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Ok..our uniforms are the navy shirt w/ khaki pants or plaid squirts..i have brown hair(past my bra strap) and brown eyes and i have no acne and i have a natural tan..so what kind of eyeshadow should i wear to go to school?
Thnx in Advance! (link)
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What age are you? It is v. important to remember that less is more. You would suit a slightly shimmery gold colour especially as it's during the day. Don't wear too bright colours as they will make you look tarty especially if you are younger 12-15.Daisy
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ok i have been going out with a girl for quite a while now. we love each other both very much and we know what "love" is...but we have been thinking...about sex. we have already did a couple of things with each other already but other than that we are both still virgins but we are thinking about sex and we are going to go ahead and try it soon possibly even tomorrow or within this week...is this moving too fast...since we know each other and talked it through? and what should i do about this since its our both first time having sex? (we are using protection by the way) thanks for listening (link)
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If you have been going out for a whil and are both ready then go for it! The best thing about this is that you are both in exactly the same situation, you don't have to live up to any expectations so make a really special time of it. Just make 100% sure you use protection!Daisy
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For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me. (link)
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The first step to stopping what you are doing is asking for help and that's just what you've done by writing this. I check my inbox many times a day so why don't you write back when you've read this? There are a lot of people in your situation and by cutting yourself you are relieving the 'pain' of things you are stressed and worried about but , as you said, can't talk to your parents about. Do you want to talk to me about it? Are you having problems with work? Family, friends, relationships or life in general? Let me know and I will try my best to help. Daisy
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i need help i rly rly love my girlfriend she means everything to me but sometimes she plays around to much we have been goin out 9 months wut should i do (link)
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What do you mean plays around? With other guys? If you love her then you need to let her know that she is upsetting you. If you mean as much to her as she does to you then she will realise how much she is upsetting you and stop. However, this is really difficult, but if she continues playing around then you will have to finish with her. I know that might sound crazy but if you don't then you will get more and more upset every time she does it. Daisy
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i've been kinda cutting myself...it was kinda stupid at first but now it's serious. my life is kinda like crap rite now. grades, family, friends, and love...all that jazz. sometimes i feel like i just randomly wann cutt myself. i hate it. i know there is other ways to work it put but i don't wanna talk to my family and i've already talked to my friends. please help me and don't just pick on or make fun of me...really answer this question.
signed,
confused and lost (link)
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Dear confused and lost,
Don't feel alone - surprisingly there are a lot of people who are in exactly the same situation as you. One of the first steps is contacting someone - which is what you've done already - well done!! that wasn't too difficult was it? A lot of people in the same situation find it a real help talking to someone about it. I check my inbox a few times a day and would really like to hear your problems and help you if you are willin to share them with me. Tell me why your life is crap and I'll email you back asking more questions and giving you advice on what you can do to overcome your problems. I promise you it will get better. Daisy
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Okay I have this guy friend who is one if my best friend's boyfriend and i was talking to her today. She said she wanted to dump him and said she wants to be single again. I know he will be heartbroken. How do I help him through his hard times without completely dumping one of my best girlfriend's? (link)
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You have to let your girlfriend know that if she does break up with him then he will be asking you questions about her. You have to let her know that by talking to him, you will be helping him get over her more quickly and trying to make it easier for both of them for when they both start seeing other people. Help her think of the best way to split up with him without hurting his feelings too much. Don't let her say 'it's not you, it's me' line and just let her tell the truth. Or something along the lines of the fact she now sees him as more of a friend than a boyfriend? Daisy
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so im 20yrs old and i just had a son with a 18 yr old. hes been doing really good with coming over (we both live with our parents) anyways, the problem is that once in awhile he'll say hes coming over and then doesn't even show up or call to say what's going on...i dont understand a little bit because i had talked to him about it and he agreed that calling would be the best thing and he also agreed that he should be calling when plans change, yet somehow he still seems to do it>>he'll tell me the night before that he's coming over and then just not show and not call me until the next day and talk as though nothings up...its bugging me so much i tried talking to him now what do i do??? (link)
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The problem is that your boyfriend is still a teenager and therefore more immature than you. Are any of his friends fathers? It may be that he is trying to live a normal life and perhaps trying not to think about the fact he is a father. Could any of his friends be making him go out with them instead of coming round to see you and the baby? You have to be careful and not talk to him as if you're trying to make him choose between his friends and his baby. You should be quite stubborn and, if he says he is coming round and doesn't then next time he says he is coming round say you are going out or something. He shouldn't just be able to turn up whenever he wants. You should arrange a specific day or time when he can come over and if he abuses that by not turning up then the next time he is supposed to come over, go out with the baby so you are giving him a taste of his own medicine. I know two wrongs don't make a right but you need to let him know that it takes two to be parents and he cannot have his way all the time. Daisy
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my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job? (link)
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Is there anyway you could talk to the doctor that saw him then and ask about the risks? The problem is that unless you are really close to your Dad he might just give you an answer you want to hear. does he have any friends you could talk to about it? If you can talk to him about it then you really need to stress the implications of a recurring depression. Is there another job going in the same department that would be slightly different and therefore stop him becoming depressed again? daisy
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omg! i can't stand my retarded little sister! she whined becuase i was doing a dance with my friend and wouldnt put her in it so i tried to put her in it and let her help me practice. I was already in kinda a bad mood and she knew it. then when i tried to teach her the moves i had and get some new ones from her she wouldnt be serious for 2 freakin seconds!!! she KNOWS when i want to make a dance im serious about it and dont like to play around. its just how i am. i mean, when im hyper playing around is great. but i am tired and in a p-o'd mood and she knew it. yet she still couldnt be serious. I know it wasnt trying to make me laugh because i have known her all of her pathetic life and I can tell when its trying to make me laugh and when its not...and it wasnt. sry this is long. plz and thank you 4 any advice on how to get her to be more serious and actually help me with this. (link)
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Is she your younger sister? If so, mine was exactly the same. The problem is, and it may sound crazy but she is probably really jealous of you. She probably wants to do all the things you do and be like you so that she seems cool too. She will be doing this to irritate you because if she isn't happy then she won't want you to be either. Daisy
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but yea, me and this guy have been friends for a couple months...well, when we first met we were friends and were talking for like a week then we kinda lost touch for like 2 months...now i see him 1-2 times a week and sometimes more. and he hasnt plain out said he likes me..but he has tried to meet up with me (even suggested it) and he has told me he wants to kiss me sometime and that he wouldnt mind it if i kissed him. he has also directly told me that he "likes a girl that makes the first move" this sounds perfect doesnt it? well, prob is...hes got a gf. he gives me a hug almost everytime we see each other. i catch him looking at me and everything. we talk almost every night on the computer. we have already met up and kissed twice. he knows how i feel about him. and if anyone is interested i will tell ya about this one girl that has latley been flirting with him cuz she knows i like him, ill give ya the background story on her & why else i hate her. and whenever i go to kiss him i get really really nervous..i dont wanna be nervous. i wanna be able to just kiss him and not even think about it. and im constantly thinking about him. I can't help it. Ive liked him since we met. hes awsome...what can i do? how can i get him to like, tell me he likes me without plain out asking him? How can I be not nervous? and how can i get him away from everyone at the youth group so i can talk to him?? (and maybe more) (link)
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How long has he been going out with his girlfriend for? Does he still seem to be really into her when you see them together? Have you seen him flirt with anyone else apart from you? What is his relationship history like? Has he cheated on previous girlfriends before? I know these are a load of questions but you really need to be sure that he is a trustworthy guy before doing anything. If he really likes you then he should finish with his girlfriend before making a move on you or you making a move on him. If you make a move on him first and you know he has a girlfriend then you might get a bad name for yourself. If he has hinted he likes a girl to make the first move then you could hint that if someone really wanted to be with you and they already had a girlfriend, then they would finish with her to show they were really serious. Let me know how it goes. Daisy
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ok, my ex boyfriend was at my house last week hanging out with my brother, he stayed the night and in the morning im like "Hey, wanna sign my jeans" cuz i was having everyone sign them. he said sure...and he signed them saying "luv you always, Gary" then 2 nights ago he told me that he wanted my best friend back (he was her first bf and he really liked her but she broke up with him) but yea, then he made a crying face and said "Bryanna!!!!" and did another crying face (this was on a messenger) and he has no idea how much it hurt and confused me. I mean, he writes luv you always on my pants then he says he wants them. He confuses the hell outta me and I don't know what to do about it. when i ask him how he feels he just says he doesnt know. Theres obviously no point in asking him how he feels anymore. So how can I find out? I have seen him look at me a couple times but I guess it didnt mean anything. plz help. thanks 4 reading this, its kinda long lol (link)
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Hi there! How did you two break up and how long did you see eachother for? I think he is quite confused. I don't know your history but I think he still has feelings for you and is testing you to see if you feel the same way. By writing that on your jeans he was probably testing your reaction and then when saying that about your best friend - I think he is quite sensitive about his situation but at the same time - being a typical male and not trying to give his real feelings away. Email back if you want to ask any more questions or if anything else has happened. Daisy
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Hey there. I started dating my best friend a while ago, you just moved here from Toronto, and he doesn't tell me a whole lot about his life back then. Anyways, we started having sex a couple of monthes ago. I'm on birth control so we don't use condoms, because we both hate them. Anyways, in october i got two infections, and was really sick for a week. I couldn't get out of bed, and i was in pain. I had an yeast infection and urinary tract infection. I went to my doctor, she gave me a lot of medicine. whatever, i got better, continued on with our way of things. Anyways, now in december, i seem to have another infection. I'm thinking it might be yeast infection but i don't know. It's different. He says he hasn't had sex before me, but with all these infection that i get, could he have, or could it be my birth control? (link)
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Hi there! It sounds as if your boyfriend might have an infection. Have you tried talking to your doctor about it? If he is your best friend but still doesn't want to talk about his past then there is obviously something he is hiding from you. Perhaps something he thinks that if you knew about then you wouldn't want to be with him. One of the greatest things about a relationship is trust. If you can't talk to him about it or if he doesn't want to talk to you then perhaps you could try writing him a letter. This way you can get all your thoughts and concerns down on paper.He might write back and tell you everything. Just tell him that you love him(if you do ) and that anything from his past is in the past and can be forgotten. It is so much easier once you have told someone your feelings. Do email back if you have any further questions. Daisy
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