hello! ive lived a lot of life in the small amount of years ive been around. I mean it when I say ive been through it all, so feel free to shoot me a question or even just to spill your guts. my ears are wide open :)
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hey i need your help.this is going to be kind of long.but here i go:
So i met this girl, emily, ok at a picnic, our parents are family friends. Emily is 2 years older than me but we became friends right away.
She also has a brother, Adam, who is in the same grade as me, 9th. Soo i got her number and adams email on the day of the picnic.Soo me and emily talked on the phone everday and we were so close. I also talked to Adam online every once in a while. We were so bored online one day when he asked me to call him. So i agreed and i did.We saved each others numbers and text meseged each other and over time we became pretty good friends.Emily did not know about any of this; especially because she would be soo angry because in the picnic, when i would talk to him, she would be pissed.Soooo time went by and i saw her a lot, and i saw him occasionally when i'd go over her house. Last week he called me, and he asked me out. I told him i wasnt sure and id think about it. I thought about it for a few days and i called him back. I told him we can try it, but if it doesnt work we would just be best friends again. Soo about 2 days after that he traveled with his family on vacation. We email each other occasionally but im going there in 2 days so i will be able to see them. But here is my problem: today, i was talking to emily online, and she was being very mean and cold. When i told her i mssed her she'd say things like: oh is that why you dont send me messages and you send mssgs to other people?. I was soo scared..that she had found out something about me and adam. She kept asking me if i wanted to tel her something..and i kept saying no.
I mean she would be really angry if she found out. But, i mean me and adam arent officially going out, soo i can keep playing stupid and in the end when she tells me ill just say that were just friends..is that ok u think? plz give me good advice im really scared rigth now, and if you were in my position wat would you do.thanks soooo much hun (link)
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if emily is your friend then she should understand if you like her brother. thats very immature of her. im her age, and shes bein completely stupid. dont let some girl get in the way of your happiness, and if she wants to then you dont need her in your life.
if you like adam, go for it ! its your life, your choice, your prerogative.
i dont know why shes gettin angry or jealous over her OWN brother.
talk to adam first, see what he views on his sister gettin in the way. if he doesnt care, then stick up for yourself ! tell her that you like her brother, and she shouldnt get mad about it. if she does, then YOU DONT NEED HER IN YOUR LIFE !
just talk to adam first. if hes okay with you guys bein together you should be too.
good luck hun, any additional advice you need just let me know :)
x sweeethoney
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Alright, so I am an active high school senior currently dating the school soccer star.. Who happens to be a year younger. I have a job but he is so busy with his different soccer teams that he doesn't have time for a job. I am fine with paying fir the occansional movie and whatnot but I can't really afford it I am going to an out if state private college, and that is where my money needs to be focused.
We both love being outside and everytime we hAng out we go to a local park and set up a hammock and just hang out talking. It's fun, but it is also getting to be a bit boring and predictable.
Does anyone have any ideas if a free fun date?
Peace and love :)
~Kate (link)
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you can go to a local beach, lake, or pool and go swimmin. its more fun than you think, especially with your man :)
if you live by mountains or a nice scenic area, go hikin! take a camera, a blanket and some snacks.
do charity work together. this might sound corny but it shows a different side of one another. plus the hours are great!
go to free events, like downtown festivals and live music or look through art galleries and unique stores.
hope i helped ! good luck at college
x sweeethoney
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so i like this guy verrry verry much and he said he liked me a whole lot. he seemed like the right one for me.. we had so much in common, he sent me the sweetest text messages.. whole package.
earlier today, we were talking and i told him (to be open with him), that i had sexual intercourse with a girl 4 years ago, drunk, disoriented, and "went with it" like drunks do during sex.... and when i told him, he freaked and said it wouldn't work, i am disgusting, i am not good enough.. a few mins later he deleted me off myspace and is ignoring me
i wanted to tell him to prove to him i don't want to hide anything from him.. and i looked past his flaws. but when i mention 1 flaw he dumps me.
what did i do wrong? what can i do?? please help!
i of course regret doing that.. it was a party.. and i never did it again! now he makes me just want to repeatedly hit my head against the wall and repeatedly call me stupid.
please, don't tell me what i did was wrong about with the girl.. it was years ago, and i thought he wouldn't mind b/c he didn't mind anything else i told him.
anything would help =[ (link)
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honestly, if he judges you because of that then he ISNT WORTH YOUR TIME AT ALL. thats completely idiotic on his part. i think you should stop spendin your time on this asshole and move on. if you cant tell him somethin about your past 4 years ago then how can you tell him anythin recently ?
my opinion, you didnt do anythin wrong ! hes just way to judmental, and a complete jerk. please forget about him. i know itd be hard, especially if you like him as much as you say. but you dont need to be wastin your time on him.
if you still wanna talk to him, speak your mind. tell him that you think its not fair for him to stop talkin to you because of that. if he doesnt talk back or doesnt agree, i proved my point.
sorry hun, feel better, because youll find someone better :)
x sweeethoney
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THe other night I got in a fight with my dad about our past and I started writting and this is exactly what came out on paper: "I look for love that is my purpose in life, to search for something I may never find or feel. Not once in my life have I felt that I was truely loved by any one person. I tend to do anything and everything I can to feel loved, rithout love I will always be unhappy. If I die without finding true love I will have had no purpose in life! I need fullfilment, to feel complete. I honestly blame my mother and father for my problem! They were never around to give me the love I needed as a child, and now I search for a different kind of love the hardest kind to find, True Love! I get myself into so much trouble and heartache at times doing anything I can to make guys happy hoping that one day they will love me, but they never do!"
So thats my problem! HELP PLEASE? :( (link)
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lookin for love in all the wrong places is NOT a good idea. what you need to do is chill out for a while, meet new people NOT hopin to find someone to date. i know its hard when youre lonely and all you want to do is feel loved.
honestly, i gave up on lookin and i found someone that makes me totally happy :) just meet new people as friends and enjoy your life without a boyfriend. and pleaseeee dont just date someone because you want a boyfriend. that only leads to two broken hearts.
good luck hun, i got a lot of advice if you need it. feel free to ask :)
x sweeethoney
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I want to learn how to play the guitar but my sister wont let me. She thinks its her thing and nobody else can do it but her. I really want to start to learn and since drum sets are expensive this is an alternative that i still would have done if i were playing the drums. I only have 1 guitar in my house and its my sisters so i cant really do anything. Help please (link)
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bein musically rounded is a great thing to do. tell your sister she didnt invent the guitar and she cant call the right to it. and like the advicenator before me , drum pads are good because its almost like bein at a drum , just not the noise.
stand up for youself if you really wanna play guitar. its your prerogative ! do what YOU wanna do :)
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Do people with braces on their teeth normally kiss? If so, is there any difference from those who don't have braces? Especially French kissing.
My ex girl and I are likely to make up in a few days from now. She recently got braces, and I wonder if it will be normal for us to be kissing, now that she has braces :-) (link)
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well personally , ive had braces for 6 years and i know how to avoid injurin the other person with them. but if theyre new to her that might be hard.
just tell her that you know that its new for her , and you dont mind her kissin you and gettin used to him. braces is a really big damper on your looks (i think , just because i hate mine) so i think that you should make her feel confident and let her get used to them.
still tell her shes beautiful :)
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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i feel like a lump
what do you guys *really* do each day? (not counting eating, showering, sleeping of course)
i hate when people ask me what i am up to because really, i don't do anything except like watch tv. and being at home during the summer while in college sucks bc no one else is around and its hard to get a job nowadays (link)
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what i do everyday durin the summer when im bored:
-excersize. just put on some good music and comfortable clothes, and dance while excersizing. it makes you feel accomplished, ESPECIALLY when you wanna go back to school lookin great ;]. if youre a guy then jus lift weights, do squats, ya know...
-swim in a near by pool or go to the beach (if you live by one)
-go out at nights. if youre in college you can prolly get into clubs or bars. if you dont wanna go out by yourself, you might have one or two friends that wanna go with you. thats a great place to meet people.
-get into art ! its a great way to entertain yourself, even if you arent that good at it.
-decorate your room in a new way. find stuff that you havent seen in a while or go out and by cheap things to hang on your walls or a new bed spread. that can give you a WHOLE new feeling to summer if your room is where you spend most of your time.
-pick up an instrument. take lessons for piano, guitar, or whatever you like ! if thats a little bit out of the price range since you dont have a job and dont have the instruments then ask anyone around to learn on their instruments when you go out. thats how i learned piano :)
-go on walks. i know the summers hot but its nice to get out when youre alone, get some fresh air, and enjoy nature.
-convince your parents or a friend to go on a trip with you !
these are things i do on a regular basis. i hope you find this somewhat helpful, and save your summer while you can :) good luck !
x sweeethoney
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19 - female.
okay so me and my good friend who i've always been attracted to and i know he feels the same about me decided we're going to hang out when i get back from vacation. i told him he could come to my house and hang out. BUUUUT, i want to be sexy. i was talking to him today and i was like i act good around you and thats all you know me as and i was like theres another side to me and hes like whats that? and i was like opposite of how i act around you, dirty ;) and he was like why dont you act like that around me. and i said something about being a hornball and he was like i only act like that with you. sooo i know that he wants me to be like that, and oh my god he always turns me on but i just dont know what to do! i want to do something when he comes over but i kind of have to test the waters out and do something and just see how he reacts to it. i dont want him to think like what is she doing?! but he will probably like it :) any ideas that will be sexy. how do i get in that position anyways? when he comes to my house i cant just jump on top of him haha, you know what i mean!
IF you cant get into that much detail, ask for my e-mail and we can talk! i greatly appreciate it. (link)
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- keep eye contact most of the time
- small , cute smiles
- bite your lip
- touch his arm or leg
clothingwise, i think that tight-ish jeans with a low cut shirt is really sexy on a girl.
show off your best feature ! if you got good legs, wear shorts. if you have a nice butt, where jeans that show it off. boobs,....i think you get the point.
if you live by the beach, thats a really good place. if not, go to a movie, dinner, hookha lounges that have seperate tents, or go to a club and dance together and stuff. use your imagination.
good luck hun !
x sweeethoney
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Mae (pronounced May, just a cooler spelling), Rena, Lynette, Jesirae, Amira, Kiara, Lena, Kaylee, Amina, Rose, Anissa, Liliana, Arabelle, Lilibeth, Ayla, Nikia, Ciana (link)
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liliana and rena
x sweeethoney
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In about a month I will be traveling out of state to Florida from Texas with my friend, who had previously lived there. We will be hanging out with all of my friends former friends and etc. Is there any particular style that girls in Florida wear? I'm also looking to buy a some cute clothes for college, so where are various stores that carry cute clothes? (link)
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depends what your personality is.
i live in south florida near the beach, so usually i just wear a tank top, or a cute spaghetti strap with a low cut and a flowy bottom. i wear a lot of shorts because its very hot ! but im very laid back and beachy.
if you wanna hit the clubs, id say go for high heels or flats, with a shortish dress (not a lot of patterns).
styles for less is really good, i dunno if they have those there. im personally a fan of target too, they have a lot of good stuff. if you want a lil more on the expensive stuff, express, pacsun, body shop, and charlotte russe is good.
have fun in florida !
x sweeethoney
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okay so strange thing has happened to me. ive met this new guy and he is funny and cute. but the downside is hes not a good boyfriend at all and gets bored after a few months of dating. hes also very conceited. the thing is im not sure i want to be with this guy or even if i like him but something keeps making me want to hang out with him. He is the type of guy you can be best friends with and have lots of fun with, and thats kinda what i wanna do. except i also want to make him realize hes not all that. So he said hes into mysterious girls. that he doesnt like simple girls. and i have always wanted to do things differently. so my question is what is the most random, craziest thing any of u have done that was fun and that i could do with him....as friends of course. and how can one be...mysterious??? (link)
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be mysterious by not tellin him all about you. dont give everythin away ! if he asks 'where were you yesterday?' you can say 'oh. i was around...'. just make his imagination blow up with what you could have been doin. and if he asks you to hang out you can be like 'i dont know what im doin that day..'
just make him crazy with wondering.
try to make a raft and go out on a lake, pond, river on it, its even more fun if it sinks :)
set of fireworks on the beach then run down it. (if you live by the beach)
tie dye shirts, sheets, or eachother lol.
put food colorin and bubble bath/dish soap in a pool and swim in it with goggles.
take pots, pans, and spoons and run around your neighborhood singin and playin them.
fill up waterballoons and hit random people while your in a hidden place. (this is illegal im pretty sure but ive never gotten caught)
rent a two person bike, you can fun with him AND friends on that.
go downtown and say 'hi !' to everyone that passes you.
go to a thrift store, buy rediculous clothes and wear them in public on a date or jus go out for fun.
ive done all of these with friends or guys and theyre pretty fun and excitin. good luck with him :)
x sweeethoney
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i just got a cellphone in march, and ive never had any trouble with prank callers or anything. but within the past few days ive had some new numbers call my cellphone but it was always when i wasnt near it so i didnt get to take the call.
tonight i answered and it sounded like a drunk old man. he kept saying, "hello? can you hear me?" and i just told him i thought he had the wrong number so he hung up. but the other person called when i wasnt near the phone.
i dont know, basically im a little freaked out. i worry so much, but it just scares me when random drunk old men call my cellphone at 11:15 at night.
am i worrying over nothing? (link)
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dont worry about it... this drunk old guy is probably tryin to call someone he thinks has that number every night he gets drunk lol.
also, people can just be messin with you. just try to keep it by you for the next time they call, so you can say they have the wrong number OR you could find out that its one of your friends try to call you.
if they threaten you or anythin, THATS when you have to worry
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Hey im 18/f and i really wanna get this tattoo. My names ashley and i thought it would be cool. Like Ashley forever (A4E) I like the way this is designed. The only thing is im not sure where to get it because im going to college and majoring in nursing, so i want it to be a place i can cover it up. I was thinking on my stomach/hips? Any suggestions?? Thanks a bunch!
http://www.red-hot-mama.com/images/uploads/lopez-tat-neck.jpg
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after i wanted a tat on my hips/stomach i realized that if i get pregnant, id get stretchmarks on it and itd alter it.
id say on the shoulder blade, tramp stamp(sorry to call it that), ankle, but if none of those please you then go with the hips/stomach
hope it turns out for ya :))
x sweeethoney
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hey,
my parents just singed me up to go to trinity high school for grade 7 but I don't want to go cuz there is this guy I really really like. it's already been around 4 weeks of summer vacation and I have been upset ever since. do you think I should hang out with him, call him, or even think about him anymore?? I just don't know what to do!!! he is the sweetest guy ever. :(
~ emily ~ age 13 ~ (link)
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yeah, not a good idea to put a school name. i live right by one, good thing im not creepy ;)
but, call him and just start by bringin up that your switchin schools and you wanna hang out this summer because you wont see him next year.
and warnin about trinity schools, there are a lot of bitches and drugs SUPRISINGLY. jus find good people there !
good luck
x sweeethoney
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So just earlier this morning after I got up, I suddenly felt very hot-ish cold (like fever type, but I had no fever - 97.1), sweaty, and weak. I was also told I looked extremely pale. I had to sit down or lay down or something. Then I noticed my vision was a little blurry/black-ish. I even felt a little nauseous at one point. This went away after a while and now I feel good as new.
This has actually happened two other times, I believe. The first it happened I had just gotten home from vacation (this was two years ago) and I figured it was from jet lag or something to the effect. It lasted for a very short amount of time. Then the next time it just happened randomly, and didnt last too long, so I didn't think much of it. But this time it really kinda freaked me out and I'm wondering if there's something wrong. I'm thinking of going to the doctor... should I? Anyone know what's wrong?
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it might be from gettin up to fast or bein dehydrated. it used to happen to me a lot, and some of the time i ended up faintin.
make sure you have a water bottle by you as much as you can and dont stand up to fast, or quickly move after gettin out of the shower or bath.
if the problem persists then you should probably go to the doctor.
hope i helped ! feel better
x sweeethoney
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Alright, so I need an outsiders point of view on this please.
I have been dating this guy for about a week now and he is the first boyfriend I’ve had in almost 3 years. My problem is, is that the guy I’m with now, he isn’t really romantic like when we first met back in Jan (before I was even his gf) and he doesn’t seem as into me but he claims that he is when I try to talk to him about how I feel and we fight about it. Now I will admit I have insecurity issues that I am constantly working on, but it’s different because ANY other boyfriend I’ve ever had treated me like a princess, like they adored me and put me up on a pedestal. They would call me every chance they got, they always wanted to be with me, they would even do silly little things like put their MySpace status about something to do with me. And now, the guy I’m with doesn’t ever do that stuff. And there is this girl that even though she has a boyfriend still used to hook up with my current boyfriend and they are constantly like talking and even facebooking stuff comes between the two of them, which isn’t my main concern, but still. My question is am I asking for too much? Was it just a coincidence that I had boyfriends that adored me in the past or is this guy just not that into me? I don’t know maybe I’m being silly, I just don’t like feeling unimportant if I’m going to waste my time in a relationship.
Please don’t be rude, I’m really just looking for guidance from someone who isn’t in the situation.
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there are a few ways to look at this;
1. hes not that into you and if he cant talk about it like a human bein then why are you with him?
2. its been 3 years since a boyfriend? maybe guys that you date have matured more. and a relationship has to be a two way thing. just because he doesnt treat you like a princess doesnt mean that hes not into you. but, if you put too much effort in it and he doesnt do the same then there is a problem.
3. the relationship just started. he has a lot of time to learn what you want in life and bein in this relationship.
what i suggest is jus try to have deep conversations, and when yall are alone jus talk about what you guys want in life and stuff.
if he doesnt start treatin you better then maybe hes not meant for you.
but its only been a week, there is A LOT of time to see where this can go.
dont get worried yet !
goood luck
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I know little bit. I just want make sure.. what the different between Flarting and teasing.. Teasing in a good way (link)
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teasing can mean two things:
1. makin it seem like you wanna have sex or do somethin with someone and dont come through
2. makin fun of someone
flirtin is jus bein playful with a hint of interest to it.
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I know this might not be the right place for this question but I would really like your help, sorry about it being so long. Okay so there's this guy who I had 2 classes with last year, we never really spoke to each other, and he was just another class mate. In late April of 2008, I would notice that he would stare at me all the time and I used to wonder why he would do it. So I eventually started liking him because I was noticing him from the staring. So in late May, I told him on Msn that I liked him and at first he didn't take me seriously then he said that he didn't want to waste my time because he had a girlfriend.
But even after he told me that, he would still stare at me, whenever I would walk past him, he doesn't look at me until I turn around to look at him then I see him looking back at me at the same time. So this has been going on for like a year with the whole staring thing, except it would be in the hallways because we didn't have any classes together this year. One night I was talking to one of my guy friends on msn and prom came up, so he asked me who I wanted to take as my prom date and I told him the name of my crush but then I said that I can't go with him because he has a girlfriend then my guy friend put a confused face and said that he doesn't have a girlfriend because they know each other. I've asked around before and everyone told me that he doesn't have a girlfriend so I figured that he lied to me about that. So my prom was on June 5th and I told my myself that I should dance with him since I won't see him again because he's going off to University, but I changed my mind because I was too scared. So anyways I noticed that for the whole night; he kept on staring at me, even when I was on the dance floor, I would look around in the crowd to find him staring at me.
So I was starting to think that maybe he wanted to dance with me. So I took a break from dancing, went to get a drink from the bar and went back on the dance floor. I wasn't really dancing because I didn't like the song they were playing so I was just slowing rocking, then I noticed that I was standing near him so I felt kind of awkward. So I'm standing there then I noticed that he kept coming closer and closer to me slowly. we were so close to each other that his arm was up against mine then suddenly, I felt him grab me by the waist and started dancing with me so I was shocked at first then I started dancing with him. While we were dancing; he kept rubbing my arms up and down, he took my hand and folded his hand into mine. Then the Dj started playing a slow song and we parted from each other for a little while then we were both looking around in the crowd then he finally locked eyes with me and asked me if i wanted to dance? So I smiled and nodded yes. While we were slow dancing; he kept rubbing my back up and down slowly, and then he ran his hand over my butt a couple of times and I had my face pressed up on his chest. Then when a fast song came on, we smiled at each other and started dancing again. We danced together to 6 songs. Then we went our separate ways.
So 2 days later, my friend told me that she spoke to him on Face book and she sent me the Convo. I was brought up into the convo and my friend said that me and him looked hot together while we were dancing then he said: ahaha, I don't want to give the wrong intentions by the way, she's a cool person but yea..Then later on in the convo, he said he just wanted to have fun. So I was crushed by that. I mean I understood when he said he wanted to have fun but what was the whole clasping hands thing all about? I seriously thought he liked me that way because I was the only girl he danced with for the whole night; I thought he was thinking the same thing that he wanted to dance with me since we won't be seeing each other again. so I sent him a message on Msn later that night saying: "hey, I saw the Convo with you and my friend I just wanted to say that you weren't giving me the wrong intentions and I don't mean to be rude, I had fun and I danced with other guys and u weren't the one who made my night." I only said that because I didn't want to seem desperate and of course he made my night but I couldn't let him know that. so then he replied back saying: Cool, I only said that because your friend kept saying that we looked so hot together dancing, I hope I didn't say anything to make you mad." so I said: no I’m not mad" so then I was feeling really bad for what I said so I went to school the next day and I went up to him and said: "hey, can I talk to you for a minute?" then he said: "sure" so I said: okay, I don't mean to sound annoying but about that message I sent you on msn about prom, I didn't mean to say it like that." then he said smiling: it's okay, it's okay, who cares. Then I said: no, I only said that because I didn't want to look desperate. But I didn't mean It." then he said: its okay. then I said(blushing): I know this might not matter to you,(then I put my hands to my face and said "oh my gosh") then he smiled and said: "this must be hard for you to say" then I laughed and said: I’m going to be honest with you, but you were the one that made my night" then he was smiling for the whole time then I said: I know you don't like me like that but I just wanted to be honest so yea...then he kept smiling then he said: okay well thanks...have a nice day, then I said: okay, thanks you too. so people told me that he doesn't like me like that, he does like me but is afraid of what other people might think, or he does like me but isn't ready for a relationship. I was wondering if it had anything to do with the race thing, because he's Indian and I'm black, and I heard that Indians cannot date outside of their race. I'm so sorry if this is long, just wanted to give you guys some background info. Thank-you
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you should just ask him about it. tell him that you heard stuff and if he starts to get confused or ramble then ask him if hes uncomfortable with youre race. there is nothin that you can lose. and if he is starin at you then obviously he thinks your hot.
you just have to be blunt and honest if you wanna know if he likes you or not. i know its awkward and hard but its really the only way youll know. youll get mixed stories if you ask other people, because everyone changes everythin, honestly.
just be blunt. did you just wanna have fun with me or are you interested in me ? put it in your own words and be sincere. dont make yourself vonerable but at the same time dont let yourself be hard and cold. just talk to him as any other person.
good luck, any other advice you need let me know !
x sweeethoney
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I've wanted to be a model for quite some time but I've just been really shy to tell people due to having low confidence. (Not to sound full of my self) A lot of people have said I'd make a good model. I have pale skin and high cheek bones. I'm 5'5" but I'm not the skinniest girl and I still have braces (getting them off in about a year). I can take the critisim and all that but I just don't know if I have what it takes.. (link)
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honestly, usually models have to be around 5'8-5'9, a tiny bit underweight. i mean, with the face can do good in like pictures and stuff. but with the runway and fashion modelin, i dont think theyd go for it since youre short.
sorry, but they have other oppurtunties for people around your height and modelin
x sweeethoney
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I have no idea what to wear. I have the shirt (black + white striped tank topbut i dont kno what to wear for the rest. Please help! put any thing down. (link)
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depends where you live, but probably youre goin to be hot from walkin around and bein around a ton of people. jus wear a pair of flexible shorts (not ones that show a crack, give you wedgies lol, or that come to your knee) because if you wear em long i guarantee youll get hott
have fun !
x sweeethoney
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