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Q: Okay well Im 16 years old and I dont know who my real father is. I know his name is Jim and he lives in west virginia. I dont like asking my mom because everytime I ask she gets this look on her face and trys to change the subject as if she were mad or something. I dont want to make her upset or mad but it feels like theres a wholllle other life that i dont know of! I mean its not one of those things where "she doesnt know who my dad is" she knows but wont talk about him. But there are days where I am completey upset cuz I just start thinking of him even though I dont know who he is."does he even know about me? does he not love me? was i not what he planned on having?" so many questions! Now the TRUE question is when im 18 should I ask my mom then go and try to find him or do you think it happend for a reason?!?! should I just let it go and live with all the pain? im so lost and heart broken. i mean i survived 16 years without a true dad but it hurt so bad excpecially because i never talked about him. What do you think I should do?

Hey if you want to know more about him I think you have a right to know! I think you should talk to your mom about how it feels like somethings missing and you need to know about him. I agree with trying to find him when your 18 but make sure he knows your coming. Maybe you can look him up in the white pages online. If you know his last name, and the city he lives in west va. If your mom wont listen to you about trying to know him more I suggest u try the white pages to try to see if hes listed there..good luck!

Q: Things around the househave been so hard latley because my mom has this boyfriend named dale who treats her like crap. The only thing keeping them together is there son Mathew who is my half brother. Things just keep getting worse and worse though. its to the point where I cry myself to sleep cuz I know how much pain my mom goes through. I wish I could help but I cant. He even hit her quiet a few times before. She flips out on me when I forget to take my purse, keys, her pay check, or money everywhere I go cuz if i dont then dale would take it. He sneaks around 24/7 he snoops in MY ROOM scrouging for things. Me and my mom couldnt leave the house at the same time cuz he would lock us out if we did. What can I do to get my mind of thses things? Is there any way I can help my mom out cuz I hate seeing her like this. Dale would flip out if my mom were to go with her friends to dinner, or 6flags. why does she have to sit in the house 24/7 just because he wants her to but yet he will yell at her the whole entire time? sorry for the long entry

**ok im editing this answer! thanks 4 the rate.. i really want to know what happens so can you please email me at vsgangstaboo420@yahoo.com with info and stuff! i just want to know if your moms gonna leave him and stuff..its personal so u dont have to email me with updates but i care and wanna know whats up. im praying 4 u!!!*

I dont really know the whole story but I think your mom should leave him. If shes not happy then she should leave and take your brother with her. I guess he has rights to see his son and stuff but I think you guys should leave. And if you guys do leave and he bothers you (follows you around and stuff) restraining orders work...Theres nthing really you can do to take your mind off things. I'm glad you wanna help your mother out, I think you should tell her that its not fair what hes doing to her and that she deserves better.

Q: ok so im 15 and
this kid who is
like 17 or so
wants to hang out
wit me and im all
for it but im wondering
what we should talk about
or w/e..if neone has ne
ideas please help

Get to know him better, what kinda music does he like? Whens his bday..ask him about family, friends, school, movies..have fun!

Q: I'm 13, and I am 5`1. Is there any ways I can grow taller? I heard that after you get your period, you stop growing, but i want to keep growing, because I got mine at an early age (9). My mom said that Yoga will add PLENTY of inches (maybe up to 5`6) , but is there another way that I can get taller? Thanks.

There is a way but its painful and you need to be a midget..lol You just have to wait I guess, if you dont wanna wait try Yoga since your mom says it works (fun stuff)

Q: I am trying to make my own column and just when I pick everything that I want in my column I try to go to it but there is nothing there. It is like I didn't even do anything. So can someone help me get so that I will have my own column.

Make sure you save everything and press "submit" or whatever..

Q: Well My boyfriend and I have gone out for about a month now and since i live in a different town ive never really met his friends until recently. Usually he is very sweet and all. But both times Ive hung out with him and his friends he acted like the biggest jerk!!! I couldnt believe him. He basically didn't look at me the whole night. It really frustrated me. Kelly you seem like a smart girl what would you do in my shoes?

I'm not kelly but sure, guys do that when their with their friends just to act cool..let it go..guys are guys they always do that in front of their friends..

Q: i went to am-i-fat.com just to see what it would say and it said that im emaciated, but i want to lose weight. do u think im anerexic? what should i do? thnx

your anerexic if you havent eaten for a long long time..and you should talk to a doctor if u want to get better

Q: Okay...so i've liked this boy secretly since like sixth grade. (im goin into 8th) and I flirt w/ him 24/7 and he flirts w/ me too. but like he had a relationship w/ my friend sierra but they are good friends now. And she thinks i should go otu w/ him but im sooo scared he'll say no cuz im taller and like i dono. Hes really hot and he might not like me.But I dono if i should wait and see if he says anything cuz i've heard he lieks me but I just dont know....so what do i do?

Wait if you want to see what happens but if you dont wanna wait ask him if he likes you! Whats there to lose? Good luck!

Q: I am 16 years old weigh 115 lbs and im 5'4". Well I was trying on homecomming dresses at my friends house But every dress I tried on I felt soooo fat or shall I say I LOOKED so fat! I was about to cry but I couldnt cry infront of everyone. Homecomming is in about 1 month and a half away. Should I go on a diet or should I just tell my friends I cant go. My friends would be sooo mad at me if they find out im not going because I never been to a dance before. Its NOT as easy as you think it is. I been thinking about it day in and day out. I wish I could just accept that im fat! Do you know any good diets?!? Thank you sooo much

5'4 and 115 lbs is so not fat! I'm 5'4 and wayyy over that weight! Dont go on a diet and go to homecoming!!! If you wanna lose a little bit of weight, eat anything you want but dont eat after 6:00 pm and dont eat snacks just eat your 3 meals..

Q: does anyone know cute sites to get stuff on like backrounds or pictures?glittery stuff or such as?

try www.dolliecrave.com , it has dollz and glitter signs and backgrounds and stuff..

Q: Everytime I get bit by a mosqitto (i know i spelled that wrong lol) I always scratch them. And eventually they start to bleed, and turn into scars. And this summer i was bit by a lot too. And now I have all of these scars on my legs that are really embarissing. Any way to get rid of them???PLease help!!

Scar Solution. By them at any pharmacy. By the way think about getting Off! Deep woods that way when your outside at night mosquitoes dont bite you cuz i get mosqito bites bad and i use Off! and it works..u can get off! deep woods at any store

Q: I have dark brown hair, blue/green eyes, tan skin, I'm 5'5, and I'm skinny. What kinds of makeup will bring out my eyes like eyeshadow? I'm a prep so I wear preppy clothes from American Eagle, Abercrombie & Fitch, Aeropostale, Weathervane, Hollister, and other stores. Please help me with my makeup lol. Thanks

hey eyeliner and mascara works the best!

Q: you know those icons, some have them in their profiles. tsome move some dont but uh... where do you get them?

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xanguh_everything

try that, just look for some stuff and right click and save

Q: ok so my best friend thinkz that theres a guy in our class who likes her cuz shes been asking him who he likes and hes giving off clues in a way. but i talked to him and from my point of view, it sounds like im the person that he likes cuz he said its a "very close friend of hers" that he likes. so if its ME that he likes and not her, and he told me not to tell anybody, should i tell her that shes not the one that he likes? this is a very serious question and i could loose my friendship with both of them if i just make one wrong move

Dont say anything if you dont wanna lose your friendships. Sooner or later she'll figure out the guy doesnt like her.

Q: I have light brown hair and big dark brown eyes with long dark eyelashes. How should i wear my make up so i look my best?

Hey use dark black eye liner and mascara..and a nice dark pinkish blush and yea :)

Q: hey i asked the question about being 13 and pregnant well i just found out im having twins!!! my question is wht do they do in a c-section people r tellin me in to tiny and might have to get a c-section, nd i just wanna no like is it more or less painful, and wht do they do! ill rate u, i need advice!! thnx

hey if you do get a c-section, its less painful. they cut your low stomach open and just remove the babys like that. after they do that they stich you up and yea..im pretty sure it doesnt hurt you

Q: i was wondering, can you buy diet pills @ like a cvs or do you have to be 18? thanks i'll rate.

No you dont have to be 18. But if your younger than 18 taking diet pills is really bad for you! My sisters friend took pills and she had to do heart surgery.