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Anywayzzz -- Hey loveys. My name's Martha and I'm here to help you on pretty much anything. Ask and I'll do my very best to answer. I love giving advice and a lot of people say I am a beastly advice giver...so, ask away!

p.s. my screen name is x0mrm0x if you don't want to have your question open to everyone. Also, if you need advice from a guy my friend mark gives good advice...his link is under my favorite columnists.


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hey.. my name is stacy.. i need help. well lets see there this guy i like alot and i started going out with him. we have been together for 2 months or so now.. and this girl that i want to be friends with hates me cause she likes him.. what can i do to get the girl to like me and to accept that me and this guy are going out cause i want them both to get along.. thanks bunches.. Stacy

if the girl doesn't like you because you go out w/ a guy, then (personally) i don't think she's a good person to be friends with. cuz if she doesn't accecpt it now, she probably never will.
but if you really wanna be friends with her, then just talk to her and maybe she will understand.

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I have this gigantic crush on this guy named bob, and i think he likes me too. But, theres also this other gut named billy who i also like.Now, i know for sure that billy likes me, he's even said so!I mean both guys are smart, funny, cute and nice, so who should i pick?

the obvious answer is BILLY!
if you know that he likes you, and you like him...so GO FOR IT!!!
never pass up an opportunity that could turn into something amazing!

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Can someone explain the bases to me plz? I feel really stupid, but whatever.

it varies according to people...but this is what a lot of people i know go by:
1st: hooking up (french kiss)
2nd: feel up (feeling a girls boobs), hand job (jerking off a guy)
3rd: blow job (oral on a guy), eat out (oral on a girl), fingering (guy penetrates the vagina with his finger)
4th: sex...

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ok i feel really dumb asking this but what exactly is "feeling up"? could someone explain this to me plz? thanks a lot!

when a guy goes under a girl's shirt and just like, feels/rubs her boobs...
not too complicated
hope i helped.

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My question is 1st what are guys so inconsiderate. 2, why dont they notice something you do just to get their attentions. and 3, i think im g0oing crazy over this guy but ive learn such werid stuff in 2 days that completely changed everytjing. so u know what im going to do since i must of seemed dessperet today ill, just ignore him tomorrow and be bitchy since what i do is ARGHHHHH im gtting really pissed just try and answer the question and ill rate

maybe this guy is just an asshole.
all guys can be ignorant and inconsiderate at times...trust me...
like, one of my guy friends did that for like a week...and if you get bitchy and ignore him, he'll just get all pissy, and act like it was your fault...yea, its twisted, but thats how guys can be
just try to let him be that way and soon he'll come around. go with the flow, hun.
hope i helped...

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Here's the deal, I like this guy at school, and we have one class together. I'm not even entirely sure that he likes me back, but I'm willing to pursue a relationship with him if it comes up. Thing is, he's a senior, I'm a freshman, and if we considered dating each other now, summer would come and end all too soon and he would be off to college. What should I do? Get to know the guy and possibly get hurt in the near future, or move on and possibly pass up a wonderful oppurtunity to get to know someone.. Please help, I'll rate!

Signed,
Dilemma

my advice...go for it. its like the quote goes: 'its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all'...i think thats it.
cuz if a relationship does come outta it...and then he goes to college...who knows? maybe you'll still keep in touch or something.
but bottom line: GO FOR IT!

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. We tell eachother everything. The other day I was talking to one of our friends and he was saying that there was rumor that my bf kissed another girl. Should I ask him or should I leave it because I trust he wouldnt do that?
Female 13

i think you should talk to him about it. if you don't, you're going to be suspicious and wondering about it a lot. and if he finds out that you were thinking that he did that, bt didn't say anything, he might feel like you don't trust him or something...just talk to him and be understanding. don't accusive and like, agressive...he would totally understand that you might be nervous if you heard that he kissed someone else.

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ummmm... well, like this is extremely embarrasin, so i dont wanna tell my name, so.. im a 12 year old boy and, i was experimenting with sumthing the other day, and now there is a....small penus-shaped candle stuck in my....u kno. i am afraid to go to my parents because my dad hates faggots and my mom wouldnt aprove of it at all. see this delemma, WAT SHULD I DO?

nice one mark.
only, it didn't make sense...at least not to me or any other normal person out there.
peace homez

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AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!I TRIED IT AND IT FELT SOOOOOO AMAZINGLY GOOD.. I CANT STOP!!!!!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU I OWE YOU ONE (btw whats second base)

haha aww you're welcome! i'm glad i could help!

(p.s. about the jerking off thing, DO NOT HOLD YOUR BREATH...its called like self-erotic asphyxiation...its when you hold your breath while you j/o and it gives you a better 'orgasm'...it kills about 10,000 [i think thats the number] guys each year. so yeah, just stick to the basic jerking off)

and about the 2nd base thing...a lot of people have different things included in different bases...but heres what i and most people go by:
1st=hook up (aka kiss w/ tongue)
2nd=feel up (...feel a girls boobs) and hand job (when a girl jerks off a guy)
3rd=blow job (oral sex on a guy) eat out (oral sex on a girl) and finger (...when a guy puts his finger in the girls vagina...)
and last but now least, 4th=sex

any other stuff you need, you know i'm here!

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umm hi, this is really embarassing so im not going to give you my name or anything, but i am a boy and i am 13. well anyways please dont laugh cause its so embarrasing for me. but anyways i saw the other article about jacking off being normal well.. all the guys in my class do it and watch porn but i dont and i feel like such an outcast when they talk about it. but like i cant look at porn on my computer cause my parents will prob see and the truth is (please dont laugh) i dont kno how to jack off ...

aww baby!! haha. don't worry, it doesn't mean anything really, you have what you need, you just don't know how to work it.
and it's totally fine that you can't look at porn cuza your parents, i mean, if you told a guy that, they would most likely understand cuz i mean, who wants their parents knowing they look at porn.
but, i can tell you how to jerk off, even though i'm a girl, trust me...i know what to do (and plus, girls have to know too if they wanna get to 2nd with a guy...but thats getting off the topic)
ok all you have to do is, grab yourself (on the shaft...the long part of the penis) and go up and down...its hard to explain on the computer, it would be easier in person...just like, grab it, and go up and down and up and down, until you cum (ejaculate) or basically have an 'orgasm'.
hope i helped, sweets, and don't feel stupid! there is no such thing as a stupid question.

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i think me and my boyfriend might have gone to far..i dont know if i can get pregnant from it so wat are all the ways girls can get pregnant

umm....sex and artificial incemination...theres no other ways...so, if you didn't do any of thosem you're safe.
don't worry.

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im 15 and someone told me that my boyfriend -hes 15- looks at porn..is that normal? and like he said that my bf jacks off to it, too...is this normal or bad or what? and should i be offended that i cant make him feel good enough or somethin?

DO NOT BE OFFENDED! you silly girl! all guys are pervs and are OBSESSED with porn. its totally normal. don't worry...at all.

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One of my friends has tried to comitte suicide twice before and i am afraid she will do it again it terifies me what should i do.

you have to let you know that you're there for her. tell her that whenever she feels really low and like, feels like she wants to do it again, tell her to call you or talk to you online or something...that way you can talk her through it...
she just needs someone to talk to about whatever's bothering her. if you let her know that you're always there for her and that you care about her and that it scares you and whatever.

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yeah sure his names TJ, i dont know why it really matters but yeah...THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR THE ADVICE!!

wow. i think i know the tj you're talking about...
this is weird. can you tell me your name, plz? cuz its not like he told me everything, but he told me that he had a kid and umm, yea...
i can definitely talk to him for you if you need me to...

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umm...well thanks, that would help so much if the baby wasnt already born..i needed help on what to do with the father..i saw him this weekend at this fair we have but i didnt know what to do....help ASAP!!

thanks
sorry for not being clear the first time about the boy!

haha omg i'm sorry! lol

wait wait wait...can you tell me who the guy is? like, i'm serious, i think i know who you are (well, know OF you...) i know i seem like im intruding on your privacy...just write back and tell me, lol.

but umm, i think that if u really need help with the baby, then you should just talk to him, but not seem too...needy? i guess you could say. he'll totally understand, since you're young and its obviously hard...

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okay, i went out with this boy and he was really sweet and everything. we talked on the phone all the time, and online, too.we saw each other frequently and had really good times together...we broke up about a year later, cause he was i guess "bored of the same girl" and he was all like a player. and well im going to get to the point. we had sex a couple times, and i got pregnant, and i know for sure, that it is his. what do i do.

btw, im 14
any information will help!!!

well...how far along are you? cuz if your mom or dad doesn't know, then once you start showing, its gonna be a little hard to explain...
also, if you didn't tell your parents that you had sex or w/e...then it would be an even bigger shock...
you just have to take care of your body since theres a little person inside you, lol. don't drink, don't smoke, eat healthy, don't do anything that could like physically harm it...and you have to tell someone cuz you need to like, go to the doc's and stuff...anything else that you need, i'll try to help.

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i have been depressed lately. I dont have many friends and im really shy. I am going on to highschool next year and i am so nervous cause i really dont make friends easily, and i really need help!!!!
-nervous queen tween

ok well...if you go to a catholic or private school now...things will be totally different in high school. like, once you get into high school, there will be so many new people (and a lot will be just like you: shy) that you will find that so many people will be coming up to you and want to be your friend. and if the people come up to you, that means that they're outgoing, so then, if you're their friend, they will open you up and eventually, you'll be as outgoing and outspoken as them!
"things can only get better"
p.s. i used to be you until i went to a new school...now, i have tons of friends (and pretty much, they all approached me!)

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ugh i really want a bf!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont feel happy and i really want one

ok, this is what i was feeling when i wanted a bf...
well, having a boyfriend is just like having an awesome guy that you love who you get to make out with and fool around with.
you can have all this...except for the fooling around part. just gather up all guy friends! guy friends are the best to have since they're not bitchy and what not like girls. guy friends will make you feel so happy, that its insane! and who knows, once you have all these guys around you, one of em could have potential (for a bf!)
trust me, this is from experience! hope i helped

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To all of you girls out there! Is it true that sometimes when you get your period your face can breakout?

Thanks

that is totally true.
some girls break out more than others. it depends...i dont know what it depends on...oh well.

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hi! ... Here is my problem i loke this guy .. people think he is werid but alot of girls think he is cool. They people who think he is weird they think that because he hates them and they hate him. What should i do

well, if you like him, and people think he is weird, that shouldn't matter. because you like him for him. and not because of what other people think of him. so, just go for it and and see what happens. just, go with the flow sweets. (remember to ALWAYS keep your options open-->thats my philosophy)

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