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Q: ok, i really like this girl at school and shes the only girl ive like at my new school. i told a couple of my best friends that i liked her and it slowly spread throughout the class to her. her friend asked if i am going to ask her out or not and im really not sure because she has been known to dump boys after 2 days(thats the record for her) some of her friends said that shes interested in me but i dont want to get my heart broken like i did with my last girlfriend. should i take this chance
Well, you only live once like everyone says haha, so I say go for it. Ask her out, and if she says yes, date her. Then see what happens. If its only for 2 days it wont be heartbreaking, it'll be just another high school relationship that you learn from. Maybe you should try talking to her though, first. Become friends with her and try and see why she breaks up with guys in 2 days, and maybe if you figure that out, thats something you could do differently, so she wont break up with you =D.

Q: first off is there anyway to get an STD if you dont do anything sexual? cuz my friend has never done anything like that and apparently she has an STD...how does that work? T H A N K S !
Well, considering STD stands for SEXUALLY transmitted diseases, i have no idea how she could have one. If her parents had one when they conceived her, she could have gotten it that way but if they didnt then I dont know. If she made out with someone and they had a cold sore, and she got it (if she has a coldsore) That would be how. Cold sores can be transmitted through kissing, and even though their something mild their still considered STDS

Q: i have a problem..i'm usually a pretty good student & we juss started new classes & i have a 73 in geometry!!! its because i had an 100% and failed the first test. on the quiz, i failed it!! idk whats even going on. i know the stuff but sometimes i mess up dumb things & when i take the test/quiz i blank out because the questions are worded differently than the worksheets. idk what to even do. i think a tutor might be pointless because i get the info. any advice??

thanks!!
Well, my mom was like that in High School. On tests she froze up so she would have to have someone read the tests to her and sometimes explain it in different words, and it helped her pass. Basically they read it to you, explain it & you answer and they write it down. =D Ask about that.

Q: Okay, this question is for guys only..

I'm 13/f and I am thinking about getting my lip pierced. This may sound dumb but guys do you think having a lip ring is a turn-on or a turn-off? Would you want to kiss a girl if her lip is pierced?? I rate high. Thanks a million!
Do what makes you happy like someone below said. If you want to get it done then get it done and dont worry about whos going to think your hot or not. Kissing haaa thats always humorous, especially if you have a hoop in. It made me laugh, but yeah anyway do what you want to do, not what will make you look cool

Q: What is the best way to help make them fade and is their any kind of special cover up that blends better with your skin. I am so pale, I scar horribly and it looks really bad.
Cocoa butter makes scars go away, but uhm.. like the girl below said, getting a tan wont make it any better. I have white skin too, and my scars dont show up that well, and i have alottt. if you get a tan it increases the appearance of scars, soo yeah. anyway try cocoa butter, or this scar treatment stuff, i forget what its called but go to a local pharmacy & ask.

Q: i was a cutter for a year and i just recently slowlly stopped cus i was put in a hospital and my boyfriend was gonna break up with me if i didnt....well now i am getting in trouble at school because i literally have thousands of scars and it is "frightening" the girls...cus i go to an all girls private school...and they are going to kick me out if i dont get them covered up more...so does anyone know of anythings i can do to make the scars look not so bad?
Wow, thats horrible. Thats discriminatory, in a way. Thats like pretty much saying if you had a skin disorder you couldnt go there because you dont look like the rest of the girls and you scare them. Thats straight up BS, but anywayyyy. Moving on, I cut for 5 years and my skins like white so you really cant see them unless im in the light but, they have this scar removal cream that you can put on and its supposed to reduce the noticibility of scars. You should go to a pharmacy & look for it & invest in some, if its really a huge problem.

Q: K I need to know for my own personal reasons if, all these things i'm about to list, are sins or not. and if they are sins where in the bible can they be found.


! Smoking Pot
@ Masturbating
# Drinking alchohol (under the age of 21)
$ Giving/Recieving oral sex
% Looking or watching "explicit materials"


I'd really like to know, so please help me. Thanks sooo much.
p.s im 16f if that helps.
I dont believe any of those are sins but thats my personal opinion. If you believe in God, & accept him as your Lord & Savior, then your going to heaven, period. Or so I've heard. They may be classified as sins, but they will not effect you from going to heaven or not. If anyone says that, its just to make you not want to do it.

Q: 18/f. I was molested when I was little, and every once in a while feelings from that time surface and I get very upset and depressed. It's not so often - maybe once or twice in a year, but I don't want that time to keep haunting me for the rest of my life, I want to move beyond the past. Does anyone have any advice on how I can do that?
Your probably suffering from PTS (post traumatic syndrom). Generally its becuase your in denial about what happened, or that you think its your fault. I've come to know that when I cant get over something its because I'm in denial about it. You have to acknowledge the fact that it happened and repeat over and over its not your fault. Basically realizing what happened and acknowledging it is the first step to overcoming it. Just keep telling yourself what happened isnt your fault and even though it hurt, it was a while ago, theres nothing you can do about it & you have to move on. =/ Its hard, yes, but it has to be done

Q: It would be cool if only boys answered this question as I guess they would know best...
What do guys look for in girls? Hair, makeup, clothes? A certain way of acting? Anything that you guys like? I rate, and thanks in advance
I'm a girl and even I can answer this. Every guy is different, sweetie ! Some guys like smart girls, dumb girls, ugly girls, bigger girls, skinny girls, pretty girls, potheads, alcoholics, everythingggg. some guys like preps, punk, goth. whateverrr. Just be yourself and a guy will come along who loves every bit of it !

Q: my hair is about like 5-6ish inches past my shoulders and im sick of just putting my hair down and half way up.. what are some cute ideas to do my hair.. sites would be apprieciated. my hair is dark dark brown and i have sidebangs

thanks for anyone that helps!
older pictures of me buttt heres sstuff i do.

http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a118/juicyxhuni/Picture16.jpg

in case you cant see what this one is, i took a chunk of hair in the front, and twisted it back, bobby pinned it and left a bang hang down ( i cut 2 in the front short, haha) or if you dont have bangs then obviously nothing would hang down .. but yeah thats that and then.

http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a118/juicyxhuni/Picture49.jpg

and thosee are twisties. their really easy to do. you just brush all your hair back even, then start on one side, take a chunk of hair and hold it straight up make sure its evenly brushed through, twist it back & bobby pinn.. works best if hairs wet =D

Q: where can you get backgrounds. like, good ones, not the ones on this website. are there any other sites ? thankss
www.mytheme.com =D

Q: OK...soo well i've always been pretty close with my boyfriends mom. and well now i dont know what to think. she's never really seen me and her son do anything. but last night she saw me on top of him making out in the hottub...and i dont know whatelse she saw.
is there anything i can do that would hopefully make her not think im a slut and stuff like that? becuase right now she donest think to highly of me
Aw. She's just being protective of her little boyyyy. She'll get over it, eventually. If your really worried have your boyfriend talk to her or you talk to her & ask her why she doesnt think highly of you, and she shouldnt think down on you becuase you were making out with your boyfriend. Inform her that you two are not having sex, your just being teenagers. Hopefully she will understand. Shes probably just realizing that her boy is growing up, haha.

Q: i heard that brushing your hair too much will cause split ends so what can i do to not cause so many split ends other than trimming
Brushing your hair does NOT give you split ends !! Its good for your hair and keeps it healthy & shiney. If your still worried about it though, theres some shampoo's and conditioners that cut down on split ends! Look in your shampoo section at a store haha and see if you can find some. I cant think of any names off hand but I know brushing so does not cause split ends, its from hair growth, and the dead ends that cant grow anymore, jeeze. haha

Q: Are seniors allowed to take freshman to prom if theyre going out?
thanks.
Yesss they are. If an upperclassman invites a lowerclassman to prom, thats the only way a lowerclassman is allowed to go =D

Q: my name is john.i love a girl but i dont know is she likes me or not i cant ask her this question face to face.give me advice or trick about how can i find is she intrested in me?
If you cant ask her face to face about liking you straight up, then why dont you ask her maybe if she likes anyone currently, if shes seeing anyone, whos shes interested in and if you dont get anything out of that, then have one of your friends email her or instant message her & ask. Or you do that. You have nothing to lose, so go for it and find out or have a good friend do it =D

Q: what do you use on your skin to keep in nice and clear looking? yours is very pretty and mine always looks ruff and bumpy!
Aw thank you! Actually its natural haha. I just wash my face daily and every night before I go to bed I use this liquid noxema stuff, put it on a cottonball & apply it. Also, when I sleep, I try not to put my face on the pillow cause oils rub off on the pillowcase while we sleep, and you dont want your face to lay in that overnight. If you have to have your face on a pillow though, put it on a clean towel =] it prevents oily skin in the morning. but i just sleep face up haha

Q: Have you ever gone to Cedar Point? ( since you live in Ohio...) Do you like it?
Yess, Ive gone to Cedar Point. Its amazing if you like thrilling roller coasters, haha. Food is expensive, but its like that at any amusemnent park, & the lines are reallyy long, but its great.

Q: I think that somebody is signing on IM using my screen name. two people have said i said things that i know i never said. they have said i used swear words and have been very rude to them. which i know ive never done. i unlinked all of my sns and deleted my buddy lists so this person could not antaganize any of my friends. i have also signed on another sn that no one know about and kind of been monitoring weather someone signs on using my sn or not. i want to be safe and make sure this person wont do anything more. any ideas?

also -- i had a dream the other night about someone hacking my screen name, does this mean something?
I'd say get a new screen name, change it to a password noone could guess like a number comination with letters like .. 1b2456sghs or something, and only give that screen name to your friends & put it on privacy so noone else can get it. =D

Q: I want to break up with my boyfriend in a way. I do because we spend way to much time together and he eventually gets annoying. But I know I wold be jealous if I seen him with other girls and it will make it hard because we go to school together, work together, and yeah. But I don't want to hurt him but he will probably be a butt about wanting to still be friends. He doesn't drive and I always have to kinda haul him around. What should I do? I will rate high!
Well since your the one who drives, how about you take a break from each other, see each other outside of school and work maybe once a week, cut down on the quality time so you dont get annoyed, and it`ll let you be able to miss him, making your relationship stronger. If you know your going to get jealous, then you still like/love him & want to be with him, so dont go taking it to the extremes jussttt yet. Try the break. =D

Q: What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss?
There's no average age. Usuaully girls get their first kiss within the 11-13 range. I got mine when I was 7, haha. But it was just a peck on the lips, nothing intense. It all depends on the persons views, morals, and relationship ideals.

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