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Last Update: November 9, 2009
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So for the past 3 weeks my life has been very stressful. My dad was sick and was in the hospital for 10 days. I might fail one of my classes for the year. My boyfriend and I of 15 months are fighting and I don't know what we are anymore. My friend called me a slut today and asked my other friend to uninvite me to a party tomarrow night. Which she did to "keep the tension away from the party" Its werid I'll be happy and confident one minute then the next I'll be crying my eyes out. i don't know what's wrong and its stressing me out because I don;t when I'll gret into one of my extremely sad moods. Do you know what is causing this and any ways I could help to get this is stop any help is very welcomed (link)
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I would recommend dropping the ability to care. And letting things slide. I think that's why I'm so laid back. Though, i don't recommend that for everyone.
Obviously what is causing it are the sequences you just described above. I recommend just trying to fix these things.
Fix everyone problem, work it out best you can. In the end you'll have tried, and chances are you'll feel a whole lot better.
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Anyone out there know a good guitar out there. I really only want to spend $500 at the most. I'll rate. (link)
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Ibanez or a Fender. I heard the Fender strats are good.
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Hey, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months and we just recently have becoming open with each other and talking about our past relationships and what we have done with people, and i'll admit i hav hookedup wit a decent amount of people..and whenever i mention a guys name he asked me if i have hookedup wit them..and i keep telling him what happened and i think he gets uncomfortable..so when he asks if ive' hooked up wit a guy next time i mention a guys name, shud i just say no or tell him truth, i do think honesty is the best policy but it seems to be making him more upset..so what shud i do? (link)
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He'd be more upset if he found out you were fibbing.
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I'm thinking of like starting my own business. I mean I've in 4-H for about 4 years now and I'm 15. I trained both my dogs through it. I'm thinking of maybe putting an ad in my local paper for it. I'm actually pretty good at it to. Last year I got first place in agility and obedience. If I decide to go for this, how much should I charge? I still want to keep it cheap because people could train their own dog or go into puppy classes and actually be taught by an expert. But I still want to make a profit of it but still keep it cheap. How much should i charge weekly (link)
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Go around and see what the 'experts' are charging. Keep prices competitive with theirs.
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For the past couple weeks or so, I've noticed that I am REALLY tired.
Even on nights when I sleep well, I tend to find myself in class struggling to stay awake or even falling asleep.
When I get home from school, I also find myself falling asleep even though I did not intend to take a nap.
Other than that, I generally feel fine other than headaches that feel like 'sleep headaches' - you know, the kind you get when you haven't slept.
I fall asleep around 10:30 at night and get up at about 6 every day, which seems like plenty of sleep.
Any idea why I may be feeling like this? Are there any medical concerns with this -- like could this be a symptom of an illness even though no others are present? (link)
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Well if you're a teen, the answer is simple. Your body is growing and consuming a lot of energy. If not, it could be your bed. Maybe comfort is an issue here.
I have the same problem, though, I have been staying up until 4-5 on weekends since I was about 10 so I am used to it now on weekday when I need to get some reasonable sleep.
Though I try to fall asleep at 1030, it never works out. I find my self still laying there trying to sleep at 1130, even 12 and beyond.
Some nights I do get a reasonable amount of sleep though. The reason I feel more tired, I believe is because of a term called "sleep debt" where you body loses sleep and then when you get a chance to recoup, you're even more tired.
I can't tell you if there is such a thing as sleep debt, though. Just something I personally believe in.
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what do i do about this teacher he looks down my shirt all the time everyone see's him doing it i can't change the way i dress cause i wear v neckes and thats i i like but i'll wear i jacket in his class and when i bend down to pick up my pencil he looks what do i do help me plez (link)
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I would report it to the councellor.
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im 13/f and ive been getting really close with this guy in my grade, like friend ship close. and hes been opening up to me and told me he cuts and i cut to. so weve been talking and im really afraid and i want to stop him from cutting but i dont know what to do.. any suggestions??
oo and theres another problem with this guy.. people have been telling me that we should go out because we talk on the phone for hours and we know each other inside and out, but hes hung up on this one girl like really really hung up on her but shes totally wrong for him and we both know that. is there any way i can help him get over her? (link)
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You aren't exactly the 'best' person to tell someone to stop cutting. Why? Because that would make you a hypocrite. It's like telling someone "Stop smoking" Yet you go outside just after you told them not to, and smoke. It doesn't make sense, and also will make you lack credibility.
I recommend you both stop. Heh, make it a group effort. Turn it into a game, see who can go longest without doing it.
If he knows she's wrong for him, he would be reasonalbe and not go out with her. If not, try to reason with him.
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ok everyday i wake up about like 4:00 in the morning but after i go to sleep suddenly after like 10 to 20 minutes my whole body becomes paralized,i cant move i cant speak,can open my eyes i cant even open my mouth until like 10 seconds then it goes away!..this started once everytwo weeks then went on to once every other day now it happens everyday!...people say its stress but i dont know yes im going through alot more then any 14 yearold can ever imagine other people should thank the Lord they dont go through what i go through...but i dont know what it is its killing me i learned how to beat it now i just have to take control over my body again but its scary i dont even like goin to bed anymore! please help me!! (link)
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Sounds like sleep paralysis. You should go to a doctor and speak to him about it.
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Why does it seem like that teenagers do bad stuff like smoking, drinking, drugs, and stuff like that when they get stressed out? (link)
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To fit in. How many people do you know are doing this? Probably a lot if you're asking it. Which, sadly, isn't suprising. It's the new wave, and I don't see it getting any better soon.
It's also part of 'labels' which I hate to use such a word. But in order to fit in with a certain group, you have to fit the label. Some of those labels happen to involve use of drugs.
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Okay, so here's the story: I left my backpack in my mom's car. She threatened to take it to work the next day (today). She always makes empty threats and never follows through. She bugged me about my backpack, and I told her not to nag me. When people nag me, I tune them out. So I fell asleep and forgot about my backpack. It's with my mom at work, and I can't go to school now becuase I don't have anything and all of my grades would drop for things that I didn't have//couldn't turn in. Do you think it was right for her to take my backpack?
I mean, I know that I should have taken it out of her car. But do you think it was right for her to take it?
She took out half of my other stuff, but she left my backpack.
And it sucks.
Opinions? (link)
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While it is most certainly uncool that she took your backpack, you are at a wrong here. Afterall, she did tell you she was going to do that.
If you had taken it like she said, you wouldn't have this problem.
The fact she did it though seems somewhat immature.
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I think I'm going gothic and I'm terrified of what's becoming of me. I dress like it now and I listen to the music. I LOVE the music and I HATE the rap. The only thing is I'm scared. I don't want to be one of those suicidal people that everyone is scared of but I can't go back to being a prep because then I wouldn't be myself. What do I do!? (link)
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The first thing I would recommend is drop the recognization of labels.
Be yourself; be an idividual. Don't follow those stupid clothing patterns and music tastes. Like what you want to like, not what you feel you're supposed to. Wear what you want to wear, buy what you want to buy.
Stop thinking along those lines you are now. You're a clone. A copy. Do you want to be that way? Do you want to look like everyone else, and listen and like what they do?
Individualism is something teen culture lacks in an abundance now days. Don't fall into that hole.
The first step to doing this is observation. Look around and observe how everyone is stereotyping. First, free your mind of your current thought patterns. Don't let them blind you from thinking everything about it is 'okay' because it isn't.
"I won't talk to this person because they're wearing a black shirt" is stuipd.
The second step is removing yourself from this thought pattern and speaking to everyone and wearing what you want. No longer will your clothes be 'preppy' they'll just be clothing, they'll just be you.
The third step is to stop caring. Realize all your material possessions don't matter, teach yourself that if one day they were taken away, it wouldn't matter. All the money you put into them, everything, if one day they were gone, you would be okay with that.
After that you're free. Or, do what you want, hey I could be wrong; that's for you to decide.
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Okk. Please Please help me. I've liked this kidd for like 2 weeks. and today he asked me out. of course i said yes. but omg! it is so awkward talking to him. like how can i make him less shy and our talking less awkward??????
Will rate!
pls help! (link)
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Hanging out with each other and getting to know each other better will be an easy solution. The more you two are around each other, the more comfy you two will be.
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Please dont be offended by this, it's something i have been wondering about, it sounds discusting (and it is) but i think it must have happend.
Did God only create Adam and Eve or did he make other humans too?
I ask, because if it was only up to them to populate the earth hen surely incest must have taken place :-s
Adam and eve could have lots of children but then when they died there would have just been brothers and sisters left so that means that they wuld have had to make babies with eachother to make more people.
Is that what happend? i know it wasnt illegal back then but it's just so icky.
i know its a wierd question to ask but no one else ever talks about how people were made. (link)
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It is only 'icky' now because in gods eyes we have been tainted. Just as being nude wasn't taboo back then, though it is today.
They were innocent, and innocence meant of course, no incest. They hadn't made up such a term as it hand't existed.
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...even if we give good advice people rate low if it's something they don't want to hear? Too bad we can't add a comment to their rating. (link)
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You get bad feedback for telling the truth, yes, sadly.
It happens, and a comment back feature would be a nice add.
People come to the site asking advice, but in their heads they really want to hear just one thing and that thing only. If not, they give you a 1.
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lately, i've been under a lot of stress. most of the pressure is coming from my parents. knowing the fact that there is no room for mistakes in my parents eyes pretty much explains it. and lets put it this way: they take away my cell phone if i get a B on my report card. not only are they juicing me academically, but sports are a big factor too.
every week day, from 2:30 (end of school) to 5:30 in the evening, im property of the school track team. i know its fantastic for my health but 3 hours of pure running? not my idea of a fun sport. plus it makes me go home every night with a sore, sweaty, and tired body. it has taken away basically everyday that i used to hang out with my friends also.
im one of the main flyers for my cheer squad too. in a way it is important to my parents that i stick with it. they say that if i get a scholarship for cheerleading, they'll buy me a nice car. psht. bite me.
well when i get home at 5:30, i have approximately 1 & 1/2 hours of homework/studying per night. my parents have very high expectations for me. yeah i know they care about my future but commmee onnnn.
everything is on high alert for them because im a teenager. it seems like a lot more things are stricter too.
after the homework i prepare everything for the next day (pack my bag, pick out my clothes, take a shower, etc). i know thats my choice, but my morning schedule is very hectic.
in the past week i have made some outstanding grades. i even got into honors classes for next year. the thing with my parents is they'll say "good job, im proud of you... now study for your history test tomorrow"
sorry to make this longer but my weekends are just as packed as my weekdays. i have been loaded with babysitting jobs because my parents and i have good backrounds. anyway, i get at least 2 jobs per weekend (usually on friday and saturday nights) and usually around the same times (5-10 or 11). the money i can live with, but with my schedule, why would i ask for more work?
so i need some advice about dealing with stress. my parents are a little unreasonable so please dont tell me to have a talk with them. we're not that kind of people.
i will rate as high as it gets. thanks, appreciate it. (link)
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If you can't talk with your parents there is a whole heck of a lot you can do to fix this situation. You should most certainly consider dropping track -you don't sound too big on it-
Stay in cheerleading, from what you described your parents really respect you and that sport and want you to strive in that area.
As for grades, I know plenty of people who have parents like this. They have tried everything and had no luck.
You'll have to try to talk to your parents, don't yell. Even if they yell, keep calm. Just explain your situation to them.
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my boyfriend proposed to me last week... and i want to say yes ... but something doesnt seem right...
Like there are times when if we dissagree on a subject he will yell and scream ... even if he's completley wrong ...
Hes alaways accusing me of being unfaithful... and I never would do anything like that ...
if i don't want to have sex somehow he always guilts me into it ...
and he's even hit me a few times ...
I just want to know how i can bring these up to him without making him angry ... because i do love him ... im just sligltly bothered by these things ...
Katie (link)
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You're just 'slightly bothered' when you get hit by your abusive boyfriend? He isn't worth it, please reconsider.
You'll have to live with that stuff the rest of your life! And if he is doing it now, he'll most assuredly be doing it later on, may even in larger amounts than now.
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What is douche? What is it when someone douches? (link)
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Female clensing unit
Derogative word used to offend someone.
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you answered my question about suicidel thoughts and said that because i'm 18 i do't have a goal in life and sujested to even ask my father if he had any idea what he is going to do in life when he was 18. my father knew exactly what he going to od in life he lived onhis own sins he was 16 and he is pushing me to get a clue on what i wan't to do. what should I do? (link)
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Ah, okay. Your feelings on life right now could have been put on by your father. Don't worry about what he wants you to do.
Where you want to go, and what you want to do in life is a massive question that I would say can't quite be answered for a long time.
My father had no idea, plenty of people I have talked to had no idea, either. Don't worry about a goal in life, you're really young. First, make it your goal to stay alive and don't commit any suicide here.
Looking may not be key in finding the answer. Just hang out, and try to get into college first. You can't do anything career wise without college. Think about certain things you really enjoy doing and look up on them to see if there is a career related in that field.
Also, don't be so hard on yourself. For a corny comparison I will give you this.
Girls always say they are 'too fat' or they 'hate [insert physical feature here] soo much they want to change it'
Now usually when a girl tells you this you look at them and go "WHAT? You have to be crazy to think that!"
Everyone is always too hard on themselves. Just realise everyone else thinks different of you and you have plenty to live for.
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if i were to download sims 2, what kind of file would i download and what should i beweare of and such? (link)
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You would need to be aware of .exe files. Those are are going to most usually be a virus. Watch out for those. Aside from that I can't help you as the way you plan to obtain this game is illegal.
Though, in order to download you will need a program such as Bittorrent or Torrentspy
I will not list any sites helping you obtain this game, though. That is illegal.
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I used way to many minutes on my cell phone. 40 minutes with my boyfriend, 18 minutes with this kid whos like, inlove with me (that manages to keep a conversation going) + the little 3-6 minutes calls.
I don't know if I'm going over or not. But I just don't want to get my phone taken away. I'm only going to tell my home# to boyfriend.
Okay, so got anyideas on how I can lay off my minutes? (link)
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Don't pick up every single call you get. Make calls to people only when you REALLY do need to make them and use your phone just for emergencies.
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