Hey everyone! The names Melissa and I'm just dying to help everyone out.
Sometimes i might be brutally honest but that's what people need!
If you need some help or have a question feel free to send me a message I would be more than happy to help!
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Location: Pennsylvania
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Age: 21
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Hey Melissa so I'm 16/f and me and this guy have been talking for almost two years. We started freshman year texting (he texted me although I never gave him my number) and once we did it became awkward in school. Like he stopped saying hi to me in the halls and he wouldn't come over to my lunch table anymore, etc. We never hung out because he's a football player and I'm in plays so we don't have many friends in common. We did end up being at the same party but we were only there together for an hour because he had football lifting. After that party that was in early July he texted me a few times after but we stopped talking for 6 months. My friend had a party in January n I asked one of my guy friends to bring him n so he came. We ended up talking most of te night and I even kissed him on a dare. He texted me the day after and we've been texting at least 4 or 5 times every week, writing each other notes in school, and having quick convos in the halls. The problem is he's still prude and has never even had a gf before and I think he has no clue what to do. He's the sweetest kid and i'd really like to go out wit him but there's no way I could ever ask him out. Any advice? (link)
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Well it sounds to me like hes not going to take the first step.
Why do you think you could never ask him out? I know it seems kind of scary but the only scary part is actually getting the question out. Or you could just ask him to hang out one on one, not even like a date. It could just be a chance for you two to get to know each other in an environment where your not surrounded by other people. And texting can be so misleading. Its better to talk face to face.
Personally I think you should ask him to hang out.
Or if your to scared to do that, and you want to stick with the texting, just ask him how he feels about you in a text. You could do it in a haha way, or you could ask him seriously.
I really hope it all works out for you, but just remember, your 16 :) Theres going to be lots of guys for a long time.
Good Luck!
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well im 15. and i had sex for the first time. im wondering..could i be pregnant? i mean..i havent gotten my period yet..so..idk..could i be prengnat? thanks. (link)
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Sex can be extremely stressful. Although it is possible you could be pregnant, and yes you should go out and buy a pregnancy test.
But your period might also be late because of your emotions. If you just had sex for the first time, your hormones might be affecting your period in a number of different ways.
Wait a bit, and if you skip your period i would be a little more worried.
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Ok do guys like it better if a girl is tight or loose?
I know what it means kinda but still confused.
Can someone explain and tell me which they prefer? (link)
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Well....Id say Tight, but just because its wrapped around them more.
But honestly most guys don't care either way. There just excited to get some action. You cant help it if your loose or tight or whatever. So dont worry about it :)
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Well, the title kinda' says it all. I'm 13 female looking for 60's style clothing to wear and not costumes, actual clothing. I absolutely LOVE the style! Something like:
http://pembrokeshire-fancy-dress.co.uk/images/six_3_large.jpg
http://havefuncostumes.com/library/testtest.JPG
i know these are costumes, but i know that's what they wore so, if anyoe knows stores that sell something like those or similar, I'm not too picky, thanks for the help! have a nice day :) (link)
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Well depending on where you live there might be a head-shop somewhere around you. I know your not old enough to enter into any part that has bowels or pipes. BUT some headshops have seperate areas for clothing. Just ask around and go around your town. Most towns have something of the sorts that will help you.
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I have a simple question that could have a lot of answers. What is a girl's favorite scent on a guy? Specifically, please. (link)
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Please no Axe sprays. Honestly they make every guy who wears them smell like insecure teenage boy.
Go for something a little more subtle. Go to a department store and just try a couple scents out. Find one that suits your personality.
Go for a cologne not a deodorant spray. You'll spend a little more money, but it will last for much longer!
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I am going to blow my brains out but I want to make sure I do it right the first time. Do I place the handgun between my eyes? or under my chin? or on the right temple? (link)
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Well personally i would place the gun far far away and hope to god it missed cause lets be honest, dying = not so much fun. And this isnt really the place to ask questions like that if you really are going to kill urself you need to call 911 or go to a therapist.
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me and my boyfriend are doing so good but the thing is that he wanna be a singer but his manger keep coming on to him and she always tell me that she going to take him from me but idk what to do she got him dunk and then she had sex with him idk what to do (link)
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He cheated on you. You honestly should leave him just for that.
If he is willing to cheat on you with his manager just because he wants to be a singer, hes not worth your time. Your not doing good if he would do that to you.
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okay so my friend and i are both going to our school's Sadie Hawkins dance this friday. the theme is "Famous Couples". I'm having a lot of trouble finding something cute to be. Any ideas? your suggestions would be greatly appreciated (: (link)
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Wellll, the person below me covered all the cool ones...EXCEPT they forgot Bonnie and Clyde. Which is probably the coolest couple out there :)
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Hey,my names Alyssa.& i broke up with my boyfriend Zack in like the middle of january. and we used to sit at the same lunch table and the day i broke up with him this other kid Mark got everyone in the table to put their legs out and take up all the seats so that i couldnt sit down. so i went and sat with these girls Roni, kim cait sam and dana, that day one of the girls wernt there and so i sat in her seat.that was yesterday. and today that girl was in school so i had to find somewhere else to sit. the only place i could find was behind Zacks table. i was really embarresed because Mark kept saying stufff reallly loud like "ALYSSA HAS NO FRIENDS! IF YOUR HER FRIEND, YOU GAY TOO!" and when i started eating, they started throwing food at me! and i ran to the bathroom and started crying. and i dont know what to do! my bestfriends turned agnst me. please help me. (link)
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These people are not your friends. They sounds like Jerks.
Just ignore them and make new friends. I know that may sounds lke one of the hardest things to do, especially when your still in school and everything, but believe me your better off without them.
Anyone who treats you differently just because your no longer in a relationship with one of there friends is just trash.
Move on, find new friends, and leave these children behind.
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what would be good for a group of newly single best friends to go do. like i got out of a long relationship a few weeks ago and from then on every few days my friends dumped their guys, idk we realize how their asses. i love my friends with all my heart, so other than shopping and going out to eat or peoples houses what is there to do? half the group doesnt drink so we dont when were together. chicks before dicks :) anything to get us closer than we already are? all between 15 and 17/f (link)
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Bowling is always a GREAT bonding experience. You get to rent nasty shoes, and make it more exciting by bowling blind folded, or backwards. Etc etc.
Go see a movie as a group. Make it a chick flick, or see Alice in Wonderland, its supposed to be awesome!
Something my friends and i have alot of fun doing, is making dinner together as a group. Everyone brings over the ingredients for a different dish. And you all work together to make an awesome meal. After that you can set the table really pretty and have an awesome little dinner party together. Or take it all in front of the tv and make it a movie night.
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I really need to know because I am having some problems down there! If I am a virgin can I have an STD? Is there any way at all? I have had oral sex and given oral sex and anal sex and I have been fingered but you can only get STDs from losing your virginity and having sex in your vagina right? (link)
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First things first, loosing ur virginity is essentially breaking your hymen. If you've been fingered you might have already broken it. You can get an STD From anal sex oral sex etc. Anything AROUND that area could have caused an STD.
Although i don't understand why you would be having anal sex before normal sex...but obviously that's just a preference.
Go to your Gynecologist and get yourself checked out. Its the only way you can be sure.
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alright everybody so I want to be emo but I don't really know which stores to shop at! Is there a list of stores or something where emo people shop?
Thank you for helping me change my style! (link)
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Hot Topic
Spencers
or maybe a local store??
Check out ur local mall, there really not that hard to find.
Also alot of "emo" girls and boys are in the whole Bright color thing, they'll wear black as a primary, and then go with bright colored hair, or accessorys.
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Well, being honest, I am 16 years old/M my girlfriend is 17/Fm. Any who we've have sex twice now both our first times. The first time we had sex she skipped her period for over month, This time shes late, or at least I think she is. Shes getting a "very light period" so she says, I'm curious if she may be pregnant being as though it took so long for her period to start. I'm not really worried at all, but she is, (She was also worried the first time we had sex.) (Yes we use condoms) But anyway she is like I said earlier getting a light period and I think that means shes not pregnant. She also says, its never been this light before? Help me out so I can put her at ease please? :( Its been around 16 days since sex, and her period skips around a lot. (link)
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Okay, she just lost her virginity. It can be a very stressful time in your life. Your period can be affected by a number of different things. First stress can cause you to skip ur period, or have it come late.
If you've used condoms she's probably nto pregnant, but double check, go buy a pregnancy test, you dont have to be a certain age to buy them i promise.
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okay so i'm a 16 YO girl and i masturbate haha. i like doing it, it feels great and i orgasm every time i do but i feel like i'm the only girl that does it... i mean i always read that girls do it a lot to but i feel like if i told my friends they'd be totally grossed out.
so my question is, do guys know girls masturbate? like if i was with a guy and i told him i masturbate would he be grossed out or think i'm weird or desperate or something? anywayss let me know what you think. thanks! (link)
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All my friends masturbate and so do i. Dont worry about it, just because no one talks about it doesnt mean its not happening
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THIS IS NOT NORMAL HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA. I'M BEGGING YOU TO READ THE WHOLE THING. PLEASE.
16/F
There's this guy at my school that has been literally obsessed with me for like two years.
He texts me constantly, and I used to text him back and we'd have these really cool intense conversations.
But then it got a little scary. About two months ago, he began to text me every single day like once every thirty minutes until I answered him back. And I'd have to answer him back, because if I didn't, he'd come up to me the next day at school and corner me at my locker and ask me to explain why I didn't answer him back. And he just would have this puppy dog look in his eyes, so he looked non-threatening, but he'd also be blocking my way out with his arms.
He's constantly leaving notes in my locker and on my desk in homeroom about how we're going to spend the rest of our lives together and have a bunch of kids. We are not dating.
I've told one of my friends about it, but it's embarrassing because I don't know what to do. Plus, he keeps telling me in every note not to tell anyone because they'll make fun of our "love" and he doesn't like it when people make fun of him.
This note thing has been going on for almost a month. And if he sees me flirting with a guy in the hall, he just gives me this look and then he'll corner me after school again. I'm allowed to flirt though, aren't I?? Well I can't anymore and I've stopped.
The puppy dog look has left his eyes by now.
And the reason why I've finally gotten up the courage to write this is because I'm all out of ideas. My friend that I told doesn't know what to do about it and she isn't really taking it seriously. And I'm too scared to go tell the guidance counselor about it because I'm pretty sure he'd find out somehow. (He tends to follow me around school). But the thing is that sent me over the edge is that he called me last night after school (today is Saturday), and his speech was slurred so I'm guessing he'd been drinking, but he said that he was planning on killing himself soon unless I:
1) stop flirting with other guys
2) stop talking to other people when he's around
3) have sex with him soon
He's crazy, right? What to I do? I was so scared last night that he was going to come over my house. I locked all the doors and I slept in my brother's room.
I don't want him to kill himself, obviously, but I also want him to leave me alone. I'm scared also too that with everything else that's going on (the notes about how we're going to be together forever) that if he does choose to kill himself, he's going to take me with him.
Please help, I'm so scared right now. (link)
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First things first, break off all contact with this guy, he's obsessed with you and its extremely unhealthy and very dangerous for you.
Next, TELL YOUR PARENTS. I know you think that parents will never understand or just go over the top but they will help you! Im 19 and when i was your age i didnt want to ask my mom for help, but looking back on it, it would have been SO much easier if i just had gone to her.
Then go to your guidance counseler, You dont need to be around this boy he could harm you either physically or mentally. It sounds like hes already had an effect on you.
If you are to scared to talk to other boys, then hes affecting you negatively already.
Ignore him, delete his number. The next time he talks to you say this and only this. I dont want to talk to you anymore, dont text me, dont call me, and dont come near me. If you do ill go the the school.
After that do NOT answer any other messages. You have to be firm
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i have sleep anpena and im addicted to persiction medication. but i cant bitch bea cuase my gf is a cutter together we are like sid and nancy from the sex pistols. what should i do aobut my realtionship. i dont aprove of her cutting but im a drug addict it like the blind lweading the blind please help (link)
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The difference between you and your girlfriend is, you have a disorder. Sleep anpena is something that you cant control. Her cutting is something else, and she needs to see a psychiatrist. You need to get her help. She could end up killing herself. And honestly do you want to be with someone who will have cuts and scars all over her?
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Yes hi umm i was just wodering what is Cum? (link)
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Cum is what a boy ejaculates when he has an orgasm. It is a mixture or Sperm and everything else that comes out.
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Do you know how to get rid of hickeys? I have a really big one on my neck, and I'm not sure what to do!? please hurry! (link)
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Depending on how old it is, Freeze a SILVER spoon and hold it on it. Or run a hairbrush over it to break up the blood
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oka.. theres this boy i am like basically in love with well only problem is is that hes with another girl yet wants ta be wit me but jus donno how to let er go cuz hes been with her for so long how do i sho him im the one he should be wit (link)
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If he wanted to be with you then he would break up with the girl. Its really that simple, he might be leading you on in case this girl ever breaks up with him.
My suggestion, find another guy. One who wants to be with you and not you and some other girl
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