I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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Crest Whitestrips Premium...worth the $30? (link)
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eh, i bought them. they work, but thrity dollars is kinda steep. like ask them for christmas or a birthday or something ya know? or maybe get the paint on kind.
they strips work really well though. if you really REALLY want white teeth, get them.
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I met this guy, this AWESOME guy... I used to be one of those, daring girls, i would have turned really slutty and a rebel..huge if i didn't find this guy, this guy is a strong christian, he turned me around and got me help through God, he took me to church and everything and showed me how strong God is and how much I need him. He didn't like me after awhile. And that was my first love. im 14, who can feel love at this age, i know sounds stupid as ever. But this guy, had the greatest impact on my life, we're best friends, and he does this to every girl, just leaves everyone for a new one. Hes really good looking, and a really good kid. It's just, he was everything that I wanted. I've told him I loved him, he doesn't understand. I'd die for that kid.. Well, I almost did once, actually. He means everything to me. But recently we got into a fight that lasted for a month, that was the worst time in my life, it was the loneliest, coldest month of summer in my life. He forgave me, and we're okay now, but we're not as close. I want to be close, I told him I miss him.. But.. I'm still heartbroken and I still love him and I want to be here for him, even if it is just his best friend. But we aren't that close anymore, and I want to be that "best girl" in his life, the one who was there to wipe his tears and to hold him close when all was wrong. PLease help me..Just tell me what's going on... Please...
babii balla (link)
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ok, i've been there before (minus the religon part) with someone i thought was the most amazing man on earth, and i never wanted to be away from him. maybe i'm not the one who should tell you this, because, well i'd be a hipocrit, but at that risk, you should tell him he means everything to you. you say you use to be a rebel, well break free for a secound and take a dare by telling him you love him. just because i don't have the guts to do it doesn't mean that you shouldn't.
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ok me and my boyfreind have been going out for over 2 months now and we are truely in lovewe both think. and he promised he would marry me.. but then he was just on vacation like 1 week ago and when he got back i told him that i would nevr break up with him no matr what and then he tells me when he was on vacation some girl started puttin her hands down his pants and gave him a handjob.. and then he asked her out when she was done with the handjob and he sayd ok (not saying yes or no)..and then later they were on the couch and she was all over him and hes like what are you doing and shes like ur my boyfriend and hes like no im fucking not and then she called him when he got back but he just hungup on him... I SO NEED HELP! really really i do !!! i rate really really high!! ~thanks~ (link)
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i know you don't want to hear this, i know you really really don't, but i think he's being kinda shady with you. First off, its good that he was honest with you, but i'd ask him for her phone number, and i'd call her and ask her what she had to say. tell him that you want to believe him, but like this is really really hard for you, and then tell him that you just want to trust him again so you need to call her and see whats up with her. call her and ask her what happened. see whats going on you know.
that whole ok thing is whats shady. . .
but if he was honest with you, that means he wants your relationship to continue, so thats good.
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okay so i really like this guy and hes going out with this one girl...it seems like this guys likes me i mean he calls me almost everynight and we talk for hours and when where together he always wants me to do stuff with him (like kiss and stuff) but hes going out with his girlfiend so why would he be going out with his girlfriend if hes making it seem like he likes me... (link)
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he's either playing you or the girl. ask him what's his deal. Yeah i know thats not what you want to hear, but its the truth. He's either using you or her. why, i don't know because i don't know you, him, or her.
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Alright. I just moved to Tucson from New York. Well, I got a really scary call from one of my friends in New York today. These really ghetto gangster chicks that we used to hang out with have turned against us and they know I'm coming back this winter and they're planning on beating the fuck out of all of us. They always show up at Ericas and Brittanys houses and threaten them and shit and tell them they can't wait until I can back so they can see all of us dead. I'm really scared because I know what they can do. (link)
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call the police. get a restraining order. get help from an adult
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Hey, its your advice columnist NicoleMarie. I had my first sonogram yesterday but its still 2 early to see if its a boy or girl. But now i'm excited. Can anyone give any ideas for baby names? But nothing too common. Thank you! (link)
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Girls:
Isabelle
Destiny
Lavander
Kasandra
Boys:
Javier (j pernounced as an h)
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is it bad to want you parents to get a divorce? because you dont really like your dad or something? cause i feel bad, but i kinda want them to split up :( i feel really bad... (link)
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its a little abnormal, but i don't think its bad. occasionally, i want mine to get devorced because i don't think my mom loves my dad as much as he does her, and i don't like how he treats her and stuff, but ne wayz its alright how you feel. you can't really control that.
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Hey ok the new school year starts this monday and im scared bout making new friends cuz last year i told people i was christian (im not afraid 2 share my faith) so they all thought i was weird and stuff...and i dont cuss so instead of saying a bad word id say like crap or freak or whatever and they'd make fun of me..i still want ppl to know im christian this year but im scared i wont have friends! i know what i did wrong last year id tell people that Jesus loves them jokingly and they got scared so yea not gonna do that but even if i tell them that im a christian they might reject me..so what do i do? (link)
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don't preach because that really pisses people off. like don't bring up the subject of religon. let some one else do that first. like i'm an athesiest, so you telling me about religon would be a total turn off as a friend. like it would just frustrate me if you were always like, oh come to church with me and crap like that. not swearing isn't a bad thing. if you just don't feel like swearing, don't, but don't nesisarrily say that its because of your religon. people wont reject you because your a christian because thats just stupid. people will reject you if you act like a religous chior girl freak about it though.
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my boyfriend after 4 years of dating...that the whole thing was a bet to see how long he could play me!!! wtf is up with that?!?!?! (link)
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tell everyone. that way, no one will ever want to date him ever again. make it a point to say how hurt you were. punish him. make him pay.
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ok this is the same person who wrote the question about how i dont know how to tell my mom i have a boyfriend.....well she caught us together.(we werent doin nething but we sat close)...well i went for a walk and he met up wit me so we made out then sat next to each otha watchin the sun set...when my mom pulls up and asked me if i was ok and asked who was that kid sittin next to me....i told her he'd fallen off his bike and was hurt so i just sat and talked to him......she gave him a ride home but still didnt think of me likin him........now i definatly cant tell her bc now shes gonna think i go for walks everyday just to see him....now how do i tell her that i have a boyfriend?
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"hey mom, remember that kid i was sitting with on the bench, the one who fell off his bike? i'm going out with him. Can he come for dinner you know, and like meet you guys and stuff?"
most mom's don't really care about that stuff if you're past age like 13. they cool down around then and stuff. Tell them he's really sweet and stuff. it might help if she meets him when you guys aren't like all over each other.
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alot of ppl in the grade up from me hate me...because of stuff i did the year before n they all say they are gonna kick my ass no matter how sorry i say i am they dont care they think i should pay for my attitude...?? n i dont get it i said sorry n it was from like 2 years ago shouldnt they b over it by now what should i doo???? because school starts soon n they said they are gona kick my ass this yearr...? (link)
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well if what you did was really that terrible, then yeah probably. if your in highschool and you were a freshman, thats just upperclassmen: they'll pick on the new freshman this year instead.
worse comes to worse, take a selfdefence course.
they probably won't if they're like me; all talk and no action. they might just dislike you for a very very long time. if its girls, they'll come up with something worse than a decent beating. if its guys, they'll just pound you and that'll be the end of it. i doubt anythings going to happen for you though if it happened last year.
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my lil bro had a bbsitter cuz i waz out... and when i came home she was screemin and yellin @ him. She grabbed his arm and he said to our dog.. "Daizee help help! Help Daiz!!!" the dog didnt do ne thing... but ne way.... shud i tell my parents? (link)
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you should call the police. she's not aloud to abuse him. she can't do that stuff. confront your parents, confront her, and make sure she doesn't bbsit for your bro ever again.
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hey..i am g0in thr0 al0t latley..me and my bf have been fighting n0n st0p..and its scaring me..but ne ways..im almost 16..and i weigh 115..i HATE triple numbers..i want the perfect b0dy..my b0yfriend says im beautifull all the time..but thats kinda what b0yfriends r supp0sed t0 d0..i want to get down to 99..i was belimic way back in the day..but i was 0n the f0ne with my friend and i t0ld her i want t0 bec0me an0rexic..she flipped 0ut and hung up..so0oo i was like fine i w0nt d0 that..and last nite i made myself thr0w up t0 see what its like..i kinda s0rta liked it =\..well my bf said if i ever d0 ne thing "physc0" it w0uld be 0ver f0r g00d..and i was w0nderin w0uld he n0tice if i g0t t0 99..and if ne 0ne else w0uld n0tice..well i neEd helP! =(..MaNdiE x0 (link)
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16 pounds is VERY easy to notice. think how easy it is for people to notice 5 pounds. at 16, 115 lb is REALLY good. like i dunno how tall you are, but thats pretty skinny.
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look...i haven't had the best of life and i just want to know how am i supposed to get my life back on track i was but now im starting to fuck off a bit agian and im gonna be going t school pretty soon and i want to at least make it through high skool and ill be happy but as far as i know thats not even going to happen...ive done so much shit it like a habit but i stoppe dbut now i think im gonna or i think i am already starting to do it agian... its like some one else is taking over me... i need help and i cant tell my parents becuz of some reasons... it would probably help if i told you wat ive done but im kinda ashamed of it all but yet i don't wanna stop but i do.... its just comfusing...ill just go now ... someone please help me... (link)
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if you swear them to patient confidenctiallity, you can talk to your school concellors about keeping you on track in your next year of high school. you can talk to them. if you can't talk to your parentles, talk to a trusted adult. talk to any one. thats what you really need to do. get help.
i know you think i'm just full of shit, but i kinda know what your talking about w/ the wanna stop but can't thing. you just have to stop (if its bad) and ask for help in doing so.
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I know every guy wants a girlfriend, especially in high school, and so do I, but theres one problem, every girl I want to go with never seems interested in anything more than friendship, at least no one that I know of. How do I make myself more appealing to women but not look like I try to hard, or how do I find out if a friend already has feelings for me. (link)
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women don't mind guys who try hard as long as they're cute about it, not needy you know?
ok first i commend you on going for girls you're interested in and not just any one. thats the first step.
make the girl feel like they're special, and if it means going the extra mile (walk her home, carry her books, write her cute notes like get well when she was out sick or something) then so be it.
FLIRT with her, and try not to flirt too much with other girls, that gets on our nerves.
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I'm 13, and I am 5`1. Is there any ways I can grow taller? I heard that after you get your period, you stop growing, but i want to keep growing, because I got mine at an early age (9). My mom said that Yoga will add PLENTY of inches (maybe up to 5`6) , but is there another way that I can get taller? Thanks. (link)
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there are like hormons you can take, but you'd have to be really tiny, and your doctor would have to give you the perscription. Yoga eh, i never heard that one before. heels are always nice too . . .
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the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :( (link)
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its not worth it. move on, thats just wrong for him to persure you like that. infact he sounds like a jerk for saying that. i wouldn't give a boy the time a day after he said that to me. but thats just me . . .
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hello all. i wrote a book and it got published and the publisher said that my book would be in stores by june 14th and there still arent any books in any stores. any advice on why i cant find my book anywhere or what to say to my "agent/publisher?" (link)
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"Dude, where's my book?"
maybe there was a shipping delay!
hey, i'm looking for an agent, drop one in my inbox about contact info and stuff.
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ok so i went out with this kid Sean, and things started to get weird so i broke up with him, then i was starting to think of asking him back out but i thought he liked this girl Sarah, who i happen to hate, and he said he didnt but the next day when i was going to ask him out he was going out with her .. what should i do?
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well, if he was acting weird, then your gut instinct was probably a good one (when i say weird i mean like pressure and stuff). i dunno, if he's playing with you like that, then don't go out with him beccause he isn't good enough for you.
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I'm goiing into 8th grade and have never had a b/f and i think i no y. In school and in my neighborhood i'm constantly playing sports. I've always loved to be involved with the diff. kinds of sports and wen i'm playing(which is A LOT of the time) i'm mostly playing wit guys. So i've been known as "one of the guys" wen i'm playing basebal nd stuff. Since i like never do any of that gurlie stuff no guys have crushes on me(or even like me as a girl). Are there any ways I can SHOW them that Sports aren't my life and get them to take me seriously? (link)
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well, first off, guys don't take anything seriously, so good luck on that one.
where a dress to school with make up. that'll open their eyes.
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