hour (im not good at running lol so i do that). also not eating probably will make you loose weight, but its not at all healthy. you should eat the three meals a day, and when you're hungry in between eat fruit or something.
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Ok well in the past year things have gotten really really bad for me! Me and my parents are constantly fighting ans when ever were suppose to have "quality" time we ALWAYS get into an argument!So ive been starting to cut myself! everytime i start to cry i bring myself to cut my arms up! how can i stop doing this to my self?

sorry about your parents, but here are some alternatives instead of cutting:
-Wear a rubber band around one wrist and when the urge to harm is strong, snap it lightly
-Hold ice in your hand
both of those stimulate some type of pain to help, other ways would be listening to music, go for a walk/drive, call a friend, stuff like that. hope i helped.
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i have a friend who is really pretty and really popular...she could practically get any guy she wants. Whenever i have a guy who in interested in me she goes and flirts with him and he ends up dumping me and going for her. What should i do to let my friend know that this hurts me badly?

hey! i have a friend whos just like that, you should definately tell her how you feel, nd tell her that it hurts you badly, and if shes a true friend i think she'll stop. &if she doesn't stop, shes probably not your friend if she knows about it.hope that helps!
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i like this boy and he doesn't like me and i have a major crush on himk but i dunno what to do! sooo what should i do?

if he knows how you feel, and he doesnt feel the same way : move on! theres better boys and theres so many more. you'll find a new guy sooner or later
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Help some one i really fancie my paper boy and hes sooo cute but the problem is im really shy and dont want to talk to him,Can anyone thing of another way to let him no i fancey him?
thank you roxie
ps ill rate you if you help
pps PLEASE HELP

leave him a note when u pay the bill for the paper .. or go out on the porch and get the paper as soon as he drops it off and start a conversation by saying like 'thanks!...' strike up a conversation!
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what is the right age to have sex and what are some good things to do?

there is no right age to have sex. phsyically, when you hit puberty, your body is ready to have sex. emotionally, you may not be ready so early. if you feel ready and you want to do it, you should. if u have doubts, wait on it
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I wanna lose weight, on my stomach and my bum. But I wanna lose weight before I go back to school in 5 weeks, anyone got any good ways?

if you go 2 a gym, therea is a maching called the elptical. any way u use that machine it tightens up your glutial muscles (aka ur bum).. plus you can b on that thing for like 20 minuteas and burn 300 calories.. which rocks!
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how do u give a guy a bj, like what is the correct way to put in in ya mouth nd move it?

my suggestion to answer this is get a cosmopolitan magazine. they explain everything! plus, theres awesome tips in it for other things such as makeup, hair, style, etc.
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i love my friend from down the street. WE shared so many things together, ive known him since i was 2. He grabs my one day and tells me he loves me and kisses me softly. I really thought he meant it. The next day my total flirt best friend comes and steals him away. I know he still likes me but it was so hard seeing them flirting. He may like her. I am hurting so much inside knowing that there could be someone else besides me for him. What should i do? i really love this guy.

doesnt your best friend know you have feelings for him? if not: TELL HER! and if she truly is your best friend, she will back off. and also, talk to the guy. he couldve been being a player and leading you on or he could've been serious. if hes serious about ur bFF, then you have 2 back off. if hes not, move in!
hope this helps!
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i bought a thong but it's really uncomfortable! Do you have to get used to them? any tips?

ok, heres the deal, when you first wear a thong its quite uncomfortable! the 1st time i wore one i was like OMG this sucks why do ppl wear them..now, ive gotten used 2 them and i cant even tell the diffrence betweeen them and regular panties. also, if u want no panty-lines they are def. the way to go. try wearing it around the house first to try to get used 2 it.
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I'm 15 years old + a virgin. My best friend has had sex with her bf. My boyfriend isn't a virgin, either. I feel so left out since I've never done anything really 'sexual' with a guy. I'm so curious about it, but I don't wanna do it unless I'm totally in love and I'm ready. I really wanna know what it feels like. What should I do? I dont wanna be known as a little virgin girl for not doing it, but I've never been some1 to give in to peer pressure!

you are 15. most girls your age are not having sex. if you want to, experiment a little. but, if your waiting for the right guy, you will be respected for that. stay true to your morals no matter what anyone says
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My sister and alot of other people I know like to scrunch their hair. My hairs on the straighter side and it can sometimes curl but it WONT scrunch for anything, with gel, mousse you name it. Does anyone know a GOOD product that curls your hair when its wet..and i mean WELL like for someone with straight hair that doesnt scrunch well at all. Please only tell me if you truly think it could work for someone with straight hair.

basically, do something like this:
1) after u get out of the shower dry your hair with a towel so its not dripping wet.
2) use anti frizz in your hair (jon frieda for thin hair)
3) use a curl up product (skip if its curl up/gel) anything thats a spray or non sticky gel
4) use a gel, id recomend something like from a salon/store that sells salon stuff. try bedhead, curl up ( i forget who makes it ), and urm anything proffesional with curling stuff
5) THIS IS KEY! MOOOSEE! use volumizing/curling moose, herbal essence, rusk , etc w/e!
6) hairspray it .. and use the blowdryer, diffuser or not.. stopping to add more hairspray when needed
hope this helps!
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ok my friend always eats lean pockets and she is like so tiny usally she is fat so lean pockets are all she eas so do you think that lean pockets are healty?
so is it healthy ?

lean pockets are really not that good for u .. i mean if u eating like 3 a day its probably horrible for you. you need real food!! if ur friend wnats 2 lose weight tell her 2 start eating healthy, not just lean pockets!! lean pockets are meant 2 be eaten in moderation!
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I am 14 and i just started going out with this guy 2 1/2 weeks ago.. he lives like 30 mins away and hes a total jock so we don't really get to hang out much... so when I have him over I want him to enjoy it with me do u think 14 is to young to be giving head? some of my friend think it is but I don't..

no one is going to stop you from giving head, but think about it. are you ready for the worriest of STDS?.. and u've been only going out for 2 1/2 weeks .. maybe u should think it over a little more
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i really want to look different than i did last year. like totally different. so people will notice. does anyone have any tips??? i'm talkin anything- hair styles, clothes, make-up, the works! plz help!

well, here are some hair color tips *i duno wut color hair u have*

blonde - go for some bleached highlights (chunky) or dye the underneath darker for more contrast.

red - a darker blonde looks AWESOME in red hair .. (probably not chunky)

light brown - go for some dark blondeish if u wnat a subtle change .. go lighter if u want a dramatic change .. or try more then one color .. probably thiner highlights all over (get the cap)

dark brown - you could go caramel or a deep red - go chunky probably w/ da red or thin with the caramel

also-
curly hair - go CHUNKY!!! thin doesnt show very well
straight hair - thin or not very chunky
wavy hair - either one

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Hey this is for neguy or ne girl that nos what a guy wud say to this. What type of girls do u like and what really turns every guy on?

Muahs!*~*~*~I rate!

Ly~Rosy

guys always say that when girls are themselves it turns them on. they like simple girls and girls who dont wear heavy makeup

thats all i know ! hope it help[ed a little. .most of the time it varies from guy 2 guy
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