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Boyfriend confusion
Alright, so I need an outsiders point of view on this please.
I have been dating this guy for about a week now and he is the first boyfriend I’ve had in almost 3 years. My problem is, is that the guy I’m with now, he isn’t really romantic like when we first met back in Jan (before I was even his gf) and he doesn’t seem as into me but he claims that he is when I try to talk to him about how I feel and we fight about it. Now I will admit I have insecurity issues that I am constantly working on, but it’s different because ANY other boyfriend I’ve ever had treated me like a princess, like they adored me and put me up on a pedestal. They would call me every chance they got, they always wanted to be with me, they would even do silly little things like put their MySpace status about something to do with me. And now, the guy I’m with doesn’t ever do that stuff. And there is this girl that even though she has a boyfriend still used to hook up with my current boyfriend and they are constantly like talking and even facebooking stuff comes between the two of them, which isn’t my main concern, but still. My question is am I asking for too much? Was it just a coincidence that I had boyfriends that adored me in the past or is this guy just not that into me? I don’t know maybe I’m being silly, I just don’t like feeling unimportant if I’m going to waste my time in a relationship.
Please don’t be rude, I’m really just looking for guidance from someone who isn’t in the situation.
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Okay. I don't think guys dates girls just for sex because they can have sex with other girls without being with them, but other guys does it because they don't want to feel lonely even though they don't like them ... That's a possibility for your situation but it's a really low chance.
You might be asking too much from him ... Because he doesn't like the fact that he gives a girl everything he has but on the other hand your ex-boyfriends does.
Maybe your ex-boyfriends gave you everything and you gave nothing in return and that's the reason you broke up with all of them, maybe something new or a new personality in your life is exactly what you want or need.
Yeah it could be a coincidence but most guys are romantic, or maybe only the guys you pick but this one isn't romantic.
And it's normal not to be romantic, I mean personally I'm not romantic from the outside, but I'm romantic from the inside and that made a lot of problems with my previous relationships, but I won't change who I am for anyone ... And that's exactly my point, he won't change his ways for you, and you don't have to change your ways for him ...
So if you don't feel comfortable staying in a relationship with him then you have to end it before it becomes serious, but before you end it talk to him about it, say whatever you just told this website, and if he didn't understand you or starting caring more than you have every right to end it.
Good Luck =]
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there are a few ways to look at this;
1. hes not that into you and if he cant talk about it like a human bein then why are you with him?
2. its been 3 years since a boyfriend? maybe guys that you date have matured more. and a relationship has to be a two way thing. just because he doesnt treat you like a princess doesnt mean that hes not into you. but, if you put too much effort in it and he doesnt do the same then there is a problem.
3. the relationship just started. he has a lot of time to learn what you want in life and bein in this relationship.
what i suggest is jus try to have deep conversations, and when yall are alone jus talk about what you guys want in life and stuff.
if he doesnt start treatin you better then maybe hes not meant for you.
but its only been a week, there is A LOT of time to see where this can go.
dont get worried yet !
goood luck <3
x sweeethoney
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it sounds a little bit that he's a jerk.
you maybe to good for him.
talk about your issues with him.
get time alone.
he has to know that you're not feeling loved.
that's very important in a relationship.
i hope i kinda helped(:
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